Your first HW thought?

[Sharing One]

My wife and I were very young and we had a daughter of 2 years old. My wife got an evening shift job at the telephone company, so we needed a babysitter. The babysitter was married and lived a few blocks from our house. One day that babysitter told us she was having a party at her house and invited us to come. So we did, we did not know much about the party scene, but we went to learn more. We brought a bottle of boose. Next thing we knew people were dancing and with each other’s wife. I was getting a good buzz on and different guys kelp asking my wife to dance. So I got up and danced with a few of the wives. We got invited to a few more parties and we always had fun.

One night my wife was working her evening shift job and I just got into bed awaiting her return home from work, when the phone rang. It was a guy, I asked him his name and he said that he had a crush for my wife. I asked him his name again and he would not say. He said that I knew him and his wife and that his wife wanted to have sex with me. He said that he would like to fuck my wife while I watched. I was so shocked that anyone would be so bold to say that, I asked him again, but all he would say was that him and his wife could come over to our house and we could exchange wives. I told him that if he came to our house I would beat his ass and he hung up the phone. I was pissed.

After he hung up, I got to thinking about watching him with my wife and me having sex with his wife. It got me horny. So when my wife got home from work, we had sex and after I unloaded, I told her about the call I received with all of the details. She asked what I said to him and I told her that I threatened to kick his butt. She then proceeded to get out of bed to clean or drip out the come that I put in her, but as she was leaving, she said I was a stick in the mud. Which really shocked me. I thought she would have been upset by the call. Anyway, we dropped the subject and went ahead with our daily routines.

A couple of weeks later, I noticed a passion mark on her neck behind her hairline. I got her to confess as to where she got it. She said that after I told her about a guy calling and wanting to have sex with her, she decided to do some detective work on her on and found out who it was. She said it was one of the guys from our babysitter’s parties. She said she confronted him and he confessed, then one thing led to another and they started to having sex at different places.

I was so mad that I divorced her for infidelity. But years later I kelp thinking about the mistake I made. The more I thought about it the more I got aroused at the idea of watching her have sex with another and regretted my actions. But I was young and dumb. She went on and married another and so did I, and there was no way of going back.

However, that’s how the urge of hotwifing got in my head. How about what flipped the switch for you or your husband.

[Cdncuck]

I was so mad that I divorced her for infidelity. But years later I kelp thinking about the mistake I made. The more I thought about it the more I got aroused at the idea of watching her have sex with another and regretted my actions. But I was young and dumb. She went on and married another and so did I, and there was no way of going back.

However, that’s how the urge of hotwifing got in my head. How about what flipped the switch for you or your husband.

Wow! You certainly threw away a treasure there. However, we are all foolish when we're young.

In my case, pretty much as soon as girls became attractive to me, I was drawn to the slutty, bitchy types. That would be about grade 7. It's highly unlikely the girls at that time were really sluts. Young teenage boys have vivid imaginations.

That was it. Slutty women have always attracted me. I was socially awkward. Dating didn't start for me until the last two years of high school. However, at 16 my best friend's older brother had a girlfriend who would gang bang. Harold, my friend, and I were invited to two of them about 6 months apart. The older brother only invited us to keep us from telling on him but we got to be there.

Being the youngest, he and I were told to go last. That wasn't a problem for either of us. It was wonderful watching the girl, her name was Shirley, fuck 5 guys ahead of me. I don't know if she came or not. But watching it was heaven. By the time it was my turn, I thought was in love with her.

My orgasm was fast but I was totally hooked. It happened once more a few months later. After the second time, I knew I was going to marry a woman like that.

For my wife it was a different experience. She was a virgin when we met but should couldn't wait to shed her cherry. After I popped the question about sharing, she was surprised but not put off. We discussed it several times the more we discussed it, the more excited she got.

Finally we decided on a day, we went to a bar. She pointed out a couple of guys she thought were hot. I approached her first choice and explained what we had in mind and asked if he wanted to join us. One look at my girlfriend and he was all for it. We all got in my car. I drove, she was in the middle and he rode shotgun. We headed for a make out spot we used.

The guy was named Ken. They started necking right away. It wasn't long until he had her skirt up, panties off and his hand buried in her cunt she started her orgasms then. I don't know how many times she came by the time we got there.

When we parked they were so hot for each other they finished stripping off clothes and dived into the back seat. He was balls deep instantly and they were humping into each other like animals. They were grunting and snarling and moaning the whole time. She reached a particularly strong orgasm and screamed and they kept on going. Eventually he let out a roar and shot his cum deep into her.

They took a short rest and did the same dance all over again. This time they were a bit slower but just as intense. After they finished, we put a blanket down on the grass and drank a beer. When we were done that she grabbed my cock, told me it was my turn. I rolled onto her and came very fast. Watching them fucking had aroused me like crazy.

I was so fast she didn't cum but that was ok. I rolled off and Ken got her on her hands and knees and banged her doggy. She came twice more before she collapsed on the blanket.

Then it was time to leave. She put her blouse and skirt back on. She put her panties and bra in her purse. We drove Ken back to his car. They chatted as we drove. After we dropped him off she slipped over next to me.

I drove her home and she couldn't stop talking about how good it was, how much she liked it and saying she wanted to do it again.

That was her introduction to the lifestyle.

[MartasBoy]

However, that’s how the urge of hotwifing got in my head. How about what flipped the switch for you or your husband.

Probably this was one experience that started it off for me. When I was single, and in college, I had a girl friend that I got pretty serious with. She and I were pretty great together, but I really wanted more experience and more variety and partners, before I ever considered getting married. I told her I wanted to see other people. She was quite beautiful had guys interested in her often. Of course she had some guy ask her out, within the first week of me suggesting we should see other people.

I asked her out for one Friday and she told me she couldn't because she had a date. I was now kicking myself for suggesting we see other people. I was really wanting to be with her, and I took my motorcycle out just to ride around and enjoy the warm late summer evening.

Of course, I couldn't help myself and I drove past her house. At one point his car appeared in her driveway. I parked my motorcycle down the street and walked up to her front door. I thought of knocking and interrupting the date and telling her I didn't want to do this anymore and I wanted her back. But I knew she would be really pissed. I snuck away from her front door and I could see the silhouette of them sitting on the couch in her living room. I could hear them talking and laughing.

I crouched down behind the bushes in front of the living room window, and watched until I could see their two silhouettes come together on the couch as they began to make out. Pretty soon the light went out in the living room and I saw a dim light come on in the bedroom. I moved over and crept down below the bedroom window I could hear them talking and laughing some.

Soon she opened her bedroom window to let the cool summer air in. Now I can hear everything I could hear the whole process of them making out, stripping each other's clothes off wildly, and then sex and lots of moaning.

I felt an incredible mixture of intense jealousy, and incredible arousal. I listen to the whole thing. Then I had to creep away from the window very slowly so they didn't hear me. I walked down the street to my motorcycle and rolled it a half a block away before starting it.

I went home feeling incredibly jealous and Incredibly turned on. I'm masturbated thinking about them together.

I was single and dating during the peace, love, sexual openness era. I had a number of girls I dated who wanted to have open relationships in which we both saw other people. I had a number of relationships with women who went back and forth between me and some other guy. I found it kind of exciting.

I was also aware that I loved it whenever I was dating someone and would catch other guys checking her out. With a few particularly hot girlfriends, I would go to the bathroom and then linger and distance away to watch this guys would come up to the bar and attempt to hit on them.

When I met my wife, I loved taking her out places and leaving her alone at the bar until various guys would come up and try to hit on her. I realize that something about this really excites me. Those are some of the experiences that started it for me.

[Sharing One]

Your story is very good, in that your experience was a mixture of jealousy, sex, love, and vourisim all at the same time. Those feelings all mixed together at one time can be a reason why us hotwife husbands have a craving to share our spouses. It’s a weird feeling when all those emotions get mixed up at one time.

[slenderfish]

This was well before SW.

My first feeling (unbeknownst at the time but it germinated and developed) was a trip to Mexico with my then-girlfriend (who later became fiance then wife then mother of our children). We were young, early 20's I'm thinking, with her mother and grandmother! Anyway, she was in blue jeans and they were tight on her ass, thighs, etc. I grew tired of the shopping and ended up hanging outside each store as my ladies went in. At about the third such store, I noticed some American guys were kind of tracking her, actively checking her out.

I was taking all this in, when she came out of a story and one of the guys approached her for a conversation. She politely told him to piss off, and he made a final comment to her then he and his crew went on their way.

Later she told me that some creepy guy had told her "nice gap" and she had no idea what he was talking about. I agreed with her, no idea, and let the conversation end.

But the guy was spot on. She did have a nice gap, and I was surprised at my new feelings of other guys checking out and desiring my girl.

It took several years before these feelings matured and I realized it was something I desired in real life.

[Sharing One]

Cdncuck, you are right. I made a mistake by not acting on the opportunity when it was there for me, and I regretted it for many years. But later in life, I met a girl who had an active sex life before me and a creative imagination, as our relationship grew those feelings of sharing and watching were still in the back of my head, so I decided to move slowly in that direction. I did not want her to think I was weird and I did not want to loose her, so I proceeded very slowly with caution. I brought some pornography magazines that had photos of threesomes in it and they did not turn her off. She even said that one photo of a girl with two guys was very lucky. That gave me the idea that I had the green light to move faster toward my fantasy. After that I got her to tell me about sex experiences with old boyfriends. I was not judgmental and encouraged her to go into detail. She was a little reluctant at first but after she realized that I enjoyed the stories and was not judgmental she went deeper with details. I asked her questions like what was your favorite position with your last boyfriend. She said doggy style, so later that night we started to have sex and I quickly moved her into the doggy style position and told her she could call me her old boyfriend’s name. She went along with the game. I asked her if she would like to have a threesome with the old boyfriend and me, and she said that sounded exciting.

A few days later I got her a dildo and told her that she could call it by her old boyfriend name, and that we should practice with her taking the dildo and me at the same time to practice for a future threesome between her old boyfriend and me. She jumped on the opportunity with excitement. Later, we set out to put the plan in action. I will give those details later.

[bewareoflizzy]

She was engaged when we started an affair near the end of our college years. So, I knew she was fucking her fiance while seeing me on the side. After we started living together I learned she was fucking a third guy she had met at work. After we married, I was very jealous if she flirted with someone. Then, the switch flipped and I started fantasizing about her being with another guy. The fantasy became intense and I started to kid around with my gorgeous wife about her fucking someone else, preferably a younger guy. She got plenty of attention at the restaurant she worked at and it wasn't too long before she started hinting about this cute guy who worked as a cook. She started to role play and tease me on our date nights. When she saw the reaction it had, she went for it and never looked back.

[Sharing One]

Jealousy and love can trigger feelings of wanting a hot wife, I know it did for me. I remember having a feeling of her slipping around. When I felt like she was out having an affair, I would start thinking of who, and where they were meeting, were they just meeting for coffee or having sex. I would want to have sex with her after she got home to see if I could detect any difference in her actions, smell, or sex. I did not trust her because of her past and some of the things she would say. One day while thinking about her having sex with someone else, instead of being jealous or mad, I started to become aroused. I started to get a boner. I did not understand this feeling. Since that feeling was enjoyable, I started to embrace the emotion. The more I embraced the feeling the stronger the feelings got. So, eventually, the jealousy subsided and the arousal increased until I changed from a jealous man to a stag. I am not sure if stag is the right term, but I hope you know what I mean.

[Sharing One]

So, if a woman is reading this and wants her husband to accept the idea of having a hot wife, you may want to tease him with having an affair in a fun and playing way. This could cause him to become more jealous, and the mixture of love and light jealousy could bring about his arousal, and readiness to enjoy the lifestyle. I know, It did for me.

[friskyous]

We met.. and married in high school so we were very young virgins and I was very jealous. A year and a half later I joined the military and we had one child and another on the way soon afterwards so we were apart for several months untill she could join me overseas. Something changed dramatically in that time period and instead of the jealousy I had always felt, I was obsessed with her having sex with other guys which lead to an encounter with one of my army buddies and a threesome with another. And that was the beginning of many years of sex with other guys.. and a few women.

[bltn1966]

Before me and Marie started dating my military friend Karl always talked about wanting to fuck Marie. A few months later Karl helped moving us into an apartment. When we finish loading up everything in my truck there was only one seat for either Marie or Karl to sit. Karl ,with a big smile on his face, offered to let Marie sit on his lap.
She warned him to keep his hands to himself while she sat on his lap. On the way there Karl and Marie laughed and made a lot of sexual innuendos while I drove the truck. Even though they were playing I knew what Karl really wanted. That was the first time I imagined Marie being with another man.

[hornedhubby]

N and I met in April 1980. By June we were living together. By September we were engaged and planning an April 1981 wedding.

Our sex life developed just as fast. We were both 22, fucking twice a day and rapidly covering a lot of playground. Not ready for anything but it wasn't clear where the boundaries were (except for no cheating allowed).

Anyway, my best friend/best man, K, was hanging out with us a lot that winter, prior to our wedding. A very attractive and funny guy, he didn't have a girlfriend at the time.

But K was an ardent masturbator. To feed his imagination, he began buying porn mags that featured adult film stars of that era. It was the golden age of porn films. He shared his mags with me, and I was drawn to those actresses - Seka, Lonnie Saunders, Samantha Fox, Kay Parker, Aunt Peg - having explicit, wild, seemingly joyful sex. Sometimes with multiple partners.

K and I had always talked a lot about sex - the only friend I had like that. So we discussed the mags and our attraction to those cock-hungry, slutty women. This obsession played out over several weeks.

And I told him about stuff N and I had explored and how much she loved to fuck, too. Somewhat to my surprise, I asked him if he would like to do a threesome with us with N as the center of attention. He said yes, for sure.

To his surprise, I took the idea to N. She declined. I asked why, don't you think you'd enjoy it? She said of course she would enjoy it. But she wasn't going to do it.

Looking back, it was our first firm sexual boundary. And my first HW thought.

Once the desire was awakened in me, I never really gave up trying to find a way around or through that barrier. But you can't have it all. We're still together, raised two kids and all is well. No regrets.

But if wishes were horses, the beggars would ride....

[Mgcouplemn]

I met my wife at a swinger party, I was there with a girlfriend and she was there with a married guy that was cheating on his wife with her. That night I watched her fuck many times and even then i couldn't stop looking her way. After seeing her at these parties a few times I asked her out. We have been together since then and I still love watching her having sex with other guys.

[Shadnaster]

I know one of the first things that got me thinking, it would be hot to see her with another guy was when she'd tell me about her past experiences. There was one story in particular that was sooooo out of character for her that it really turned me on.

She and her girlfriends used to go to a club in another state. It was one where they really didn't check IDs. She was 19 at the time. One night, a guy was hitting on her. He ended up taking her out to his car. Things were getting pretty hot and heavy in the back seat. She asked if he had a condom. He didn't. So, it was just a handjob for him. She went back in the club disappointed. She wanted to fuck. A couple of weeks later at the club again the same guy was there. They went back out to his car. This time, she didn't even ask if he had a condom. She was so worked up that she didn't care. She wanted him. He came inside her. the way she tells it, it was a lot. She had a skirt on and had to rush into the bathroom to clean up because she could feel it leaking out.

It was so out of character for her. Her just wanting hot animal sex. I thought only guys thought that way.