Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[straightshot22]

Hello I'm new here and I have a question that I hope I hot wife that's been in this position could answer for me

I have told my wife that is love to see her get fucked by a big cock she tells me I'm all she needs if you were in this spot what made you change your mind and become a hot wife

[Liese]

Ladies, do you wear anklets often? Does it garner attention? If you’re wearing it and you’re out and about is there ever a good way to be approached and comment on it? Just want to compare with my experience.

I've worn mine a few times at lifestyle events and meet ups, and gotten compliments on it. It makes me feel sexy and wanton. But I only wear it in 'swinger spaces' where rules and limits are respected. My anklet doesn't mean I'm up for just anything or anyone, despite some people's assumptions.

[Lookingforadventure]

Hello I'm new here and I have a question that I hope I hot wife that's been in this position could answer for me

I have told my wife that is love to see her get fucked by a big cock she tells me I'm all she needs if you were in this spot what made you change your mind and become a hot wife

I don't think that becoming a hot wife is for everyone. If your wife says that you are all she needs, she probably means it. Pressuring her to try something she doesn't want or isn't interested in, won't go well. With that said, I think that you telling her your fantasy was a great first step. Next, ask her what her fantasies are?

They don't have to involve other people. Maybe she's into outdoor sex or sex in risky places. Maybe she wants to be tied up. Maybe she wants to role play characters from her favourite books or movies. The more you can talk about your desires (both of you) and take steps to realize them in ways that work for both you, the better the sex will be. She may never want another man, but she might be open to playing with toys to simulate that experience for you.

It is sad to say, but many women have been socialized to not think about themselves as sexual beings. So they've never considered fantasies, desires, or sex play options that are available. Start the conversation and see where it goes.

[Hungdaddynyc]

Ladies, do you wear anklets often? Does it garner attention? If you’re wearing it and you’re out and about is there ever a good way to be approached and comment on it? Just want to compare with my experience.

I've worn mine a few times at lifestyle events and meet ups, and gotten compliments on it. It makes me feel sexy and wanton. But I only wear it in 'swinger spaces' where rules and limits are respected. My anklet doesn't mean I'm up for just anything or anyone, despite some people's assumptions.

Thank you for taking time on answering. Just a passing curiosity of mine I've always had.

[allentaysom]

My wife Hydie is going on a date with a bull for the very first time tomorrow. The guy that she is going with, we both have meet a few time's just to get to know him. And he has done this alot in the past with alot of other women. But for Hydie, this will be her first time doing this. And this is new to me too.
As the hotwife, what will it be like in her first date with experienced bull? Just curious, on the wife's prospective.

[alicexg]

I’ve always preferred not to go on first dates alone. From the start of our lifestyle journey, my husband has accompanied me, especially because he enjoys watching me record and take photos during those first encounters. Once I’ve gone out with a guy a few times, we invite him to stay at our home (in the guest room) so we can enjoy time together in the hot tub, living room, and other areas. So far, we haven’t invited anyone to our bed, but it’s something we’re considering. Everyone has their own preferences and boundaries, so if you’ve met someone and established mutual rules you both agree on, have fun and enjoy the experience! Good Luck
xoxo
Alice

My wife Hydie is going on a date with a bull for the very first time tomorrow. The guy that she is going with, we both have meet a few time's just to get to know him. And he has done this alot in the past with alot of other women. But for Hydie, this will be her first time doing this. And this is new to me too.
As the hotwife, what will it be like in her first date with experienced bull? Just curious, on the wife's prospective.

[Justaregularguy]

Hi hotwives… just wondering how long between your husband discussing it with you was it before you actually took the plunge and became a hotwife so to speak?

[irishstag41]

My wife and I decided to bring my best friend into our marriage. He is in a sex less loveless marriage. It was an amazing experience. My wife has a boyfriend (an ex )but the dynamic when me my friend and her are together is great. I trust him to keep silent too. I never thought I would do this when starting the lifestyle but go figure. Should we continue!?

[Farmgirl]

If everything is great as you stated, why would you not continue?

[snoogaloo82]

Lately my sweetie has been up and down about being a part of this. I'm having a hard time understanding her. I've asked her if everything is okay and if she wants to change things up, but she's insistent about the status quo. Other than asking her like I have is there any other way to make sure she's actually enjoying things?

[cuckoldreal80]

My wife's lover wants to fuck me in front of her. I've talked to some cuckolds and they tell me that hot wives get turned on by it. I'd like to know what women feel when they see their husband getting fucked, do they get turned on? Do they find it funny? Do they consider it a humiliation for their husband? Do they reject their husband for his homosexual act?... Can you tell me what you think? Thanks.

[Sexilexi]

My wife's lover wants to fuck me in front of her. I've talked to some cuckolds and they tell me that hot wives get turned on by it. I'd like to know what women feel when they see their husband getting fucked, do they get turned on? Do they find it funny? Do they consider it a humiliation for their husband? Do they reject their husband for his homosexual act?... Can you tell me what you think? Thanks.

Hey cuckoldreal80… I feel like I can’t chime in here because I’m not into my husband getting fucked by my fuck buddies. Nor is my husband into that. With that being said though, not all hotwives are into that. But I do hope those that are can chime in for you! Thank you for posting/asking! And I wish the best for you and your hotwife!

-Lexi

[Hallonsoda]

Do you let your cuckold watch or do you prefer him to be absent? Pros and cons to each situation? Do you enjoy it more if he’s present?

It depends a lot on my mood and how I'm feeling. Sometimes I want my husband there. I enjoy having two men want me. I like being the object of their desires and the center of their attention. Many of my fantasies can be acted on with two men present. At the same time, when my husband is there, I will always be aware of him and his needs. It can be freeing to sometimes play alone.

Is there anything specific that turns you on having him present?

I have read that some hotwives like the safety aspect of having him present. Is that something you desire?

[stonemtncouple]

Question for the wives.
How important is some kind of emotional connection to your lover to have great sex?
Thanks for your reply.

[Liese]

Question for the wives.
How important is some kind of emotional connection to your lover to have great sex?
Thanks for your reply.

For me it's not real important, and frankly I don't want significant emotional involvement with my playmates.

What is important is that I find the guy sexy, capable of expressing his interests and his limits, his desire for me, and his acceptance of my desires and limits. Then it's good sexy fun with him and my hubby.

That's just me; I know for a lot of us gals in the lifestyle it's very important that they have something more than that to enjoy sex.

[TrojanHorse]

My wife and me have fantasized MFM threesomes and do so often during sex. She has always gotten very turned on imagining someone else and she often asks, "when are we actually going to do it??". I just don't know where to start, where to look, how to go about it. My wife also has way too high standards and is extremely picky. Not that I know where to look, plus I'm also certain I won't be able to perform with another person there. What is some good advice to navigate forward from here?

[stonemtncouple]

Question for the wives.
How important is some kind of emotional connection to your lover to have great sex?
Thanks for your reply.

For me it's not real important, and frankly I don't want significant emotional involvement with my playmates.

What is important is that I find the guy sexy, capable of expressing his interests and his limits, his desire for me, and his acceptance of my desires and limits. Then it's good sexy fun with him and my hubby.

That's just me; I know for a lot of us gals in the lifestyle it's very important that they have something more than that to enjoy sex.

Thank You

[albs19922]

I am considering the best way to bring up my fantasy of sharing my partner for the first time. If you said “no” the first your partner raised hotwifing or cuckolding, how did you eventually come around? Also, what lessons do you think can be taken in how your partner first raised the idea of you going with others? Thank you!

[Liese]

I am considering the best way to bring up my fantasy of sharing my partner for the first time. If you said “no” the first your partner raised hotwifing or cuckolding, how did you eventually come around? Also, what lessons do you think can be taken in how your partner first raised the idea of you going with others? Thank you!

Hub and I started talking about our fantasies and ideas that turn us on, BUT with the understanding that we were just airing ideas that excited or interested us, and that there was no expectation that we would try to make these things real. After we both got comfortable doing that, we both admitted that perhaps some of our ideas were ones we could consider trying out. We moved from doing sexy stuff outdoors with just us two then moved on to me posing for pics for hub, and eventually decided to try same room sex with another couple. All that had worked out well for us, so we continued to move on from there, always ensuring we could opt out of any ideas or situations at any idea, for any reason or no reason.

[albs19922]

I am considering the best way to bring up my fantasy of sharing my partner for the first time. If you said “no” the first your partner raised hotwifing or cuckolding, how did you eventually come around? Also, what lessons do you think can be taken in how your partner first raised the idea of you going with others? Thank you!

Hub and I started talking about our fantasies and ideas that turn us on, BUT with the understanding that we were just airing ideas that excited or interested us, and that there was no expectation that we would try to make these things real. After we both got comfortable doing that, we both admitted that perhaps some of our ideas were ones we could consider trying out. We moved from doing sexy stuff outdoors with just us two then moved on to me posing for pics for hub, and eventually decided to try same room sex with another couple. All that had worked out well for us, so we continued to move on from there, always ensuring we could opt out of any ideas or situations at any idea, for any reason or no reason.

Thank you! This honestly seems like the most realistic way to start the conversation I’ve seen so far. And I would find it fun and a great way to increase communication even just talking fantasies like this. I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience.

[coastalkid]

I've always felt that "routine" diminishes excitement/appeal no matter what you are doing. I get that when a wife takes on a lover there's a newness or heightened thrill that comes with that. There's no established routine and all sorts of new experiences. I can easily see the appeal of that.

What I'd like to know is have any of you experienced a routine after becoming a hot wife? Do you have the same feeling of thrill after becoming more comfortable and familiar with your lifestyle? Most specific to me is the husband's experience with what he perceives as a "new" routine. Do any of your husbands show diminished enthusiasm after he has experienced your hot wife activities over time? Do any of you even consider this an issue?

[irishstag41]

If everything is great as you stated, why would you not continue?

True it is thank you

[Tryn]

My wife asked me, “ what if I like it too much?” I think her meaning was what if she liked sex with another way more than she enjoys it with me. Of course I would love that, but I want to get a woman’s perspective on what she might want to hear from me.

[NewForUs]

Ok, so we need to start the post and be honest that we didn't read all 121 pages yet (we will haha) but this thread seems like the best place for advice on getting into this all. So, our question for the ladies that post on this thread - how long did it take from merely talking about becoming a hotwife with your husband to actually sealing the deal? Thank you in advance!!