Hello everybody! This is “Gigi.” (not Des – My name really isn’t Gigi but know why I am called that here. He probably has not mentioned a few others we know are now calling me that. That’s another story.)
I feel like an interloper here. I don’t do social media but Des said I should drop a line while he’s away. I told him anything I write would be a lot different than what he writes but he said that’s OK. (He may not like what I decide to write - but if not, it is HIS fault I am here anyway.)
I could tell a few things about him. He does not talk or write about himself much. I have noticed he does not do that when writing here either. He wrote in email he has been in thunderstorms every day since arriving at his final destination and those are expected all the time up until he leaves. The good part is that he says the work he is doing and the people he is dealing with have been great.
He has never been in the first country where he landed but his mother was born there. She is a dual citizen. When his father passed away, his mother moved back to her home country to take care of her older sister who has a disability and other health problems. I feel sorry for Des at times. He is essentially parentless with no immediate family in the U.S. For years he has only talked to his mom by telephone. He didn’t get past the first airport before going on to his main location in a small island country. His mother met him at the airport and was able to visit with him for two or three hours. More than anything about this trip was he wanted to see his mother. He was also at that airport to meet the client business owners going on to the other country. I was glad he could see his mother. His mom’s responsibility in caring for her widowed sister makes it nearly impossible for her to travel to the U.S. to visit us. The high cost of the travel that far away would make it hard for her to do anyway.
Neither of us had ever heard the name of the other nation where he is now. He and I can talk by phone but the 15 hour time zone difference makes it difficult to connect.
There is something else worth my saying. Since he has been writing about us at this website he has sometimes pointed out remarks to me by others who think almost everything we do is wrong or that our marriage is threatened by some men. I suppose others would have to know us to know why that will never happen. I’m married to one man for life. When I graduated from college I had limited wants. I wanted to get a job at almost any bank, marry Des and die happy. That’s still pretty much the way I see things except I learned I could be happy with certain other jobs. Having a lot of money wasn’t important to either of us when we married and even now. He had been a newspaper reporter in my home town and another city before that and like most reporters made less than now. We at first lived in the cheapest rooming house you could imagine and then a couple of small apartments until moving here and buying a home at a bargain. Nobody other than him has anything I could ever want and he tells me he feels the same.
Something I don’t think he ever mentioned is that he is really cheap but I’m thrifty too. I save almost everything I have made since we married except for last year’s home remodeling and whatever car I have bought. The cars we purchased since moving here have been like-new bank repossessions but some probably assume we paid a lot for each. I just paid off the low remaining balances. The dues for clubs I belong to are paid by my employer. Those are nice but except for my gun club I personally wouldn’t spend a dime to belong to anything unless it had some purpose other than pleasure. It’s just the way we are.
I sometimes find he has written something here that is not 100% right but it’s usually razor close. He reminds me that is about the same for all reporters like he once was. He says nobody is perfect and claims he is about as imperfect as anyone can be. (I tell him I won’t argue with him about that last part.)
I know some people who read what my husband writes don’t like us. I will try to answer at least one new question I noticed when I logged in. I don’t really have a good answer for men who write I am totally wrong for not telling every man I meet that my husband approves. I understand the points made. I have my own reasons and opinion for certain things that come about but understand why this and some other things about us makes some angry with me. Most men can’t control their impulses around women single or not. Complaints bothered me when I first read some of those here but I get it. I’m sorry about that.
The other question was why Rob would invite Des on a camping trip with us when he returns. To me that seemed entirely reasonable but I didn’t know he had already figured out I probably had my husband’s approval. They got along very well when they met and both said they liked meeting each other. I don’t know why that seems so odd to others but none of us have a problem with it. It has happened before. My husband could not write what has happened since last week because he is away.
I told Rob about our marriage and the agreement between us on the past weekend. I had intended to tell him anyway but it was he who brought it up. After the first time we had sex when camping, he asked with if I knew Ellis and sort of smiled when he said that. I realized right away he knew something was different about my marriage. The way he grinned when asking me left no doubt in my mind.
I only know one reason anyone would ask that unless it was likely I actually knew someone with that unusual name. I would not have known either if I had not been told once at the former cuckold club and also by a couple we met casually at a swingers lounge. I’m sure very few who are not in open marriages know Ellis is a code for alternative marriage lifestyles (LS or Ellis). I confessed my husband and I have an agreement about Ellis. He is only one of two unmarried men who ever asked me a question about Ellis.
I thought it would be a surprise. Instead I was the one who was surprised when he said he had figured that out from some comments and behavior before we had sex. Rob was pleased to hear it and I felt it was time for him to know. When we realized we were mutually attracted I guess I was too obvious about it. His assumption was a little off. He had thought my husband and I were probably swingers. He had not personally been involved anything like that before but it was not new knowledge for him. He knew two Marine and Navy men when he was in the service who were swingers and one approved of his wife dating other men when he was deployed. I apologize to anyone who gets offended about anything about our lives. I know our ways could never make everybody happy with me and him if they learned about us. So I try to be careful in whatever I do.
My husband doesn’t set rules like some here who write about their married lives. He once told me that if we had done that I might get carried away with emotions in some situations that would cause me to break whatever rules he set. I didn’t believe that but eventually came to think he was right. I have learned sex can cause people to do a lot of things some husbands wouldn’t like. Des is OK with about everything so far. He complained only once about one man but for good reasons and I broke off the relations with that man. I set rules for him though and he is OK with that.
Des predicted a couple of doomsday scenarios about the trip with Rob. I did get two minor bruises on an arm and a leg. It didn’t hurt and I heal fast. I covered both up with makeup for work so others won’t be asking how that happened. I will tell the rest of that story to Des he gets home instead of here. It’s hard for me to write about something like that anyway. I have a LOT of notes.
I don’t feel good about some of the messages my husband gets from people unhappy with us so I won’t be writing much here. I hope what little I passed along today is not boring or upsetting. I tried. So thanks for putting up with me. I cannot write like he does and it isn’t like I can have my secretary re-do these notes for me.
Here’s one more thing. I play jokes and pranks on my husband. A few nights before he left for his trip, we were at the larger supermarket for some groceries. He wandered away from me, When we finally reconnected I told him it’s too bad he didn’t see me talking to a really good-looking man while he was roaming the aisles. (There was really no such man.) I told Des I approached the guy and said I had lost my husband and asked if he could talk to me a few minutes. The man asked why. I told him because every time I talk to a good-looking guy, my husband appears out of nowhere.
Des really believed that for about one minute.
- - His wife for life.
PS: I had some time to figure out how to change his avatar. I KNOW he won’t like that.
All three ladies were very good wives that were virgins when married and wanted to see what sex was like with another man without complicating their marriages. As far as I know, they didn't stray with anyone else. Funny thing is that I still have lunch with two of the ladies (and sometimes their hubbies too) and we still tease a bit and recall some of the memorable events we shared. If it is played right and with respect and confidence, a relationship like that can be a long lasting one beyond the sex. I'm sure Gigi will have that same experience in the future when she is no longer active with some of her FBs like the insurance man, the mechanic and the boat guy. I get the feeling that Beau and Bossman will be the exceptions (and maybe the professor) because I think she's likely to be fucking them on a much longer term than the others just because of the deeper attachments they seem to enjoy. Sorry for the rambling.
