Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Farmgirl]

I'm not sure if this thread is only for hotwives generically or if a follow up question to an answer by a hotwife is allowed, so I'll ask my question here and risk the wrath. Farmgirl, you mentioned that you see Allen on average twice a week and that you would fuck him every day if you could. Does that mean that Allen is your primary sex partner? I know Number 1 is always #1 in your book, but do you have more sex with Allen than anyone else??? Evidently, you are a very sexually active person. It sounds like you have sex with someone every day. That is HOT!!

Rascal

You're in good stead, after all, you had a question .

My Number1 is my primary sex partner by far. He gets me after every time Allen or Jack has me, and he has me in between too . As I mentioned in another thread, my Number1 and I ( unless one of us is sick) have some form of sexual play each day.
I have more sex with Allen than anyone other than my Number1. Saying I would fuck Allen every day if I could, is an if I "could", which isn't possible for either of us . Kind of like saying I would take a road trip every day if I could. Alas, other things have to be done, the other facets have to be polished too .

[Farmgirl]

Good question Rascal, I was going to ask also, do any of you hotwifes, does your husband have the freedom to go find a girlfriend? go on weekends with them, Trips any of that?

For me, that is a No. Except for a rare woman, I would be way too jealous. It works well for us, as he doesn't want to have sex with most. Now, when it comes to being a voyeur, he is in his element! He loves to flirt and look, handling would be a bonus .
He has had his share in the past .

[Liese]

Good question Rascal, I was going to ask also, do any of you hotwifes, does your husband have the freedom to go find a girlfriend? go on weekends with them, Trips any of that?

While hub and I tend to do a bit more MFM play than anything else, we also play with other couples and the infrequent solo gal. I've enjoyed seeing hub be sexual with other women on a pretty regular basis. Per our preferences, we don't play separately.

[Potentialstagvixen]

So we recently had our first experience after years of discussing and vetting potential playmates. On the surface it could not have went any better. She totally let go!
I was surprised at the # of times that she came. She had one orgasm after another. It started with oral and then Continued in the 3 major positions (doggie, on top, and missionary). She described it as having one little orgasm after another. Since then she repeatedly cums from penetration as well so what could be wrong? Nothing is wrong per se, other than I’m a little perplexed as to why sex is so much better now. There is a little hit to my pride that I wasn’t the one to get her to this spot but very thankful that the sex is so good now!
Im wondering if this was just a result of finally letting go. When we have sex now her orgasms are longer and she has incredible endurance. Before she would have explosive orgasms and then she would be too sensitive or just tired but now she likes to continue to fuck. Before she wanted me to cum right after she came but now she wants me to hold out and fuck her hard! Not always easy when you have 30 plus years of being worried about hurting her.
Im not complaining but it’s been kind of rough at times to accept that in someways ot took someone else or a different encounter for her to learn how to enjoy extended sex and vaginal orgasms. Is this a normal occurrence?
I know we are very lucky to have our first time turn out this way and make sure everyone understands I’m not complaining just curious as to why it took this to get us to this wonderful place!

[Liese]

It's pretty standard and normal for me to have more orgasms during a play session with others than when it's just hub and me. Hubby accepts that. It's the newness, the novelty/thrill of others giving me pleasure and getting it from me, that brings me to more climaxes. I also love how I feel so wicked and wanton doing that, which brings me more pleasure. We both consider that normal. With hubby alone, I'll generally have 2-4 orgasms, sometimes a few more. In our various 2 and 3 and 4some fun times while on a play date or at a party I'm often in the double digits before I'm done.

Hub still knows how to push my buttons the best, though. He's shown other guys just how I like it!

[Lookingforadventure]

So we recently had our first experience after years of discussing and vetting potential playmates. On the surface it could not have went any better. She totally let go!
I was surprised at the # of times that she came. She had one orgasm after another. It started with oral and then Continued in the 3 major positions (doggie, on top, and missionary). She described it as having one little orgasm after another. Since then she repeatedly cums from penetration as well so what could be wrong? Nothing is wrong per se, other than I’m a little perplexed as to why sex is so much better now. There is a little hit to my pride that I wasn’t the one to get her to this spot but very thankful that the sex is so good now!
Im wondering if this was just a result of finally letting go. When we have sex now her orgasms are longer and she has incredible endurance. Before she would have explosive orgasms and then she would be too sensitive or just tired but now she likes to continue to fuck. Before she wanted me to cum right after she came but now she wants me to hold out and fuck her hard! Not always easy when you have 30 plus years of being worried about hurting her.
Im not complaining but it’s been kind of rough at times to accept that in someways ot took someone else or a different encounter for her to learn how to enjoy extended sex and vaginal orgasms. Is this a normal occurrence?
I know we are very lucky to have our first time turn out this way and make sure everyone understands I’m not complaining just curious as to why it took this to get us to this wonderful place!

I don't know about all women, but for me a lot of sex is mental. I mean the physical stuff is important as well, but if my head isn't in it, the experience won't be as great.

Sex with my husband is phenomenal. We have very open communication and are willing to experiment with a lot of things. Sex with other people adds a new mental element that elevates things. It isn't better, and I don't like sex with other guys more, but the naughtiness, newness, wantonness, etc does add something different.

I wonder if that is playing a factor in your situation. Whatever it is, I'd embrace it. Sounds like the two of you are having a lot of fun.

[Potentialstagvixen]

It's pretty standard and normal for me to have more orgasms during a play session with others than when it's just hub and me. Hubby accepts that. It's the newness, the novelty/thrill of others giving me pleasure and getting it from me, that brings me to more climaxes. I also love how I feel so wicked and wanton doing that, which brings me more pleasure. We both consider that normal. With hubby alone, I'll generally have 2-4 orgasms, sometimes a few more. In our various 2 and 3 and 4some fun times while on a play date or at a party I'm often in the double digits before I'm done.

Hub still knows how to push my buttons the best, though. He's shown other guys just how I like it!

Thanks for responding and giving your input. I guess I’m out case it was fairly rare for her to have vaginal orgasms but now it’s almost like and “ah ha” moment occurred and her body is like give it to me! It was kind of a mixed feeling moment initially when she just kept coming and coming with him. I mean that’s what turns me on is when she is turned on but it was also like what the hell? Haha! And now she is having multiples with me as well so it is all good. I was just curious about others. It sounds like new sexual energy is a real thing!

[Potentialstagvixen]

So we recently had our first experience after years of discussing and vetting potential playmates. On the surface it could not have went any better. She totally let go!
I was surprised at the # of times that she came. She had one orgasm after another. It started with oral and then Continued in the 3 major positions (doggie, on top, and missionary). She described it as having one little orgasm after another. Since then she repeatedly cums from penetration as well so what could be wrong? Nothing is wrong per se, other than I’m a little perplexed as to why sex is so much better now. There is a little hit to my pride that I wasn’t the one to get her to this spot but very thankful that the sex is so good now!
Im wondering if this was just a result of finally letting go. When we have sex now her orgasms are longer and she has incredible endurance. Before she would have explosive orgasms and then she would be too sensitive or just tired but now she likes to continue to fuck. Before she wanted me to cum right after she came but now she wants me to hold out and fuck her hard! Not always easy when you have 30 plus years of being worried about hurting her.
Im not complaining but it’s been kind of rough at times to accept that in someways ot took someone else or a different encounter for her to learn how to enjoy extended sex and vaginal orgasms. Is this a normal occurrence?
I know we are very lucky to have our first time turn out this way and make sure everyone understands I’m not complaining just curious as to why it took this to get us to this wonderful place!

I don't know about all women, but for me a lot of sex is mental. I mean the physical stuff is important as well, but if my head isn't in it, the experience won't be as great.

Sex with my husband is phenomenal. We have very open communication and are willing to experiment with a lot of things. Sex with other people adds a new mental element that elevates things. It isn't better, and I don't like sex with other guys more, but the naughtiness, newness, wantonness, etc does add something different.

I wonder if that is playing a factor in your situation. Whatever it is, I'd embrace it. Sounds like the two of you are having a lot of fun.

Thank you! Like I said before, it’s a little unnerving to see your wife, that has always been orgasmic, become even more so with someone else. It does sound like it’s part of this lifestyle. I love your comment that “it isn’t better and that you don’t like it more , but the newness or the naughtiness adds something different.”

I’m not sure if we will continue on this path as our sex kite has literally exploded or if would revert back to the complacent path we were on. I haven’t closed the door and for now it’s definitely wide open.

Here is another concern, with the first experience being so incredible, what is the likelihood that we can have another experience as good or even better if that’s possible? Do your experiences get better and better?

[Farmgirl]

So we recently had our first experience after years of discussing and vetting potential playmates. On the surface it could not have went any better. She totally let go!
I was surprised at the # of times that she came. She had one orgasm after another. It started with oral and then Continued in the 3 major positions (doggie, on top, and missionary). She described it as having one little orgasm after another. Since then she repeatedly cums from penetration as well so what could be wrong? Nothing is wrong per se, other than I’m a little perplexed as to why sex is so much better now. There is a little hit to my pride that I wasn’t the one to get her to this spot but very thankful that the sex is so good now!
Im wondering if this was just a result of finally letting go. When we have sex now her orgasms are longer and she has incredible endurance. Before she would have explosive orgasms and then she would be too sensitive or just tired but now she likes to continue to fuck. Before she wanted me to cum right after she came but now she wants me to hold out and fuck her hard! Not always easy when you have 30 plus years of being worried about hurting her.
Im not complaining but it’s been kind of rough at times to accept that in someways ot took someone else or a different encounter for her to learn how to enjoy extended sex and vaginal orgasms. Is this a normal occurrence?
I know we are very lucky to have our first time turn out this way and make sure everyone understands I’m not complaining just curious as to why it took this to get us to this wonderful place!

What you and your wife are experiencing is very normal. There can be an element of NRE, and probably is. That itself is fun for both if you recognize it and know how to manage it. But, just as much is the excitement of being naughty, wanton, slutty, and all of the other sexual feelings that come from being with a man that isn't your husband, all the while knowing you are also giving your husband the wife he wants and even needs.
I love being myself and enjoying other men as I want, but the best part for me is when I watch my husband's face and listen to his breathing as I tell him what I've done.
Other men bring excitement to sex that isn't there for married sex. It doesn't make them better at sex than my Number1, far from it. I may have awesome orgasms with them but, the orgasm I have with my Number1 after being with a lover is beyond awesome!
Don't try to judge yourself against them, we wives don't. We know who our number 1 is and it's our husband! Without our husbands, we wouldn't be Hotwives, and the lover would just be another common guy.

[Potentialstagvixen]

So we recently had our first experience after years of discussing and vetting potential playmates. On the surface it could not have went any better. She totally let go!
I was surprised at the # of times that she came. She had one orgasm after another. It started with oral and then Continued in the 3 major positions (doggie, on top, and missionary). She described it as having one little orgasm after another. Since then she repeatedly cums from penetration as well so what could be wrong? Nothing is wrong per se, other than I’m a little perplexed as to why sex is so much better now. There is a little hit to my pride that I wasn’t the one to get her to this spot but very thankful that the sex is so good now!
Im wondering if this was just a result of finally letting go. When we have sex now her orgasms are longer and she has incredible endurance. Before she would have explosive orgasms and then she would be too sensitive or just tired but now she likes to continue to fuck. Before she wanted me to cum right after she came but now she wants me to hold out and fuck her hard! Not always easy when you have 30 plus years of being worried about hurting her.
Im not complaining but it’s been kind of rough at times to accept that in someways ot took someone else or a different encounter for her to learn how to enjoy extended sex and vaginal orgasms. Is this a normal occurrence?
I know we are very lucky to have our first time turn out this way and make sure everyone understands I’m not complaining just curious as to why it took this to get us to this wonderful place!

What you and your wife are experiencing is very normal. There can be an element of NRE, and probably is. That itself is fun for both if you recognize it and know how to manage it. But, just as much is the excitement of being naughty, wanton, slutty, and all of the other sexual feelings that come from being with a man that isn't your husband, all the while knowing you are also giving your husband the wife he wants and even needs.
I love being myself and enjoying other men as I want, but the best part for me is when I watch my husband's face and listen to his breathing as I tell him what I've done.
Other men bring excitement to sex that isn't there for married sex. It doesn't make them better at sex than my Number1, far from it. I may have awesome orgasms with them but, the orgasm I have with my Number1 after being with a lover is beyond awesome!
Don't try to judge yourself against them, we wives don't. We know who our number 1 is and it's our husband! Without our husbands, we wouldn't be Hotwives, and the lover would just be another common guy.

Thank you for your response. It is comforting to know how you feel and not just that you love your husband but that he also still turns you on.

Do you find that the encounters become better and better?

[Farmgirl]

Thank you for your response. It is comforting to know how you feel and not just that you love your husband but that he also still turns you on.

Do you find that the encounters become better and better?

I don't have bad encounters, mine are with known men, so yes, you could say they get better and better. I've never looked back on one with another guy, or with my Number1, and said 'I wish I could have that again.'. I look forward to each new experience and the fun it brings!

[farmerJ]

Okay wives, The oldest question know to man, What is better and more important to you, Length or girth, and long lasting or fast recovery!

[2inUPMichigan]

Okay wives, The oldest question know to man, What is better and more important to you, Length or girth, and long lasting or fast recovery!

I think I would classify that as one of the most asked questions by men

What is most important to me is that the man I am meeting knows how to treat a woman. He is confident and knows how to best work with what he's got
I never ask "size" questions nor do I ask for pictures before meeting in person. I don't ask if they can last a long time or if they have a fast recovery time. The one thing I always do however stress is that I am not a one and done kind of woman so I am looking for the same.

[Lookingforadventure]

Okay wives, The oldest question know to man, What is better and more important to you, Length or girth, and long lasting or fast recovery!

I agree with 2intheUP. For me, I really don't care about penis length, girth or performance....I care a little, but it is pretty far down the list. Higher on the list are:

1. Do they listen to me and follow my body's reactions? A good lover hears my words and respects what I say, and they also notice when my body responds to what they are doing.

2. Do they have a playful and fun approach to sex? Sex with someone new is not going to be perfect. Shoot, sex with someone you've been married to for 20 years may not go perfectly. Sex is messy. Bodies may or may not contort into the position you had in mind. A guy who can laugh with me and figure out a plan b is a good lover.

3. Can they work with what they have? A penis is a very fine thing. I also like lips, tongues, fingers, hands, and sometimes toys. If a lover knows how to use all the tools at his disposal, the sex can be amazing.

4. Do they make me feel sexy and wanted? It seems obvious, but you'd be surprised how often this one lacks with guys in the lifestyle. I don't want to be someone's perfunctory lay. I want them to want me...I want them to look at me with desire, tell me how turned on they are, explain what they want to do to me.

5. Do they show they are having a good time? This is the flip side to point 4. I want a guy to find pleasure in the experience -- an erection and orgasm are great indications. Lol. But so are moans of pleasure, statements about how it feels, follow up about wanting to do it again.

[Liese]

Okay wives, The oldest question know to man, What is better and more important to you, Length or girth, and long lasting or fast recovery!

I concur with my fellow VHWs replies on this one. The question itself really emphasizes how very different the typical male perspective is from the typical female's perspective on what's really important sexually.

[pennguy]

Hi. First time poster. Wife hasn’t played. Is aware of my watching/sharing fantasy. Dresses proactively. And we have played bar flirt game. She chatted some online but stopped. In general is hot and cold on the whole idea. Married 22 years. Doesn’t want go jeopardize anything we have. We do watch mfm and Hotwife porn during sex. She jokes that she knows I want her to fuck, and then says I don’t do what I don’t want to. Anyway about three weeks ago we are having sex. She is riding me. And she says fill me and make me dirty. Then I want you to lick me and clean me. It was a total surprise. Not something we had ever discussed or talked about. I didn’t do it. But did ask her later if she really wanted that and she said if I didn’t. I wouldn’t have asked. Is this a common fantasy among women?

[Liese]

Is this a common fantasy among women?

It's certainly not a rare desire. I enjoy getting oral after having intercourse. I know other women who enjoy that also.

Why didn't you want to do what she requested? What were your reasons for declining? No one is required to do anything they don't want to, but if you're looking to expand your sexual range with your wife, it's good to be up for trying new things that aren't too far out there. Especially if she raised the idea.

[long4her]

My wife and I have only ever been with each other sexually, so this question might seem naive, but here goes.

Can ( do ) women orgasm from PIV? My wife orgasms often and enthusiastically from receiving oral but I’ve never gotten her to cum from intercourse. Is it a matter of size, duration or simple passion ? I’d love her to cum from intercourse and I think that’s what drives me to have her experience other men - if she’s comfortable and happy of course.

[Farmgirl]

Hi. First time poster. Wife hasn’t played. Is aware of my watching/sharing fantasy. Dresses proactively. And we have played bar flirt game. She chatted some online but stopped. In general is hot and cold on the whole idea. Married 22 years. Doesn’t want go jeopardize anything we have. We do watch mfm and Hotwife porn during sex. She jokes that she knows I want her to fuck, and then says I don’t do what I don’t want to. Anyway about three weeks ago we are having sex. She is riding me. And she says fill me and make me dirty. Then I want you to lick me and clean me. It was a total surprise. Not something we had ever discussed or talked about. I didn’t do it. But did ask her later if she really wanted that and she said if I didn’t. I wouldn’t have asked. Is this a common fantasy among women?

You say you want a Hotwife. When one wants something, it is better to pee with the wind and not against it.

[Farmgirl]

My wife and I have only ever been with each other sexually, so this question might seem naive, but here goes.

Can ( do ) women orgasm from PIV? My wife orgasms often and enthusiastically from receiving oral but I’ve never gotten her to cum from intercourse. Is it a matter of size, duration or simple passion ? I’d love her to cum from intercourse and I think that’s what drives me to have her experience other men - if she’s comfortable and happy of course.

Some women can orgasm strictly from PIV, some don't. The easiest thing is for her to play with her clit while you fuck her, then she can orgasm while being fucked. And, most men find a woman doing that highly arousing!
For sex to be great, you have to explore and experiment; trying all there is like a buffet.
Of the things you mentioned, passion is the only one that really matters. Size and duration don't matter without enthusiasm/passion.

[pennguy]

Well I guess I was surprised by the request snd had thought it was gross. But yes If she really wants it, I am coming to terms with it. And will most likely ‘clean’ her as she has asked when I make a “mess”. I just didn’t know where the strange to me at least request was coming from. And if she ever does fuck another guy. It’s not something I want relegated too.

[Liese]

if she ever does fuck another guy. It’s not something I want relegated too.

My hub is not inclined towards that either, and that's fine with me. We've discovered that others guys do get off on giving me oral after hub cums in me, so that's what I enjoy.

Just keep in mind that one person's "gross" activity is quite often another person's "hot and sexy as HELL" interest.

[Mario Kempes]

Hi.

As a male who fantasises about being Cuckoled, I am looking for the thoughts and opinions of Hotwives and Vixens. My wife is not keen on the idea of the lifestyle at all so I am curious as what attracts you and what, specifically, made you want to indulge in Hotwifing.

I appreciate that not everyone’s experience of, and relationship to the lifestyle will be the same, so I'd be very interested to know what you love particularly about the encounters with other men, as opposed to your husband or boyfriend? Feel free to be as graphic as you like with these but I’d be equally as interested in the emotional element…how it feels as much as the physical sensations.

Thank you

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Mario Kempes.

[marriedman50]

Question for hotwives that play alone: Do you enjoy telling your husband about your encounters? Do you like to tell him details about the guy and the sex, or do you do it mostly because he asks? Are you totally truthful about your meets or do you gloss over details for fear that he would feel inadequate or jealous? (Not a HW husband yet, though hoping to become one eventually, but I've gone from being certain I would want to be present and watch her to thinking it might be more exciting to hear her recount her experiences and what she did with the guy. However, I would want her to be totally open and honest about what she did and not hold back, not out of jealousy but precisely the opposite, that it would be such a turn on to hear her talk about her lust with and for another guy.)