The Power of Sex on Women's Emotions

[Tryagain]

I am writing to express my surprise at my wife’s reaction to her current boyfriend’s initial ghosting of her but – after numerous texts and a phone call – in subsequent texts he said he had family problems and cannot meet anymore. He had told us he was probably getting divorced – but it was early in our relationship.

We have played with him for about 11 months and got together maybe every 2 to 4 weeks. They always play at our home with me present all the time. We have a drink and talk about 15 minutes every time, proceed to the bedroom where he skillfully pleases her orally, and then fucks her really well for about 45 minutes to an hour with his very big cock, and then we all talk abut 15-20 minutes in the bedroom before he leaves. We both of course shared a lot of personal information.

She never went out alone with him nor engaged in casual texting or phone calls.

So, in my view this was a limited relationship unlike so many here where the woman needs to feel a connection first and may go out together on dates. She met him once initially and then arranged for him to fuck her.

She is now feeling very depressed and angry for several weeks now and – yes, of course, she is saying she wants no one else now even though she truly enjoys fucking hung guys and the praise they lavish on her.

This all confirms how powerful sex can be on women’s emotions. I mean this was just about sex and not even with a little romancing. That is why I cannot imagine allowing my wife to go off alone with him like others here. That would only heighten the feelings toward the guy.

For me, I am unwilling to share her intense romantic feelings with another because I believe the romantic pie is basically a set size – it does not increase with more participants – and I want the very, very large piece.

[eyespy2]

You are right in that giving a wife a hall pass works for some but may not feel comfortable working for you. I went down that road years ago with the mother of my two kids. She was/is a flight attendant and played on work trips, it didn't end well for us and that is partially why I am always present when my current partner plays. That and I adore watching them.

I feel bad that she is going through some emotional turmoil over the breakup/separation. Just comfort her and try to explain to her that this LS has it's ups and downs. Many separate lives with the common good of sexual pleasure, like you said, it is about sex. Maybe easier said than done. Be understanding with her emotions.

And finally, I agree so much about how the praise a play partner bestowed on a hotwife is so beneficial. Even though my mid 60's wife loves sex, the kink, and the overall naughtiness, she thought that her projection of sexiness on others was dissipating fast. It just takes a variety of new guys fucking her brains out with hot talk, compliments, and encouragement to completely re-energize a woman.

Anyway this is what works for us.

[Tryagain]

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[noreaster]

My wife was once with a guy for an extended period of time. She always went to his place while ai stayed home with the kids. A couple times I did go with her when she visited. When we first all met at the very beginning we all agreed that if any one of us had issues that didn’t resolve then we would end the relationship.
It ended up that I wasn’t getting what I was hoping for our of it all mainly due to his lack of communication, even after discussing it with them both. She understood and tried her best but even though he was a really nice guy he didn’t get it. Eventually I said enough. And so it ended but I was surprised at my wife’s reaction to ending the relationship. She was never one to discuss what she was feeling but she was upset for quite awhile.
Granted, maybe letting the two of them spend a fair amount of time together at his place just talking and visiting ended up creating more of a friendship than was planned and so it upset her when it ended.

[Restarting]

It's natural to mourn anything we enjoy that we no longer have. The better the experience, the greater the letdown, kind of like a dark lining in a silver cloud. Time for the next adventure.

She needs to find someone that's a better fit, one that can play by (both of) your rules.

Good luck to both of you!

[MartasBoy]

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....She is now feeling very depressed and angry for several weeks now and – yes, of course, she is saying she wants no one else now even though she truly enjoys fucking hung guys and the praise they lavish on her.

This all confirms how powerful sex can be on women’s emotions. I mean this was just about sex and not even with a little romancing.

Whoa, and I've learned to not get in the way of it where my wife is concerned.

One week, we had taken her car into the shop. They had finished it on friday, and I was supposed to go and pay for the repairs, and get the keys, so she would have her car to go to the city where her boyfriend lives, for their weekend together. I didn't make it to the shop before it closed. She was so pissed at me. I quickly cleaned my car out, and ran to the self car wash to wash the pollen and bird droppings off of it. Her car is nicer than mine, and she was very upset to have to take my car.

I made her late for leaving to meet him, and to make things worse, they had missed getting together for several weeks, and she had been looking forward to this weekend quite a bit. I imagine that she poured some of that emotional intensity she felt, from being angry at me, into her sexual intensity with him.

[BT2]

It has been said on this Forum, and elsewhere, that good friends seldom make good hotwife lovers, but hotwife lovers can become good friends. And I imagine that if you have the same fb over an extended period of time you will grow to quite like the person and would get quite broken up if the friendship/hotwife sex had to end. Just my personal opinion, but I don'\t believe the sense of lass would be limited to women, and I believe it could also happen in a nonsexual friendship.

[Tryagain]

Is there anyone else out there whose wife got totally wrapped up with a guy she never spend alone time with?

[surry]

Women need to have an emotional connection with men if fucked more than once.

[ferrisandrews]

Is there anyone else out there whose wife got totally wrapped up with a guy she never spend alone time with?

Yes. Connection isn't about privacy, it's about sharing time (and causing each other's feel-good brain chemicals to spike during that shared time). She probably became conditioned to feel wonderful when he was around, because he was novel, attractive, good, etc. It's also probably the case that she's reflecting on the amount of time it took to find him and is probably dreading the amount of work it might take to find someone similar. In short, she's assuming she isn't going to get to feel that way again because he's no longer in the picture (at least for now).

It's natural and expected for her to poo poo the lifestyle when things end. Based on their frequency, don't be surprised if he checks in eventually (weeks, months, etc.). He'll have different priorities for a while, but with all things, equations eventually balance.

Just provide comfort and help her move forward. A bull's greatest strength is also his weakness - he's temporary.

Good luck!

[Tryagain]

Is there anyone else out there whose wife got totally wrapped up with a guy she never spend alone time with?

Yes. Connection isn't about privacy, it's about sharing time (and causing each other's feel-good brain chemicals to spike during that shared time). She probably became conditioned to feel wonderful when he was around, because he was novel, attractive, good, etc. It's also probably the case that she's reflecting on the amount of time it took to find him and is probably dreading the amount of work it might take to find someone similar. In short, she's assuming she isn't going to get to feel that way again because he's no longer in the picture (at least for now).

It's natural and expected for her to poo poo the lifestyle when things end. Based on their frequency, don't be surprised if he checks in eventually (weeks, months, etc.). He'll have different priorities for a while, but with all things, equations eventually balance.

Just provide comfort and help her move forward. A bull's greatest strength is also his weakness - he's temporary.

Good luck!

You did identify something that is a part of her feeling down - dreading looking for her next partner. Hope you are right about him checking in at some point.

[bltn1966]

Marie was very picky when she started her HW journey. There was this one white guy she met on a swingers website. The handsome guy told my wife all the things he would do to her in bed. Finally, on their third date Marie agreed to go back to his place. She was looking forward to having sex with him. Marie said the guy completely lost interest in her when he saw a picture of her black husband on her phone. That really hurt her. I was surprised at how much it affected her.