The journey continues
Posted: Wed Oct 01, 2025 12:17 am
Hi all,
Been asked to put my introduction post in this area, I will update this thread with every new detail in my journey to get my wife ready for opening up in the lifestyle in the upcoming months/years to come, so here we go:
Amazing I found this community!
My wife and I (both 35) have been together for almost ten years. We met working on a cruise ship, and from the very start we had open, honest conversations about our dreams, desires, and fantasies. years later I admitted I have a huge hotwife kink what was in my mind over the years.
One night when our ship was docked in Asia, we ended up in a strip club with an older male colleague. My wife gave me a subtle sign that she wanted to try something adventurous (she is also attracted to women). The night evolved and we found ourselves in a hotel room with a dancer from the club and our colleague. I had sex with the dancer, and my wife was planning to have sex with our colleague, but he had trouble performing because of drinking too much. Eventually, my wife focused her attention on the dancer and found her satisfaction there. That experience planted a seed for what might be possible with the colleague but afterwards we did not explore further due to him not performing.
Years passed, we settled and with two daughters our lives became filled with work and family. Sometimes there was innocent flirting, but no new adventures. My desire for my wife as a hotwife stayed quietly in the background. At some point I brought it up again. My wife made it clear that her priorities had changed since becoming a mother, and she was not interested in exploring this side of our relationship right now. I respected her wishes completely because her comfort always comes first.
Things started to shift. One evening, as we lay in bed, we talked about that night in Asia. I gently asked if there was any man in her life today she might feel curious about. She got shy, and after some playful teasing admitted there is a male colleague she thinks is attracted to her. She enjoys the attention, even though she is not physically drawn to him. There is a tension, a spark. She confessed to a small crush, but did not share his name because he is also in a relationship and the colleague is (like almost all over her co-workers) very conservative christian. I sensed she was having fun teasing me. The conversation left us both excited, and we had great sex where my wife climaxed twice. We did not talk about it the next day, but it felt like a small step forward.
To nurture this spark, I suggested my wife read "Faithful Hotwife", a book recommended by someone in the community on Reddit. She is not very talkative about sexual topics, given her way of personal values, but after finishing the book I felt a new door was opening for her. some weeks later, she decided to go clubbing in our capital city with a friend for the first time in years. After her shower, while getting ready, she put on the sexiest thong she owns. She knows I like it and it is a bold choice for her. Maybe it meant nothing to her, but for me, it was a meaningful sign she was reconnecting with her sexual side.
Another special moment happened while we were in bed. My wife initiated sex (what is rare in our relationship) She grabbed her toy and played with it while I was trying to get her to dirty talk, to my suprise, she started telling me, in detail, about her only one-night stand with an Italian hotel guest where she worked when she was in her early twenties. She explained how she went with him to another hotel nearby to avoid getting caught, and described how they had wild sex, especially remembering doggy style. She told me this while riding me, and it was incredibly arousing for us both. We both had intense orgasms, and it felt like we were finding some of that old adventurous energy again.
After almost ten years together and two children, my longing for my wife’s sexual freedom and hotwife adventures is stronger than ever. I am extremely loyal with no interest in another woman. My biggest turn-on is seeing my wife thrive sexually, knowing she chooses to come home to me after she had sex with a man she is craving for. It brings a sense of pride and intimacy that is hard to describe.
My wife respects that I adore her in this way. Even though she has set clear boundaries, she does not feel offended or pressured by my fantasy. She is honest: her focus is our family and children, and bringen my hotwife fantasy to reality is not something she wants to pursue. I accept and respect that.
Sometimes, things go wrong. During a night out together after drinking too much, I asked my wife which man she secretly finds attractive. She playfully named our single neighbor. I sent him a message admitting she thinks he is attractive and showed my wife the text. She was disappointed I put her in that position. The next morning, I apologized to the neighbor and explained everything. Fortunately, he was not offended and said he is open to contact if we are ever interested. I told my wife about our conversation, but I realize I hurt her trust with my impulsive disrespectfull behavior. This will never happen again.
Even with mistakes, I am grateful for our honesty and the journey we share. The last step we took is that she allowed me to create a Feeld account with some really hot pictures on it and a brief introduction she both approved to and are taking small steps. Sometimes I show my wife the men who ping her, just to see how she reacts and to keep things easy. She decides the pace, and there is no pressure, only gentle encouragement here an there;)
Here’s my question to the community: How do you keep things playful and positive without pushing too hard? Do you have tips for gently nurturing this dynamic, especially with a reserved partner and a young family?
Thank you for reading my story, glad to be here
Been asked to put my introduction post in this area, I will update this thread with every new detail in my journey to get my wife ready for opening up in the lifestyle in the upcoming months/years to come, so here we go:
Amazing I found this community!
My wife and I (both 35) have been together for almost ten years. We met working on a cruise ship, and from the very start we had open, honest conversations about our dreams, desires, and fantasies. years later I admitted I have a huge hotwife kink what was in my mind over the years.
One night when our ship was docked in Asia, we ended up in a strip club with an older male colleague. My wife gave me a subtle sign that she wanted to try something adventurous (she is also attracted to women). The night evolved and we found ourselves in a hotel room with a dancer from the club and our colleague. I had sex with the dancer, and my wife was planning to have sex with our colleague, but he had trouble performing because of drinking too much. Eventually, my wife focused her attention on the dancer and found her satisfaction there. That experience planted a seed for what might be possible with the colleague but afterwards we did not explore further due to him not performing.
Years passed, we settled and with two daughters our lives became filled with work and family. Sometimes there was innocent flirting, but no new adventures. My desire for my wife as a hotwife stayed quietly in the background. At some point I brought it up again. My wife made it clear that her priorities had changed since becoming a mother, and she was not interested in exploring this side of our relationship right now. I respected her wishes completely because her comfort always comes first.
Things started to shift. One evening, as we lay in bed, we talked about that night in Asia. I gently asked if there was any man in her life today she might feel curious about. She got shy, and after some playful teasing admitted there is a male colleague she thinks is attracted to her. She enjoys the attention, even though she is not physically drawn to him. There is a tension, a spark. She confessed to a small crush, but did not share his name because he is also in a relationship and the colleague is (like almost all over her co-workers) very conservative christian. I sensed she was having fun teasing me. The conversation left us both excited, and we had great sex where my wife climaxed twice. We did not talk about it the next day, but it felt like a small step forward.
To nurture this spark, I suggested my wife read "Faithful Hotwife", a book recommended by someone in the community on Reddit. She is not very talkative about sexual topics, given her way of personal values, but after finishing the book I felt a new door was opening for her. some weeks later, she decided to go clubbing in our capital city with a friend for the first time in years. After her shower, while getting ready, she put on the sexiest thong she owns. She knows I like it and it is a bold choice for her. Maybe it meant nothing to her, but for me, it was a meaningful sign she was reconnecting with her sexual side.
Another special moment happened while we were in bed. My wife initiated sex (what is rare in our relationship) She grabbed her toy and played with it while I was trying to get her to dirty talk, to my suprise, she started telling me, in detail, about her only one-night stand with an Italian hotel guest where she worked when she was in her early twenties. She explained how she went with him to another hotel nearby to avoid getting caught, and described how they had wild sex, especially remembering doggy style. She told me this while riding me, and it was incredibly arousing for us both. We both had intense orgasms, and it felt like we were finding some of that old adventurous energy again.
After almost ten years together and two children, my longing for my wife’s sexual freedom and hotwife adventures is stronger than ever. I am extremely loyal with no interest in another woman. My biggest turn-on is seeing my wife thrive sexually, knowing she chooses to come home to me after she had sex with a man she is craving for. It brings a sense of pride and intimacy that is hard to describe.
My wife respects that I adore her in this way. Even though she has set clear boundaries, she does not feel offended or pressured by my fantasy. She is honest: her focus is our family and children, and bringen my hotwife fantasy to reality is not something she wants to pursue. I accept and respect that.
Sometimes, things go wrong. During a night out together after drinking too much, I asked my wife which man she secretly finds attractive. She playfully named our single neighbor. I sent him a message admitting she thinks he is attractive and showed my wife the text. She was disappointed I put her in that position. The next morning, I apologized to the neighbor and explained everything. Fortunately, he was not offended and said he is open to contact if we are ever interested. I told my wife about our conversation, but I realize I hurt her trust with my impulsive disrespectfull behavior. This will never happen again.
Even with mistakes, I am grateful for our honesty and the journey we share. The last step we took is that she allowed me to create a Feeld account with some really hot pictures on it and a brief introduction she both approved to and are taking small steps. Sometimes I show my wife the men who ping her, just to see how she reacts and to keep things easy. She decides the pace, and there is no pressure, only gentle encouragement here an there;)
Here’s my question to the community: How do you keep things playful and positive without pushing too hard? Do you have tips for gently nurturing this dynamic, especially with a reserved partner and a young family?
Thank you for reading my story, glad to be here
