Her Plan to Dip Toe in Hotwife Water

[slenderfish]

Congrats on a successful week I’m so happy for both of you.

Quote of the week!

Seems it went exactly as I predicted last night.

I expect to speak with SW in a couple hours and will update after.

[CuriousUK]

Can’t wait for the update, such an exciting and encouraging thread

[BallSpanking]

Congrats, Slenderfish, look forward to your update.

[slenderfish]

SW voicemail to me the morning after her encounter with Mr. M last Wednesday night. At this point I can't find an acceptable solution to post the .mp3 online so I went ahead and did a transcript.

[Sent Thursday, November 26 at 12:32 p.m. from (917) XXX-XXXX duration 2 minutes 1 second]

Hi Honey, I'm calling you with a voicemail just like we talked about and I went over to Mr. R's and Mr. M wasn't there for quite a few, a couple, actually a few hours, because he had to help his sister.

So I ended up drinking too much wine and when Mr. M did arrive, we kind of left pretty quickly after that and of course I had to stay at his place because, which he has a two-bedroom, um because I didn't want to drive home.

And so he let me stay, and we ended up having sex, and it was really good.

It was very much, umm, umm, it was lovely because there were no, there were no unknowns. And he knew what to do with me, and I knew what to do with him, and he's gained a bit of weight but (chuckle) he still knows how to use his cock, which was good, and tongue, which was nice, too.

So, yeah, it was really, really a nice experience and, umm, it might happen again this trip, but I'm not sure because I'm going to see Mr. S on Friday. But yeah, thank you for letting me experience that, and see what that was all about (chuckle). It was good to kind of "turn him" a little bit, maybe it's not all about his girlfriend after all (chuckle).

All right, I love you honey. Bye.

[regular3]

definitely keep that message. Would just love to receive a message like that.
How are you going emotionally with this burst of sex by your wife having sex with what appears to be three different men in less than a week (including you), with the remote possibility of a fourth?

[slenderfish]

definitely keep that message. Would just love to receive a message like that.
How are you going emotionally with this burst of sex by your wife having sex with what appears to be three different men in less than a week (including you), with the remote possibility of a fourth?

Sensitive of you to ask that.

I'm really a relaxed person and thus far (since August) have been doing quite well. I even surprised myself.

But I'll admit this "burst of sex" as you aptly put it, although certainly welcome by me, has caught me a bit off guard. It's fabulous and I couldn't be happier, from a logical perspective. At the same time, it's a lot to process and I've had to really take control of myself in order to keep from doing or saying something to SW that might backfire. As such, I've been extra encouraging and congratulatory to SW, which I believe has emboldened her, but I've had to use all of my self-awareness skills and techniques to keep from getting overly anxious and also to be able to focus on my normal life. Indeed, last night was the toughest night yet for sleep, but I was able to draw on my resources and ultimately was able to sleep more than enough of the night (but this including taking care of myself at midnight, at 3:00 a.m. and then again at 5:00 a.m.).

I call this a win-win-win result.

And SW has been a champ. She has listened to me and is more attentive to my perspective, compared to the past. I think the voicemail message solution has been a very good compromise for now, to give me something to latch onto.

BTW I now also have a voicemail from her, this morning, summarizing her tryst with Mr. S. I'll share it later.

Damn!

[solstice]

Is it at all likely that SW will share her sexual adventures with her closest girlfriend?

[slenderfish]

Is it at all likely that SW will share her sexual adventures with her closest girlfriend?

Her physician girlfriend in NYC is aware of my hotwife desires and a few years ago mentioned them to her, and the reply was "go for it, it's just sex" and "just get a hot trainer" etc.

Not sure if they have spoken about recent developments.

Her confidant on this matter has been Mr. M. Not sure he remains in a position for this....

[Triggershy]

Damn this is hot. I’m really looking forward to hearing how hard he fucked her last night. I’m guessing he was wayyyy more comfortable this time as well and really had her way with her. Did they spend the day together?

This is a lot. If you get antsy or feel like saying something you might regret just type it to us and don’t reach out to her. I’ve become really good at keeping the angst to myself.

Good luck. It’s hard but it’s also very rewarding in the end to watch your wife grow quicker then you can ever imagine.

[slenderfish]

Damn this is hot. I’m really looking forward to hearing how hard he fucked her last night. I’m guessing he was wayyyy more comfortable this time as well and really had her way with her. Did they spend the day together?

This is a lot. If you get antsy or feel like saying something you might regret just type it to us and don’t reach out to her. I’ve become really good at keeping the angst to myself.

Good luck. It’s hard but it’s also very rewarding in the end to watch your wife grow quicker then you can ever imagine.

Thanks, Triggershy. These kinds of posts (in support of me) are very meaningful to me right now.

[afagehi7]

Damn this is hot. I’m really looking forward to hearing how hard he fucked her last night. I’m guessing he was wayyyy more comfortable this time as well and really had her way with her. Did they spend the day together?

This is a lot. If you get antsy or feel like saying something you might regret just type it to us and don’t reach out to her. I’ve become really good at keeping the angst to myself.

Good luck. It’s hard but it’s also very rewarding in the end to watch your wife grow quicker then you can ever imagine.

Thanks, Triggershy. These kinds of posts (in support of me) are very meaningful to me right now.

Fish - you're doing it as good or better than anyone could do. Well thought out and planned. You're seeing the success of your efforts. I'm envious

[slenderfish]

I just got off the phone with SW. She is trying to pull together the details of tonight's effort. They were originally getting together with Mr. S' friend "as friends" for the purpose of SW introducing Mr. S' friend to SW's local and longtime girlfriend Ms. A. SW likes to play matchmaker.

Ms. A has been unable to commit to the plan. She is very nervous about Covid and has a grade-school daughter, and also has no babysitter for tonight. She is a pain in the ass when trying to plan anything. Actually, this difficulty to plan with SW's girlfriends is one of the strong reasons SW embraced and suggested trying the hotwife path in her hometown. SW gets quite cranky when her flaky girlfriends cancel on her, leaving her with no plans and stuck in a hotel room by herself. Mr. S is the solution. No, he apparently is one of the solutions. There's also Mr. M and possibly (but doesn't look good right now) Mr. R. Hotwifing is "plan A" and the girlfriends fall to "plan B" now. Tonight perfect example.

I asked SW if she is aware whether Mr. S has told his buddy about his trophy "on the side" or if he is continuing to pretend they are just friends. I say this because if Ms. A is along, then they will definitely present as friends/acquaintances. If she is not along, then SW and Mr. S can act all cuddly and lovey dovey in front of the guy.

I asked SW to pay attention to this, and if she finds the opportunity to feed into it (and if she is desirous of doing so) I would love it. Indeed, she would feel more free to relax, and act and feel like the desired woman that she truly is. I further reminded that she presently has plans to stay away from the Midwest until May 2021 (hates the cold weather) and, as such, might suggest having some photographs to look at during this long time away. Perhaps she might request the friend of Mr. S to take some images of the lovers with SW's iPhone? Perhaps she might discuss with Mr. S what is possible during that long time frame? She said there were already preliminary conversations about that.

She had to run, to get off the phone and return the call of Ms. A, who called while we were talking. Perhaps she found a sitter for her daughter? I'm favoring and hoping that Ms. A flakes (like usual) and then perhaps we can get some photos of the lovebirds.

I finally thanked SW for the voicemail from earlier today and noted that the voicemail solution has really shown to be great value to me. I wished her a fun and relaxing night tonight, and mentioned that I look forward for her sake, and then for my sake, to another fabulous voicemail. I promised not to pick up if she calls anytime before noon tomorrow (her time).

[slenderfish]

Hope it is just a little cold.....

I know SW well enough that yes, it may be a bit of a cold she's been fighting off, but realistically I knew it was a cover story for all the red wine I'm sure she drank on Wednesday night. She was really putting on a game face to the family on Thursday, and clearly (to me) a bit out of it. I wasn't sure if it was her mind in the aftermath of the night before, e.g. Mr. M, or if it was merely the wine. I figured I'd watch and learn, which of course I did. She needed a day to sleep in and recharge, which ended up being Friday. That did the trick. It was more the wine than anything.

[Dharmadude]

I find it interesting that at some point the HW, and the HWH too, reach that point where it truly becomes a LS, and not just an occasional bit of fun. I think SW has reached this point. She is aware of her surroundings, so to speak, and is adaptable and approachable. The opportunity was there for her to have multiple cocks within a set timeframe. One was planned, another kinda planned on, and one completely new that was hinted at. From my read, she was thinking of fucking Mr. R without ever having met him. That is beautiful in my book. She saw that he was unattached, and somewhat available, and began to form a plan to feel him out (no pun intended). Why? Because it was a new, available cock. That is HW thinking.

I have mentioned in a different thread how I have noticed a change in my HW. She will talk about encounters not only in the “I’m horny and want to play” sense, but also in a more matter of fact manner like, “Well, I would fuck anyone that I feel a vibe with.” This is so different than early on.

We HWH’s try to be encouraging and accepting without allowing any of our own angst or whatever bleed through for fear that it will discourage her in some way. Would it if I showed a hint of jealousy? I don’t know, but, even at this point, I feel her path is precarious and it could affect our/her journey. I in no way want her to stop, even if I had a twinge of jealousy or whatever. In fact I would be very much okay if she accepted this energy more often. The actual number of encounters, to me, is irrelevent, it is more about her being open to them, whether they actually occur or not. I feel you are of the same mind and are proud of her for making this transition.

It will be interesting to see where she goes with this when you return home. My HW was a “travel Slut” and would have the majority of her encounters only when away from home. She feared the shaming that could come from a community in which she lived. We have found an outlet for her that is close enough to play regularly, yet far enough removed from our community to allow her fun. Perhaps you and SW will find such a place.

[slenderfish]

Has the frequency of your sex with SW improved with her advancing into hotwifing?

Yes and no and yes.

I'll explain later.

It's finally later.

She maintains that she is in a place in her life where she is not driven to have sex, that it's not an urge like it was when she was younger. That's her reasoning when she doesn't initiate with me. She fully says she can "take it or leave it" and that she of course enjoys it with me, etc. but I'll observe that once a week for us is more frequent than she would suggest. We've gone as long as two months without (this was a few years ago). She knows I'm preferring more often than once per week.

Since late August when we started this hotwife effort, it's been once a week without fail, and sometimes twice a week. So that's an increase.

I've been wondering if she will pick up her pace and desire once she gets deeper into the hotwife mindset. I guess this past week indicates something.

- She and I had sex on Monday night, the night prior to her departure, let's call it "anticipatory reclaim" sex

- Arrived late Tues night (last week), no sex

- Out with Mr. M and came up with impromptu plan to seduce him, they had sex Wed night

- Thurs night prelim reclaim; she was very tired and suffering from hangover (not acknowledging it) so she talked dirty to me, gave me a blowjob, and finished with a handjob and a promise for more significant reclaim on Friday

[a side note, I did have a chance to see her pussy on Thursday night and it was a bit red and inflamed, had been freshly shaved and thoroughly used the night before]

- Friday she slept until 3:00 and cancelled her coffee date with Mr. S. She had dinner with me and my son, and then after he went back to sleep at her sister's place, I actually did have to remind SW of her promise of reclaim from the night before. She actually resisted but ultimately rallied and got into it once we got going

- Saturday we went out with friends and got back to hotel at 12:30 a.m. and had hot and dirty sex, she was inspired by the upcoming date and getting together with Mr. S on Sunday night, after Mr. S had responded properly to her requests for more attention and special treatment since Wed.

- Sunday (last night) with Mr. S dinner and great sex (according to her)

- Monday (tonight) again with Mr. S for a repeat

- Tuesday still unplanned.

So going back the last eight nights (counting tonight), she will have had penetrative sex with three different men on six of those nights. And Thursday counts as half. Only last Tuesday (travel day) was without any sexual activity. This might be the most sex with most guys in this short of time span, in her whole life. I'll have to find out if this is indeed the case.

To summarize and answer the question, YES (more sex between her and me "us" in recent months since starting hotwifing) and NO (for this past week, I'm keeping at our new average of twice in a week) and YES (for her; she is dramatically increasing her personal average with this past week's activities).

[slenderfish]

I find it interesting that at some point the HW, and the HWH too, reach that point where it truly becomes a LS, and not just an occasional bit of fun. I think SW has reached this point. She is aware of her surroundings, so to speak, and is adaptable and approachable. The opportunity was there for her to have multiple cocks within a set timeframe. One was planned, another kinda planned on, and one completely new that was hinted at. From my read, she was thinking of fucking Mr. R without ever having met him. That is beautiful in my book. She saw that he was unattached, and somewhat available, and began to form a plan to feel him out (no pun intended). Why? Because it was a new, available cock. That is HW thinking.

I have mentioned in a different thread how I have noticed a change in my HW. She will talk about encounters not only in the “I’m horny and want to play” sense, but also in a more matter of fact manner like, “Well, I would fuck anyone that I feel a vibe with.” This is so different than early on.

We HWH’s try to be encouraging and accepting without allowing any of our own angst or whatever bleed through for fear that it will discourage her in some way. Would it if I showed a hint of jealousy? I don’t know, but, even at this point, I feel her path is precarious and it could affect our/her journey. I in no way want her to stop, even if I had a twinge of jealousy or whatever. In fact I would be very much okay if she accepted this energy more often. The actual number of encounters, to me, is irrelevent, it is more about her being open to them, whether they actually occur or not. I feel you are of the same mind and are proud of her for making this transition.

It will be interesting to see where she goes with this when you return home. My HW was a “travel Slut” and would have the majority of her encounters only when away from home. She feared the shaming that could come from a community in which she lived. We have found an outlet for her that is close enough to play regularly, yet far enough removed from our community to allow her fun. Perhaps you and SW will find such a place.

Prescient.

[Mark K]

Wow, it sounds like she is really in touch with her new-found type of sexuality; and having sex for the pure enjoyment of sex (for you both.)

Have you stood back and realized and reflected that, after all the built up desire, prepping and planning, your wife is now making love with/fucking other men ...and enjoying it! ... and sharing that with you!

What does it feel like?

[BallSpanking]

Mr M R sounds like he's blowing it ...
Sunday and Monday nights 'great sex' with Mr S ... Sounds like it's getting cozier.
Any details on Mr S? Did she take him bareback, brown-eye ...?

[solstice]

Thank you for your full and stimulating answer, you may have set a train in action, and I am not speaking of Thomas the tank engine.

[superb101]

Thanks for sharing your story!

[slenderfish]

Mr M R sounds like he's blowing it ...
Sunday and Monday nights 'great sex' with Mr S ... Sounds like it's getting cozier.
Any details on Mr S? Did she take him bareback, brown-eye ...?

When I spoke with SW earlier today she said that the voicemail will have to suffice until she gets home and during the reclaim she will offer up the "blow by blow" (my words, pun intended).

I've transcribed the voicemail she left early this morning after Mr. S left (as I'd predicted, he had to get home so his teenage son would not be alone overnight). I'll post it shortly in the same format as the voicemail after she was with Mr. M, a couple days earlier, which I posted earlier this afternoon.

Not sure how it'll all unfold tonight but it's presently 10:30 on a Monday night where they are, so any action will occur sometime in the next hour or so.

I didn't ask, but unless Mr. S insisted on a condom, SW let him go bareback. I mean, she went bareback with Mr. M so why not Mr. S?

Knowing SW like I do, if there was a time to be even more relaxed and "into it" with Mr. S, it will be tonight and now. She does know his desire and if she wants to leave an extra deep impression on him (remember she has no plans to be in his area until May 2021) in order to tempt him to travel to her between now and then, she'll make the "grand gesture" whatever that may be.

But she doesn't necessarily think strategically like this. She goes with her emotions as they may move from time to time, but those may be sufficient drivers to get her there.

[slenderfish]

Wow, it sounds like she is really in touch with her new-found type of sexuality; and having sex for the pure enjoyment of sex (for you both.)

Have you stood back and realized and reflected that, after all the built up desire, prepping and planning, your wife is now making love with/fucking other men ...and enjoying it! ... and sharing that with you!

What does it feel like?

This is all new to us.

Roller derby image/reference: I was ahead of SW for many years, and then slowed down and let her catch up within the past couple of years (catching up to my snail pace and sometimes even dormant pace) such that I was able to take a few steps back to her in late August and reach back to grab her hand, asking if she is willing to try a whip move, and she tentatively agreed. It took a bit of effort to pull her up to me and then past me, and she has now shot ahead. She apparently likes being in the lead and is skating along to keep the lead. I believe I'll need to skate my ass off to catch up.

As for how it feels, I'm extremely gratified and honored by SW and her trust and confidence in pursuing this. It was very touch-and-go at the beginning, and it was her expectation (that I'd painted in her mind) of being desired and showered with attention from a man or men that got her off the starting line. When this didn't happen, when Mr. S approached it in a completely different manner (to be honest, she expected him to read her mind) from what she expected and wanted, she quickly soured. But we persisted, and I helped her communicate to Mr. S what she wants and needs, and it seems she had to do it yet again just last week, before he finally made the proper adjustment.

And made it he did.

I'm now quite confident she will come home with a strong dose of NRE and that'll be the next challenge. She is an emotional and pure lover and as such is apt to fall for a guy, and may misinterpret her desire and NRE as being deeper feelings.

At the same time, it's been my postulate that she should move ahead and create the path to hotwifing that makes the most sense to her, and that once she tastes the fruit, I'll be in a better position to request more for my side of the ledger. I believe that's already happened to a degree, and that she has also realized the benefit of my support (and involvement) along the way. To wit, the voicemails immediately after the encounters.

So that's the next step. She returns home on Wednesday with glassy eyes, and we do the full reclaiming, etc. then hopefully we reflect and identify what has worked and what has not. We will then rebalance and set the stage for whatever is next.

That will be the uncharted territory. She recently reiterated she is not interested in playing here in our backyard. But in order to see Mr. S, he'll have to travel to her. Apparently there has been an initial conversation about that, but she takes a big risk in relying on it, and I'm not sure she realizes the position it puts her in, with respect to their power dynamic. I mean, he took the power initially and she is clearly taking it back with this visit.

At the same time, she unexpectedly showed that she is open to jumping into it with another guy; she bedded Mr. M on a whim and was ready to pursue Mr. R if he was willing. I think this is a very good development, and I'm going to recommend she have a second guy in the mix so she doesn't get overly dependent on the one guy.

She had initial conversations with Mr. M about his coming to our area in early 2021 (he already has plans to visit friends here in January), but through today Mr. M has been a no-show and that is greatly irritating SW. She texted him the day after their tryst and he has not replied. It's been five days. She asked me to start thinking of an appropriate next communication, to get him back on track.

A brand spanking new Hotwife, this one, and we will find out (as will she) what that really means.

[slenderfish]

Voicemail from SW early this morning after Mr. S left her hotel room:

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[Sent Monday, November 30 at 00:06 a.m. from (917) XXX-XXXX duration 2 minutes 4 seconds]

Hi Sweety, it's SW, it's, uhhh, midnight here and Mr. S just left, and uhh, so I wanted to call, and I know you wanted me to leave you a voicemail, that's it's important. Umm, that I let you know we had a really nice evening, we had a proper dinner that we got from Restaurant C, and he paid (chuckle), along with a bottle of wine. Of course, it's like drinking vinegar, as in having to pay for a wine bottle from a restaurant because the liquor stores here close at six, umm, instead of Total Wine.

Anyway, umm, but we had a really good conversation, umm, more important, and then we did come back to the room and we had sex and I did orgasm which was nice, umm and he did too, which I'm sure he felt was very nice as well, and we had a nice time. It was umm it was a good night and I'm sure we'll have lots to reclaim when I come home, and lots to talk about. He did ask me a little bit about our situation, umm, so we'll have to talk about that. I did sort of maintain that it was an open marriage, which, though that's not the case but, umm, as far as umm, we know what it is, but umm that seems to be the most palatable to most people, I think, in general, umm. So, uh, yeah.

That's about it. I love you so much and I hope you had a good flight, and umm I will talk to you tomorrow.

Love you, bye.

[regular3]

Wow, that's fabulous. Looks like you are both well and truly on your way with SW trying to put a label on it that sits the most comfortably with her.
I did like how she calls it an open marriage without it really being the case.

[yielding william]

I just read all this for the first time. Exciting journey. Your wife's photos are beautiful. Yours and a guy named Des are among the best written my wife and I have come across. Thank you for writing all that.