Wife comparing you to her best or dream lover

[Drakebelg]

Since openly embracing our cuckold dynamic as a wannabe my wife 54 recently, on my request compared sex with me to what she experienced before me, and why she is seriously looking to cuck me. Hearing it was very humbling and arousing.

What GODDESS experienced/wants
1. Intense alpha sex
2. Total surrender
3. He takes the lead
4. Dominant energy

What GODDESS experiences with me (as her beta subby):
1. “fast subby sex” (her term for my quick, submissive sex)
2. Cautious, gentle sex
3. I wait for permission
4. Hesitant, unsure touch
5. Tender, but brief
6. I climax before she truly feels anything
7. I pull out quickly
8. Sex without rhythm or depth
9. I make her smile, but never moan with piv.

This contrast made it very clear to me why I can’t fulfill her like another man has and could — and why I fully support her.

She just booked a 2 hour tantra massage with a man to get more comfortable with the idea of sexually being with someone besides me after 23 years of fast subby sex.

[wulfenus]

Great question. To make it less pressure on my girlfriend to respond, I phrased it as - I know I'm the best, but
who is the next best guy ?

[Pufferfish]

The more you get into this lifestyle, the more comfortable your wife becomes with "the truth" of these things. I would think in the grand majority of cases, the wife won't trust that you actually want to hear the truth, so she'll either flat out lie, or come up with a less than completely honest answer. But even if she is completely honest with you, unless she knows you're into humiliation, she isn't going to want to directly compare you with others and try to avoid the topic. So typically unless she knows you're into that humiliation, you're best off asking if she could experience something different than what things are like with you, what would that difference look like.

[Drakebelg]

The more you get into this lifestyle, the more comfortable your wife becomes with "the truth" of these things. I would think in the grand majority of cases, the wife won't trust that you actually want to hear the truth, so she'll either flat out lie, or come up with a less than completely honest answer. But even if she is completely honest with you, unless she knows you're into humiliation, she isn't going to want to directly compare you with others and try to avoid the topic. So typically unless she knows you're into that humiliation, you're best off asking if she could experience something different than what things are like with you, what would that difference look like.

Very good point.

[Bobs52]

It took some time because my wife is a very sweet woman and would never want to hurt my feelings, but over time I’ve finally convinced her that the more insulting to me in comparison to another lover, the hotter it is for me. She is now wonderfully demeaning while we have sex.

Quick backstory…my wife knew of my fantasy for some time, but didn’t seem to want to act on it, but would entertain some role play in the bedroom.

Finally, she was out of town at her high school reunion by herself and ended up fucking a guy who was there without his spouse. She was reluctant to tell me, but when she finally did I was ecstatic! To top it off, he was really good and even gave her her first and only orgasm through intercourse, by reaching around and playing with her clit as he was fucking her doggy-style! I was so happy that her one and only hotwife encounter was so wonderful for her and emphasized to her just how lucky she was to hit the jackpot on the first try!

In the years since, I worked on her to be honest in her comparison of sex with Robby (his name) to sex with me (with an emphasis on me coming out on the short end - pun intended). She has not had sex with anyone else since that time, but to the wannabe’s I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to have at least one ACTUAL encounter to use in the bedroom!

She has finally embraced the fact that by demeaning me during sex she is giving me my greatest sexual pleasure. She’s doing an outstanding job now. Typical things she’ll say to me while we’re having sex:

“Robby was so much bigger than you. Truthfully, practically twice as big!”
“Unlike you, he could stay hard for hours.”
“He never slipped out once, like you often do.”
“He was able to make me orgasm from fucking. You are just not capable of doing that.”
“It felt so good to finally be fucked by a real man, with a real man-sized cock, instead of your little-boy penis. I just needed that so bad!”
“I had the best sex of my life with Robby.”
“I would fuck Robby again in an instant if I had the opportunity” (he lives many states away and is married-so no real opportunity there).
She’ll sometimes straddle my face as I masturbate and tell me: “I bet you wish I was feeding Robby’s creampie to you right now!”

There may be SOME hyperbole in this, but really not that much and it turns me on so much when I hear her tell me things I KNOW are true! She can finally let loose and be entirely truthful about my shortcomings and her disappointments of me sexually and all it does is turn me on and make me cum!

While it is true I’d like her to continue fucking other men, realistically it’s probably not going to happen. But I love her for doing it once and putting all this effort into keeping me turned on!

[flexxxdee]

It likely took a lot for your sweet wife to work herself up to making these comparisons between you and Robby. I SO want my wife to make these comparisons between me and a past lover as we make love. Especially hot how she she says she’d feed you his creampie as you masturbate.

I’d personally want my wife to enthusiastically suck a lovers cock, since she’s reluctant to suck me. That’d be so slutty and hot.