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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Topnotch » Wed Oct 11, 2023 11:36 am

Those older guys are the ones you have to watch out for. Horny old rascals they are, and experienced too, I might add. The one with the video was probably just wanting to see if she would try and do it. Just my guess. But it is hot

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by SilverStag » Wed Oct 11, 2023 2:07 pm

Ask her to show you how she did it. When she does, that can open the door to ask her what the others thought of her abilities, and if they have those "show and tell" moments often. (Sounds like a great place to work!! lol).

You can use this incident as a way of opening the door to talk about her sexuality ("Did you think that the guys got turned on?, How can those tight jeans stretch so much?, etc).

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by unclecuck » Thu Oct 12, 2023 12:29 pm

I'm sure everyone has an opinion about this.
as in older creepy experienced men, I also have an opinion. but I don't think you want to hear it.


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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by SilverStag » Thu Oct 12, 2023 12:48 pm

It sounds to me like you two need to have a heart-to-heart talk about these things. They seem to be piling up and she is surprising you with information that doesn't meet with your expectations. Involve a professional if you need to. I suspect there are deeper issues (including that her mother scolds her because YOU didn't do as she asked...).

I know that this advice runs contrary to why most of us are here (encouraging our wives to play with others -or being that "other"), but all ENM variants require a solid basis of communication between the partners. You seem to be left guessing. If I am mistaken, then by all means continue, but I really think you are on a course for trouble. If you desire to be a Cuck, then perhaps you need to write in that specific section of the forum to avoid confusion.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by 2inUPMichigan » Thu Oct 12, 2023 1:14 pm

I never make promises to anyone for my husband, if someone wants him to do something I tell them to go ask him. If someone is questioning me about something he promised to do that is between them, not me, so I insist they discuss it between the two of them and leave me out of it.

Communication means clear direct lines of communication, not using the old string and cup method (for those who remember it).

If she says something you don't know how to interpret the only way you will ever understand is to ask her.

My advice is to slow down and listen to how and when the two of you are talking about conflicts
● Request that she refer any questions her mother has to you so that she is not caught in the middle.
● Ask her to please let her mother know to ask you directly if she needs your help so you can make sure you can set aside the time to help her.

These conflicts can easily be removed by changing how they are dealt with.
Letting this fester never solved anything!
If you want this the two of you first need to establish open and honest clear communication. Good luck!

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by unclecuck » Fri Oct 13, 2023 10:23 am

McRex.
Have you considered that it could be possible that she is acting the way she does recently, is due to giving you hints?
Ever thought that maybe she did something more at work? Or maybe she is already in contact with her EX, and now she is giving you hints to see your reaction?

regardless, like others had said here, Communications and honesty is the number one rule.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by FNQLivin » Fri Oct 13, 2023 10:30 am

But she’s been with other men whilst you’ve been married before?

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Pufferfish » Fri Oct 13, 2023 10:34 am

It's clear that you believe she has something on her mind that she's keeping from you. It appears to me she is "giving hints" about it, whether she wants to talk to you or just wants to make herself process stuff I don't know. But I'd say some difficult communication is definitely needed. You know your wife better than any of us online people can possibly know, but it does seem to be some turbulent waters at the time being.
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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Gulfcpl » Sun Oct 15, 2023 7:44 am

It’s a pity that so many couples have communication issues. I’ve never understood how two people living in the same home cannot trust each other to open all their thoughts. Studies have shown that most marriages fail because of finances or sex. Communication is lacking for both of these causes because they aren’t discussed. You mentioned that your wife has said that you need to accept her the way she is. It sounds like she has no desire to improve upon her communication. It also sounds like her mother is a root cause for this. As hard as it is, parents need to butt out unless asked for advice.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by AZPainter » Mon Nov 06, 2023 7:07 am

I'm late to this thread and I read all the comments, but I have a question no one seemed to comment or ask. I understand how she did this feat from your description and she did it at home doing stretching exercises. Was she wearing those tight jeans at home when she did this? It seems to me if she was wearing those tight jeans at work it would be extremely difficult if not impossible to do this while wearing them. I don't mean any disrespect but this hit me the moment you told us what she was wearing at work that day. Just my curiosity.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Island » Thu Nov 09, 2023 9:31 am

She is definitely considering something, I personally think you should give her the space to consider and think about, don’t fall in the trap of pushing her, unless she asks for input … good luck!

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by lovethis » Tue Nov 21, 2023 3:30 am

Your title is fitting of your current situation. I would definitely let her know that you are keen to go to the corporate event in Dec. And Guage her reaction. Seem frivolous of an excuse just because of an all male team. It's not like anything is going to happen there especially if the men are bringing their wives. I am sure you can strike up a decent conversation with them. I'd be more curious to know what she has said about you that may cause her embarrassment.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Gulfcpl » Tue Nov 21, 2023 3:43 am

McRex wrote:
Tue Nov 21, 2023 12:21 am
In December the whole company gathers for a corporate party. Julia started the conversation about this suddenly and added that this year you can come to the corporate event with your spouses. She said that she was obliged to invite me, but she believed that I would be uncomfortable there for several reasons: 1 They have an all-male team, which means they will come with their wives and I will be there alone. 2 She is afraid that someone might remember her conversations with her colleagues about me, and what she said in them might offend me if I hear about it, because all the men there will be drunk, and they, even the sober ones, are very unrestrained in communication. That is, my wife seems to be inviting me to go there, but at the same time she’s discouraging me from going there. And I wonder what it was that she discussed about me that was so special that I would rather not hear about. In general, I’m still thinking about what to answer, whether to go or not.
You two have a lot to work on. Your communication with each other is poor at best. You two seem to talk in code. Neither seem to really know what the other is saying. This is all really simple. She has, or is at least is thinking about, fooling around. Especially concerning is the fact that she’s afraid you might hear something negative from a colleague that she’s said about you. In 42 years, I’ve never spoken negatively about my wife to my coworkers. If she’s speaking bad about you to coworkers, she should be ashamed but apparently isn’t.

The people in this forum are not the ones you should be talking to. It’s your wife with whom you should be having this conversation and if you can’t, you have serious problems.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by gesdell » Tue Nov 21, 2023 4:36 am

You might want to go just to see up close what might be going on, since you were invited. Bring your sense of humor and the extra thick skin with you.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by whosbeensleeping » Tue Nov 21, 2023 5:11 am

Everyone's got their own opinion and this is mine: Whatever's going on this seems like an opportunity to get closer to your wife that you don't want to miss. You can let her know that you've witnessed that something is on her mind and ask her in a gentle and loving way what's troubling her. She'll tell you as much as or as little as she's comfortable with. The important thing is that you care enough to ask, and she needs to know that. Your wife may be wired for secrecy, but even those who fear intimacy still need it.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Gearup » Wed Nov 22, 2023 2:40 pm

go. You deserve to see her in that habitat

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by superb101 » Wed Jan 03, 2024 8:27 am

This is strange behavior on ANYONES part! You really need to sit down with her and find out what is going on and open up some sort of line of communication! My best guess is that she is "communicating" with someone else on her phone after you leave the room. Its some sort of fantasy someone has discussed with her to act out with her. Your sex with her is just foreplay. Perhaps you should refuse to do it again until she opens up as to she is doing.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by AZPainter » Fri Jan 05, 2024 12:30 pm

I agree with Superb 101. You two really need to have a talk and find a way to open up a better line of communication. Everything about this is very odd and would be for any person or couple. Something is definitely happening in her life and it is being kept from you. That is just my opinion, but is based on a similar, in ways to a situation with my past wife before she told me what was going on with her. She was seeing other men and it was happening through her work. We had an out of the bedroom serious conversation. These type conversations are not easy for either at first, but absolutely necessary. Honesty and open, communication is an absolute with any couple, straight, swingers, hot wives, and cuckolds. Stay calm as possible when you have it no matter what she tells you. Think over what ever she tells you also be making any kind of decision. Good luck and let us know what happens.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by superb101 » Sun Jan 07, 2024 2:30 am

Just my opinion but she isnt coming completely clean. There is awhole lot more to her behavior. keep talking and listening OUTSIDE the bedroom

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by mrglad2cu2 » Sun Jan 07, 2024 5:08 am

My only thought is that she is normal if she is a Pisces.

Pisces always hide the truth even out of habit, even if the truth doesn't matter. Obviously not a 12th of the female population is the same, but if she is a full on Pisces it could explain it, otherwise I've got nothing I can add. If you are an air sign, then you are not at all compatible. so I would understand the difficulty with communication.

Either way. good luck going forward. It seems it could be a challenge, or it could be fun.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by mrglad2cu2 » Sun Jan 07, 2024 10:37 pm

Astrology was the first science but not an exact science. Star Signs are just an indication of what personality to expect. I wasn't interested either until I got divorced because we were incompatible. Her Cancer and me Libra. With hindsight marriage might have lasted if I knew why she was thinking the way she was.

BTW what is your Star Sign because that could explain your difficulties with communication.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Tire_Kicker » Tue Jan 09, 2024 8:08 am

McRex wrote:
Tue Jan 09, 2024 6:25 am
This is the first marriage for her and for me too. I am Aquarius.
What was sex like before this started? In particular, affection level and intimacy.

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Tire_Kicker » Tue Jan 09, 2024 9:14 am

Is she willing to share her fantasy?

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Tire_Kicker » Wed Jan 10, 2024 6:18 am

McRex wrote:
Wed Jan 10, 2024 12:19 am
Tire_Kicker wrote:
Tue Jan 09, 2024 9:14 am
Is she willing to share her fantasy?
She said she didn't want me to know about the details of her fantasies because it was very personal. She will be more comfortable if I don’t ask her about it.
Got it, Ok Rex, before we go any further I've got to ask you where you are on all this? Honestly, how did you feel as you pumped her pussy full while she looked at/texted with the actual object of desire.

I feel like I might be stating the obvious here but I guess what I'm asking is, is this fulfilling a need for you? Or is it breaking your heart?

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Re: Something really strange

Unread post by Jasperidge » Thu Jan 11, 2024 9:47 am

Maybe she is not a Pisces but is a Starfish?
I liked it when Jane would give me explicit instructions about a particular way she wanted sex. She wasn’t fucking to make me happy, she was in it for her own joy.
I’d say roll with it and see what happens.
Oh, and congratulations on still having a vibrant sex life.

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