Bumble didn't work out. She said most guys were looking for a relationship.
Things fell still since march due to other life stuff. She said maybe we will try SDC after the summer.
Havent been in chastity since march.
Hi, its confusing, contradictaroy but interesting. She's never bringing up chastity or flr and we have sex just now and again (i'm not allowed to initiate). She did go for a tantra massage with an old man (lol) in early july. She loved it, she orgasmed and said she was surprised how comfortable she was letting another man stimulate her naked body. She also said if he was half good looking she would have defeinetly asked him to fuck her.
She's left today for a week including 2 days alone in Ljubljana (Slovenia). She said yesterday she hopes she'll meet some men there and if i want to be kept up to date? I said yes please. I don't know if she was serious or teasing. That is next Sunday and Monday, exciting.
I might ask her if she wants me to lockup.
confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
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Ah, coincidentally we were in Ljubljana today. Passing back through Slovenia later in the week
Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
On her flight to another city she met an attractive man living there, and he has emailed her his address there and telephone. She forwarded the email to me.
Damn, I texted her that is a clear invite to his place.
Will she dare to take this step? She has 2 days left to take her chance.
Damn, I texted her that is a clear invite to his place.
Will she dare to take this step? She has 2 days left to take her chance.
Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
She didn't meet him there but they are in regular email contact and will meet up when he is in Belgium in a week or 2.
She just told me that when she will first meet him she will tell him it's a hotwife/cuckold dynamic for solodating. She asked if it's okay if she would tell him about my PE. I said of course and almost came in my pants lol.
She also wrote this to me:
"I keep having more and more erotic dreams...you, who encouraged me to send Max an email, have set a number of things in motion for me.
I fantasize a lot, and your story in Vienna got me thinking. I fantasize that Max has a huge penis, that we have sex first (maybe in a hotel in Brussels), that I come home tired afterwards... You ask how it was and if you can touch me. It feels strange at first, but
I ask you to put on the big penis sleeve Dasher because my juicy pussy and I enjoy the length, thickness, and also because of your lack of stamina. You come with the Dasher because you're a subby (prejac)...we look at each other and have to laugh at this situation, who would have expected this... "
So it's getting closer.
We are also talking about maybe taking a premium SDC account.
She just told me that when she will first meet him she will tell him it's a hotwife/cuckold dynamic for solodating. She asked if it's okay if she would tell him about my PE. I said of course and almost came in my pants lol.
She also wrote this to me:
"I keep having more and more erotic dreams...you, who encouraged me to send Max an email, have set a number of things in motion for me.
I fantasize a lot, and your story in Vienna got me thinking. I fantasize that Max has a huge penis, that we have sex first (maybe in a hotel in Brussels), that I come home tired afterwards... You ask how it was and if you can touch me. It feels strange at first, but
I ask you to put on the big penis sleeve Dasher because my juicy pussy and I enjoy the length, thickness, and also because of your lack of stamina. You come with the Dasher because you're a subby (prejac)...we look at each other and have to laugh at this situation, who would have expected this... "
So it's getting closer.
We are also talking about maybe taking a premium SDC account.
Her last message: omg will it happen?
Subby... I think he will be big and also dominant. I feel he will be quite self-centered. I want a sex date when I have a connection with someone as I had with him on the flight. That why I don't want to go on bumble, sdc.. ..
I think you'll be at home waiting in your cage, ready to lick me, and then using the big sleeve on the strapon after my sex date with him.
I'm going to send a WhatsApp next week and see what happens next... hes definitely in Belgium 1+2 September.
Subby... I think he will be big and also dominant. I feel he will be quite self-centered. I want a sex date when I have a connection with someone as I had with him on the flight. That why I don't want to go on bumble, sdc.. ..
I think you'll be at home waiting in your cage, ready to lick me, and then using the big sleeve on the strapon after my sex date with him.
I'm going to send a WhatsApp next week and see what happens next... hes definitely in Belgium 1+2 September.
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Hope everything goes well for you. Looking forward to hearing more. Have you had previous experiences in the life style?
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Two hot things happened today.
Just now her best friend that knows about my pe and our hotwife/cuckold wish was here. I knew she knew about my wife meeting this guy so I in a line saying hopefully my wife will be dating due to this trip. My wife then went into some details with her friend with me there. Omg it's so sexy, liberating and arousing that we can talk openly about it. Should be more fun to follow.
This morning my wife told me to put on the dasher sleeve 9x7.5. In spoons it was buried in her loose bucket in one swift thrust. On the second thrust I came instantly, lol not even5 seconds. My job as her beta prejac subby is to shut up and pleasure her when she tells me to so I didn't let her notice my orgasm.
She's really horny because she's probably meeting up in a week or 2 for her first hotwife date and she told me she fantasizing about him makes her cum.
I had to go more gentle than normal due to my softening dick and I apologised later.
Just now her best friend that knows about my pe and our hotwife/cuckold wish was here. I knew she knew about my wife meeting this guy so I in a line saying hopefully my wife will be dating due to this trip. My wife then went into some details with her friend with me there. Omg it's so sexy, liberating and arousing that we can talk openly about it. Should be more fun to follow.
This morning my wife told me to put on the dasher sleeve 9x7.5. In spoons it was buried in her loose bucket in one swift thrust. On the second thrust I came instantly, lol not even5 seconds. My job as her beta prejac subby is to shut up and pleasure her when she tells me to so I didn't let her notice my orgasm.
She's really horny because she's probably meeting up in a week or 2 for her first hotwife date and she told me she fantasizing about him makes her cum.
I had to go more gentle than normal due to my softening dick and I apologised later.
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She has been very horny, her pussy is like a river. She is down because he hasn't answered her mail since saturday and before then he was responding next day. She said she was really craving him and a real (hopefully) big alpha cock instead of the sleeves. She's very disappointed.
I spent an evening walk consoling her, pepping her up and explaining how it has shown her how much she wants it even if it won't be him. I told her eventhough she hadnt had sex yet i felt like a cuck because of consoling my wife about her lusting a man that doesn't want her. She now regrets not meeting him Vienna when the chance was there and realises when good opportunities arise she is more aware now.
She really appreciated the talk and when i suggested to setup SDC premium she said please do.
So eventhough it doesn't look like it will be him, but due to her week away and several guys flirting with her, her having lusfull feelings for another man she knows for 100% she wants it and now does want to go on SDC to find some men. So it's defenitely major progress.
I spent an evening walk consoling her, pepping her up and explaining how it has shown her how much she wants it even if it won't be him. I told her eventhough she hadnt had sex yet i felt like a cuck because of consoling my wife about her lusting a man that doesn't want her. She now regrets not meeting him Vienna when the chance was there and realises when good opportunities arise she is more aware now.
She really appreciated the talk and when i suggested to setup SDC premium she said please do.
So eventhough it doesn't look like it will be him, but due to her week away and several guys flirting with her, her having lusfull feelings for another man she knows for 100% she wants it and now does want to go on SDC to find some men. So it's defenitely major progress.
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Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
DEFINITE progress! It's perhaps disappointing it didn't work out with this guy, but just as in regular dating there's going to be flakes. Better to find out now than actually on a date. Character flaws are a problem whether vanilla dating or non-monogamous dating!
It's great she wants to move forward regardless now. That's not just progress, you've crossed the bridge now except for the actual doing part!
It's great she wants to move forward regardless now. That's not just progress, you've crossed the bridge now except for the actual doing part!
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They still might meet in the future because he is once a month or so in Belgium. She is absoluttely lusting for him and i'm pretty sure him for her. The more she tells about the almost 2 hour flight talk with him, the more clear it is he wants her. Touching her arm, a goodbye cheek kiss, taking his glasses off to look at her, sending her his address, number etc that evening.bbarnsworth wrote: ↑Sat Aug 30, 2025 5:14 pmDEFINITE progress! It's perhaps disappointing it didn't work out with this guy, but just as in regular dating there's going to be flakes. Better to find out now than actually on a date. Character flaws are a problem whether vanilla dating or non-monogamous dating!
It's great she wants to move forward regardless now. That's not just progress, you've crossed the bridge now except for the actual doing part!
She's almost certain that he is really hung (i think she looked at his bulge) and she just told me that's what she really wants from men she meets. I'm 7x5.5 but she wants a good bit longer than me, and preferrably not thinner. She said at least similar length to the 9" sleeve we use.
Question to everyone. Should she include in her profile that she is a size queen or not? Hmmm, difficult. I think not that to start off it mmight good to meet some men she finds attractive and see if the cock size really does matter and then take the big ones when they apprear.
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It's getting very close:
Last night, Goddess had her first call with her potential FWB from the flight while I waited outside on the dijk near our seaview Airbnb. They had an amazing 30-minute conversation. She was honest: we’re happily married, I’m her best friend, but she needs the sex only he can give.
He was surprised by my support but clearly attracted to her. He regrets not meeting her in Vienna or Brussels and is excited about seeing her, despite traveling a lot.
She said the chemistry was strong. Later she used her vibrator with my hand inside her and came in just 30 seconds. (Im now 6 days in chastity).
This morning he texted that the conversation kept him awake in the best way and that he really enjoyed it.
I’m thrilled to watch her excitement as her supportive cuckold husband.
She just left for yoga saying she needs be flexible and strong for sex with him. She is extremely happy, and extremely aroused.
Last night, Goddess had her first call with her potential FWB from the flight while I waited outside on the dijk near our seaview Airbnb. They had an amazing 30-minute conversation. She was honest: we’re happily married, I’m her best friend, but she needs the sex only he can give.
He was surprised by my support but clearly attracted to her. He regrets not meeting her in Vienna or Brussels and is excited about seeing her, despite traveling a lot.
She said the chemistry was strong. Later she used her vibrator with my hand inside her and came in just 30 seconds. (Im now 6 days in chastity).
This morning he texted that the conversation kept him awake in the best way and that he really enjoyed it.
I’m thrilled to watch her excitement as her supportive cuckold husband.
She just left for yoga saying she needs be flexible and strong for sex with him. She is extremely happy, and extremely aroused.
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I am in a similar situation. I have a small penis, and difficulty maintaining an erection. After years of looking at female domination porn, I can only get hard if my wife ties me up and whips me and uses humiliating and degrading talk toward me.Drakebelg wrote: ↑Tue Aug 12, 2025 12:15 amBumble didn't work out. She said most guys were looking for a .....
Hi, its confusing, contradictaroy but interesting. She's never bringing up chastity or flr and we have sex just now and again (i'm not allowed to initiate). .....
She's left today for a week including 2 days alone in Ljubljana (Slovenia). She said yesterday she hopes she'll meet some men there and if i want to be kept up to date? I said yes please. I don't know if she was serious or teasing. That is next Sunday and Monday, exciting.
I might ask her if she wants me to lockup.
She often keeps me in Chastity because she hates all of the time I waste, looking at femdom humiliation and degradation porn.
She has come to enjoy showing off my difficulty in getting erect, unless I am being subjected to humiliation and degradation talk. When she brings a new man home, she will ask him if he would like to see why she brings home other men to satisfy her.
She will lie on the bed in one of her sexiest nightgowns, spread her legs, and will taunt me to come and take her, to show her what a man I am, that I am the boss, telling me too masterfully claim her as my wife. I am unable to get aroused at this kind of talk.
I can't get erect from this kind of talk, so she has to help me get hard. As soon as I do, she will start more talk about how she wants me to take her forcefully, and prove that I am the man, claim her as my woman. I will usually lose my erection immediately. On the rare occasion that I am able to slip inside of her, when she starts that kind of talk, I immediately go limp and have trouble remaining inside of her.
Then, to illustrate to her lover, she will order me to kneel beside the bed and will tell me what a worthless husband I am, how I am unable to perform my conjugal Duty as a husband, and unable to pleasure her. She tells me that this is why she has to bring home real men to satisfy and pleasure her. She tells me that I will now serve as her house boy. This usually gets me very hard and the man begins to realize the situation. Then she will order me to go get into my chastity device well she makes out with her lover. Then I will present myself to her to be locked in my chastity device. Then she orders me from the room, and usually the guy is so turned on that he goes at her with Incredible excitement.
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I'm remembering how it was, back when I used to pick up women and go home with them.
Then I'm trying to imagine arriving at her house - just hoping to get laid - and all of this ^^^ is going on
Then I'm trying to imagine arriving at her house - just hoping to get laid - and all of this ^^^ is going on
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Yesterday my wife (Goddess) and her potential stud had a video call. She made clear she’s not ready to fly to Italy for 2 days yet but invited him to Brussels or even to our seaview Airbnb. He travels a lot but they agreed to plan something in October.
Later, while we were out for a drink, he sent her subtle flirt texts. She was glowing, openly turned on, talking lingerie shopping and how she only thought about what he would think of her body andnot at all aboutmy opinion. That cut deep but was also incredibly hot.
Today he asked her what her body looks like. She lit up at his boldness andran straighttothe bedroom excited, closing the door. I was ordered to send her bikini pictures — the ones she then forwarded on to him. After that I massaged her feet while she texted him, completely absorbed.
She went further — subtly asking about his size. He replied he’s very big.
Meanwhile, I’m locked (day 9), denied, and used only for licking and fingering. Last night she even had me fuck her with the cage on. She loved it, I felt nothing. This morning she came in under a minute on my tongue and four fingers.
She’s wet constantly now, full of energy, and it’s clear her arousal is for him, not me. Even a single text from him turns her on more than I ever could.
She doesn’t think she will be able to wait for his big cock until October so she's thinking about trying to get another guy first online. She said if she has to wait then I have to wait in my cage.
Later, while we were out for a drink, he sent her subtle flirt texts. She was glowing, openly turned on, talking lingerie shopping and how she only thought about what he would think of her body andnot at all aboutmy opinion. That cut deep but was also incredibly hot.
Today he asked her what her body looks like. She lit up at his boldness andran straighttothe bedroom excited, closing the door. I was ordered to send her bikini pictures — the ones she then forwarded on to him. After that I massaged her feet while she texted him, completely absorbed.
She went further — subtly asking about his size. He replied he’s very big.
Meanwhile, I’m locked (day 9), denied, and used only for licking and fingering. Last night she even had me fuck her with the cage on. She loved it, I felt nothing. This morning she came in under a minute on my tongue and four fingers.
She’s wet constantly now, full of energy, and it’s clear her arousal is for him, not me. Even a single text from him turns her on more than I ever could.
She doesn’t think she will be able to wait for his big cock until October so she's thinking about trying to get another guy first online. She said if she has to wait then I have to wait in my cage.
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Question: See below but first a question. He suggested they meet in his hime city (1.5hr flight) for a night or 2 or they meet in a city in europe for a night or 2 (1.5 hour flight) while he is there on a business trip. A week ago my and her reaction was no, but in a week we've moved forward, their calls, sexting, my acceptance and trust in her, how she manages him and keeps him on the "pure sex" path has made that barrier smaller. In 4 weeks they've talked for 2 hours on a flight, about 2 hours of video calls, and 100s of sexting. He has a semi public very respected profile.
Should we do this. Safety wise we both are confident. Keeping it to sex only was a must but already i and she thinks this could be a flexible point. We've talked about it a lot and she believes if she falls in love i will be there to help her and console her if it ends.
I've been locked for 10 days and very horny. While at work today my wife was texting me she was incredibly horny for him and he was sexting me. She fwd the text messages and next thing my head went light, my penis throbbed and with colleagues around me I had a small ruined orgasm. My hands were on the desk and I could feel my cum dribbling out.
I couldn't believe it, I wasn't even trying.
We discussed it tonight and I said it was like the final absolute proof that I'm a beta prejac, useless for sex and should be permanently locked up. I added it's completely natural with a husband like me that she needs to fuck other men and use me as her beta prejac sub. She agreed again. She's a gentle woman and isn't into any contact play yet but she said she sent me the text to tease me and it worked better than she thought possible.
Update: This morning during breakfast he was sexting her again and i was throbbing. Her best friend knows about my PE and my wife looking for an FWB. She thinks its just a fun time and that my wife and i will go back to normal sex again after this new spark. She doesn't yet know how far down the submissive cuckold road we are. My wife said she will tell how submissive i am, locked in chastity, serving her etc.. and that she's contemplating that satisfying PIV isn't possible with me anymore so she must fuck other men.
Should we do this. Safety wise we both are confident. Keeping it to sex only was a must but already i and she thinks this could be a flexible point. We've talked about it a lot and she believes if she falls in love i will be there to help her and console her if it ends.
I've been locked for 10 days and very horny. While at work today my wife was texting me she was incredibly horny for him and he was sexting me. She fwd the text messages and next thing my head went light, my penis throbbed and with colleagues around me I had a small ruined orgasm. My hands were on the desk and I could feel my cum dribbling out.
I couldn't believe it, I wasn't even trying.
We discussed it tonight and I said it was like the final absolute proof that I'm a beta prejac, useless for sex and should be permanently locked up. I added it's completely natural with a husband like me that she needs to fuck other men and use me as her beta prejac sub. She agreed again. She's a gentle woman and isn't into any contact play yet but she said she sent me the text to tease me and it worked better than she thought possible.
Update: This morning during breakfast he was sexting her again and i was throbbing. Her best friend knows about my PE and my wife looking for an FWB. She thinks its just a fun time and that my wife and i will go back to normal sex again after this new spark. She doesn't yet know how far down the submissive cuckold road we are. My wife said she will tell how submissive i am, locked in chastity, serving her etc.. and that she's contemplating that satisfying PIV isn't possible with me anymore so she must fuck other men.
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We are talking a lot about how she keeps me involved, reassured and humiliated now (4 days to go), while she is away, and then the aftercare when she returns.
I've done a lot of research and put a doc together and she has read it. She really wants this to happen and is learning how to keep me happy and help me deal with the angst.
She knows my ideal situation is to lick her creampie clean, and that it will happen in the future whether with him or someone else. Then once she's ready to lick her while he fucks her and cleanup. So this time it will be licking her well used and satisfied pussy and hearing some details.
She just said today that she doesn't see anyhting romantic at all with him. She's started seriously flirting with other men and she said is looking forward to having other men when she comes home. Just a week ago she was only focused on this first but with the flirting and all the messages on the dating app she sees lots of pleasure for her and cleanup for me.
She also called her self a slut and said she needs a huge cock to fill her big cave. 4 weeks ago there wasnt a chance in hell of her saying this.
Tomorrow i have shave and wax her bikini line, saturday is sexy lingerie and clothes shopping. Sunday luckily we have family activities.
Monday afternoon i'll drop her at the train station and i won't see her back until wednesday afternoon. Wow.
I've done a lot of research and put a doc together and she has read it. She really wants this to happen and is learning how to keep me happy and help me deal with the angst.
She knows my ideal situation is to lick her creampie clean, and that it will happen in the future whether with him or someone else. Then once she's ready to lick her while he fucks her and cleanup. So this time it will be licking her well used and satisfied pussy and hearing some details.
She just said today that she doesn't see anyhting romantic at all with him. She's started seriously flirting with other men and she said is looking forward to having other men when she comes home. Just a week ago she was only focused on this first but with the flirting and all the messages on the dating app she sees lots of pleasure for her and cleanup for me.
She also called her self a slut and said she needs a huge cock to fill her big cave. 4 weeks ago there wasnt a chance in hell of her saying this.
Tomorrow i have shave and wax her bikini line, saturday is sexy lingerie and clothes shopping. Sunday luckily we have family activities.
Monday afternoon i'll drop her at the train station and i won't see her back until wednesday afternoon. Wow.
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It wasn't what she was hoping for. S
They played around two nights, he licked her several times but no sex. Went out for dinner yesterday, a gentleman, interesting (not funny though, a bit too serious). She says he was very nervous but he did keep grabbing her, telling her how hot she was, slapping her ass,..........; Was it performance anxiety? She said his cock was extremely thick and a good 8+ so she would have loved it but he just never did the deed. He tried once with a condom but went soft and another time he wanted without condom and she said no.
But, she had a good time going out for dinner, travelling, being free, for the first time in 23 years since she met me sexually active with another man. He and the whole thing made her feel free and sexy. She said "for the next times" she wants me at least nearby or waiting in a room to take care of her afterwards and that she misses me.
She won't meet him again. She needs men that are more fun and relaxed aswell as having a huge cock.
I'll take care of her now. I won't keep bringing up the whole thing, but once she again shows interest to meet men I will 100% be there to help.
I was restless during it all, but not at all scared or jealous really. I was just hoping she would have a great time. My main reastion is "what a fucking asshole idiot" he is for getting her to travel and not fuck her to bits. She is smoking hot, so he is just a dumb fool. But that's the thing, this guy is a bloody high level international technology professor.......so not stupid, but maybe sexually stupid and that's why he is divorced.
We are in a great place since she came back, she feels sexy, our passion is high. She had one day where she was a bit down because she didn't get the sex she wanted. We both love how it all seemed perfectly normal for both of us, no guilt, no unhealthy jealousy, no regrets from either of us. We love how she took at all in her stride and how we know now that it's something that fits us.
She said she won't jump straight into a new one (so i've to not be pushy). I think her main step is to start chatting with people on the SPAM we've put her profile on (SDC).
They played around two nights, he licked her several times but no sex. Went out for dinner yesterday, a gentleman, interesting (not funny though, a bit too serious). She says he was very nervous but he did keep grabbing her, telling her how hot she was, slapping her ass,..........; Was it performance anxiety? She said his cock was extremely thick and a good 8+ so she would have loved it but he just never did the deed. He tried once with a condom but went soft and another time he wanted without condom and she said no.
But, she had a good time going out for dinner, travelling, being free, for the first time in 23 years since she met me sexually active with another man. He and the whole thing made her feel free and sexy. She said "for the next times" she wants me at least nearby or waiting in a room to take care of her afterwards and that she misses me.
She won't meet him again. She needs men that are more fun and relaxed aswell as having a huge cock.
I'll take care of her now. I won't keep bringing up the whole thing, but once she again shows interest to meet men I will 100% be there to help.
I was restless during it all, but not at all scared or jealous really. I was just hoping she would have a great time. My main reastion is "what a fucking asshole idiot" he is for getting her to travel and not fuck her to bits. She is smoking hot, so he is just a dumb fool. But that's the thing, this guy is a bloody high level international technology professor.......so not stupid, but maybe sexually stupid and that's why he is divorced.
We are in a great place since she came back, she feels sexy, our passion is high. She had one day where she was a bit down because she didn't get the sex she wanted. We both love how it all seemed perfectly normal for both of us, no guilt, no unhealthy jealousy, no regrets from either of us. We love how she took at all in her stride and how we know now that it's something that fits us.
She said she won't jump straight into a new one (so i've to not be pushy). I think her main step is to start chatting with people on the SPAM we've put her profile on (SDC).
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She's met an experienced bull online.
Lots of thinking and talking here. We want to keep going and now she realises she would like to discover swinging clubs, sex parties etc... just to try and see.
So they had a first solo drink meet 8 days ago (2hrs) and have had some calls (about 4hrs in total) and are connecting really well. We all want to move forward.
In the meantime my wife and I are fucking like animals, my PE is suddenly gone and i can pound her for ages. She's a slut for me, and we've done things we've never done. We are switching between me being the dom (mostly) fucking her as a slut. I've always been waiting for her to open up sexually and reveal her 'slut'. I'm so happy she's doing it and we are having the best, and hottest, passionate sex of our 23 years. One time at the end she switched and said "i now want you to cum quickly (lol after 20min of pounding). She teased me about being smaller than him, got in doggy and i blew my load after a few thrusts. Very hot.
We've had a few lots and lots of talks about how she needs to include me, me giving her space, and she likes his and my proposals on how to do this. He's talked about how he will "take us over" in a sexual context, she loves that. Their first time having sex will be alone, and if it goes well all 3 of us are interested in getting me involved, whether watching or submitting, etc....
They will have another call this week to sort things out and get the next meet fixed with in a week or 2.
Our idea is the three of us meet for a drink (first time for me). She will sit next to me. I will give a signal if I am okay with him (my guess is i will be from her feedback). Then she will move and sit next to him. This is like saying "i'm his now, now i want him to fuck him". My wife finds this "choosing him above me/the transfer" extremely arousing.
Whether they touch and kiss in front of me (hopefully) is up to her. Then after the drink or 2 they will go the the location and hopefully have a great time. I will then join her after he leaves or see her at home (5min away).
Lots of thinking and talking here. We want to keep going and now she realises she would like to discover swinging clubs, sex parties etc... just to try and see.
So they had a first solo drink meet 8 days ago (2hrs) and have had some calls (about 4hrs in total) and are connecting really well. We all want to move forward.
In the meantime my wife and I are fucking like animals, my PE is suddenly gone and i can pound her for ages. She's a slut for me, and we've done things we've never done. We are switching between me being the dom (mostly) fucking her as a slut. I've always been waiting for her to open up sexually and reveal her 'slut'. I'm so happy she's doing it and we are having the best, and hottest, passionate sex of our 23 years. One time at the end she switched and said "i now want you to cum quickly (lol after 20min of pounding). She teased me about being smaller than him, got in doggy and i blew my load after a few thrusts. Very hot.
We've had a few lots and lots of talks about how she needs to include me, me giving her space, and she likes his and my proposals on how to do this. He's talked about how he will "take us over" in a sexual context, she loves that. Their first time having sex will be alone, and if it goes well all 3 of us are interested in getting me involved, whether watching or submitting, etc....
They will have another call this week to sort things out and get the next meet fixed with in a week or 2.
Our idea is the three of us meet for a drink (first time for me). She will sit next to me. I will give a signal if I am okay with him (my guess is i will be from her feedback). Then she will move and sit next to him. This is like saying "i'm his now, now i want him to fuck him". My wife finds this "choosing him above me/the transfer" extremely arousing.
Whether they touch and kiss in front of me (hopefully) is up to her. Then after the drink or 2 they will go the the location and hopefully have a great time. I will then join her after he leaves or see her at home (5min away).
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Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
Hello drakebelg,
It’s great to follow your adventure.
We’ve been on a similar journey for quite some time too — a very educational experience!
It’s wonderful for both partners and a real boost to your wife’s confidence.
An adventure with its ups and downs, but overall, we wouldn’t trade it for anything!
I’ll keep following your updates — keep it up!
It’s great to follow your adventure.
We’ve been on a similar journey for quite some time too — a very educational experience!
It’s wonderful for both partners and a real boost to your wife’s confidence.
An adventure with its ups and downs, but overall, we wouldn’t trade it for anything!
I’ll keep following your updates — keep it up!
Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
Thank you. The confidence and the fire burning in her is crazy even without a first proper sex date.Sissy triple D wrote: ↑Sun Oct 19, 2025 10:50 amHello drakebelg,
It’s great to follow your adventure.
We’ve been on a similar journey for quite some time too — a very educational experience!
It’s wonderful for both partners and a real boost to your wife’s confidence.
An adventure with its ups and downs, but overall, we wouldn’t trade it for anything!
I’ll keep following your updates — keep it up!
Last night for the first time ever she asked me to take sex pictures of her. It was while she was sucking me. She loved it. We fucked again last night and it was amazing with her watching porn, me licking her and then her wanting me to cum quickly in doggy. She said she is amazed at my oral skills. I've always been this good with her but its her openness and fire whch is changing it so much. Then at 5:30 am she woke me up, and told me to lick her again while she watched porn to an amazing orgasm. She wouldn't let me enter her and told me to jerk off today to porn.
Her third sexted some hot stuff and asked her what she mainly wants, her answer "total surrendering to him", damn so hot.
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Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
Drakebelg,
Love this! Living vicariously through you as I work on my situation!
Tom
Love this! Living vicariously through you as I work on my situation!
Tom
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Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
Drakebelg,
This is hot! I really like how your story is progressing.
Does she read your posts here?
This is hot! I really like how your story is progressing.
Does she read your posts here?
Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
This is long, but it helps me to write it.
So its finally happened, her full complete solo sex date, and certainly a success. So to frame it. m50, f55, together 23 years, 2 teenagers, she had a date in mid august but no orgasms, no PIV, very disappointing. We were both very excited for this.
So this is what she has told so far (just the day after). I was out walking, caged for 4 days, and grocery shopping while they met. Or hard rules were: she was not staying the night with him, condom, me not panicing and turning up at the airbnb, and her send 4 basic texts. He's here, we are going to the bedroom, we are finished, he's left.
Yesterday afternon 24/10 she was dressed up chic sexy in our airbnb, extremely nervoous and he arrived at 4:30. They sat on the couch and more or less immediately he started rubbing her legs and felt her string, telling her to take it off as she had been told in one of their calls. It moved within minutes to the bedroom and to calm her down he gave her a massage.
I'm not pushing for details but i think it was something like this. After a 15min massage he performed oral and fingering her. He had told her he would make her squirt, that he loved it. So for the first time ever he fingered her making her squirt 5 times being very strict ordering her to let go. She wasn't crazy about the squirting but found it fun to try. She said it's not like a full orgasm.
After 5 she said enough so he started fucking her and when he entered her he complimented her big pussy, that she could take him easily. She has a very big sloppy, amazing pussy. She was really happy with his dick, about an inch longer than my 7", same thickness (5.5) and slightly curved. She said it was perfect and she loved the extra inch.
She said he was a nice dom, pretty rough, but not painfull, but much rougher than me. She said she loved the roughness and that he was absolutely in the lead. He fucked her extremely vigorously for about another hour, a lot in doggy, and legs up in the air him on top kneeling. She was never on top. He was also telling her things like "i'm going to give the fuck, your man can't", "am i better than your man", ..... and she loved it. He then was fignering her to another squirt and came all over her tits and face. She said it was a huge load and loved it. She knew I wanted the cleanup (lol).
He said he had tired her out, that she was a natural, very sensual, and he couldn't believe that he was her first fuck apart from me in 23 years. He said she's made for swinging/hotwifing and he wants to fuck her in our home bed. He showered quickly, had maybe a 5 min talk and said he had to leave.
She called me and i arrived, she was in her sexy nightgown. We kissed, cuddled, i felt a bit awkward. It was like without any photos or videos it had'nt happened in my mind. We went to bed, and the passion came. She told me to lick his cum off her and she starting getting turned on so she got on top of me. The kissing was HOT. I licked her to an orgasm with her saying I am a better pussy eater (YES). Then i fucked her in kneeling, missionary, hard and fast, she loved it and told me to keep going, it's what he did. I came after a few minutes but stayed hard so kept going, then she wanted it hard in doggy until i started going soft.
We stayed there for a few hours, i got takeaway, chilled, watching tv, cuddling. Sometimes she was emotional. It's all so intense. We went home, chilled again in front of tv .She then went upstairs, i was struggling so i stayed in front of the tv (not the right choice). A while later i went up and she was asleep.
My head wasn't in a great space. Why did she do all this stuff for him and never me? Why did she never ask me to dom her? Note, it's only in the past 2 month she's opened up sexually and she knows she was so closed to me for so many years. She's truly in lust with me again but the hurt of the years is still there, the rejections, lack of adventure. So it was more struggling with the past rejections than being jealous of now. I got my head together and fell asleep.
I was awake again a 6am on and off until 9am trying to get my head okay. We then cuddled a lot and she started talking. She got very turned on saying she was a slut and then we had amazing sex while also watching porn. Our kissing passion has gone through the roof in the last week.
She will still probably gradually reveal stuff over the coming days/weeks, and i'm looking forward to it. After an hour or 2 of making love we got up, had breakfast with the kids and then we continued talking, laughing, kssing, cuddling.
She loved it, his leading, dom, roughness, cock, handsome, fit, very sweet, guiding, skilled. But he is too standofish for her. Not enough kissing, cuddling. He was a great first for him but she needs more. Earlier in the week he had asked her to sleep the night with him, she said no, not yet but he was welcome to sleep there. It's weird, standofish but want her to sleep there. She thinks he would have still been the way he was even if she slept there.
We are probably going for the first time ever to a swingers sauna/club this week. She wants to try most things, fmf, mfm, forusome, ......bukkake, where will it end LOL. It was never in my wildest dream she would want to get other women, groups etc involved. IThen we will go back online looking for some other thirds, preferrably a bit nearer to us.
My guess is, she will start remembering how good he was. They might keep in contact, and if he asks to meet again they will have a call and she will explain she needs more kissing, cuddling etc... So, it wouldn't surpise me if they meet again. It's currently not her plan to but i suppose it depends on who else we will find.
I've learnt that I am fine letting her solodate until she gets comfortable fucking other men but I need to be there either watching, next room or actively involved. I'm a switch so lots could happen.
So its finally happened, her full complete solo sex date, and certainly a success. So to frame it. m50, f55, together 23 years, 2 teenagers, she had a date in mid august but no orgasms, no PIV, very disappointing. We were both very excited for this.
So this is what she has told so far (just the day after). I was out walking, caged for 4 days, and grocery shopping while they met. Or hard rules were: she was not staying the night with him, condom, me not panicing and turning up at the airbnb, and her send 4 basic texts. He's here, we are going to the bedroom, we are finished, he's left.
Yesterday afternon 24/10 she was dressed up chic sexy in our airbnb, extremely nervoous and he arrived at 4:30. They sat on the couch and more or less immediately he started rubbing her legs and felt her string, telling her to take it off as she had been told in one of their calls. It moved within minutes to the bedroom and to calm her down he gave her a massage.
I'm not pushing for details but i think it was something like this. After a 15min massage he performed oral and fingering her. He had told her he would make her squirt, that he loved it. So for the first time ever he fingered her making her squirt 5 times being very strict ordering her to let go. She wasn't crazy about the squirting but found it fun to try. She said it's not like a full orgasm.
After 5 she said enough so he started fucking her and when he entered her he complimented her big pussy, that she could take him easily. She has a very big sloppy, amazing pussy. She was really happy with his dick, about an inch longer than my 7", same thickness (5.5) and slightly curved. She said it was perfect and she loved the extra inch.
She said he was a nice dom, pretty rough, but not painfull, but much rougher than me. She said she loved the roughness and that he was absolutely in the lead. He fucked her extremely vigorously for about another hour, a lot in doggy, and legs up in the air him on top kneeling. She was never on top. He was also telling her things like "i'm going to give the fuck, your man can't", "am i better than your man", ..... and she loved it. He then was fignering her to another squirt and came all over her tits and face. She said it was a huge load and loved it. She knew I wanted the cleanup (lol).
He said he had tired her out, that she was a natural, very sensual, and he couldn't believe that he was her first fuck apart from me in 23 years. He said she's made for swinging/hotwifing and he wants to fuck her in our home bed. He showered quickly, had maybe a 5 min talk and said he had to leave.
She called me and i arrived, she was in her sexy nightgown. We kissed, cuddled, i felt a bit awkward. It was like without any photos or videos it had'nt happened in my mind. We went to bed, and the passion came. She told me to lick his cum off her and she starting getting turned on so she got on top of me. The kissing was HOT. I licked her to an orgasm with her saying I am a better pussy eater (YES). Then i fucked her in kneeling, missionary, hard and fast, she loved it and told me to keep going, it's what he did. I came after a few minutes but stayed hard so kept going, then she wanted it hard in doggy until i started going soft.
We stayed there for a few hours, i got takeaway, chilled, watching tv, cuddling. Sometimes she was emotional. It's all so intense. We went home, chilled again in front of tv .She then went upstairs, i was struggling so i stayed in front of the tv (not the right choice). A while later i went up and she was asleep.
My head wasn't in a great space. Why did she do all this stuff for him and never me? Why did she never ask me to dom her? Note, it's only in the past 2 month she's opened up sexually and she knows she was so closed to me for so many years. She's truly in lust with me again but the hurt of the years is still there, the rejections, lack of adventure. So it was more struggling with the past rejections than being jealous of now. I got my head together and fell asleep.
I was awake again a 6am on and off until 9am trying to get my head okay. We then cuddled a lot and she started talking. She got very turned on saying she was a slut and then we had amazing sex while also watching porn. Our kissing passion has gone through the roof in the last week.
She will still probably gradually reveal stuff over the coming days/weeks, and i'm looking forward to it. After an hour or 2 of making love we got up, had breakfast with the kids and then we continued talking, laughing, kssing, cuddling.
She loved it, his leading, dom, roughness, cock, handsome, fit, very sweet, guiding, skilled. But he is too standofish for her. Not enough kissing, cuddling. He was a great first for him but she needs more. Earlier in the week he had asked her to sleep the night with him, she said no, not yet but he was welcome to sleep there. It's weird, standofish but want her to sleep there. She thinks he would have still been the way he was even if she slept there.
We are probably going for the first time ever to a swingers sauna/club this week. She wants to try most things, fmf, mfm, forusome, ......bukkake, where will it end LOL. It was never in my wildest dream she would want to get other women, groups etc involved. IThen we will go back online looking for some other thirds, preferrably a bit nearer to us.
My guess is, she will start remembering how good he was. They might keep in contact, and if he asks to meet again they will have a call and she will explain she needs more kissing, cuddling etc... So, it wouldn't surpise me if they meet again. It's currently not her plan to but i suppose it depends on who else we will find.
I've learnt that I am fine letting her solodate until she gets comfortable fucking other men but I need to be there either watching, next room or actively involved. I'm a switch so lots could happen.
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Re: confusing, but interesting update - 2 days alone
Wow Drakebelg,
what a milestone! Congratulations on your first real solo date - what an intense experience that must have been for both of you!
It’s completely normal that you had those mixed feelings. That emotional rollercoaster is really part of it, especially the first time. I totally recognize that feeling of ‘why didn’t she ever do this for me?’ - that’s old pain from past rejections coming to the surface. We experienced that too with Lady M (you can read our story in the Hotties section). The first time she was with another man, all kinds of emotions about the past came up for me too. It’s important to keep discussing this together, take the time for it.
What’s wonderful is: your reconnection sex sounds fantastic and your passion for each other has clearly grown. That’s truly the most important thing! That she’s become so sexually open now - exactly what we saw with Lady M as well. That transformation is so beautiful to witness.
A tip from our experience: keep communicating a lot, including about the difficult feelings. And while I understand you’re both enthusiastic now about clubs and group sex - take it easy. Give yourself time to process this first.
How are you feeling now? And which club are you considering?
You’re doing great!
Grt Sissy Triple D
what a milestone! Congratulations on your first real solo date - what an intense experience that must have been for both of you!
It’s completely normal that you had those mixed feelings. That emotional rollercoaster is really part of it, especially the first time. I totally recognize that feeling of ‘why didn’t she ever do this for me?’ - that’s old pain from past rejections coming to the surface. We experienced that too with Lady M (you can read our story in the Hotties section). The first time she was with another man, all kinds of emotions about the past came up for me too. It’s important to keep discussing this together, take the time for it.
What’s wonderful is: your reconnection sex sounds fantastic and your passion for each other has clearly grown. That’s truly the most important thing! That she’s become so sexually open now - exactly what we saw with Lady M as well. That transformation is so beautiful to witness.
A tip from our experience: keep communicating a lot, including about the difficult feelings. And while I understand you’re both enthusiastic now about clubs and group sex - take it easy. Give yourself time to process this first.
How are you feeling now? And which club are you considering?
You’re doing great!
Grt Sissy Triple D