New Here, Longtime Fantasy: How Do Cuckolds Make It Happen?

[PillowCuck]

I'm new to the forum as more of a "wannabe," although my wife has known about my fetish, fantasy, or kink for over 11 years now. I created an account here because I really want to understand how cuckolds actually make this work. I know that my wife has to be completely on board for anything to happen, and she has admitted that she enjoys flirting with other men. In fact, she does it quite naturally and even does it in front of me without hesitation or concern. It seems to come easily to her.

What I’m struggling with is what to do after all this time. It’s been 11 years, and I’m wondering if I should just accept that this will remain a fantasy, something that may never come to life. Or is there still a way to revisit the conversation with her in a healthy, respectful way? If so, what are some good points to bring up?

This kink has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. I feel like a classic cuck in mindset, even though I’ve never actually experienced it. My wife has played into it a little by flirting with the same guy for nearly two years now, but nothing real has come from it, and I’m not sure where to go from here.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum PIllowCuck. You are doing the right thing starting discussion on here.

[PillowCuck]

Welcome to the forum PIllowCuck. You are doing the right thing starting discussion on here.

Thank you, I hope to find answers as I am tired of waiting and would like to explore this in my lifetime.

[BBCfan]

My path has been very strange and it appears I likely will only be a wanna be. But having been honest and open and sharing with my partner, over time she sees the immense arousal it causes me and now it is part of our regular fantasy play which she seems to enjoy immensely.

I'm actually way more at peace if it doesn't happen, as it's so much fun to still play out with her and witness her evolving enjoyment of the fantasy.

At 1 time she said if I needed this she wasn't the one for me. There's a link to my thread about it, it is kind of long but hopefully might be helpful or entertaining at least.

Wish you all the best in your journey.

[BallSpanking]

If you have harbored these feelings for eleven years, and still want them to be fulfilled, it seems as though you and your wife have an available avenue to make them happen. It is as simple as suggesting to her that you would love it for her to experiment sexually with the man she has flirted with for two years, Clearly she has an attraction and liking for him that has been consistent ... Perhaps you can stimulate her manually as you describe the scenario of her seduction at his hands, making her cum, and at the same time driving home the fact that you are encouraging her, and it would be enjoyable for you as well.
Please let us know how things develop.

[bradisalpha]

I'm new to the forum as more of a "wannabe," although my wife has known about my fetish, fantasy, or kink for over 11 years now. I created an account here because I really want to understand how cuckolds actually make this work. I know that my wife has to be completely on board for anything to happen, and she has admitted that she enjoys flirting with other men. In fact, she does it quite naturally and even does it in front of me without hesitation or concern. It seems to come easily to her.

What I’m struggling with is what to do after all this time. It’s been 11 years, and I’m wondering if I should just accept that this will remain a fantasy, something that may never come to life. Or is there still a way to revisit the conversation with her in a healthy, respectful way? If so, what are some good points to bring up?

This kink has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. I feel like a classic cuck in mindset, even though I’ve never actually experienced it. My wife has played into it a little by flirting with the same guy for nearly two years now, but nothing real has come from it, and I’m not sure where to go from here.

Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely) ?? Does she want sex that night ?? Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal ?? Face glowing ?? A bounce in her step ?? Simply the sexual after effects it has on her.

Have you ever asked her what she would like sexually and not interject your thoughts and feelings.. without “pushing” her about your desires ??

Women do have desires that they keep well hidden from their husband for fear of consequences and moving away from being a “good girl” by society standards. However, once she feels safe exposing them and realizing them in her own way and at her own speed, she might turn into someone you are not used to. But this will only happen with her moving forward. As long as you dictate the scenarios she will push back and set her desires aside.

This is the main issue that I see between a husband and wife as I let her expose her desires to me as her husband watches in amazement.. which, as a BF, is very exciting to me.

Just sayin…

Brad

[PillowCuck]

Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely) ?? Does she want sex that night ?? Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal ?? Face glowing ?? A bounce in her step ?? Simply the sexual after effects it has on her.

Have you ever asked her what she would like sexually and not interject your thoughts and feelings.. without “pushing” her about your desires ??

Women do have desires that they keep well hidden from their husband for fear of consequences and moving away from being a “good girl” by society standards. However, once she feels safe exposing them and realizing them in her own way and at her own speed, she might turn into someone you are not used to. But this will only happen with her moving forward. As long as you dictate the scenarios she will push back and set her desires aside.

This is the main issue that I see between a husband and wife as I let her expose her desires to me as her husband watches in amazement.. which, as a BF, is very exciting to me.

Just sayin…

Brad

• Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely)?

Over the years, I’ve picked up on this a few times. One instance was when we were both at work, texting back and forth. She was talking about her job and her boss, at the time, it was just the two of them there. I managed to get her into a playful mood and dared her to “accidentally” drop a pen and bend over to pick it up in front of him, just to see if he’d check her out. She went along with it and he did check her out. She came across as very excited afterward.

Another time, I dared her to stay a little later at work and flirt with the same boss. She did, and again, I noticed the same kind of energy from her afterward. On the days we played around like this, she’d come home with a noticeable amount of discharge in her panties, something I didn’t see on regular days and I never went out of my way to look, it was more when she came home, she immediately takes a shower and would hand me her clothes to place it in the washing machine. During that same period, she started squirting during sex for the first time ever. I didn't always speak of this topic and when I did and we fooled around like this, was when she squirted during sex.

• Does she want sex that night?

She’s never been the one to initiate sex, so the answer here has always been no. However, when guys flirt with her, or when she’s out with friends and ends up dancing with someone, she does get very excited to tell me about it afterward. She knows when telling me this, ill be in the mood and she will give me a BJ later that night.

• Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal? Face glowing? A bounce in her step?

Yes, I’ve definitely noticed that during sex, especially when the topic of this guy comes up, she gets significantly wetter. Her nipples get harder too, even though she says she doesn’t want to talk about him. And yes, there have been moments where after she’s talked to him, she’s humming, dancing around, and even doing a little happy dance.

[bradisalpha]

Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely) ?? Does she want sex that night ?? Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal ?? Face glowing ?? A bounce in her step ?? Simply the sexual after effects it has on her.

Have you ever asked her what she would like sexually and not interject your thoughts and feelings.. without “pushing” her about your desires ??

Women do have desires that they keep well hidden from their husband for fear of consequences and moving away from being a “good girl” by society standards. However, once she feels safe exposing them and realizing them in her own way and at her own speed, she might turn into someone you are not used to. But this will only happen with her moving forward. As long as you dictate the scenarios she will push back and set her desires aside.

This is the main issue that I see between a husband and wife as I let her expose her desires to me as her husband watches in amazement.. which, as a BF, is very exciting to me.

Just sayin…

Brad

• Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely)?

Over the years, I’ve picked up on this a few times. One instance was when we were both at work, texting back and forth. She was talking about her job and her boss, at the time, it was just the two of them there. I managed to get her into a playful mood and dared her to “accidentally” drop a pen and bend over to pick it up in front of him, just to see if he’d check her out. She went along with it and he did check her out. She came across as very excited afterward.

Another time, I dared her to stay a little later at work and flirt with the same boss. She did, and again, I noticed the same kind of energy from her afterward. On the days we played around like this, she’d come home with a noticeable amount of discharge in her panties, something I didn’t see on regular days and I never went out of my way to look, it was more when she came home, she immediately takes a shower and would hand me her clothes to place it in the washing machine. During that same period, she started squirting during sex for the first time ever. I didn't always speak of this topic and when I did and we fooled around like this, was when she squirted during sex.

• Does she want sex that night?

She’s never been the one to initiate sex, so the answer here has always been no. However, when guys flirt with her, or when she’s out with friends and ends up dancing with someone, she does get very excited to tell me about it afterward. She knows when telling me this, ill be in the mood and she will give me a BJ later that night.

• Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal? Face glowing? A bounce in her step?

Yes, I’ve definitely noticed that during sex, especially when the topic of this guy comes up, she gets significantly wetter. Her nipples get harder too, even though she says she doesn’t want to talk about him. And yes, there have been moments where after she’s talked to him, she’s humming, dancing around, and even doing a little happy dance.

She is definitely enjoying sexual arousal from her flirting, but she will have to be the one to decide to take it any further. You can suggest and support her but, again, you can not push her. She must be the one to make the moves taking it further. It will be her excitement that takes it further.. not yours. So again, suggest and support.. but do not push.

An example would be to take her a shopping trip for Mothers Day and help her pick out a new outfit for work (or??). Do not mention him throughout the process, but AFTER, the outfit is bought and paid for you might say “that is a really nice outfit. I wonder if “he” will like It ??” Once you have said that, do not say any more. Leave it linger. She might reply.. or she might not. (don't Push her).. she might reply later.. she might bring it up in bed.. or she might not reply until she wears it and comes home and says “he really liked my new outfit !!”. This is an example of letting her make the moves.. you just supported and suggested. But… if you pushed for the answer.. or talked about him while she was shopping .. or push asking about him seeing the outfit, she will push back and she will be tense about it instead of enjoying her thoughts and opening them up to you when it feels right to her. If you cannot let her work through these first steps of opening up her arousals, you will never get to the next step !!

You can bet that while putting the outfit together she will be thinking about what he might like also.. even if she doesn’t express that to you. She will be excited to wear it for him to get his reaction. This is how to suggest and support her… and ultimately, reap the rewards !!

So.. Take her shopping for Mothers Day and watch where it goes. Remember.. Patience is your best friend !!!

Just my suggestions…

Brad

[Bobs52]

It took 7 years with my wife, and even then she kept it from me for a long time thinking I couldn’t handle it in real life even though I was consistent (but not pushy) in my desire. We fantasized in the bedroom often about it.

My advice which I’ve posted here before is simply to make sure your wife knows in no uncertain terms that she has your complete permission and encouragement with as few restrictions as possible to fuck other men. She may seem uninterested at the time, but nonetheless it will live in the back of her mind and someday the perfect situation may present itself. She’ll think I can fuck this guy if I want to, and to top it off my husband will be thrilled that I did.

My wife was at her out of town high school reunion by herself, and a classmate that she actually did not know that well was there without his spouse. Add a little alcohol, and before you know it, my fantasy came true and I had myself a genuine hotwife!

Keep the faith!

[PillowCuck]

Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely) ?? Does she want sex that night ?? Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal ?? Face glowing ?? A bounce in her step ?? Simply the sexual after effects it has on her.

Have you ever asked her what she would like sexually and not interject your thoughts and feelings.. without “pushing” her about your desires ??

Women do have desires that they keep well hidden from their husband for fear of consequences and moving away from being a “good girl” by society standards. However, once she feels safe exposing them and realizing them in her own way and at her own speed, she might turn into someone you are not used to. But this will only happen with her moving forward. As long as you dictate the scenarios she will push back and set her desires aside.

This is the main issue that I see between a husband and wife as I let her expose her desires to me as her husband watches in amazement.. which, as a BF, is very exciting to me.

Just sayin…

Brad

• Does she show any excitement after flirting with someone (not you asking her, but just watching her demeanor VERY closely)?

Over the years, I’ve picked up on this a few times. One instance was when we were both at work, texting back and forth. She was talking about her job and her boss, at the time, it was just the two of them there. I managed to get her into a playful mood and dared her to “accidentally” drop a pen and bend over to pick it up in front of him, just to see if he’d check her out. She went along with it and he did check her out. She came across as very excited afterward.

Another time, I dared her to stay a little later at work and flirt with the same boss. She did, and again, I noticed the same kind of energy from her afterward. On the days we played around like this, she’d come home with a noticeable amount of discharge in her panties, something I didn’t see on regular days and I never went out of my way to look, it was more when she came home, she immediately takes a shower and would hand me her clothes to place it in the washing machine. During that same period, she started squirting during sex for the first time ever. I didn't always speak of this topic and when I did and we fooled around like this, was when she squirted during sex.

• Does she want sex that night?

She’s never been the one to initiate sex, so the answer here has always been no. However, when guys flirt with her, or when she’s out with friends and ends up dancing with someone, she does get very excited to tell me about it afterward. She knows when telling me this, ill be in the mood and she will give me a BJ later that night.

• Is her pussy wetter and more slippery than normal? Face glowing? A bounce in her step?

Yes, I’ve definitely noticed that during sex, especially when the topic of this guy comes up, she gets significantly wetter. Her nipples get harder too, even though she says she doesn’t want to talk about him. And yes, there have been moments where after she’s talked to him, she’s humming, dancing around, and even doing a little happy dance.

She is definitely enjoying sexual arousal from her flirting, but she will have to be the one to decide to take it any further. You can suggest and support her but, again, you can not push her. She must be the one to make the moves taking it further. It will be her excitement that takes it further.. not yours. So again, suggest and support.. but do not push.

An example would be to take her a shopping trip for Mothers Day and help her pick out a new outfit for work (or??). Do not mention him throughout the process, but AFTER, the outfit is bought and paid for you might say “that is a really nice outfit. I wonder if “he” will like It ??” Once you have said that, do not say any more. Leave it linger. She might reply.. or she might not. (don't Push her).. she might reply later.. she might bring it up in bed.. or she might not reply until she wears it and comes home and says “he really liked my new outfit !!”. This is an example of letting her make the moves.. you just supported and suggested. But… if you pushed for the answer.. or talked about him while she was shopping .. or push asking about him seeing the outfit, she will push back and she will be tense about it instead of enjoying her thoughts and opening them up to you when it feels right to her. If you cannot let her work through these first steps of opening up her arousals, you will never get to the next step !!

You can bet that while putting the outfit together she will be thinking about what he might like also.. even if she doesn’t express that to you. She will be excited to wear it for him to get his reaction. This is how to suggest and support her… and ultimately, reap the rewards !!

So.. Take her shopping for Mothers Day and watch where it goes. Remember.. Patience is your best friend !!!

Just my suggestions…

Brad

Thank you for the example, that I think is something I get wrong, is perhaps I over push and gives ideas. When really I just need to plant the seed as you say.

[PillowCuck]

It took 7 years with my wife, and even then she kept it from me for a long time thinking I couldn’t handle it in real life even though I was consistent (but not pushy) in my desire. We fantasized in the bedroom often about it.

My advice which I’ve posted here before is simply to make sure your wife knows in no uncertain terms that she has your complete permission and encouragement with as few restrictions as possible to fuck other men. She may seem uninterested at the time, but nonetheless it will live in the back of her mind and someday the perfect situation may present itself. She’ll think I can fuck this guy if I want to, and to top it off my husband will be thrilled that I did.

My wife was at her out of town high school reunion by herself, and a classmate that she actually did not know that well was there without his spouse. Add a little alcohol, and before you know it, my fantasy came true and I had myself a genuine hotwife!

Keep the faith!

Thank you, these are some encouraging words.

[Wantsomefunto]

Try and encourage her to go out alone dancing more often. Tell her she is such a good wife and great mom if she is a mom she deserves time out alone to relax and forget about her responsibilities

[Wantsomefunto]

Try and encourage her to go out alone dancing more often. Tell her she is such a good wife and great mom if she is a mom she deserves time out alone to relax and forget about her responsibilities