Older Couple Hoping to Share Again...

[glassfull]

The date is set for early next week, my wife and #1 prospect are going to meet in the morning for coffee, then go for a walk. I have no idea what, if anything, might happen on the walk, but I doubt it will be anything very heavy.

She's meeting him at 10am, I don't know whether she'll be home at noon, or sometime later in the afternoon. I guess that's part of the fun. And she might come home and say he's a really nice guy, but I'm not attracted enough to have sex with him. How much of an attraction does she need? I don't know that either, she's not looking for a new husband, at least I hope not.

On our little mini vacation I spent time looking at her body after she showered, something I hadn't done much of the last few years prior to starting this quest. She still looks very sexy and fine to me. I couldn't help fantasizing about a new man doing the same thing, maybe showering with my wife, seeing her naked, feeling her naked, taking her sexually. It made me feel so horny and good....so much in love with her.

That's an update for now, I'm hoping for some interesting developments to report next week....

[shadowtantra]

Hi Glassful, Thanks for sharing the update. It's great that you are fantasizing about herewith another man and seeing her in a new sexy way and finding it hot and most importantly that you are so much in love with her!

[Oilem]

It’s very stimulating to see another male get excited over your wife-it just confirms your thoughts and feelings about her.

[glassfull]

I've always thought a man sharing his beloved wife could be somewhat compared to a man who has just acquired a brand new shiny sports car.

Most men (almost all) are pleased if other men admire his car from afar.

Some men will let other men sit in it, but won't give them the key.

Fewer men will let other men drive it, as long as they are in the passenger seat.

But to my way of thinking, the ultimate in pride and trust is a man who lets other men drive it by themselves....

[alan137]

I was in the kitchen cleaning up my mess prior to my wife's return from her trip when I suddenly thought, what if my wife and her new friend had a friendship relationship without sex? Could I handle that? How would I feel about it? Would I worry that someday they might have sex and not tell me about it? Yeah, I probably would...am I crazy?

If you're that makes two of us. When we started out I wanted to know about it and be there but my wife wasn't comfortable with that. So I thought about it and told her... You are free to have sex with whomever, wherever and whenever you want. I do not to know about but please don't hide the evidence what ever it is.

I understood that my primary desire was for her to have fun. I must say this adhered to my excitement and my wife was comfortable. It worked for us.

As for emotional attachment I encouraged that too. I became close friends with two of her boyfriends.

[glassfull]

We have a lot of similarities, but some differences, alan137. I don't have to be with them, though I might want to, but I definitely want to hear what my wife and her boyfriend(s) do together. As to how much detail she'll tell me, that remains to be seen. I'll always know when she's on a 'date' with whom and where. My primary motivation is to feel a stronger attachment to my beautiful wife and improve our sex life together. I also would like to have at the very least a casual friendship with any man she sleeps with.

I'm thrilled to report she's just left for a 2nd date with the one man of those (3) she's met she seems to really like. Because of various circumstances it's been almost a month between dates. Today was supposed to be coffee and a trail walk, but it's probably gonna rain all day here, so I'm thinking it's possible he might invite her to his condo which is fairly close to where they are meeting. It's an exciting thought thinking if he asks, she might accept, but he might not even ask. Time will tell and I must admit it is causing some anxious anticipation on my part, but I'm really not expecting anything spectacular to happen. If she comes home happy and still wanting to get to know him better, I'll be very pleased.

To be continued....

[glassfull]

Wife is home from 2nd date, the weather here is terrible and no walking and no invite to his condo. (as far as I know). But the good news is, she seemed happy, she likes him, he's good looking, easy to talk to and not pushy. They just had coffee and a light breakfast, talked about ordinary things and she drove home. They are going to arrange another meeting next week.

I said to her, it looks like you're gonna have your first 'affair' in a long time. She smiled at me and didn't say no....

[Aussiem]

We are also 70. Married 50 years. We both played with select friends in the past. Like.you I want my wife to do it again. She has said no, but occasionally hints it might be possible. Love your story so far. My wife is only interested in gentlemen who treat her with respect and are fun to flirt with. In the past I loved the "chase" .when men would flirt ,joke and slowly get her to respond.
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[glassfull]

It's been quite a while and progress is slow. My wife has now been on 6 dates with our #1 (and only at this time) prospect. He and I have met and communicate regularly by email. He likes her and she likes him.

The last two dates there have been some heavy kisses in her car. She's enjoyed it and I of course have told her I'm proud of her and want her to experience more than kisses. She told me after her date yesterday she still has this feeling a happily married woman shouldn't be doing this, her friends if they knew, would be shocked and horrified. I told her her friends wouldn't ever suspect and it was our life, our marriage and none of anyone else's business.

During yesterday's date he asked her about coming to his apartment and she expressed her fears his long term partner might drop by. He assured her she never does. I don't want to push my wife to go to his apartment, but I believe him when he tells her there is no risk. She tells me she is starting to feel more and more comfortable with the situation and that if I'm patient it will happen.

I know to many of you this is very tame, but to me the anticipation and excitement is real. Just wanted to provide an update, wish us luck...

[Long Lurker 34]

It's been quite a while and progress is slow. My wife has now been on 6 dates with our #1 (and only at this time) prospect. He and I have met and communicate regularly by email. He likes her and she likes him.

The last two dates there have been some heavy kisses in her car. She's enjoyed it and I of course have told her I'm proud of her and want her to experience more than kisses. She told me after her date yesterday she still has this feeling a happily married woman shouldn't be doing this, her friends if they knew, would be shocked and horrified. I told her her friends wouldn't ever suspect and it was our life, our marriage and none of anyone else's business.

During yesterday's date he asked her about coming to his apartment and she expressed her fears his long term partner might drop by. He assured her she never does. I don't want to push my wife to go to his apartment, but I believe him when he tells her there is no risk. She tells me she is starting to feel more and more comfortable with the situation and that if I'm patient it will happen.

I know to many of you this is very tame, but to me the anticipation and excitement is real. Just wanted to provide an update, wish us luck...

GF - True enough all round.
- But!!!! Equally you and her have absolutely no idea what her friends get up too either between the sheets or otherwise, so it cuts both ways. So her friends, should they find out, might go "Pretty tame stuff". You just never kknow.

[bowlerlb]

It's been quite a while and progress is slow. My wife has now been on 6 dates with our #1 (and only at this time) prospect. He and I have met and communicate regularly by email. He likes her and she likes him.

The last two dates there have been some heavy kisses in her car. She's enjoyed it and I of course have told her I'm proud of her and want her to experience more than kisses. She told me after her date yesterday she still has this feeling a happily married woman shouldn't be doing this, her friends if they knew, would be shocked and horrified. I told her her friends wouldn't ever suspect and it was our life, our marriage and none of anyone else's business.

During yesterday's date he asked her about coming to his apartment and she expressed her fears his long term partner might drop by. He assured her she never does. I don't want to push my wife to go to his apartment, but I believe him when he tells her there is no risk. She tells me she is starting to feel more and more comfortable with the situation and that if I'm patient it will happen.

I know to many of you this is very tame, but to me the anticipation and excitement is real. Just wanted to provide an update, wish us luck...

A lot of wives will have fears about going to another apartment. She would probably be a lot more relaxed if he was to come home with her, especially as he has met you. Her first coupling with him would be best in her/your bed. I fucked a wife for 17 and a half years and about 3 times a week. Most were in her bed. Sometimes hubby was home and sometimes watching and sometimes involved as she loved oral and loved being cleaned up. We always fucked bareback.

[glassfull]

Long Lurker, right on! I told her exactly the same thing. She has no idea what her friends might be doing that she least suspects, just as they wouldn't ever suspect her of having a lover. My wife is fairly naive about any sexual practice that is the least bit unconventional. Sometimes I think she thinks I'm the only man with a strong desire for his wife to sleep with other men. She doesn't and won't read sites like this or 'hotwife' (she hates the term) stories.

Wow bowler, you had a good thing going! I'm not sure my wife would bring him home at least not at first. She'd be more likely, I think, going to his apartment. There is absolutely no trust issue, just her fear of possible discovery. I'm having lunch with him next week while my wife is away on family business. We'll discuss some possibilities I'm sure, though I'm more comfortable with the subject than he is. He accepts the fact I know the situation, but not sure he's totally comfy with my knowing most of the details or making sexual suggestions.

[Long Lurker 34]

Long Lurker, right on! I told her exactly the same thing. She has no idea what her friends might be doing that she least suspects, just as they wouldn't ever suspect her of having a lover. My wife is fairly naive about any sexual practice that is the least bit unconventional. Sometimes I think she thinks I'm the only man with a strong desire for his wife to sleep with other men. She doesn't and won't read sites like this or 'hotwife' (she hates the term) stories.

Wow bowler, you had a good thing going! I'm not sure my wife would bring him home at least not at first. She'd be more likely, I think, going to his apartment. There is absolutely no trust issue, just her fear of possible discovery. I'm having lunch with him next week while my wife is away on family business. We'll discuss some possibilities I'm sure, though I'm more comfortable with the subject than he is. He accepts the fact I know the situation, but not sure he's totally comfy with my knowing most of the details or making sexual suggestions.

GF - Tell her that if by chance someone happens in some manor to confront her or bring it up with her personally, to be up front about it, don't deny it at all and just say you are fine with it and she is "Living her best life". Basically confront it head on and take the wind out of their sails.

[glassfull]

Good suggestion Lurker. I keep telling her if somebody sees her out with him, so what? My first wife went out with other men with my encouragement and approval. More than once I had friends tell me they had seen my wife having lunch or dinner with another man. I'd simply say "I know" with no further explanation.

But my current wife's main concern with going to his apartment is that HIS long term partner might find out. My wife is very sensitive and the thought of damaging her friend's relationship would be embarrassing and upsetting to her.

[isinlarsa]

Any reason why they couldn't come to your house? If it would make him more comfortable, you could absent yourself while they were engaged in activities. He wouldn't have to worry about you showing up. And you could have the extra thrill of your wife getting fucked in your marital bed.

[Sally7]

Glassfull, I'ts great that you've had so much success with replies on AM. I wonder if you'd draft an advert for me??

[glassfull]

I don't mind them coming to our house isinlarsa and yes I'd have no problem if she got fucked in our marital bed. But I'm not sure my wife would go for it, at least at first. She's very concerned about what other people might think. Our neighbors, his neighbors, his partner. I tell her it's none of their business (the neighbors, at least) but she's a little squeamish that way...

[isinlarsa]

I don't mind them coming to our house isinlarsa and yes I'd have no problem if she got fucked in our marital bed. But I'm not sure my wife would go for it, at least at first. She's very concerned about what other people might think. Our neighbors, his neighbors, his partner. I tell her it's none of their business (the neighbors, at least) but she's a little squeamish that way...

Why would she still be concerned about his partner if they are at her house? Does she fear he might feel guilty and confess to his partner? Does she feel guilty about him fucking her when he has a partner?

Do you think your neighbors are noisy enough to care what is happening if she has a man over? If you're there they most likely would just think he was your friend, not your wife's lover.

[glassfull]

It's not what I think, it's what she thinks. It may happen one day....

[isinlarsa]

It's not what I think, it's what she thinks. It may happen one day....

Of course it's not what the husband thinks. It should be about the wife. But we can hope that one it it might happen.