Regulars/Long Time Lover

[ourselves100]

How many hotwives have regulars or long-term lovers? What is the percentage of hotwives? How often do they get together? How do they deal with busy schedules?

[deffle]

My bride has had a regular long term lover for over 6 years now. She's been with nobody else but him and me since they met.

They're on a cruise fucking like rabbits as I type this.

[ferrisandrews]

That's terrific! She should hold onto him as long as she can.

To summarize our experience:

• Older local guys: The long-term lovers - those who stick around!

• Traveling men: The quality lovers - the most fun!

• Young guys: Exciting in theory but lack bedroom skills and vanish before the action really starts

For my wife, most of her lovers have been short-term because she prefers younger single men and younger single men are less predictable - shorter-term jobs that cause them to move away, girlfriends and wives come and go more quickly, they are less mature and experienced and therefore spook easier, etc. They also tend to get in their own way, intimidating themselves on what could go wrong and understanding that if it didn't work out, they wouldn't be having sex with anyone in their immediate future. This self-sabotage encourages them to flake on the date or ghost a couple entirely or become so intimidated that they can't perform while being watched (even though they thought they could). In our experience, the benefits to dating younger guys drop fast after they aren't just a picture anymore.

Her longer term partners pretty consistently turned out to be married or cheating, recently separated or divorced, and those who live in close proximity to us (either their job is close or their home is close - nooners are the best!). Businessmen on trips, especially those who frequent our area, were not consistent or repeat customers, but ended up being some of her best lovers. They were typically alone, had disposable money, were more willing to spend extra time with foreplay and giving her a good time before worrying about their own, and less of an ego bruise if something didn't work out perfectly.

She wasn't attracted to older men in our earlier years because they're not as pretty to look at in pictures, but what we learned is older guys (especially those who have recent relationships of their own) tend to be better in bed, are more patient, more predictable (they tend to keep their dates!), more giving and less distracted by other options their younger and flightier counterparts enjoy. Older guys are typically more tolerant of husbands watching also and some understand (and maybe even have tried) the husband and cuckold point of view even if they're not acting out that role at that particular time.

[Greywolf and Vixen]

We had two 'regular' guys from Vixen's past who've been 'on call' for the last few years. Down to one now, she might be able to schedule to go see him once or twice a year.

[bbarnsworth]

My wife has had a number of short term or one time lovers, but has had two long term boyfriends (years, in both cases). Juggling our schedules meant that in 90%+ of cases she had sex with her lovers it was a solo date. I enjoyed the MFMs when we had them, but it was hard to make schedules work for that to happen often.

One of her boyfriends lived some hours way, but was was periodically in our area for work. She'd spend time with him whenever he was in the area, and sometimes went to his place (again, hours away). Her other boyfriend lived somewhat close, about 30-35 minutes away. She'd see him several times a month, sometimes many times a month, usually at his place. With both boyfriends, she fell in love with them and it became making love and not fucking just for the joy of sex.

[BT2]

My (hot)wife has never required condoms after the first get together. We didn't go in for hotwife activities more than four or five times per year so we simply answered a classified when our mood struck. Then, about 15 or so years ago we thought that was dangerous health wise, so we specified married or attached men who played with their significant other's permission. That certainly cut down on the availability numbers, but she eventually found two fbs who have turned into long term fbs, and she has remained with these two fbs ever since. One we occasionally have MFMs with. She sees each maybe two or three times per year. One fb, the one we have had the occasional MFM with, has become a friend and they go for lunch on occasion - no sex, just lunch and chat.

We both still hate condoms and feel we have cut down the health danger significantly.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Maria took her first boyfriend in March, 2007. He was originally a coworker, so they saw each other daily. Eventually, he became her boss. And beyond that, he moved on to a different job with a different company. They had sex weekly, sometimes twice or three times (when she was *really* horny). It worked for 15+ years, until January, 2023.

But around November, 2022 (two months prior), she took a shining to a new fellow, this one also at her work. Starting in late-December, 2022, she began having sex with him on a bi-weekly basis.

Neither of the boyfriends knows about the other one.

As you can plainly see, there was a 1-month/1.5-month overlap.

There was one day in there that boyfriend #1 and I had our way with her together, and then boyfriend #2 had sex with her later on (without me) that evening.

She and I joke that it was her sluttiest day EVER….having sex with three men on the same day. (I know that for many hotwives, that’s a mundane Saturday night. But for us it was quite a thrill. I’ve never seen her so horny as on that day. She wanted all three of us in the worst way. Lots of fun was had by all! )

Anyways, she and boyfriend #2 have since picked up the pace, and he’s getting a piece pretty much every week, skipping a week every now and then.

Both boyfriends are bachelors with their own houses. So…when she wanted/wants to “connect,” she’d just call to say she’s coming over.

[Her number1]

Farmgirl has always had regulars, she doesn't do strangers,one night stands, ect.
She has had her current boyfriend for several years. They try to see one another once a week, sometimes more, sometimes less.
She's not a scheduleing person. He calls her several times a day, they just work things out.

[LongTermHubby]

My wife has one long-term lover and takes an occasional short-term fling with a new guy.

[Parsifal]

Gala has two regular "lovers," though in private, inner dialogue I find myself referring to them in consciously dated nomenclature, as gigilos. Sometimes archaic language works best because it resonates with realities that people can't face as easily nowadays. These long-term gigilos are her "Beaumont cowboy", it now going on 6 years, and slowly from monthly to weekly, and her "Inner city computer guy," now approaching 2. Both are nearly 20 years her junior, which makes for an interesting contrast given my significant age difference with her in the opposite direction. Yet interspersed within these extended relations are those - many in fact- that are contrastingly brief. Just this year she worked in two dates with a BBC from Dallas, a sportswear model, married too, to a woman who looked strikingly similar to Gala, only much younger. Like Tiger Wood and Elin. Our affair game contemplates little flashes in the pan like that, never dull or too "established." Frankly, I encourage her mixing fresh with fidelity especially as the her horseback ride in Beaumont is now so frequent.

[hotfreaks]

We have been in the lifestyle for a little over 20 years, and my wife has had many long term bulls. Some she saw once a week, others multiple times a week

[zorro]

We have been in the LS together for 15 years now. Our current long-term extra guy has been hot with us for what is going on 8 years. We have met some additional guys, but as a demisexual Ruth prefers fucking someone she has feelings for. He is a busy guy, but we try to "slip him in" whenever he has some spare time. He's worth waiting for.

[MichaelW]

My wife had had a regular lover for over 10 years. He lives several hours away where we vacation. We meet in between 4 or five times a year, dinner out with her clearly as his date. During vacation she will be with him four or five nights in the 2 to 3 weeks we are there. A couple of times she has spent a week there without me and hosted him, went on dates, etc. She does not call him a boyfriend but lover. (She says a boyfriend implies open to more permanent developments and emotions). Other than me she is exclusive to him, and in the heat of passion has told him,"I love you so very much"; and "I wish I could make a baby with you" (she had a tubal years ago so only words). Always bare and specifically beg him to cum inside her, or give her his seed. He respects our marriage and does not push for more or back channel, which is one of the reasons he can have her whenever our schedules line up. He is cool with me watching and filming.

[leo-cpl]

We have been active around 6 years now and in those 6 years reckon there have been 10 guys (couple of them live in different cities/countries). She's never been exclusive (doesn't like the idea either) and never played solo (doesn't fancy the idea either). Only two guys have been one time play meets. she prefers to meet the guys as and when we are free and want to play, meaning she can have a preference list of 3-4 guys and schedule the play meet. Every guy is different and has something different to offer which keeps the play meets fun n exciting! (we usually casually meet 1-2 times before we end up playing, this is preceded by chatting n voice calls which are mandatory vetting process so we end up with guys we would wanna play with over the next couple of years. This has worked well for us so far! On an average the plays meets have once in 3-5 weeks. On two occasions had 2 play meets in 2 days!! Those were hot!
However, I do want to add a weekend getaway with one of them and inviting two of the guys together is on the bucket list and very close to be ticked off!