Is it hard talking to a guy after he’s fucked your wife

[Des 31]

I find it super difficult talking to a guy after he has been with my wife.

I have no problem conversing with men who fuck my wife, but I can understand others who cannot. I read a psychologist's column which suggested that anyone who may have problems having conversations may write down some comments to say to another.

You might write down comments like, "I'm pleased it works out for the two of you," or "Actually, you're doing me a favor by having sex with my wife. I cannot think of anything more exciting." If you're allowed to watch, tell him how much you enjoyed the experience.

I think once you get the hang of it, the conversation will come easier for you. I have told my wife's guys all that and more, and it opens up a conversation between the two (or three) of us.

~ Des

[Lilbrathotwife]

Absolutely not, I love talking to a guy who's claimed my wife and I took her back from, and did it better. One of the guys she fucked was from our local swingers club and she played solo with him, next time we were at the club together I was playing with her in front of him and got her to make noises he'd never heard before. To the point that one time he just shook his head and said "damn". I think even without the sexual competition aspect it would still be pretty hot for me.

[punknotdead]

not at all, I like talking to them before they fuck my wife, I usually make the arrangements, and after I have watched him fucking her.

Hi buddy,

I've read your posts thanks for all. You are mentioning the arrangement often. Could you write about it more. Your experiences, new deals, things you pay attention etc...

[astoria1969]

No he was my best friend.

[lovethis]

No not at all

[D_Lited_HubWife]

I shake hands, high five, and dap them up. Have no issues talking to or hanging out with these guys at any point, it's all a fun cool experience.

[dkcuck123]

Bumping an old post, but I just had to share since it was such a sexy moment. DirtyJ introduced me to her current boyfriend in the very bar she met him in after they were more than “friends”. She didn’t expect him to be there that night, but it was first- sexy he knew about me through her, and I about him through her. Solo every time so we had never met. And second I imagine he was thinking “Fuck- I’ve come in her so many times. Does he know?” And I was thinking “Does he know I know he’s cum in her every time he’s fucked her?” She seemed to enjoy being the slut in the middle!

[Massage4Wife72]

Just a wannabe but for me I would have to so no. Never meet one of her previous lovers but hoping that will change. My wife had a few fuck buddies before we got together that she has told me about. That’s been several years ago. Currently I am looking at getting some work done around the house and lucky for me one of her ex FB is construction business. I asked if she would be ok with it to which she replied no. I’ve already contacted him and have things scheduled for this spring. Gotta say I’m super looking forward to meeting him.

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum Massage4Wife72.

[fraktastic]

Currently I am looking at getting some work done around the house and lucky for me one of her ex FB is construction business. I asked if she would be ok with it to which she replied no. I’ve already contacted him and have things scheduled for this spring. Gotta say I’m super looking forward to meeting him.

If she’s not ok with it why would you do this?

[Mgcouplemn]

not hard at all, i'm usually the one inviting him to fuck my wife, i setup and tell him what is going to happen making all the arrangement. besides he has already fucked the wife. if we see the guy out somewhere i talk to him, personally get a hard cock talking to them thinking about watching him fucking her or the possibility to see him fuck her again.

[Shadnaster]

I think, early on, it was a bit awkward. After the first few times, it was pretty easy to have a normal conversation after.

[YoungChiBull]

Even as a bull it can initially be awkward BUT once I connect with the cuck it elevates the experience. Honestly, without the cuck involved or at least on "talking terms" it isnt the same for me. It might sound weird, but I do need some kind of connection/friendliness with him,

[Parsifal]

My wife is always turned on by social settings in which we as a couple interact with one of her lovers, particularly if the lover has another female or wife in tow who's unaware of the situation. The erotic tension cuts like a knife

[Carrienlarry]

For us not at all. We screen and hubby is more selective than I. We always play together and after we exchange pleasantries. Hubby might ask how good did I suck him or how was my pussy. Then we send the guy or girl on their way.

[windymiller]

The first lover i knew my wife had taken was my then best friend and we remained best friends after she openly fucked him in front of me, i would arrange date nights for them and she would know this, he in return will tell me what they had done. So i was used to and enjoyed talking to a man that i shared my wife with in our marital bed.

When she wanted me to source her new lovers, men we didnt know, i found it easy talking to them knowing it was an almost certain they would soon lie between my wifes long legs. Most became her long term lovers too.

In my experience over 30 years i think it is the guy that finds it the most difficult talking to me, i am 6ft 3, 17st and quite muscular, a dominant alpha male, i have often been asked "why do you want to do this" or "if she was my wife i wouldnt let anyone fuck her" and "you dont look the sort"

It is easier for a man to think he is fucking a wife who is having a secret affair, a lot find it wierd that her husband knows and approves.

To prove the point i arranged to meet another man, found via the interent, i spoke to him numerous times, he knew i may watch them but only if he agreed, then with her agreement arranged a pub meet. I then asked her to go alone, i wanted her to have a boyfriend i may never meet for a change. She was very reluctant but went and used whatsapp to update me, saying how nice he was and such a good kisser, then she asked me to meet up wiith them, i didnt want this but over an hour or so she repeatedly asked me and said he knew and it wasnt a problem. Shit.

So i went, saw them sat together, went to the bar and ordered a beer and saw him stand up and kiss her and he disappeared. She said all went very well until i walked in then he said oh fuck and that was the end of that.

[Mgcouplemn]

It is easier for a man to think he is fucking a wife who is having a secret affair, a lot find it wierd that her husband knows and approves.

A lot of guys think it is even weirder when we tell the guy that the husband will be watching. Some guys back off after we tell them that I will be in the room watching. I have always watched every guy fucking my wife, it isn't their choice.

[Aussiem]

all our fuck buddies have been friends first. So no problem talking. The majority I have been there taking part. We are talking while we fuck.
I have often had long conversations with guys that have fucked my wife. Sometimes it's general chit chat, other times it sex talk about what she likes.
During sex I might tell them to go first so I can have seconds, once they have seen how good seconds are, they want to go thirds, and we will chat about that , my wife might tell him what she wants. After round one or two, I often get drinks and we sit and chat.

[Johnann2227]

For me it has never been a problem. If we are out and we see one of her lovers that I have not met she will happily introduce us. Usually it is something like, "John, this is Cameron. Cameron is the guy I met last year when I went to Bungalow 8 with the girls. Cameron, this is my husband John".
I usually step forward and shake his hand and say something like, " Hi Cameron. Ann told me that you gave her a goodtime that night, Thanks for that, I know she came home a very happy girl".
Every guy Ann fucks knows she is married and plays with my approval.

If we are at a swinger party and I see a guy fuck Ann, when they are finished (and I am finished playing at the time) I make my way over and introduce myself. I thank him for giving her a good time and enjoy hearing him tell me how tight her pussy was or how great a cocksucker she is.

[windymiller]

It is easier for a man to think he is fucking a wife who is having a secret affair, a lot find it wierd that her husband knows and approves.

A lot of guys think it is even weirder when we tell the guy that the husband will be watching. Some guys back off after we tell them that I will be in the room watching. I have always watched every guy fucking my wife, it isn't their choice.

We all have variations and views on this, each to their own i will add,

I sourced a lover for my cuckoldress and we met him in a pub, 20 minutes in, we knew he was an ideal candidate he agreed i could watch. A hotel was later booked and cuckoldress as normal kissed me then went to him. My view has always been as her cuck husband, she is now his and what they do is for them to decide not me, its her body she gives to him. Nor should i be present through out as it stunts the passion and excitment for them both.

Both naked after a lot of kissing he said he felt put off by my presence as he lay between her legs, so a decision had to be made do i leave? or do we both?

To me the decision was obvious as her cuck it wasnt my position to get in the way of her involvement with a male she had chosen to pleasure her, so i left them. That was very kinky and a major turn one for me, i wanted to pleasure myself but knew i shouldnt or the hugh rush of mental, stimulation
i had would go.

I collected her the following morning and she was worn out and tired, her lips were so soft from kissing, well fucked she had enjoyed her night which stretched into the early hours and again before she left, back home we both showered but i didnt reclaim her and before we left for work she presented me with her cum filled knickers for me to wear for the day, just to remind me of my cuckold status and her exciting evening of fun and deborchary.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello, from Hotwife Kelly, married to Wesley

I went as a date with male friend of mine to an out of town weekend long wedding. The wedding was a lot of fun, sex was my male friend was tremendous an often.

Shortly after I arrived home I received a huge bouquet of flowers with a thank you note from my dating partner. He was fairly descriptive in describing some of our sexual romps therefore I could not display the thank you note due to young family members prying eyes but I did proudly display the flowers,

I thought the flowers and thank you note was a pleasant touch and the next time my husband met this man thank him for doing so.

No issues with my husband for talking to men I have fucked, typically they become friends. Kelly

[Jmoney]

Yes, her fwb is as older than my father, everytime I've interacted with I feel like he is an authority figure.

[Cuckmepls]

The only thing hard when talking to a man who has been with my wife is my cock. I am not trying to make light of the situation, just saying it is an incredible turn on for me. The knowledge that he has had my wife is just too good to be true.

I'm with you...the only thing hard is my cock LOL. I LOVE talking to guys who have fucked my wife. Just normal everyday conversations about anything are hotter when you know the guy you are talking with has fucked your wife. That guy knows how it feels to have your wife's mouth on his cock, he knows how her pussy tastes, and he knows what a hot fuck she is. That guy also knows that your wife's pussy is available to other guys.

My wife's married boss has been fucking her for years. I love hanging out with him. He has been intimate with my wife in every way. He knows that I am okay with him fucking my wife. We never talk about that but we are both aware of it when we are hanging out together.

I love how you both described it and I know I would be super turned on talking to the guys that made me a cuckold. If my wife told me they were more well endowed than me it we make it even hotter. Just the thought of knowing she had orgasms on their big cocks and that they shot their hot cum inside her would definitely make me hard when I was talking to them. I do know some of he guys she slept with before we got married and when I talk to them it’s all I can think about.

[Flavius]

Initially, I felt a bit uncomfortable. That feeling soon disappeared. Oftentimes, the men my wife has sex with feel awkward. That is one of the reasons that I haven't met most of the men she has shagged. Having said that, once I even travelled to South Asia with a lover of hers, just he and I. We were chatting a lot.

[shorebird]

Not at all. I do most of the arranging and communication so they are ever thankful and appreciative. They fall over themselves to thank me.