It took 25 years but it’s about to happen!

[john1616]

25 years ago I brought up the topic to my wife of watching her with another man. For a variety of reasons including health, general life, lack of confidence it was tantalisingly always just out of reach. She would always say “never say never, but not at the moment” I “knew” that this was a gentle no to keep me fantasising but deep down I didn’t really hold out much hope.

I raised it as a question several times throughout the years , but always with the same response.
Eventually I resigned myself fully to it never happening and settled for her telling me stories of how she fucked old boyfriends and fantasy stories of how she would fuck people that we knew. The stories have happened fairly regularly every couple of months or so. I’ve tried making it as realistic as possible whereby I’ve gone to the extent of freezing my cum and she would randomly be waiting in bed with it up her and would role play her having just be fucked by one of our friends and I would clean her up.

Probably 7 years ago we had an online session with a stranger who wanked and directed our play on video. I loved this completely as it played into my desire to add another male

Another dimension to this is that I am orally bi, but as I e been faithful in our relationship, my only experience was in my early twenties, when I attended a bi male gang bang organised by a guy that wanted to see his wife be fucked by multiple guys. That was hot as hell, but I didn’t pursue that life due to being scared of various girlfriends that I had being horrified at the thought of me being bi.

When I met my wife, I wanted to be completely honest about who I was and I told her about my earlier experiences. It didn’t go down to well as she was pregnant with our first child and didn’t know what to make of it. So it was relegated to something that I felt I didn’t really want to bring up. Although in recent years it formed a lot of our fantasy role play stuff.

My wife had a recent health scare that shook her unbeknownst to me how much it had gotten to her.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago and us attempting to arrange another video call for another stranger to join in on cam.

We found many willing volunteers on Reddit and I picked one that seemed fairly intelligent and respectful rather than straight in with dick pics. We also found another guy and chatted a bit and swapped pictures but neither of us really clicked.

Then my wife decided that she was warming to the idea of possibly having a real life encounter with someone after one of the guys hinting at it.
That put my mind into an absolute spin as I didn’t see it coming at all!

After a few days of discussing it, and a little bit of nudging from me, she finally said YES!!!

However, she wanted to pick someone new as she hadn’t clicked with the 2 guys we were chatting to.

It gets better than that though, she has completely got on board with me being orally bi and wants to experience it with me. So she found someone really quickly, who is bi, intelligent and respectful. He knows that this is about a couple wanting to spread their sexual wings and understands the psychology of some of the stuff that we want to experience. One example being me and my wife making eye contact with each other while I hold and guide his cock into her mouth for the first time in nearly 3 decades.

I really can’t believe it’s happening in maybe 2
-3 weeks time if we can tie our schedules up.

Never saw it coming but at 58 years old and my wife being 54 I’m so glad we are going to experience this finally.
I asked her a couple of days ago that if I got cold feet(I wouldn’t!) would she be disappointed. She said she would be which psychologically was massive for me because I above all else needed her to be doing this for herself and us rather than under sufferance for me alone.

For those in my position over all those years, it may never happen for you but I really hope it does. It’s an amazing feeling

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum john1616.

[john1616]

Thank you!

[bbarnsworth]

Congratulations!

Yes, it's true, if she's doing it for herself, and not as a fantasy completion for you, it will be _incredibly_ hot!!!

Now, don't leave us hanging. Keep us in the loop in the lead up and also let us know hot it all goes!!

[john1616]

I will definitely update as we go! So far it has been incredibly hot seeing my wife’s confidence grow beyond anything I could imagine. The fact that she is leading it now is amazing. So far we have had really nice intelligent conversation with the 3rd male that have been civilised and filthy at the same time. We have swapped pictures and a couple of short videos and it has been great.

My next update will be when a room has been booked!

[QuietHope]

I hadn't heard of your idea of freezing your own cum before...I might try!

[john1616]

It overcomes post nut clarity completely!

[patw3268]

Hoping for that big update

[john1616]

Hoping for a meet early June. Will definitely update if I actually happens.

[john1616]

Confirmed it’s definitely happening now. Insanely excited, nervous and happy. Update to follow!

[Coolcalm]

Cannot wait for the updates!!!

Confirmed it’s definitely happening now. Insanely excited, nervous and happy. Update to follow!

[john1616]

Cancelled this morning. Why is it so hard to find the right person!!! The search resumes

[Coolcalm]

Come to Southern California and I’ll not flake!

Cancelled this morning. Why is it so hard to find the right person!!! The search resumes

[john1616]

Ha ha, I’m a long way from there my friend!
However, my wife is wading through a sea of picture collectors and time wasters and a few are shaping up as possibilities. Really enjoying the reignited sex life due to talking about it with her. It’s paradoxical that the stumbling block was that she thought it felt like infidelity but now we are closer than ever. Now, she spends a large part of her day messaging multiple men at once trying to find a suitable candidate. It’s pretty exciting

[bbarnsworth]

Unfortunately, finding guys in this lifestyle is just as fraught with difficulties as vanilla dating. There's a saying that guys are a dime a dozen in this lifestyle, which is true. Finding good men is quite another thing. My wife and I found a few flakes when we got into this. It reaffirmed our thoughts that once she found a man she really liked to fuck, it would be better to keep him around than to try to keep trying to find new guys all the time.

That of course comes with it's own details. Having such a man would mean my wife would likely need to be his primary (if not only) sexual outlet, which would mean having sex with him often. My wife felt she could handle that, without compromising our own sex life. Another detail was that in having sex with another man so much, it was likely she'd develop feelings for them. It's kind of hard not to. We felt we'd play that by feel, and see how we felt as got further along. As expected, she did develop feelings for both of the long term boyfriends she had, but it had no negative impact on our relationship, so it's been ok.

Your mileage may vary of course Right now, you're focused on getting to the first encounter. I get that. I know at times this might seem frustrating but it's worth the effort. If you think your sex life has been reignited, you ain't seen nothin' yet Pretty soon she'll be happily fucking another man, and you'll be cleaning him up after he's cum.