Our Hotwives

… I could have wild sex with Quasimodo.”

Said by my exotic, beautiful wife who’s been getting attention from attractive men her whole life.

But she’s picky and she won’t go for someone who’s in a relationship (she claims), otherwise it would’ve happened already with her study buddy that she flirted with for one year while in school.

Religion, high standards, and rarely drinking alcohol make this nearly impossible even though of the situation was right, she’d do it in a heartbeat.

Based on past experience, if the opportunity arises again, it won’t take long for her to pounce and I’ll be on the ride of my life. Just need the right guy in the picture which is nearly impossible with our lifestyle.

Hire a handsome, well endowed fitness trainer to give her private lessons.

Hire a handsome, well endowed fitness trainer to give her private lessons.

I’ve tried this strategy twice.

One of the guys wanted to take it further, but he was an obvious player so he wasn’t the type she’s interested in. With the other things were going nicely, and he was giving signals that he was interested, but then she found out he had a girlfriend so she kept it professional.

A couple years after she was done working with him he started his own gym and texted her that he’d give her free sessions in exchange for 5-star reviews. But by then she wasn’t interested.

I’ve also gotten her into piano lessons with artist types. But those didn’t work out. For some reason the guys she’s open to flirting with and developing things, always end up being in relationships.

This has made her a little jaded because she can’t believe how many guys flirt in a way that they shouldn’t when they’re in a relationship. But I have my doubts that she’s not playing a role in denying that fact to herself (I have my reasons). I think she suspects the relationship but tells herself it doesn’t exist until she has solid, undeniable confirmation. In the meantime she openly flirts in her innocent style, encouraging the man to reciprocate. But she’d never openly admit that.

If there is pillow talk incorporating the delicious notion of her being a HW, then perhaps creating a lovely keepsake folder of her sexiness curated with fabulous boudoir photos of her beauty ... Maybe that would spark her imagination ... At some point in the future you hire a shockingly handsome, interesting man (who knows well how to use a camera), and arrange for a boudoir photography session ...
That will get her wheels spinning and juices flowing ...

She’s all about the pillow talk when she has a specific person in mind. When she doesn’t, she humors my talk but doesn’t say much herself because she’s not that interested.

I end up craving it during the ‘off’ periods (which go for years) because the sex is so amazing during the ‘on’ periods. We have a fulfilling sex life. We do it in public places a lot in our city and she loves to go out into the forest and be completely naked for hours on end. Most of the time that ends in very erotic sex.

But nothing compares to her eagerness and enthusiasm when she’s got someone else on her mind.

Right now our only possibilities would be trainees at her work or her clicking with someone at a twice yearly work conference. She has one trainee right now that has potential. But he has two children in elementary school so I’m pretty sure he’s married or in a relationship. She hasn’t said anything about that besides that he has kids which makes me think he could have potential. If he was a definite ‘no,’ she would’ve told me more about him or else nothing at all. Also, she would’ve searched his name online, which she hasn’t done. So I don’t think she wants to “find out” about his relationship. It’s early though, so good chance that’ll amount toto nothing.

This may sound banal, but why not make her an AFF or Ashley Madison account, anonymously, where she can respond only if she chooses ... You curate all the results, discarding the deluge of dick-pics, and pass on to her ONLY quality candidates that would hold her interest and be able to have intelligent conversation (tall, tall order).

A week ago I would’ve said that there’s no way that would ever happen and I wouldn’t even dare suggest it. But today I’d say there is no way that will ever happen but I will dare to suggest it - and I will for AFF (however I’d never make an AM account, not interested in interfering with other people’s relationships).

The change happened as a result of a blow-out fight we had three nights ago. It’s been over ten years since that’s happened. But it was a several time a month occurrence during a very trying time in our relationship many years ago.

The next day she called me after work and wanted to talk. We spoke with complete openness and without judgement. During the process I made an off hand comment that triggered a strong reaction in her. She realized that she’d been holding on to a negative view of how I see sex that wasn’t accurate at all.

She got very animated and excited and proceeded to dump her real views & desires on sexual intimacy on me. Views that she’s been holding back and never saying, tucking them behind an off-switch in her mind. But always acknowledging their existence to herself while not saying anything to me.

Knowing her so well, it was all stuff that I knew in my gut, but I was even a bit surprised at the intensity and to what lengths her sexual thoughts can go if she unleashes them. Keep in mind this is an outwardly vivacious, but still prim and proper, devout, conservative Christian woman who was raised from infancy on etiquette and trained to be a classy, “above reproach,” type of woman. Her family in her home country are involved in local/regional politics and their family reputation is their political capital. So her “classy” behavior is based in more than just religious beliefs.

She told me that all she has to do is flip the switch in her mind, something she could do in an instant, and she could have sex with men she finds attractive without a second thought. She said that it would be such a complete switch that if she flipped it after our phone conversation, she could easily stop on her way home that day and have sex with someone if there was someone available for sex. She wouldn’t care if they were married, in fact that would make it even more addicting. And she could easily have ongoing affairs with multiple men, loving every minute of it. She said she 100% understands why women who do that, do it.

Additionally, she said that she’s knows that men are interested in her based on how their behavior changes when she’s around and how they magically show up when it’s not necessary. And she especially notices when it’s the type of man that she’s interested in, successful (or if they’re young, have the traits to be successful), personable, and committed to their work. In fact, it’s been a joke among her female coworkers that they send her to get a male coworker to do something, or get a male boss to make a change, because if she requests it, then it will happen. She’s competent and highly respected in her career, so there’s more to it than her attractiveness, but the male superiors accommodate her much more than the female superiors.

What’s held her back was her mistaken view of how I see my fantasies and the fact that she doesn’t want to hurt another woman by getting involved with their man. She can’t handle having that guilt after the fact. But the good thing is that I feel the same way. I don’t want us to be in that situation.

Needless to say I now have something I haven’t had for years - tremendous hope for the future. And it’s at a level that it was before I screwed this fantasy up for us by becoming obsessed with it 24/7.

This weekend we’re going to go out and try to role play an evening out where I’m her lover. She suggested it and she told me the cocktail dress and bra and underwear that she wants to wear. She also wants us to talk completely openly about sex, have no expectations, and be okay with disappointment. Sounds great to me!

Sounds like she’s onboard with your fantasy and willing to take the leap. Good luck and let us know how it goes

Cuckedbydildo wrote: ↑

Fri Sep 26, 2025 10:59 pm

Sounds like she’s onboard with your fantasy and willing to take the leap. Good luck and let us know how it goes

Thanks for your reply. I’m using this forum as motivation to keep my discipline and keep my “eyes on the prize.” It helps to know that others find value in it.

I could write pages and pages about the contradictions of a prim & proper, good-hearted, religious woman and the hoops of reasoning she jumps through to deny to herself, or justify, her more base desires and behaviors. I love her all the more for it though. After decades of marriage she’s still captivating to me.

We went to a high-end hotel last weekend to spend time together and to follow through on her earlier request to engage in role play at a hotel. On Friday evening we were the only people in the spa that was mostly hidden from the view of others nearby. So I dared her to masturbate on one of the spa jets, something she did in a spa many years ago at a hotel while a man was watching from a balcony about a 100’ away, while I was putting the kids to bed in our room. I’ve reminisced that moment hundreds of times since.

She took me up on that dare and a few minutes later had a strong orgasm while I sat on the opposite side and watched. After that I sat next to her and she casually stroked my dick. Since she took me up on my dare, I decided to ask another question. I asked her to close her eyes and pick any man that she’d interacted with in the last two months, which man would she choose to stroke the same way she was stroking me? She shut her eyes and within a few seconds she said she’s thinking of someone but she doesn’t want to say who it is. I was shocked that she thought of someone so quickly. That told me that she’d been thinking of this person in the same way already and it had been within the last two months. Super thrilling for me!

When I asked why she wouldn’t say who it was, she said that she didn’t want me to become obsessed and ruin the fantasy for her. So if I didn’t know the person, I couldn’t overpower her with my thoughts and ideas. I was satisfied with that because it meant that she’d already had the fantasy and wanted to continue having it. In our subsequent conversations she said something that made me able to figure out who it was. I was not expecting it to be the guy that it is. But I’m playing dumb like I don’t know who it is for as long as she wants! I learned that lesson the hard way years ago. I need to be patient and let her thoughts grow in the direction that she wants to go with them.

I’ll write more on the weekend when I have more time later. In short, we had sex three times a day which we haven’t done for many, many years. And she role played that I was this “mystery” man every time.