Is it too much to ask a man looking for a hotwife experience to share expenses?

[BrunetteLover]

Is it too much to ask a man looking for a hotwife experience to share expenses?

The couple is willing to travel to his area for his convenience. They may not be particularly interested in travel to that area at that time, but they decide to make a several day trip out of it. Can't hurt to get to get away for a few days or to get know a new area, even though it's not high on the list of places to see.

Mind you, the men have not described anything about themselves, what makes them special, what they are willing to do to romance the woman, to make this a fun experience for her. Nothing.

Their attitude: I just want to bang a hotwife, so travel to my area, at your expense, so I can do so. I just may even say thank you as I walk out the door.

The couple asks the man to cover 2 rooms at the hotel they will be staying at for the night the activities will be taking place. No other expenses, no other nights, no other anything. Just two rooms for that one night so everyone is accommodated. Easily verified, just look up the price of a room at that hotel on that night times two.

Men who see escorts have no problem being generous and do the above in a heartbeat. But men looking for a hotwife experience?

I got very strange reactions to the above scenario. It's as if these men identify with Adonis, that just his willingness to have sex should sweep her off her feet, and are downright offended by the question in this post title.

[leggysman]

I think you're going above and beyond by traveling to them

[Shadnaster]

It's not unreasonable to split the cost. In my opinion, it's not unreasonable to expect the bull to pay the entire cost. When we "shopped online" for guys, that was the one rule. We let them know up front that they would be paying for the hotel room. Of course, we'd always pay for half once we got there. We just wouldn't tell them ahead of time. It was a good way to weed out the jerks and to ensure they weren't going to be a no show.

[Greg_N_Shelley]

When we were playing, we never had expectations regarding splitting costs with guys. Often we booked a room and paid ourselves since we took initiative or were using it as a short get-away from home for a weekend. With Shelley's long term FWB, he often drove two hours to visit us when we did. Other times he booked and paid for the room if she was playing alone or we were meeting him near where he lived.

With a few other guys, they paid the bar tab when we first met for drinks and we took care of the room.

The only time I recall when we "split the bill" was when we met up with a couple. With guys, it was always a give-and-take type situation.

[BT2]

We've never been in a situation where we had to drive more than 45 or 50 minutes for my (hot)wife to meet her date. And, we have always met the fb at his place or at ours.

I wouldn't want to have my wife treated as a whore, e.g. the guy pays for everything. On the other hand, the other guy is enabling my wife and I to fulfill a fantasy - e.g. no guy, no fantasy.

So, I don't know the answer to your question. If I did run across such a situation, I would expect social norms to apply, whatever that means. But I wouldn't expect the guy to pick up all the expenses, nor would I expect us to. (How's that for a wishy/washy answer?)

[WatchinginNJ]

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The couple asks the man to cover 2 rooms at the hotel they will be staying at for the night the activities will be taking place. No other expenses, no other nights, no other anything. Just two rooms for that one night so everyone is accommodated. Easily verified, just look up the price of a room at that hotel on that night times two.

Men who see escorts have no problem being generous and do the above in a heartbeat. But men looking for a hotwife experience?
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I've been in this for awhile, and I've seen a lot of things. You had me until this part.

Look at it this way. You're dating. Is it for love? Not really. But it is a relationship. So treat it as such. What do you want out of the relationship?

From a single guy standpoint, there's a lot of risk, going to a hotel, booking 2 rooms, and then relying on 2 people for the "date". Couples flake, have a change of heart, etc.

I'm willing to cover my expenses, and meet people half way. If I've invited her to a hotel room, then of course I pay for the entire thing, but it also means if it doesn't work out I'm sleeping in the bed I paid for.

Why would you want to be beholden to someone who paid for the whole night? Seems you're asking for trouble.

I also think equating looking for a hotwife vs an escort is a false equivalency. If I'm hooking up with a woman, it's because she's into me somehow. If I'm paying for an escort, she's into my wallet. Its pretty different.

[fraktastic]

Is this a sure thing date, e.g. with someone who has banged the wife previously, or is this a meet and greet with a chance of “no thank you, but thanks for the hotel room”?

My answer would be different in those two different scenarios.

[LVyoung]

The couple asks the man to cover 2 rooms at the hotel they will be staying at for the night the activities will be taking place.

Uh. Questions, please.

In the title you say "share", but here the couple is expecting him to cover the whole cost of the night. Which is it? Share means split, not cover. And why two rooms? If the guys lives there, then he doesn't need a room. If he doesn't want to drive home that night, then his own room is on him if the couple doesn't want him spending the night in their room. Which is understandable if it's a first-time meeting.

Whose helping who in this whole thing? Are you satisfying his "bang a hotwife experience" as you state in the title, or is the couple looking to have fantasies fulfilled with a guy in another city? Or both? For whom the whole thing is for makes a big difference. Because of the contradiction pointed out above, I have to ask.

Also, why would the couple travel to him in the first place if they don't have any other desire to be there? Personally I'd never expect a couple to travel to me unless they are planning on a vacation in my area already. If they are really looking to have some fantasies fulfilled and they really want me and travel to me, then I would, and have, happily split the cost of the room for the night. But if this is for him, then he needs to be going to the couple.



Semi-related personal anecdote. I once had a couple, well mostly him, demand I pay for the room. He told me this at the first meeting at the bar for our vibe check, after I had already picked up the tab for our drinks, and while we were packing up to go do the deed. This was also after almost two full weeks of the guy constantly texting me all about the fantasies he was hoping I could satisfy for him. They were, supposedly, first timers in the lifestyle, and this was their first attempt at meeting a guy.

Anyways, misunderstanding him, I was like, oh, yeah, sure, no problem at all, I'll split the cost of the room. I knew we were going to be getting a room because they couldn't host, and they didn't feel comfortable coming to my place (completely understandable). Then he said, no, if you want to fuck my wife, then you have to pay for the whole room. I was a little speechless at first and kinda stared at him a little slack jawed until I said, uh, no, this whole meeting, the entire purpose of us being here, is to satisfy YOUR fantasies, not mine. This whole entire thing is for you, not me. I will gladly split the cost of the room, but you're throwing your credit card down and I'll cover half with the cash in my pocket. Dude got really angry about the whole thing and just started ranting about respect or some shit.
To the wife's credit, she seemed really embarrassed by the whole thing as she tried to get him to calm down. So I felt bad for her. But I let him run his mouth until he was out of breath and calmy said, look, I have three married women I can text RIGHT NOW that will beat me to my own house and have my dick down their throat before I even close the door. You're not doing me some kind of favor by letting me fuck your wife. I. Do. Not. Need. You. But you definitely need me. Then I got up, apologized to the wife, told her she's absolutely lovely (she was gorgeous, I swear she could easily have been a model) and I'd love to spend the night with her, but not with her husband around, kissed her on the check, and left.

I did indeed text one of my regulars when I got in my car, and she did indeed beat me to my house lol

[Mwstag]

It's never come up, honestly.
Ive never asked anyone to cover anything, but the type of people we enjoy being around also have the sort of character that has them paying at least half, anyway.
Be it singles or couples, theres usually a friendly race to pay the bill. We are either lucky or just not attracted to the type that wont chip in.

[Tryagain]

Is it too much to ask a man looking for a hotwife experience to share expenses?

The couple is willing to travel to his area for his convenience. They may not be particularly interested in travel to that area at that time, but they decide to make a several day trip out of it. Can't hurt to get to get away for a few days or to get know a new area, even though it's not high on the list of places to see.

Mind you, the men have not described anything about themselves, what makes them special, what they are willing to do to romance the woman, to make this a fun experience for her. Nothing.

Their attitude: I just want to bang a hotwife, so travel to my area, at your expense, so I can do so. I just may even say thank you as I walk out the door.

The couple asks the man to cover 2 rooms at the hotel they will be staying at for the night the activities will be taking place. No other expenses, no other nights, no other anything. Just two rooms for that one night so everyone is accommodated. Easily verified, just look up the price of a room at that hotel on that night times two.

Men who see escorts have no problem being generous and do the above in a heartbeat. But men looking for a hotwife experience?

I got very strange reactions to the above scenario. It's as if these men identify with Adonis, that just his willingness to have sex should sweep her off her feet, and are downright offended by the question in this post title.

Two rooms. Why? This is an unreasonable request.

[kaskap79]

When I meet with one of the hotwives I see, she wants to pay for the hotel.
I do the travel and for everything else. That can be all meals, drinks, sightseeing etc.
We do normally meet for three nights, so the costs are about equal.
It does also happen that I pay for hotels, when she and her husband travels to my area, but then they pay for the meals etc.
So all in all, we do share the costs. Not by the penny, but close.

[Parsifal]

My wife never pays for anything with anyone. She's not anyone's cheap date, mine included.

[Her number1]

Every hotwife has her way, but Farmgirl doesn't travel to meet guys for "their convenience," nor does she travel to meet someone she does not already have a relationship with.

[masculinecuck]

We always pay for everything, room, food etc. Once covid was over we take of her boyfriends on vacations with all with all expenses paid.
Three times per year so far, bottom line she's happy.