Is there a better term for sloppy seconds?

[nostringsorworries]

I think we're going to have a get-together again sometime this weekend and I badly want to have sex with my wife soon after, but when I have hinted at that in the past she says she doesn't want to feel like a tramp and wants to wait a day or two before being with me again.

She really got me worked up when she was telling me about him cumming in her, and how much it must have been because the way it leaked out and when they later had a second inning he was really sliding in and out and it felt so different to her his second time. It made me ache to think about that and I told her that, but she said that wasn't going to happen.

How can I phrase it so it doesn't seem so slutty? I don't know why I've become so obsessed with the idea. It's kind of gross. But I really would like to see what it's like.

So many sex acts only have lewd terms, or clinical ones which are almost as bad. How do you talk about stuff like this without turning her off?

[leggysman]

Silky seconds, creampie, ...

I think your bigger problem is that she doesn't want to reconnect with you at all for a couple of days, for a different reason. She thinks waiting a couple of days to have sex again with her own husband solves her 'tramp' self-image worries? But having both a husband and another lover is not the actual question? Man! The games we play with ourselves, the excuses we make, and things we tell ourselves, to justify our actions and avoid uncomfortable truths.

I don't think finding the right phrase is the problem here, and she had no problem letting her date have seconds. I think you need to convince her how important to you it is to reconnect soon after, and don't focus on describing the bodily fluids situation you crave. (which, I get: I crave that too)

Maybe don't hint this time. Tell her, in so many words (like you've told us), that you badly want to have her soon after. That you feel it's important, and it's something you need. And she ought to care about that. If not, why not?

Waiting a day or two doesn't accomplish anything -- unless the real reason is that she's sore or fatigued. Your wife is fucking two men. Ideally she would embrace and own that idea - and whatever label she thinks applies to that - instead of being in denial and neglecting you.

Maybe she'll enjoy having both of you in one night. She'll never know unless she tries! Maybe she'll also enjoy seeing how much pleasure you get from it.

[Parsifal]

Silky seconds, creampie, ...

I think your bigger problem is that she doesn't want to reconnect with you at all for a couple of days, for a different reason. She thinks waiting a couple of days to have sex again with her own husband solves her 'tramp' self-image worries? But having both a husband and another lover is not the actual question? Man! The games we play with ourselves, the excuses we make, and things we tell ourselves, to justify our actions and avoid uncomfortable truths.

Great point. A Jekell and Hyde split persona dynamic at work in so many of these hotwife psyches. It can take years for some to fully integrate both sides and it never fuse completely at all points along the fracture line. (For my wife, "creampie" it what hits her gross-button; "sloppy seconds" doesn't seem to faze her.

I don't think finding the right phrase is the problem here, and she had no problem letting her date have seconds. I think you need to convince her how important to you it is to reconnect soon after, and don't focus on describing the bodily fluids situation you crave. (which, I get: I crave that too)

Perhaps science is seductive for her. Teach her sperm competition theory. Your instinct is not to kill your rival but to displace his little swimmers. The desire to reconnect is as innate as her need to attract bees to pollen. My wife understands it as she being the lady of the joust of males crossing lances. She's hardwired to host a micro battle.

Waiting a day or two doesn't accomplish anything -- unless the real reason is that she's sore or fatigued. Your wife is fucking two men.

This can happen. And when it does I remind my wife that mine can still displace his 24 hours later.

Maybe she'll enjoy having both of you in one night. She'll never know unless she tries! Maybe she'll also enjoy seeing how much pleasure you get from it.

Thusly my wife learned early on she derives as much if not more pleasure from it than I. It's become as much her fetish as mine.

[Restarting]

...you feel it's important, and it's something you need. And she ought to care about that. If not, why not?

Exactly right.
This is important. Talk with her.
This is a journey that should bring you closer, not distance yourselves.

Best of luck to you.

[Carrienlarry]

Very few get to come in me. But we say either fuck my used pussy or reclaimed me.

[Carrienlarry]

Very few are allowed to cum in me. But hubby and I say either fuck my used pussy or reclaim

[Daddy321]

Love silky seconds

[BeauKnerr]

You could call it a lot of corny things…

“The residuals of unbridled passion”
“The co-mingled essences of her and her lover’s [bull’s] lovemaking [lust]”
“Naughty nectar”
“Passionfruit”
“Holy cummunion”
“Dulce de lechery”
“Dessert”

[leggysman]

You could call it a lot of corny things…

"Darling, has someone already buttered your biscuit?"

[Parsifal]

You could call it a lot of corny things…

“The residuals of unbridled passion”
“The co-mingled essences of her and her lover’s [bull’s] lovemaking [lust]”
“Naughty nectar”
“Passionfruit”
“Holy cummunion”
“Dulce de lechery”
“Dessert”

Great suggestions. And for wives who like Tex-Mex, who can resist "Dos Leches"??

[BT2]

I agree with what leggysman said way back in January. I think the fact your wife takes the position that you have to wait an appropriate (according to her) length of time after she has been with her lover before you can approach her indicates that you have a much bigger problem than whether or not there is a better term than "sloppy seconds". Stated alternatively, I don't think finding another term for "sloppy seconds" is going to make any difference.

[vette19690]

Pre-lubed?

[vette19690]

Pre-lubed? BUT ...Some people enjoy the concept of 'sloppy seconds. The thought of another guy's cum in her (your) pussy excites some people.. Remember which forum your in? Whatever floats your boat...

[Calgent8]

Pre-owned?

[hornedhubby]

Naughty nectar is pretty good, especially in contrast to sloppy seconds. Sounds more like the juices from both sexes intermingled.

Unfortunately, calling it something else is unlikely to overcome your wife's bias. That's going to take deep conversation and better understanding between the two of you. Somewhat risky, too, if your wife tends to take requests as complaints or as ultimatums.

Best luck!

[mychubbyhotwife]

Slippery seconds?

I love having sex with her after another man cums in her. She is so wet I can barely feel her. It makes me feel like I have a small cock. Knowing another man has cum in her makes me so horny it only takes me a few strokes to add mine.

I've read posts where someone suggested silky seconds.

[NorthOpen]

My wife was resistant to the idea of being with me right after as well. She always came up with some excuse to delay our reconnecting, when in reality she was using that time to shower and "clean up" before we would be intimate.

Eventually, I kind of led her through a series of thought experiments to get my point across:
1) Do you swallow for him? Yes. OK, then you aren't grossed out by his cum? No.
2) So, if you aren't grossed out by his cum, should I be for some reason? No, I guess not.
3) You swallow for me too, right? Yes (big grin). And is that gross for you? No, I love doing that.
4) OK, so if you aren't grossed out by cum from either of us, then why should I be?

In our case, we landed on the term "reclaiming" as the best term.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

We’ve always called it sloppy seconds, but occasionally I tell her I want to “reclaim that pussy as soon as possible afterwards”…often while his jizz is still warm and thick in her.

I wonder if your wife feels dirty and embarrassed about you being inside her when (in her mind) she has just been “soiled.” Is it that she respects you and doesn’t want you to experience her as a “soiled” woman? If so, you need to emphasize that that’s PRECISELY what turns you on, that it would be an honor and a privilege to be inside her right after her boyfriend has dropped his seed in her.

It’s by far the best lay I have ever had in my life, and my wife enjoys it as well! It’s simply indescribable for both of us. Messy as fuck, but well worth the mess. I usually don’t last more than a dozen pumps, maybe 18 at the most, before I add my jizz to his. And she relishes the thought of being double-stuffed as she goes about the rest of her day/evening. (She pops a panty-liner in knowing that she’s gonna be leaking for a bit.) You just have to experience it.

Keep talking to her. We can’t wait to hear from you when she finally decides to try it. And when she does, she won’t care one bit about calling it “sloppy seconds” because that’s what it is, and she’ll be FINE with it, I suspect.