Should I Allow To Move Forward

[skoot1958]

As this is her first, she wants a man she is into, so yes he turns her on, maybe she is holding back as she does not want to say the words, he may see this an an affair, or potential new partner, just ask your wife if that’s want he wants, what would she say?

Will she openly share her messaging with him with you? There should be no secrets

[Hotwifeva77]

She has shared some messaging but she has also not been completely honest about it either. It’s a red flag for me but I do think the guy is a good person. He says he respects our marriage but I’m not confident in her ability to handle the NRE part of this unfortunately. She’s a romantic and doesn’t look at this as a fun sexual experience. Maybe that’s normal but this has some risk, and yet it’s the first time she’s been persistent about interest.

[skoot1958]

The safest thing is to stop, get yourself on the same page, you do not want this so all go wrong

[allways]

She has shared some messaging but she has also not been completely honest about it either. It’s a red flag for me but I do think the guy is a good person. He says he respects our marriage but I’m not confident in her ability to handle the NRE part of this unfortunately. She’s a romantic and doesn’t look at this as a fun sexual experience. Maybe that’s normal but this has some risk, and yet it’s the first time she’s been persistent about interest.

If you are going to let her play this out you need to say to her what you have said here. Start by telling her you love her and you are not going to stop her from seeing him however you have concerns.

Tell you you believe she has not been entirely honest with you and so that it does not damage your relationship that needs to change. You need to point out that you understand that she just can't fuck without feelings for him which is normal.

Explain NRE to her and point out that if she is totally honest with you, the pleasure for both of you will enhance your relationship and add spice to your sex life so she gets your total support and the best with her friend and you.

End again by telling her she is the love of your life and your gift to her is to see her getting something extra that she can then share with you.

[sandy691196]

When conservative, otherwise straight laced women feel emotionally pressured into considering this LS, very often they fall back on old friends, acquaintances and such like. These women are taking a huge leap of faith by agreeing to get into something which is galaxies away from their comfort zone. So they look for some firm ground, some familiarity!

It is likely that she had "liked" him in the past.. as in idle speculation about how he is as a man. Now when she decided to "agree" to your apparently important kink.. she naturally fell back on her old comfort zone. But yes this could get emotionally messy if the guy starts clinging.

[54321]

It's important to have a discussion about what hotwifing actually is.

The worst thing she can do is to apply the rules of monogamy to non monogamy eg. It has to be A or B.
Non monogamy is A and B

A Hotwife is able to enjoy the benefits of a continuous loving relationship with her husband and unlimited erotic,
romantic adventures with other men, a practice that both she and her husband can enjoy (it's kinda fun for the
other guy too of course).

Is that what she wants or does she want something else? Some honest communication is needed.

Best wishes to you both,

54321

PS. Check out Big Jim's journey in the Hotties Forum.

[beachguy999]

Have been discussing the idea for years and finally out of nowhere she has said she would do it, but it would need to be with this one gentleman who she feels safe with.

Unfortunately she hasn’t been completely honest about some of the conversations she’s had and that came to light.

She’s suddenly wanting more intimate time and has begun to ask for it daily. I told her that this old friend of hers is a risk due to mutual contacts, and didn’t think we should entertain.

The next day she showed me a text where she asked the guy if he would consider being together.

Given the circumstances do you think it would be detrimental or worth the risk?

Probably better with someone that there isn't mutuals, simpler that way.

[wifelver]

From the very beginning you said she has not been completely honest with you.

That is a recipe for disaster as honesty is a critical component of the hot wife experience.

[skoot1958]

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