Something really strange

[lovethis]

Your title is fitting of your current situation. I would definitely let her know that you are keen to go to the corporate event in Dec. And Guage her reaction. Seem frivolous of an excuse just because of an all male team. It's not like anything is going to happen there especially if the men are bringing their wives. I am sure you can strike up a decent conversation with them. I'd be more curious to know what she has said about you that may cause her embarrassment.

[Gulfcpl]

In December the whole company gathers for a corporate party. Julia started the conversation about this suddenly and added that this year you can come to the corporate event with your spouses. She said that she was obliged to invite me, but she believed that I would be uncomfortable there for several reasons: 1 They have an all-male team, which means they will come with their wives and I will be there alone. 2 She is afraid that someone might remember her conversations with her colleagues about me, and what she said in them might offend me if I hear about it, because all the men there will be drunk, and they, even the sober ones, are very unrestrained in communication. That is, my wife seems to be inviting me to go there, but at the same time she’s discouraging me from going there. And I wonder what it was that she discussed about me that was so special that I would rather not hear about. In general, I’m still thinking about what to answer, whether to go or not.

You two have a lot to work on. Your communication with each other is poor at best. You two seem to talk in code. Neither seem to really know what the other is saying. This is all really simple. She has, or is at least is thinking about, fooling around. Especially concerning is the fact that she’s afraid you might hear something negative from a colleague that she’s said about you. In 42 years, I’ve never spoken negatively about my wife to my coworkers. If she’s speaking bad about you to coworkers, she should be ashamed but apparently isn’t.

The people in this forum are not the ones you should be talking to. It’s your wife with whom you should be having this conversation and if you can’t, you have serious problems.

[gesdell]

You might want to go just to see up close what might be going on, since you were invited. Bring your sense of humor and the extra thick skin with you.

[whosbeensleeping]

Everyone's got their own opinion and this is mine: Whatever's going on this seems like an opportunity to get closer to your wife that you don't want to miss. You can let her know that you've witnessed that something is on her mind and ask her in a gentle and loving way what's troubling her. She'll tell you as much as or as little as she's comfortable with. The important thing is that you care enough to ask, and she needs to know that. Your wife may be wired for secrecy, but even those who fear intimacy still need it.

[Gearup]

go. You deserve to see her in that habitat