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Lookingforadventure
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Re: coaching
I am currently on a hot wife break and probably wouldn't make a great coach, but I didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Have you already had a conversation with your wife? If she's open to the lifestyle but just has questions, have her create a profile here and get verified. The ladies in the ladies lounge would be happy to answer questions and give advice...and it is private to just the verified ladies.
I also recommend that you both do a bit of research. Reading posts here can be a good start. There are some good podcasts and books. Getting started with a bit of guidance under your belt will probably lead to the best results.
If you haven't talked to your wife yet, then that is probably your first step. I'd talk to her when you aren't in the middle of sex, and try to frame it as honestly as possible. Answer her questions and let her know that you want her to think about it and ask whatever she needs to ask. Then maybe explore those books and podcasts together.
Good luck.
I also recommend that you both do a bit of research. Reading posts here can be a good start. There are some good podcasts and books. Getting started with a bit of guidance under your belt will probably lead to the best results.
If you haven't talked to your wife yet, then that is probably your first step. I'd talk to her when you aren't in the middle of sex, and try to frame it as honestly as possible. Answer her questions and let her know that you want her to think about it and ask whatever she needs to ask. Then maybe explore those books and podcasts together.
Good luck.
Re: coaching
Looking for adventure is right on the money. I would like to add this isn't something you can get a woman to do if she has no interest. Some women might do it a couple of times to please their husband or even out of curiosity. However, unless a woman has an interest in the lifestyle and a desire to participate, she won't play no matter how much you coach, nag or beg. This isn't for everyone
Re: coaching
Interesting post. I too agree with lookingforadventure. The first step is to talk with your wife. Stated alternatively, don't try to manipulate her nor arrange something without her knowledge.
I don't know about "coach". The only advice we ever got was "never wear pantyhose on a hotwife date", hardly coaching.
It would be pretty difficult for many wives to go straight from monogamy to being a hotwife. Many of the husbands on this site have wives who are hotwives, and many of our wives will have a different experience on how they became a hotwife. In our case we never really thought of her becoming a hotwife. We went for a bodyrub, and one thing led to another - the third visit she had intercourse.
So your wife may be game for a tantric massage. Be honest with her, tell her that her limits will be respected, and be sure to tell the masseur that this is your wife's first experience and her limits are to be respected. It may cost you a couple of hundred dollars, but it may be worth it. It has to be a "tantric" massage. No masseur in a legitimate massage establishment would risk losing his employment and license by fooling around with a client.
In any event, most people on this site will tell you that this experience requires honesty, and it is a shared experience - no cheating nor manipulation.
I don't know about "coach". The only advice we ever got was "never wear pantyhose on a hotwife date", hardly coaching.
It would be pretty difficult for many wives to go straight from monogamy to being a hotwife. Many of the husbands on this site have wives who are hotwives, and many of our wives will have a different experience on how they became a hotwife. In our case we never really thought of her becoming a hotwife. We went for a bodyrub, and one thing led to another - the third visit she had intercourse.
So your wife may be game for a tantric massage. Be honest with her, tell her that her limits will be respected, and be sure to tell the masseur that this is your wife's first experience and her limits are to be respected. It may cost you a couple of hundred dollars, but it may be worth it. It has to be a "tantric" massage. No masseur in a legitimate massage establishment would risk losing his employment and license by fooling around with a client.
In any event, most people on this site will tell you that this experience requires honesty, and it is a shared experience - no cheating nor manipulation.
Re: coaching
Agree. No plotting or scheming, play a long game, and try to bring her around to the idea with open communication. Just talk! But never push too hard.
It will only work well if she actually wants to do it. Your job is to be open about your kink and fantasies (who you are) and convince her about the fun possibilities. Help her to want to, but accept the possibility that it might take years, and/or she may never come around to the idea.
Yes, it's the "hard way". Being open and vulnerable feels risky. Take it step by step. I'm personally convinced there's no other path that has a joyful destination. But I'm happy to report that it's very much worth it.
P.S.> showing my wife this site really worked wonders; for her to see that this is a thing, that plenty of very happily married women enjoy it, etc
It will only work well if she actually wants to do it. Your job is to be open about your kink and fantasies (who you are) and convince her about the fun possibilities. Help her to want to, but accept the possibility that it might take years, and/or she may never come around to the idea.
Yes, it's the "hard way". Being open and vulnerable feels risky. Take it step by step. I'm personally convinced there's no other path that has a joyful destination. But I'm happy to report that it's very much worth it.
P.S.> showing my wife this site really worked wonders; for her to see that this is a thing, that plenty of very happily married women enjoy it, etc
Re: coaching
Thank you for the reply. So yes. I did talk to her initially as MFM threesome. She did some role play few days later, then nothing happened since then. My main issue which I am sensitive about, is that I don't want to be pushy and ask her to do something that she may not be interested in. However, I was hoping she will give me a hint one way or another if she had some interest.Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑Fri Nov 08, 2024 10:56 amI am currently on a hot wife break and probably wouldn't make a great coach, but I didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Have you already had a conversation with your wife? If she's open to the lifestyle but just has questions, have her create a profile here and get verified. The ladies in the ladies lounge would be happy to answer questions and give advice...and it is private to just the verified ladies.
I also recommend that you both do a bit of research. Reading posts here can be a good start. There are some good podcasts and books. Getting started with a bit of guidance under your belt will probably lead to the best results.
If you haven't talked to your wife yet, then that is probably your first step. I'd talk to her when you aren't in the middle of sex, and try to frame it as honestly as possible. Answer her questions and let her know that you want her to think about it and ask whatever she needs to ask. Then maybe explore those books and podcasts together.
Good luck.