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[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Greetings! I posted the start of our adventures in the new member intro section of this board, but it probably makes sense to post our journey here. So, I have cut and pasted some of the background info here to make it easier to follow our story, to the extent it is of any interest to anyone:

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Good evening, all! This is the husband writing. My wife and I are recently married with grown children. We have been discussing the hotwife lifestyle (stag/vixen type) and she is intrigued but understandably reticent about it. She is a lovely person, both inside and out, and she comes from a very traditional and conservative Asian culture. So, she is trying to wrap her mind around her husband’s interest in seeing her with other men and participating in mfm arrangements. I have had the opportunity to read many dozens of insightful comments here in the past couple of weeks and I want to express my thanks to all of you who have been kind enough to share your wisdom with us. I had experience with swinging more than 20 years ago in my first marriage, but I don’t recall seeing this website back then. In fact, I don’t recall the term “hotwife” back then either. Then again, maybe I am just becoming forgetful in my older age. :-). I will take the time to share our exploration, wherever it happens to lead - even if nowhere. Thanks again for all of you who take the time to express your thoughts about hotwifing. I will be sure to continue sharing those with my wife.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

The following day,I had a very nice lunch with a true gentleman about my age who I met through the SLS website after he reached out to us. He is in a long term marriage which has been sexless (but otherwise good) for many years and has therefore found a sexual outlet with other couples like us, but not many. In fact, he has apparently not been with any other couples for more than 18 months. In any event, he has very positive reviews on the SLS website from four other couples over the past ten years. I have kept my wife apprised of my communications there, so she was aware of and (somewhat nervously) supportive of our lunch meeting today. The lunch meeting went very well. My wife joined us during lunch by video call. He was a genuinely kind and authentic man, and very respectful. My wife and I will meet with him for lunch together next week. I don’t know if we will ever be anything more than platonic friends with him, but it was a positive development. We will see how this develops….

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

The following day,I had a very nice lunch with a true gentleman about my age who I met through the SLS website after he reached out to us. He is in a long term marriage which has been sexless (but otherwise good) for many years and has therefore found a sexual outlet with other couples like us, but not many. In fact, he has apparently not been with any other couples for more than 18 months. In any event, he has very positive reviews on the SLS website from four other couples over the past ten years. I have kept my wife apprised of my communications there, so she was aware of and (somewhat nervously) supportive of our lunch meeting today. The lunch meeting went very well. My wife joined us during lunch by video call. He was a genuinely kind and authentic man, and very respectful. My wife and I will meet with him for lunch together next week. I don’t know if we will ever be anything more than platonic friends with him, but it was a positive development. We will see how this develops….

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Today, six days later, my wife and I met this same man for lunch and had a delightful time. She was understandably nervous at first, but she became more relaxed as we talked together and she could see that not only was he very polite, he and I also got along well and that made her comfortable. Following lunch, we went to a local tiki hut bar at a marina and we spent another hour talking. My wife was totally comfortable at that point. My wife does not drink, so alcohol was not a factor in her comfort level. When we left the bar to drive home, she said that she really enjoyed meeting him and she told me that she would like for us to see him again. I don’t think that necessarily means that she is ready for a threesome, but I think she is moving in that direction. This evening we made tentative arrangements to see him at a local outdoor event this coming Saturday. When my wife and I had sex tonight, she orgasmed three times in rapid succession as I talked with her about imagining him and me fucking her over and over. That seemed to flip a real switch in her mind since she could picture exactly who we were each thinking about. So, this all seems to be moving in a very positive direction. I will keep updating here.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Today, six days later, my wife and I met this same man for lunch and had a delightful time. She was understandably nervous at first, but she became more relaxed as we talked together and she could see that not only was he very polite, he and I also got along well and that made her comfortable. Following lunch, we went to a local tiki hut bar at a marina and we spent another hour talking. My wife was totally comfortable at that point. My wife does not drink, so alcohol was not a factor in her comfort level. When we left the bar to drive home, she said that she really enjoyed meeting him and she told me that she would like for us to see him again. I don’t think that necessarily means that she is ready for a threesome, but I think she is moving in that direction. This evening we made tentative arrangements to see him at a local outdoor event this coming Saturday. When my wife and I had sex tonight, she orgasmed three times in rapid succession as I talked with her about imagining him and me fucking her over and over. That seemed to flip a real switch in her mind since she could picture exactly who we were each thinking about. So, this all seems to be moving in a very positive direction. I will keep updating here.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

My wife and I were talking about meeting tomorrow with the nice man referenced in our earlier posts, and she became quiet for a moment and then told me that she liked him and was okay meeting him, but she didn’t want me or him thinking she would ultimately have sex with him. She said that her traditional upbringing in Asia would make her ashamed of herself. I assured her that I understand and that we could cancel the meeting if she was uncomfortable, but she felt obligated to meet him for lunch as we planned since she did not want to make either of us feel bad. I assured her that she did not need to worry about that. But, she insisted, so we firmed up plans for tomorrow. About one hour later, we got an email form him letting us know that he has to reschedule due to a family medical emergency. We understood, of course, and said we looked forward to rescheduling with him. About two hours later, my wife came over to me to let me know how much she loves me and wants me to be happy, and I assured her that I am very happy. I assured her that I also love her more than anything, but I could sense that she felt badly about having second thoughts. I really do understand her second thoughts and frankly expected them. I get the sense that it is pretty common for many people, particularly wives, to take two steps forward and one step back as they process their feelings. I also recognize that this may never happen, but at the same time I know how turned on she gets by thinking of having sex with two or more men. So, we will see how this all develops. I welcome any thoughts any of you have about this. No matter what happens, I am very lucky to be married to such a beautiful, kind and loving woman.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

It is really fascinating to watch my lovely wife vacillate between her traditional Asian upbringing and her clear excitement about the hotwife lifestyle. Earlier today, we learned from our new friend that his family member passed away so we expressed our condolences. My wife wanted to cheer him up by sending him another picture of her with flowers he gave her at lunch the other day, and then twice more today she asked me to send more pictures of our cat since he apparently is also a cat owner. She explained that she was trying to make him feel better. Based on his responses, I think it did cheer him up to some extent. The most interesting aspect of this is that my wife apparently wanted to establish more of a connection with him this way, and that leads me to think that she has not foreclosed the possibility of her wanting to move forward with a sexual relationship with him. In fact, he and I exchanged some emails regarding the cats with my wife’s involvement in which we (not surprisingly) joked about our “favorite pussies,” and my wife smiled and laughed when he said he looked forward to eventually seeing my favorite pussy. What do you think?

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Our new friend stayed in touch with us during the week he was away, and my wife wanted him to know that we were thinking of him and wishing him well. When he returned a few days ago, we made plans to meet him again for lunch, and this time my wife was eager to see him again. During his absence, when we were having sex, I would tell my wife that I knew our friend was thinking of fucking her, and that made her very excited. But, the next morning she would almost invariably say that she could not actually do that. Until we talked about the same fantasy again later that night. In any event, our second lunch three days ago was very pleasant and it ended with my wife giving him a warm hug and agreeing that we would meet him a few days later, which means tomorrow as this is written. Our plan is to meet him for lunch at a restaurant very close to where he lives. His wife is out of town for a week and he has asked us to come over to his place after lunch for “dessert.” He and I have been exchanging texts in the past couple of days, and we are both hopeful that my wife will want to do more than just have a piece of key lime pie. Neither of us will push the issue, but we hope to see if she is receptive to my request for a passionate kiss, followed by one for our friend. It is very exciting to think of the possibilities!

[Lucky Dog]

I suppose you know that "Key Lime" is not how you spell "cream".

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Good point, LD!

So, my wife and I had a very nice lunch today with our new friend. This was our third outing together and as was true the first two times, we all thoroughly enjoyed each other‘s company. My wife is completely comfortable with him, as am I. Following lunch, we were invited back to his condo, which was only a few minutes’ walk from the restaurant where we had lunch today. My wife does not drink alcohol, but she will occasionally have a THC laced soft drink. So, I brought four THC drinks to our friend’s condo where he treated us to dessert and we all had a tall glass of the THC cocktail. My wife sat between us on his living room sofa, and as she consumed her drink, he and I started to rub her shoulders, and he started to kiss her neck and her hair. She was very relaxed and had me massage her feet while he proceeded to rub her breasts over her dress. She was clearly getting excited. This continued for a good 20 to 30 minutes. At that point, my wife looked at me a couple of times and mouthed the words, “Let’s go.” I was a little surprised, but I promised her that we would only do this in the way she wanted. Plus, I want her to always feel safe with me, because she is! Our host was very kind and understanding. My wife gave him a nice, long kiss and he escorted us outside his building. She later told me that she “had a great day,” that she knows what we did today makes me very excited, and she thanked me for leaving without pressuring her to stay. We are planning to see our friend again the last week of May. I don’t know if my wife will take it further, but it seems likely in light of her comfort level today. I will let you know how that develops!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

It is worth noting that we had great sex last night. My wife was very horny and she came quickly when I started to tell her while we were fucking that she could have been fucking two men yesterday at the same time. That put her over the top. This morning, after we both had a sound sleep, she woke up late and said she missed our new friend. He sent a couple of emails late last night and early this morning which were very nice (saying how much he enjoyed our get together yesterday and looking forward to the next one, and reiterating his respect for her). That made my wife very happy and I asked her, while we were still in bed, how it made her feel to know that two men want to fuck her at the same time. She immediately got on all fours and told me to fuck her. I did as I was asked (only because I am a good sport ) and she once again came within a couple of minutes. So, yeah, I think we really are getting close!

[Wantsomefunto]

Sounds really good! Keep up the progress and get her together with him soon

[zorro]

She may be saddled with shame from her Asian culture, but she is still a female animal underneath the layers of cultural taboos. Your words strongly describe she desires your new mutual friend, and that is a good thing.

IMHO, you have handled the situation perfectly. I suspect she is having a very busy silent conversation with herself. Your patience and giving her time are very loving.

The seed has been planted. And the plant is struggling to break out of the ground and blossom out of dormancy. As the Brits say, "Carry on." You may well get what you all want in the end.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Sounds really good! Keep up the progress and get her together with him soon

Thanks for your encouraging words. We are hoping to get together with him again on May 28. It seems like my wife is getting increasingly comfortable with the idea of having a mfm encounter!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

She may be saddled with shame from her Asian culture, but she is still a female animal underneath the layers of cultural taboos. Your words strongly describe she desires your new mutual friend, and that is a good thing.

IMHO, you have handled the situation perfectly. I suspect she is having a very busy silent conversation with herself. Your patience and giving her time are very loving.

The seed has been planted. And the plant is struggling to break out of the ground and blossom out of dormancy. As the Brits say, "Carry on." You may well get what you all want in the end.

Thanks much, Zorro! I really am crazy about my wife and I hope she ultimately has a great first time experience. If we get that kind of start, I think it is likely she will be more open to more adventures. Earlier today she remarked that I was smiling ear to ear while our friend was kissing her neck and massaging her shoulders as he sat behind her on the couch. I was so happy to see her enjoying herself, and I think it meant a lot to her to see that I was genuinely happy to see her feeling so good. She said that she was doing it for me, and I thanked her for that but reminded her that my first priority is her pleasure. In a series of email exchanges with our friend today, he thankfully said the same thing - that she is our priority. That brought a smile to her face as well.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Our friend’s birthday was today. Since he was traveling today to meet family, we sent him a nice birthday greeting. My wife put a short video together with some lovely pictures she took in a field with flowers, accompanied by music titled “Only You.” I think she was trying to let him know that (at least for now), he is the only man she is considering for her first experience. Maybe. I say “maybe” because when I told her a little later how much I love her and that I think our friend will be very touched by her kind gesture (and he did, in fact, send us a very nice thank you email later) she said that as much as she likes him, she does not think she can do anything contrary to her traditional Asian culture. I simply said, “I understand” and did not say anything else. She has gone back and forth between expressing reservations and also getting very excited when we talk about having a mfm with him, so I guess time will tell. She told me later this evening that they have been communicating on Instagram today, so I know she wants to maintain some kind of relationship with him. Will she become a hotwife? I don’t know, but it is exciting to contemplate! I love her regardless.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Shortly after my post last night, my wife asked me to send our new friend another short video of her talking to people in her home country on TikTok. She clearly wants to remain front of mind with him, and I half-jokingly told her that our new friend will get very excited again. She loved thinking of that, and asked me a couple of times in the next hour whether or not he responded. When he did respond about one hour later that he really appreciated the video and said he really looks forward to seeing us (really, her) again she was very happy. Shortly thereafter she wanted to watch a mfm porn video featuring an Asian woman followed by some great sex with her having a big orgasm as she sucked on me while having a large dildo inside of her as I told her to imagine having sex with me and our new friend. So, while she undoubtedly remains conflicted about whether or not she is ready to actually do a mfm, it seems pretty apparent that the “devil” on one shoulder is engaged in a vigorous battle with the “angel” on her other shoulder!

[bbarnsworth]

Well, I think I know who's going to win that little battle

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Well, I think I know who's going to win that little battle

I suspect the same thing, bbarnsworth, but I’m not ready to bet the house on it - yet!

[zorro]

So, while she undoubtedly remains conflicted about whether or not she is ready to actually do a mfm, it seems pretty apparent that the “devil” on one shoulder is engaged in a vigorous battle with the “angel” on her other shoulder!

She has to figure that one out for herself, because she has to live with herself. It has long been a good strategy in the lifestyle to go in with no expectations, although one can certainly have wishes and desires. She may well be very close to going for it.

And don't be sure her new "friend" wouldn't want to have you also present. I discovered when I was the single, extra guy that I really enjoyed fucking a wife when the husband was happy it was happening. He may well enjoy that priceless experience of intensified erotic energy when 2 men are simultaneously pleasuring a woman. The sexual energy reflected by a woman satisfying her desires is fabulous. As a HW hubby, that energy exchange remains a treat.

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

So, while she undoubtedly remains conflicted about whether or not she is ready to actually do a mfm, it seems pretty apparent that the “devil” on one shoulder is engaged in a vigorous battle with the “angel” on her other shoulder!

She has to figure that one out for herself, because she has to live with herself. It has long been a good strategy in the lifestyle to go in with no expectations, although one can certainly have wishes and desires. She may well be very close to going for it.

And don't be sure her new "friend" wouldn't want to have you also present. I discovered when I was the single, extra guy that I really enjoyed fucking a wife when the husband was happy it was happening. He may well enjoy that priceless experience of intensified erotic energy when 2 men are simultaneously pleasuring a woman. The sexual energy reflected by a woman satisfying her desires is fabulous. As a HW hubby, that energy exchange remains a treat.

Thanks. Zorro! By all indications, our friend “D” is as excited as I am by having me present so we can (hopefully) treat my wife to her first mfm. I must say, she is so cute. We were returning from dinner with friends tonight and we were talking about “D,” who is out of town until tomorrow. She wanted to make sure that we sent him a picture of her in her dress and makeup tonight in order (in her words) to “support his feelings.” On the one hand, she was suggesting that she only wanted him to feel better, but on the other hand she obviously hopes he will get excited by seeing her looking so good. I think she will ultimately decide to try the mfm, but if she does not that is okay too. The bottom line is that I love her and I want her to be happy. That is what this is all about. As you correctly say above, she has to live with herself. I want her to be happy with the self she lives with and also with me! Thanks again for your thoughts!

[zorro]

I want her to be happy with the self she lives with and also with me! Thanks again for your thoughts!

With an attitude like yours, if any couple can get to a happy LS relationship, it will be your wife and you!
Keep us informed, please.

[zorro]

Thanks much, Zorro! I really am crazy about my wife and I hope she ultimately has a great first time experience. If we get that kind of start, I think it is likely she will be more open to more adventures. Earlier today she remarked that I was smiling ear to ear while our friend was kissing her neck and massaging her shoulders as he sat behind her on the couch. I was so happy to see her enjoying herself, and I think it meant a lot to her to see that I was genuinely happy to see her feeling so good. She said that she was doing it for me, and I thanked her for that but reminded her that my first priority is her pleasure. In a series of email exchanges with our friend today, he thankfully said the same thing - that she is our priority. That brought a smile to her face as well.

Yes! Starting where she wants to start and letting her enjoy herself and work through her inhibitions is IMHO the best way. In time, she may want to spread her wings (or legs) and try out other things. Some would-be HW hubbies blow things up by trying to direct what the play will be. Better to be organic and allow your wife the chance out to live out her current desires before trying to recruit her to live out yours. I hear nothing but good things with you two!

[AdventurousCoupleAA]

Thanks much, Zorro! I really am crazy about my wife and I hope she ultimately has a great first time experience. If we get that kind of start, I think it is likely she will be more open to more adventures. Earlier today she remarked that I was smiling ear to ear while our friend was kissing her neck and massaging her shoulders as he sat behind her on the couch. I was so happy to see her enjoying herself, and I think it meant a lot to her to see that I was genuinely happy to see her feeling so good. She said that she was doing it for me, and I thanked her for that but reminded her that my first priority is her pleasure. In a series of email exchanges with our friend today, he thankfully said the same thing - that she is our priority. That brought a smile to her face as well.

Yes! Starting where she wants to start and letting her enjoy herself and work through her inhibitions is IMHO the best way. In time, she may want to spread her wings (or legs) and try out other things. Some would-be HW hubbies blow things up by trying to direct what the play will be. Better to be organic and allow your wife the chance out to live out her current desires before trying to recruit her to live out yours. I hear nothing but good things with you two!

You are very kind, Zorro. Thank you again. It’s exciting to contemplate where this may lead! I’ll keep anyone interested posted with our progress. We are meeting our new friend for a drink this coming Friday and have tentative plans to return to his place the following Thursday. My wife seems fully on board with that idea. What that may mean remains to be seen, but she really gets off when I tell her how much he and I want to cum in her repeatedly. It’s a guaranteed orgasm (or three)!

[Fearlesspain]

Can't wait for the post drinks update!