Our Hotwives

25 years ago I brought up the topic to my wife of watching her with another man. For a variety of reasons including health, general life, lack of confidence it was tantalisingly always just out of reach. She would always say “never say never, but not at the moment” I “knew” that this was a gentle no to keep me fantasising but deep down I didn’t really hold out much hope.

I raised it as a question several times throughout the years , but always with the same response.
Eventually I resigned myself fully to it never happening and settled for her telling me stories of how she fucked old boyfriends and fantasy stories of how she would fuck people that we knew. The stories have happened fairly regularly every couple of months or so. I’ve tried making it as realistic as possible whereby I’ve gone to the extent of freezing my cum and she would randomly be waiting in bed with it up her and would role play her having just be fucked by one of our friends and I would clean her up.

Probably 7 years ago we had an online session with a stranger who wanked and directed our play on video. I loved this completely as it played into my desire to add another male

Another dimension to this is that I am orally bi, but as I e been faithful in our relationship, my only experience was in my early twenties, when I attended a bi male gang bang organised by a guy that wanted to see his wife be fucked by multiple guys. That was hot as hell, but I didn’t pursue that life due to being scared of various girlfriends that I had being horrified at the thought of me being bi.

When I met my wife, I wanted to be completely honest about who I was and I told her about my earlier experiences. It didn’t go down to well as she was pregnant with our first child and didn’t know what to make of it. So it was relegated to something that I felt I didn’t really want to bring up. Although in recent years it formed a lot of our fantasy role play stuff.

My wife had a recent health scare that shook her unbeknownst to me how much it had gotten to her.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago and us attempting to arrange another video call for another stranger to join in on cam.

We found many willing volunteers on Reddit and I picked one that seemed fairly intelligent and respectful rather than straight in with dick pics. We also found another guy and chatted a bit and swapped pictures but neither of us really clicked.

Then my wife decided that she was warming to the idea of possibly having a real life encounter with someone after one of the guys hinting at it.
That put my mind into an absolute spin as I didn’t see it coming at all!

After a few days of discussing it, and a little bit of nudging from me, she finally said YES!!!

However, she wanted to pick someone new as she hadn’t clicked with the 2 guys we were chatting to.

It gets better than that though, she has completely got on board with me being orally bi and wants to experience it with me. So she found someone really quickly, who is bi, intelligent and respectful. He knows that this is about a couple wanting to spread their sexual wings and understands the psychology of some of the stuff that we want to experience. One example being me and my wife making eye contact with each other while I hold and guide his cock into her mouth for the first time in nearly 3 decades.

I really can’t believe it’s happening in maybe 2
-3 weeks time if we can tie our schedules up.

Never saw it coming but at 58 years old and my wife being 54 I’m so glad we are going to experience this finally.
I asked her a couple of days ago that if I got cold feet(I wouldn’t!) would she be disappointed. She said she would be which psychologically was massive for me because I above all else needed her to be doing this for herself and us rather than under sufferance for me alone.

For those in my position over all those years, it may never happen for you but I really hope it does. It’s an amazing feeling

Welcome to the forum john1616.

Thank you!

Congratulations!

Yes, it's true, if she's doing it for herself, and not as a fantasy completion for you, it will be _incredibly_ hot!!!

Now, don't leave us hanging. Keep us in the loop in the lead up and also let us know hot it all goes!!

I will definitely update as we go! So far it has been incredibly hot seeing my wife’s confidence grow beyond anything I could imagine. The fact that she is leading it now is amazing. So far we have had really nice intelligent conversation with the 3rd male that have been civilised and filthy at the same time. We have swapped pictures and a couple of short videos and it has been great.

My next update will be when a room has been booked!

I hadn't heard of your idea of freezing your own cum before...I might try!

It overcomes post nut clarity completely!

Hoping for that big update

Hoping for a meet early June. Will definitely update if I actually happens.

Confirmed it’s definitely happening now. Insanely excited, nervous and happy. Update to follow!

Cannot wait for the updates!!!

john1616 wrote: ↑

Thu May 29, 2025 6:20 pm

Confirmed it’s definitely happening now. Insanely excited, nervous and happy. Update to follow!

Cancelled this morning. Why is it so hard to find the right person!!! The search resumes

Come to Southern California and I’ll not flake!

john1616 wrote: ↑

Sat May 31, 2025 2:24 pm

Cancelled this morning. Why is it so hard to find the right person!!! The search resumes

Ha ha, I’m a long way from there my friend!
However, my wife is wading through a sea of picture collectors and time wasters and a few are shaping up as possibilities. Really enjoying the reignited sex life due to talking about it with her. It’s paradoxical that the stumbling block was that she thought it felt like infidelity but now we are closer than ever. Now, she spends a large part of her day messaging multiple men at once trying to find a suitable candidate. It’s pretty exciting

Unfortunately, finding guys in this lifestyle is just as fraught with difficulties as vanilla dating. There's a saying that guys are a dime a dozen in this lifestyle, which is true. Finding good men is quite another thing. My wife and I found a few flakes when we got into this. It reaffirmed our thoughts that once she found a man she really liked to fuck, it would be better to keep him around than to try to keep trying to find new guys all the time.

That of course comes with it's own details. Having such a man would mean my wife would likely need to be his primary (if not only) sexual outlet, which would mean having sex with him often. My wife felt she could handle that, without compromising our own sex life. Another detail was that in having sex with another man so much, it was likely she'd develop feelings for them. It's kind of hard not to. We felt we'd play that by feel, and see how we felt as got further along. As expected, she did develop feelings for both of the long term boyfriends she had, but it had no negative impact on our relationship, so it's been ok.

Your mileage may vary of course Right now, you're focused on getting to the first encounter. I get that. I know at times this might seem frustrating but it's worth the effort. If you think your sex life has been reignited, you ain't seen nothin' yet Pretty soon she'll be happily fucking another man, and you'll be cleaning him up after he's cum.

So, after several false starts, dead ends and being ghosted, we now have two very different men lined up and not sure who will be the first. Added to this my wife has been absolutely turbo charged sexually. Without exaggeration, it’s like she’s been possessed by a sex demon!
Anyway back to the two men.
One of them has a very high powered finance job, has a stocky powerful build and right from the off has said he wants to put me in a cock cage, fuck my wife in front of me and then fuck my face to let me taste both of them.
I’ve role played the cuck scenario plenty of times and have been turned on by it, but through a lot of self reflection have discovered that I was just psychologically stimming. Ie just generating scenarios to stimulate myself in the absence of it being likely to happen in reality.
Since my wife has agreed to a bi threesome it has weirdly lost its hold on me. I’d probably need a psychiatrist to unpick what that all means, but I’m going with the flow!
I’m not sure about the first time, being caged as I want to be fully involved, but can’t deny there is something intriguing about completely surrendering to the scenario without being able to touch myself during the activities until the guy leaves and we have our reclaiming sex.

The second guy, seems a lot more nervous and has actually stated in his messages that he feels intimidated coming into a couple, although the discussion has been pretty hot and uninhibited!

What’s everyone’s advice on the best scenario to have as a first experience? I know it depends on mine and my wife’s particular make up, but for those of you that have years of experience behind you, advice or wise hindsight would be most welcome.

I have about 2-3 weeks due to scheduling to work this out.

My gut instinct is to go with the less experienced guy, but he wants us to do more of the leading, however this will be our first time. Or with the very experienced dominant bull type male that is very much into the psychology of the experience.

Given that you've had a number of false starts, etc. I'd continue pursing both men. Hopefully both work out! It also might be fun to just let scheduling self-determine, and whichever one is first is whichever one is first. And, if one or the other doesn't end up happening, you still have one.

The guy that's a bit intimidated; I'm guessing it's his first time doing this. We played with a guy once who was like this. It took time to slowly move things forward once we got into a bedroom together. Conversation, some clothes being removed, more conversation, some mutual massage, etc... I think it also helped him to understand that we were both ok with him doing whatever he wanted to do. He didn't need to hold back.

bbarnsworth wrote: ↑

Sat Jun 28, 2025 12:56 pm

Given that you've had a number of false starts, etc. I'd continue pursing both men. Hopefully both work out! It also might be fun to just let scheduling self-determine, and whichever one is first is whichever one is first. And, if one or the other doesn't end up happening, you still have one.

The guy that's a bit intimidated; I'm guessing it's his first time doing this. We played with a guy once who was like this. It took time to slowly move things forward once we got into a bedroom together. Conversation, some clothes being removed, more conversation, some mutual massage, etc... I think it also helped him to understand that we were both ok with him doing whatever he wanted to do. He didn't need to hold back.

I think it will happen exactly like that and organically. Once you’re first timer guy knew he didn’t need to hold back did he completely loosen up?

Yeah he did. Though, he was a pretty tame lover anyway. Not that that's necessarily bad My wife enjoyed him, but didn't want to play with him again.

So my wife met with the inexperienced guy this afternoon and they got on like a house on fire. Both want to take it to the next level. So it looks like my next update may be in the afterglow. Feeling really positive and hopeful now.!

john1616 wrote: ↑

Tue Jul 01, 2025 10:05 am

So my wife met with the inexperienced guy this afternoon and they got on like a house on fire. Both want to take it to the next level. So it looks like my next update may be in the afterglow. Feeling really positive and hopeful now.!

That is fantastic news John. We're just as excited as you are.

Cuckcuckgoose1 wrote: ↑

Tue Jul 01, 2025 11:21 am

john1616 wrote: ↑

Tue Jul 01, 2025 10:05 am

So my wife met with the inexperienced guy this afternoon and they got on like a house on fire. Both want to take it to the next level. So it looks like my next update may be in the afterglow. Feeling really positive and hopeful now.!

That is fantastic news John. We're just as excited as you are.

I was at work when she met him and she called me after.
She told me that she could definitely see herself fucking him, and that at one point he came back from the bar with a raging hard on and told her he considered asking her to feel it. True to her word she said that she wanted me to be there to witness her very first time she touches another man. I was sat at work in a surreal haze of thinking “fuck this is finally happening” and a raging hard on myself as she’s telling me all about what happened!

Wow! Fantastic news!!!! I think you're very shortly going to graduate from "Wannabe" I'm so excited for you and your wife!

Now, you've got to fill us in on all the details

Another development that has sprung from all of this, and I’d be interested to hear others experiences is that in the lead up to the first time my wife’s boundaries seem to have shifted and are shifting almost daily. It’s like she has had some sort of rebirth or sexual awakening.
Initially, it definitely had to be condoms only, even for oral. Now she doesn’t want condoms (but a recent sti clear test is compulsory)
Not only that but she has gone from absolutely almost never letting me cum in her mouth to now being willing to swallow my cum and is going to swallow his too.

She also hardly ever lets me give her anal, but now we have just had anal, admittedly her issue was that it was too uncomfortable; but I went super slowly, like 10 minutes to let her fully relax and then let her control the depth. It’s the hardest I’ve ever heard her cum in all of our years together. To top it, she is going to let the new guy fuck her arse too if he’s not too big, and let me clean his cum out of her.
Finally, her only hard no boundary was that she didn’t want to watch me receive anal in front of her. We spoke about the psychology behind it but she didn’t feel like she was ready for that. This has now developed into, perhaps after the 3rd or 4th time she might feel she is ready to witness this.
I can’t believe we’ve got this far and it seems absolutely surreal that we have gone from 25 years of gentle prodding and discussion without any realistic possibility of any mfm scenario actually occurring, to almost complete sexual liberation.

Has anyone else experienced this absolute paradigm shift? It’s absolutely astounding me, given that I was so close to complete defeat.

john1616 wrote: ↑

Fri Jul 04, 2025 10:39 pm

Has anyone else experienced this absolute paradigm shift? It’s absolutely astounding me, given that I was so close to complete defeat.

Yes, with our own twists.

When my wife and I were early on in our dating, we talked about our past sexual experiences. I told her about my having been involved with a married woman with her husband's complete permission. My (now) wife balked at the idea, said it was wrong morally and ethically, and it would never happen with us if we got married. I explained that it was all consensual, there was no cheating going on, and everyone was happy about it. She still balked, not that I was trying to talk her into it; just giving her a perspective. This was all in the sense of sharing our past, not suggesting she and I should ever do something like that. Time passes, we get married, and having an open marriage or hotwife scenario wasn't even on my mind...at all!

Then one evening, 6 years into our marriage, we're in bed not really fooling around, but I'm giving her massage (which she absolutely loves). She says having four hands would be even better. I was in total shock. Never in a million years would I have ever expected that to come from her. <presses fast forward button>

It's 8 months later, and we're talking about scenarios while cuddling in bed. It's an afternoon. I head out to the living room, put on a movie for our (young) kids, and then head back to the bedroom. I come in to see her masturbating and having an intense sexual look on her face. She's actively fantasizing about having another man, and is in a sexual state I'd rarely seen before. <presses fast forward button>

It's the first sexual encounter with a gentleman who would become my wife's long term boyfriend. We're in a hotel room. After about half an hour of playing, my wife is having sex with him and is getting into a heightened sexual state. I'm actively involved, and the other gentleman and I are actively working her up. She gets into a sexual state that is beyond anything I've ever seen her in. Orgasms are just flowing from her, and it's almost like she's out of her mind in the sexual intensity of it. I can still picture and hear in my mind her on her back at one point, arching herself up to give him her pussy, with him thrusting hard in her and she's absolutely begging him to cum.

She had had lovers before this, but this was an unleashing. I felt like we'd tapped into a sexual beast within her, and it was like a pandora's box. There was no way it was ever going back in.

Now, she's never been a fan of anal (though we've done it in the past), and this sexual transformation didn't change her desire for that. Also, while she's absolutely amazing at giving head (best I've ever had), she doesn't like having men cum in her mouth. It causes a strong gag reflex for her, no matter who it is, and just can't handle it. That hasn't changed either.