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[Saras_Stag]

I wanted to chime in on my own feelings here as well, especially as I read the kind of detached summary I wrote yesterday. I was hoping Sara would be able to express herself as she just did because I didn't know how to capture the breadth of the emotions she felt and has continued to feel.

On my end, while I was nervous and excited, once Sara got off the phone as she walked up to Wade's door I felt myself in a bit of a fog. Part of me wanted to jump in my car and race over to stop her, but it was a small part and that feeling went away. I had to go get a few groceries so I went out to the store around a half hour later. At this point, since she hadn't texted me, I knew it must be going well. I knew they must be together. I imagined her on top of him and him on top of her and knew it must be happening at that moment. A wave of nausea washed over me. I was so happy for her and didn't think I would feel this mix of jealousy and primal fear but here it was.

I continued shopping and felt better, so much so that by the end I decided to pick up a bouquet of roses for my love. Six of the roses were a beautiful pale red-beige and one was red, symbolizing my position as her husband and the six others representing the others that will be lucky enough to share in her love.

When Sara came home I was beyond happy at how well it went. As she discussed the depth of her feelings I had mixed emotions again - so happy she was fulfilled, sad for her for her sadness, and angst that I wasn't good enough (I have a very loud inner critic!). I vocalized this (thank goodness our partnership is so good) and she told me I truly had nothing to worry about, that I was her most important love, but she definitely missed Wade and wanted those kinds of deep connections in her life as additions, not replacements.

That inner battle raged throughout the night and even during the reclamation - a lot of old insecurities coming to the front every time she explained what he did better vs what I did better. I realized I was a bit overwhelmed, but with time and her caring listening and our talking about it I realized it was a great opportunity for me to learn about things Sara likes that we never do, and we can try to incorporate. I also realized a lot of my insecurities (which ultimately is my deepest fear - that I will not be satisfying enough to bother with in bed) are figments of my own tortured imagination.

I was so happy when I was able to make Sara come more than maybe ever before - it was a highly charged night and as difficult as some of the emotions were they were so raw and primal they elevated everything, and she was moaning about Wade, about Matthew (a connection she's made who has an amazing body, 7.5" dick, and is an experienced bull for hotwives and couples that is eager to have Sara), about ME and Wade at the same time, and then she was just moaning my name over and over again as she climaxed. When I finally came it was incredibly explosive.

I say all this to share with those of you who have been through this and will recognize all of these emotions, as well as a fair warning to those considering this - thank goodness Sara and I are so close and solid and tight. If we had tried this five years ago it might have torn us apart as we tried to navigate these emotions without the bedrock of our relationship helping keep us grounded. We have no regrets and I know how much Sara needs this and how much we as a couple need this element in our lives, but it's not for the faint of heart at all.

[Saras_Stag]

Congrats! I am sure you are on pins and needles!

While you wait, what did you ask of Sara? Will she do any pics or videos?

Thanks!

We have talked about this and Sara is excited by the prospect of making me pics and videos, assuming the guy is good with it. Of course with all the emotions yesterday they didn't think of it, though Wade did say this morning he wished they had made a video to remember it by, so if he comes back in the picture maybe next time!

[Saras_Stag]

What a wonderful turn of events, congratulations to the both of you…and wade too.

Have you two thought about having him regularly while he is in and out of town ? Some do say that things get better and better when the connection grows.

Funny thing struck me here, while wade was not “ bigger “, he seems to have still hit the spot so to speak, inquiring minds want to hear from Sara on this :-).

Congratulations again on this step forward, you should be proud of yourselves.

G

Thanks! I definitely think they should stay in touch and that he'll want to get together next time he's in town. That's my bet anyway. Sara isn't sure Wade wants to but would love that. Given his comments this morning and how he said he was masturbating thinking about yesterday I think I'm right. I think having a circle of FWBs from afar makes for interesting visits (she has two very solid prospects that live in NYC but visit Montreal often!)

Congratulations on this big step. I'm so glad it went well. And I was secretly rooting for Wade. He seemed the most emotionally mature about the whole thing, and the verbal chemistry was there. To me, that flirty exchange is key to great sex.

Congratulations as well on talking about your feelings when you had them. You'll find that skill to be very important in this crazy adventure.

When does Wade come back to Montreal?

Thanks

I was rooting for Wade too. I get the bad boy appeal, but especially for a first hotwife experience having someone so nice and sweet and caring was ideal. It's making for a more complicated afterward for sure but probably best to experience those emotions and work through them now instead of getting carried away and then smacking us in the face all of a sudden down the path.

And thanks too for talking about the feelings. I was saying to Sara (and said above) I can't imagine going through this without total transparency and honesty between husband and hotwife.

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank you both for being so honest about your feelings. Sara, I feel for you in having to say goodbye. I'm hopeful there will be a repeat date with Wade in the future. And maybe, in the meantime, he'll be a fun, sexy friend to text with.

Stag, thanks for your feelings too. It was really good to read how you processed everything. I have a soft spot for husbands on here who really adore their wives. I end up with crushes on the best of them. You are quickly moving in that direction.

Whatever your body looks like, don't sell yourself too short. You are a catch...sara knows it and loves it. We verified hot wives know it too.

[Sara_MTL]

Thank you both for being so honest about your feelings. Sara, I feel for you in having to say goodbye. I'm hopeful there will be a repeat date with Wade in the future. And maybe, in the meantime, he'll be a fun, sexy friend to text with.

Stag, thanks for your feelings too. It was really good to read how you processed everything. I have a soft spot for husbands on here who really adore their wives. I end up with crushes on the best of them. You are quickly moving in that direction.

Whatever your body looks like, don't sell yourself too short. You are a catch...sara knows it and loves it. We verified hot wives know it too.

Thank you so much to you too. Wade texted me today that he got back home. I was thrilled that he did. I was so shocked. Hubby wasn’t at all. LOL. A few hours later he texts again saying that he’s horny. Hubby suggested that I go to the bedroom and lock the door and see what happens, so I did just that. He texts that he’s hard right now and wished he had my warm and wet pussy at his disposal. This of course puts me on cloud 9, since I want the same exact thing. This is when the cybersex began, which I have never done, not even with hubby. So it was super hot and I came so many times that the covers were drenched. I am so glad that it seems he wants to stay connected to me and I can’t wait to text him again. And hopefully, fingers crossed I’ll get to jump him the minute he comes back.

[leggysman]

This is brilliant, you two. So happy for you! You've got right into this lifestyle, and are starting to see for yourselves how much fun it can be!

And Saras_Stag, the best advice I can give you about the angst is: relax. Trust your lovely lady and how much she adores you, and just hang on for a wild ride. It does get easier, but not too much easier It's still pretty intense and exciting, even once you've fully wrapped your head around it.

[MrMtl]

My god, I can’t believe we are so close. Congratulations you two. I’m really happy that everything works great. I’ve read everything and wow.

We lived on the south shore of Mtl. We are not there yet. I say yet because the seed is planted. We are role playing many times and everything’s great but nothing more. I have been reading many many stories in this forum for the past 4 years. Yours is excellent. Communication between the persons involved is the key.

I have a post in the Wannabe section if you’re curious about us.

Please do continue to write, it helps when you can identify yourself to other couple

[John99199]

We are from MTL too and we are new to this lifestyle. We started summer this year. We are on feeld as well. Pm us

[MrMtl]

We’re not on any meeting apps, my wife’s not a Hotwife Yet. I’m going very slowly here. Just don’t want her to do it only for me. She has to see herself and us, having fun with this taboo lifestyle.

BTW sorry if I’m doing some grammar errors in my writing, English is not my primary language.

[John99199]

Yes But i meant for Sarah to pm us.

[Sara_MTL]

Hello all,
I just wanted to let you know that I posited the sexy lingerie that I wore for Wade on the Hotties form. I also posted a super sexy pic that hubby took as well.

[Saras_Stag]

Thank you both for being so honest about your feelings. Sara, I feel for you in having to say goodbye. I'm hopeful there will be a repeat date with Wade in the future. And maybe, in the meantime, he'll be a fun, sexy friend to text with.

Stag, thanks for your feelings too. It was really good to read how you processed everything. I have a soft spot for husbands on here who really adore their wives. I end up with crushes on the best of them. You are quickly moving in that direction.

Whatever your body looks like, don't sell yourself too short. You are a catch...sara knows it and loves it. We verified hot wives know it too.

Thanks so much LFA!!

Yesterday I ran the gamut of emotions. When Sara told me Wade had texted her like she said I wasn't surprised - I guessed she had rocked his world and he wouldn't be able to forget her easily. What I wasn't prepared for was how much he missed her. I definitely encouraged Sara to head to the bedroom and loved that she took some time to enjoy cyber with him. She sent me an incredible video of her masturbating for him to send to him with the ring showing on her married hand which I saved and have already enjoyed a few times and is now my favourite pornographic material of all time (so far!!)

When she showed me their entire chat I have to admit I had a very mixed reaction that I had to take time to process. I was aroused, but also jealous, and upset (not at her! At myself for feeling this way!) She felt bad but I kept reassuring her that I was just being totally honest and transparent so I don't hide these feelings and let them fester. I went to Costco and having the time to process what I was feeling helped so much. I realized the reason I was reacting this way wasn't so much what Sara was doing - it was Wade. It was so obvious reading his texts and how much he admired and missed Sara and her smell and taste and body that he was as smitten with her as she was with him.

Remember they forgot didn't even think of taking a pic or video, so Friday's meet up was still in the realm of kind-of-fantasy in my head. The cybersex, while not as direct as what they did Friday, was a far more intimate sharing with me since I could see their chat, I could see how hot it was and how excited they were, I heard her pleasuring herself and whispering "I miss you" at the end of the video, I could see the delay in his responses when he came. It all of a sudden felt even more real, and the inner critic at the back of my mind screamed that Sara could possibly leave me for him or he might want to try to steal her away.

Of course, Sara was being so reassuring that I was her husband, her #1, and that could never happen... but at the same time she would love for him to eventually become her boyfriend. Once I explained how I was feeling it felt like I was making it over a hump and the other side... I found it powerfully erotic and exciting that Sara would have a boyfriend, hell, even a collection of boyfriends and maybe even a girlfriend eventually. And she was so happy... which made me so damn happy as well.

Then I saw your post LFA, which just made me feel like I was on top of the world. The idea someone so beautiful other than my wife could ever possibly crush on me? You're so sweet.

Then we were going to make a little video for Wade of our fun last night. We got to bed and immediately had some of the hottest sex we've had so far, making Sara come so much with my fingers until I couldn't hold it anymore and I mounted her... such good long fucking. I came so fucking hard and deeply in Sara last night, but we forgot to take out the phone during, so we'll have to try again soon

We're loving this, it's so damn intense but so worth it. Sara's confidence, as fragile as it is, has been growing, just look at what she posted today in the Hotties thread - I love to see it. It's like I told her this morning, I feel like I was watching a show no one was even giving a chance to and telling everyone how great it was even though it had terrible ratings, and now all of a sudden everyone loves the show and wants to watch it. That's how it feels seeing all the attention Sara is getting - she's finally realizing just how cute and sexy and hot she really is. I love it.

[Saras_Stag]

This is brilliant, you two. So happy for you! You've got right into this lifestyle, and are starting to see for yourselves how much fun it can be!

And Saras_Stag, the best advice I can give you about the angst is: relax. Trust your lovely lady and how much she adores you, and just hang on for a wild ride. It does get easier, but not too much easier It's still pretty intense and exciting, even once you've fully wrapped your head around it.

Thanks Leggsyman! I've been reading about your adventures as well and appreciate your story and advice!!

My god, I can’t believe we are so close. Congratulations you two. I’m really happy that everything works great. I’ve read everything and wow.

We lived on the south shore of Mtl. We are not there yet. I say yet because the seed is planted. We are role playing many times and everything’s great but nothing more. I have been reading many many stories in this forum for the past 4 years. Yours is excellent. Communication between the persons involved is the key.

I have a post in the Wannabe section if you’re curious about us.

Please do continue to write, it helps when you can identify yourself to other couple

Best of luck!! It is a crazy ride. Can you link your story? I couldn't find it right away.

We are from MTL too and we are new to this lifestyle. We started summer this year. We are on feeld as well. Pm us

Hello! Just read your story and you and your wife have had some amazing experiences already!! Send you a PM.

[Saras_Stag]

Last night while we had some amazing sex a couple of things Sara said are seared in my memories:

-She said I'm great and all but she needs other cock and Wade isn't going to be back for a while so she's excited by some possibilities getting close
-While deep in the throes of passion as I was fingering her she started talking about taking a cruise and choosing lucky men to bring back to our cabin

That second one was something we've never discussed before! We have talked about potentially going to a swinger friendly resort so I asked her if she wanted to do that for our anniversary trip in December and she moaned yes... especially when I described her seeing a big cock on the beach and taking him right there as I watched.

I'm so damn lucky.

[venus-can99]

I am sure many members with a lot of experience in the LS can offer up suggestions on the cruise and resorts

[Sara_MTL]

Hello all,
I just wanted to give you all an update. My latest encounter was with Alex (new guy), who I have been chatting with via text. Funny and interesting. He’s an exotic massage therapist, who does this as a side gig. I have never had an exotic massage and Alex peeked my interest. So we meet up yesterday for coffee, where I was able to ask questions and what I could expect, if I decided to get one.

We spent an hour and a half together in a very crowded small coffee shop, which made it hard to have an intimate conversation. Like,, “oh do you just use your hands or do you rub your cock on the woman?”. He does, but he couldn’t go into details 🥲

I am happy to report that we are meeting again on Tuesday for my erotic massage. Super excited. I’ll keep you all posted

[Saras_Stag]

I am sure many members with a lot of experience in the LS can offer up suggestions on the cruise and resorts

We want to travel in December, which doesn't coincide with the Bliss cruises this year, but definitely looking at one of those longer term. For December we had planned to go to a Paradisus but maybe we'll switch for a Desire Resort or Temptation. I know Desire would be the way to go for public sex whereas Temptation might be better for the availability of solo men given Desire is couples only.. Something to think about!

Hello all,
I just wanted to give you all an update. My latest encounter was with Alex (new guy), who I have been chatting with via text. Funny and interesting. He’s an exotic massage therapist, who does this as a side gig. I have never had an exotic massage and Alex peeked my interest. So we meet up yesterday for coffee, where I was able to ask questions and what I could expect, if I decided to get one.

We spent an hour and a half together in a very crowded small coffee shop, which made it hard to have an intimate conversation. Like,, “oh do you just use your hands or do you rub your cock on the woman?”. He does, but he couldn’t go into details 🥲

I am happy to report that we are meeting again on Tuesday for my erotic massage. Super excited. I’ll keep you all posted

I'm glad you really enjoyed meeting Alex yesterday and that you're looking forward to being pampered (and more!) next week during your massage. You've definitely taking to being a hotwife well, even with the emotional side of enjoying Wade and then having to say goodbye for a while to him. So proud and amazed by you, my love.

[venus-can99]

I love the man who supports his Hot Wife in her hotwifing adventures. You both are so lucky.
Sara - hope you have a relaxing (?) erotic massage and have a lot of fun

[Sara_MTL]

I love the man who supports his Hot Wife in her hotwifing adventures. You both are so lucky.
Sara - hope you have a relaxing (?) erotic massage and have a lot of fun

Me too! I’m super excited. I got the most place, now just have to confirm time.

[SteelRidge]

I am happy to report that we are meeting again on Tuesday for my erotic massage. Super excited. I’ll keep you all posted

You'll be fucking after an hour of massage.

The first time I took my wife, the massage started like a regular massage then gets to the fingering, sucking of nipples and he was going to eat her pussy but I asked my wife if she wanted to go that far and she said no, but if I wasn't there they were about 10 minutes away from fucking.

I myself have studied tantra and tantric massage and have learned a few techniques that basically puts the woman in a different universe.

[mastiff]

Best of luck on your emerging journey

[Sara_MTL]

I am happy to report that we are meeting again on Tuesday for my erotic massage. Super excited. I’ll keep you all posted

You'll be fucking after an hour of massage.

The first time I took my wife, the massage started like a regular massage then gets to the fingering, sucking of nipples and he was going to eat her pussy but I asked my wife if she wanted to go that far and she said no, but if I wasn't there they were about 10 minutes away from fucking.

I myself have studied tantra and tantric massage and have learned a few techniques that basically puts the woman in a different universe.

This freaked me out! LOL! He’s a nice guy, but I don’t want to fuck him. I just wanted a special massage. I cancelled the whole thing. LOL. No worries. I have 3 other prospects. Teeheehee

[Lookingforadventure]

Thanks so much LFA!!

You are very welcome! And thank you for another great post. Sorry for the delay in reading and responding to it. I've been busy with work and family and haven't logged on here in several days. Now I need to catch up.

Sounds like you've been having a big week in terms of emotions. You've come out the other side, but do keep talking to Sara about it. I've only been on the "hot wife" side of things, not the "my spouse is having sex and an emotional connection with someone else" side, but I can imagine how it feels. We are four years into our adventure at this point, and Adventurer still has times when something irks him or hurts him. I ALWAYS want to know so that I can adjust things on my end, or can at least reassure him.

Sara, I see that your erotic massage got cancelled. I didn't get a chance to wish you luck, so instead I'll say "good job" on trusting your gut and only doing things that you are ready for. Your gut will be a huge help in this lifestyle...both in confirming who you have chemistry with (and it might not always be the hot, muscular, well endowed, young guy) and who gives you the ick for no good reason other than that they do.

Oh, and I see a mention of Desire next December. A resort like that is on our bucket list too. If you decide to go, send me a private message. It might be fun to go at the same time (no pressure. And I'm not suggesting a four-way play time. I just think it might be nice to know someone else there if we went).

[SteelRidge]

I am happy to report that we are meeting again on Tuesday for my erotic massage. Super excited. I’ll keep you all posted

You'll be fucking after an hour of massage.

The first time I took my wife, the massage started like a regular massage then gets to the fingering, sucking of nipples and he was going to eat her pussy but I asked my wife if she wanted to go that far and she said no, but if I wasn't there they were about 10 minutes away from fucking.

I myself have studied tantra and tantric massage and have learned a few techniques that basically puts the woman in a different universe.

This freaked me out! LOL! He’s a nice guy, but I don’t want to fuck him. I just wanted a special massage. I cancelled the whole thing. LOL. No worries. I have 3 other prospects. Teeheehee

Well you could've had you husband there.

[Saras_Stag]

Thanks so much LFA!!

You are very welcome! And thank you for another great post. Sorry for the delay in reading and responding to it. I've been busy with work and family and haven't logged on here in several days. Now I need to catch up.

Sounds like you've been having a big week in terms of emotions. You've come out the other side, but do keep talking to Sara about it. I've only been on the "hot wife" side of things, not the "my spouse is having sex and an emotional connection with someone else" side, but I can imagine how it feels. We are four years into our adventure at this point, and Adventurer still has times when something irks him or hurts him. I ALWAYS want to know so that I can adjust things on my end, or can at least reassure him.

Thanks so much for saying this. Sara also encourages me to be totally transparent but it can be difficult especially when we get frustrated with our own emotions! But talking about it has been incredibly cathartic, and I think makes us even closer afterward. I feel like, for the first time in our marriage, we can be totally open with each other, even if we maybe thought or fooled ourselves into thinking we had been before.

Sara, I see that your erotic massage got cancelled. I didn't get a chance to wish you luck, so instead I'll say "good job" on trusting your gut and only doing things that you are ready for. Your gut will be a huge help in this lifestyle...both in confirming who you have chemistry with (and it might not always be the hot, muscular, well endowed, young guy) and who gives you the ick for no good reason other than that they do.

1000% agree with this!! Sara was having second thoughts even before SteelRidge mentioned she could very well end up having sex with Alex, there was just zero spark or electricity throughout their coffee date and when she realized she might be moved to fuck a guy she never would and might regret doing, she cancelled.

Oh, and I see a mention of Desire next December. A resort like that is on our bucket list too. If you decide to go, send me a private message. It might be fun to go at the same time (no pressure. And I'm not suggesting a four-way play time. I just think it might be nice to know someone else there if we went).

Sara (and I!) love this idea!!! We’ll send you a PM if we decide to, and to be honest given our chats recently it’s very, very likely (and the chance to meet new friends is making it even more appealing!)