Wannabees want to know: whats it like having a hotwife?

[Macster84]

Question for the guys. What was your sex life like before she decided she was interested in fucking other men and getting that NRE? Were you still getting BJ's regularly? Would she let you cum in her mouth? Would she let you bend her around like a pretzel in some crazy positions?
I bet it's when she actually wants that new cock in her that the candy store opens again.

It's like the old joke, "why was the bride smiling when she was walking down the aisle?"

Because she knew she had given her last blowjob.

Our sex life was good but occasional. Hotwifing ignited fires in both of us. Our sex was whatever we wanted it to be. It wasn't broken, just needed some excitement.

[Shiphead]

Mac84, I would think it also has something to do with age and possibly how long we have been in the current relationship or marriage. Thank you for the response.

[Shiphead]

I should have started this as a thread. Didn't mean to hijack this one.

[Macster84]

Mac84, I would think it also has something to do with age and possibly how long we have been in the current relationship or marriage. Thank you for the response.

Yes, we are celebrating 40 years together. I still chase her around the kitchen table

She still wakes up wanting sex. I have no complaints. Hotwifing was good for lots of reasons. She started to look after herself more. She dressed to be noticed, started wearing perfume and makeup. The fun part was she did this for herself and not because I asked. She liked that another man found her desirable. In fact she made the decision to get lasered as well. She told me if she was going to fuck other men she wanted to look nice for them.

So thoughtful of her.

[Shiphead]

M84,
First let me say "Right on". Sharing my boomer minute.
That is awesome that you still have a lot going on at home and use the LS as variety in your relationship.
You made an excellent point. We all feel better about ourselves when people outside our relationships find us attractive and/or hot and want to jump our bones. (I included myself in that statement even though it hasn't happened in a long time) We want to look our best again, some get in shape, we quit passing gas within earshot of each other, etc. We want to make ourselves put on a little NRE facade if possible. And finally to fuck them so good they can't wait to do it again and again. BTW, the more the merrier. Make a list and have them take a number.

[BT2]

We can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.

But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.

Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.

Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.

[Macster84]

We can answer in the positive to your points 1 and 4. It is everything it was cracked up to be, and we're glad we pursued it.

But that is now after years of experience. It wasn't 100% this way to start with, as you will find out if you and your wife decide to give it a try. And, as one poster put it, when the hotwife experience turns out bad, (and in some cases it does), those people no longer frequent this Forum and therefor you only get the good news on here.

Some of the early pitfalls are that with a fantasy, you control everybody's actions. In real hotwife life, you don't. What about kissing? Fucking good, kissing bad - go figure. Now kissing as an unproblematic part of recreational sex but with my wife and I it wasn't at the start. What about when your big head says your wife should insist on condoms, but in the heat of the moment she and her fb have him cum deep inside her, bareback, because in real life they both hate sex with condoms? What if she is a quiet lover with you, but sounds like the sound track on a porno flick with her lover? It is pretty hard at first watching (or hearing) your wife enjoying sex with another man. It is also difficult for a wife to go straight from monogamy to hotwife in one fell swoop - it may be frustrating to you if she doesn't, and equally frustrating to you if she does.

Those are a few of the early pitfalls you and your wife may go through. But after you do, and get some experience, and learn to thoroughly communicate with and trust each other, it is everything it is cracked up to be and you both will probably be glad you did it.

BT2

Everything you said resonates with us. Suze was fortunate as was I that the guy she hooked up with took excellent care of her. He asked her what she wanted and even how she wanted it. They had diner twice beforehand and both got to know one another. We consider ourselves fortunate in our choice and understand it doesn’t always go that way.

And you are correct about the actual watching. I was caught off guard by the passion but very quickly found it a huge turn on. I think having a sturdy marriage helps.

There are certainly a lot of people on here with a lot more experience than us. We enjoy reading about the experiences.

[dinoo]

There's also plenty of potential positives:

• You could get to watch your wife having sex with another man. For some men (me included) this is highly erotic and a real, true pleasure to witness.
  I liked to watch but perhaps more positive is that my wife loved me watching.
• You could get to have sex with your wife right after she's had sex with another man. This is an incredible feeling, and even more so if he's cum inside her before you.
  My experience too.
• Your wife can have the time of her life, getting to have sex with a variety of men.
  Yes, each man has his own benefits.
• Your wife can feel happier, more fulfilled, more complete, more wanted, more desired.
  That is how my wife reacted.
• Your sex life can be dramatically improved by the eroticism of it all.
  My experience too.
• You can potentially learn more about what makes your wife sexually tick. This can improve your own bedroom experiences together.
  Our experience.
• It can be a real enjoyment to watch your wife get ready for a solo date, knowing she's soon heading out the door to have sex with another man. The first time, it can be a bit terrifying (been there). After that, it can be a bit enthralling to help her get ready.
  Can only imagine. In our fantasy story it happened. My my loved this story.
• Your wife can get to experience the thrill of having sex with two men at once; DP (one vagina, one anal), DVP (both vagina), or spit roast (one vagina, one mouth). The latter is my wife's favorite.
  Being spit roasted by strangers was also her favorite.

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[Johnann2227]

Having a hotwife is intense. It is a lot of work. It takes a lot of sacrifice. It is an emotional roller coaster. Everytime your hotwife is on a date with another man you are worried about someone seeing them. You worry that a family member will see her holding hands with her boyfriend walking down the street. You worry that a family friend or neighbour will see them kissing in the street while waiting for an uber, your wife dressed like a slut.

You worry about your kids seeing their mother dressed like a slut heading out for a date. You worry about what excuse you can use to explain why mummy isn't home at breakfast or why she is late for their soccer game.

You can get exhausted having a hotwife. You have to take on most of the chores so that she has the time to preen, to go to the gym, to lay out and get that all over tan, to get those "day after fucking" massages.
You need to be her PA. Be the one to organise her hair, nail, winter spraytan, laser, massage appointments. You need to go and buy her new lingerie for each date. You need to, at times, drive her to and from her dates. Book restaurants and hotels (and at times pay) for some of their dates.
You need to make sure her purse always has 2 or 3 condoms in it before she goes out. You book her monthly doctor appointments for her blood tests to check for STDs. You stay up late in the night jerking off thinking about the fucking she is getting.

But it is also wonderful. Seeing the excitement your wife has as you help her prepare for her dates. Knowing you are doing everything to give her pleasure is so rewarding. Seeing your wife always at her best and glowing is amazing. Seeing her confidence and exuding sex appeal is such a turn on. Seeing other girls looking at her with lust gives you an instant hard on.
Being present when she is with her lover is a blessing. To see her passion, her sexual aggression makes you beam with pride. Hearing her demand to be fucked harder by her lover is fucking awesome The first time you hold her new lover's cock and feed into her hungry pussy is unforgettable. Feeling her push against it tells you that you are giving her what she needs.

If you are truly blessed you get to join them in a threesome. You get to watch him fuck her while she sucks your cock. You get to lay beneath her in a 69 and lick her pussy and his cock while he fucks her doggystyle. The view is heartstopping. Multiply that by 100 if it is a BBC stretching your hotwife's bald, pink pussy.
When her lover has finished fucking her you get to eat her creampie. Sometimes you get to suck his cock clean. You then get to fuck your wife.

When you go out you play, "Would you...?" where you check out other people and if you would fuck them. You know that sometimes your wife will.
Hotwifing is not for many people. Jealousy will drive you crazy. It can end your marriage. It can result in public humiliation. But for us it is everything.

[stonemtncouple]

Is having a hotwife everything its cracked up to be?
Fantasy can be bigger better than reality, depends how good your imagination is. Id say for most Hubbys who dream of a Hotwife no its not as big a deal as I imagined.
Is it something that is over rated / under rated?
Again, depends on your imagination. For me it was under rated but I had wild unrealistic expectations.
Is it something that was built up and turned out to be no big deal?
It was a and still is a BIG DEAL when she fucks another guy. We both love it! It just happens once in a while now.
Is it something you are happy that you persued?
Yes we both have benefited for countless reasons. I hope she can continue all though out her life to enjoy men.
Any regrets?
Only regret is that I didn’t marry my now hotwife in my 20’s and got stuck with prude for first marriage.
My current Hotwife is a dream come true! No regrets!

[DavaoMike]

My wife’s boyfriend, Adam, has lived with us for years. He’s almost like a second husband to Maricel, my wife, and basically a part of the family. I can barely remember a time when he wasn’t part of our lives. I do remember that due to the fact that I’m much older than my wife, my libido isn’t what it once was, so Maricel was a bit frustrated. Adam took up the slack, so now everyone is happy.

DM

[MarknSusan]

If you are both wired for it, having a hotwife is absolutely amazing. Expect the most exciting sex, wonderful experiences and more passion for each other than you can imagine!

You both become a team working together to explore new relationships and when my wife finally hones in on a guy she wants, it’s like a cougar catching her prey..LOL

[Cdncuck]

I am proud to be Lady M's cuck.

You Keep Using That Word, I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means

A cuck is a husband who is being cheated on. Cheated on, as in everyone knows but hubby.

Or he knows, and is keeping the peace at home at the expense of humiliation within the community.

If you are proud of it, you are not a cuck.

There's more than one way to skin a cat. There is more than one way to be a cuckold. You can make the rules for you but you have to accept other people can make their rules.