"Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man"

[alan137]

Why do I want my wife to have sex with other men?

When we were married we made vows of being faithful to one another. The inference was that this included sex.

For the first 7 years this was fine but then a critical element of a healthy long last marriage was quietly sliding out the door.

Lust!

Lust is the critical element that slides out the door of most marriages. And, like many things, you don't miss it until you realise that it isn't there anymore.

I believe that lust is silent killer of many marriages, many partnerships.

In a nutshell, that is why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

The marriage vows made all those years ago still hold. I love my wife and want her to enjoy the exciting feeling of lusting for another man. I want ed her to experience the thrill of going on a date with another man with the clear and spoken intention to see if they are compatible. To see if there is a sexual spark or attraction between them.

Of course this moments filled me with desire for her and reignited my lust for her. Of course the risk was that she would fall in love with her new man. Well, my wife needs asn emotional connection so I fully expected this to be the case.

However, I was confident that the love we had transcended sex and that while she would fall in lust with someone else she would always remain my wife.

I am happy to say that she did 'fall in love' with three of her lovers/boyfriends and after long periods of time the lust and newness disappeared for them too and she moved onto another 'new' man. I became friends with all of her long-term lovers.

My wife prefers the boyfriend/girlfriend experience and so do I. I want her to have full feelings of sexual desire and love for her new man. Her current boyfriend has been on the scene for about 7 years. And guess what?

In spite of having a honeymoon experience for those years lust is gradually fading.

I know many (if not most) people will disagree with me but I have lived through the lack of lust scenario and how it could have ended my marriage. I ended up finding a lover but, while the sex was fantastic, the deception made it impossible for me to continue seeing her.

Many years later the lack of lust and therefore good sex for my wife and I caused me to have a long conversation with my wife. Long story short she became a hot wife and we became closer than we ever had been before. And yes, the lust returned with a vengeance.

We were making love almost every day as was enjoying full unprotected sex with her lovers as well. She took all of them in our bed because that was where she was comfortable. For me I loved coming home to find her in bed with her boyfriend.

As her husband I had given her my blessing to have sex with whomever she wanted, wherever she wanted whenever she wanted. She did not need to tell me before or even after the act. But she wasn't to hide the evidence. For me that was part of the thrill. The not knowing.

With her first long-term BF I remember undressing her and guiding her into his arms. I saw his erection push into her tummy and her breasts press into his chest.

They kissed. It was a kiss that became passionate. I watched as he lay her back on the bed, settle over her, and enter her. That was a moment that will live in my memory forever.

As he was inside her I kissed her, told her that I loved her and then quietly left the room to give them some private alone time.

That marked the beginning of 12 marvellous lust filled years.

And that's why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

[36DDwife]

Why do I want my wife to have sex with other men?

When we were married we made vows of being faithful to one another. The inference was that this included sex.

For the first 7 years this was fine but then a critical element of a healthy long last marriage was quietly sliding out the door.

Lust!

Lust is the critical element that slides out the door of most marriages. And, like many things, you don't miss it until you realise that it isn't there anymore.

I believe that lust is silent killer of many marriages, many partnerships.

In a nutshell, that is why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

The marriage vows made all those years ago still hold. I love my wife and want her to enjoy the exciting feeling of lusting for another man. I want ed her to experience the thrill of going on a date with another man with the clear and spoken intention to see if they are compatible. To see if there is a sexual spark or attraction between them.

Of course this moments filled me with desire for her and reignited my lust for her. Of course the risk was that she would fall in love with her new man. Well, my wife needs asn emotional connection so I fully expected this to be the case.

However, I was confident that the love we had transcended sex and that while she would fall in lust with someone else she would always remain my wife.

I am happy to say that she did 'fall in love' with three of her lovers/boyfriends and after long periods of time the lust and newness disappeared for them too and she moved onto another 'new' man. I became friends with all of her long-term lovers.

My wife prefers the boyfriend/girlfriend experience and so do I. I want her to have full feelings of sexual desire and love for her new man. Her current boyfriend has been on the scene for about 7 years. And guess what?

In spite of having a honeymoon experience for those years lust is gradually fading.

I know many (if not most) people will disagree with me but I have lived through the lack of lust scenario and how it could have ended my marriage. I ended up finding a lover but, while the sex was fantastic, the deception made it impossible for me to continue seeing her.

Many years later the lack of lust and therefore good sex for my wife and I caused me to have a long conversation with my wife. Long story short she became a hot wife and we became closer than we ever had been before. And yes, the lust returned with a vengeance.

We were making love almost every day as was enjoying full unprotected sex with her lovers as well. She took all of them in our bed because that was where she was comfortable. For me I loved coming home to find her in bed with her boyfriend.

As her husband I had given her my blessing to have sex with whomever she wanted, wherever she wanted whenever she wanted. She did not need to tell me before or even after the act. But she wasn't to hide the evidence. For me that was part of the thrill. The not knowing.

With her first long-term BF I remember undressing her and guiding her into his arms. I saw his erection push into her tummy and her breasts press into his chest.

They kissed. It was a kiss that became passionate. I watched as he lay her back on the bed, settle over her, and enter her. That was a moment that will live in my memory forever.

As he was inside her I kissed her, told her that I loved her and then quietly left the room to give them some private alone time.

That marked the beginning of 12 marvellous lust filled years.

And that's why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

Well said! Bravo Alan

[weluvtoodoit]

Beautifully written Alan. Lust is something that can slip away without us realizing it. Take care and be safe.

[HWwanabe]

That really reads like a love story .
I just wish I could be in a similar situation like yours , you make this lifestyle sound like there is nothing better than that .

[alan137]

Thank you for your comments. Yes it is a love story and I have loved every second of the experience. Seeing her naked and in the arms of another man is wonderful. Watching her face as he gives her sexual pleasure is out of this world. They are beautiful feelings that will stay with me forever.

[brutay2]

Thank you for your comments. Yes it is a love story and I have loved every second of the experience. Seeing her naked and in the arms of another man is wonderful. Watching her face as he gives her sexual pleasure is out of this world. They are beautiful feelings that will stay with me forever.

You are not alone. This is the main reason we all want to experience and share the pleasure of our wives as they are being fucked by other men.

[dinoo]

Thank you for your comments. Yes it is a love story and I have loved every second of the experience. Seeing her naked and in the arms of another man is wonderful. Watching her face as he gives her sexual pleasure is out of this world. They are beautiful feelings that will stay with me forever.

You are not alone. This is the main reason we all want to experience and share the pleasure of our wives as they are being fucked by other men.

"... that will stay with me forever.....

It does indeed........

Dinoo

[brutay2]

That really reads like a love story .
I just wish I could be in a similar situation like yours , you make this lifestyle sound like there is nothing better than that .

it is true there is nothing better. This is why we should be proud of it and help in bringing more people into this life style.

[brutay2]

I wish my husband would let me do this someday. He's my first and only sexual partner, and after a few years of marriage I feel like if I only fuck one person in my life then I'm missing out on so many things. I'm still really young and hot and I guess that's why he won't let me go out have sex with other men, fearing that they might give me better, stronger orgasms than he can give me, that I might enjoy having sex with other people than him. I just wish he could understand your mindset and reasonings and let me freely explore my sexuality in any way I choose.

If you feel that your husband will have adverse effects to you mentioning Hot wifing to him, tell him about this forum, and give him some time to look and read some of the good articles and experiences of the members here and how much they are in love with their wives and how much their hot wives love their husband more so while they are fucking another man. I think it will not take him long but he will approach you with the idea of picking another man to fuck you. Good luck to you both.

[xian2014]

I wish my husband would let me do this someday. He's my first and only sexual partner, and after a few years of marriage I feel like if I only fuck one person in my life then I'm missing out on so many things. I'm still really young and hot and I guess that's why he won't let me go out have sex with other men, fearing that they might give me better, stronger orgasms than he can give me, that I might enjoy having sex with other people than him. I just wish he could understand your mindset and reasonings and let me freely explore my sexuality in any way I choose.

If you feel that your husband will have adverse effects to you mentioning Hot wifing to him, tell him about this forum, and give him some time to look and read some of the good articles and experiences of the members here and how much they are in love with their wives and how much their hot wives love their husband more so while they are fucking another man. I think it will not take him long but he will approach you with the idea of picking another man to fuck you. Good luck to you both.

Or it could end their marriage just because YOU are into it doesnt mean everyone is into it, I feel this lifestyle is one way and only looks out for the best interest of the wife and not the husband, granted this is a hot wife/ cuckold and I get that still when I read, to make her happy, to make her feel wanted, to make her feel desired, to give her the freedom, to me its all selfish not nurturing. Men have desires, men want to be happy, men want to feel wanted and men want to fuck every single woman, least every woman I see I want to have sex with, so how can be said that only women want variety?

[brutay2]

I agree men want variety as well. The beauty in this forum is that most if not all men and women transcend the desire of personal gratification and start finding pleasure in giving their partner in life the opportunity to experience additional lovers. Think about this for a while and allow yourself the possibility of seeing her fucking another man and participating as a threesome or a foursome strictly in a sexual ,not emotional, interaction. Give yourself time and evaluate the pleasure of the experience

[xian2014]

Could be a gravitate toward getting more excited by having my partner watch me satisfy another woman.

[2inUPMichigan]

Or it could end their marriage just because YOU are into it doesnt mean everyone is into it, I feel this lifestyle is one way and only looks out for the best interest of the wife and not the husband, granted this is a hot wife/ cuckold and I get that still when I read, to make her happy, to make her feel wanted, to make her feel desired, to give her the freedom, to me its all selfish not nurturing. Men have desires, men want to be happy, men want to feel wanted and men want to fuck every single woman, least every woman I see I want to have sex with, so how can be said that only women want variety?

Nope, if you read a lot of threads this is about fulfilling the fantasies of the men in many of the situations. This is about the desires of the men and the fact that they are turned on by the idea of their wives having sex with other men. Why do you think so many of them spend years trying to find ways to encourage their wives to agree to this?

In some cases the men have a difficult time when their fantasy turns to reality and t doesn't play out exactly as it looks in their head.

Have you read the accounts of men that only get excited when their wives tell them about their play dates?

You have posted in the past that this isn't a choice that you would make and that you are only here to read the stories and that is fine.

It really is okay if you don't understand the choices that the members here make. Their choices may not be ones that you would make and that's fine because we try to stress here that it is important that each couple makes the best decisions for them.

Maybe swinging would appeal to you more?

[PeterDonna]

Go online and find out the answer to this subject.

If it has taken 44 pages and 1088 posts, you can be assured that none of you get, got or have it.

[7thSecond]

I agree with the guys who say it makes you look at your wife as not as a possession. I know that at any time my wife could easily fall in love with one of her fucks and leave me, and I'm just fine with that. Not that I want her to but...

[schamz]

Why do I want my wife to have sex with other men?

When we were married we made vows of being faithful to one another. The inference was that this included sex.

For the first 7 years this was fine but then a critical element of a healthy long last marriage was quietly sliding out the door.

Lust!

Lust is the critical element that slides out the door of most marriages. And, like many things, you don't miss it until you realise that it isn't there anymore.

I believe that lust is silent killer of many marriages, many partnerships.

In a nutshell, that is why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

The marriage vows made all those years ago still hold. I love my wife and want her to enjoy the exciting feeling of lusting for another man. I want ed her to experience the thrill of going on a date with another man with the clear and spoken intention to see if they are compatible. To see if there is a sexual spark or attraction between them.

Of course this moments filled me with desire for her and reignited my lust for her. Of course the risk was that she would fall in love with her new man. Well, my wife needs asn emotional connection so I fully expected this to be the case.

However, I was confident that the love we had transcended sex and that while she would fall in lust with someone else she would always remain my wife.

I am happy to say that she did 'fall in love' with three of her lovers/boyfriends and after long periods of time the lust and newness disappeared for them too and she moved onto another 'new' man. I became friends with all of her long-term lovers.

My wife prefers the boyfriend/girlfriend experience and so do I. I want her to have full feelings of sexual desire and love for her new man. Her current boyfriend has been on the scene for about 7 years. And guess what?

In spite of having a honeymoon experience for those years lust is gradually fading.

I know many (if not most) people will disagree with me but I have lived through the lack of lust scenario and how it could have ended my marriage. I ended up finding a lover but, while the sex was fantastic, the deception made it impossible for me to continue seeing her.

Many years later the lack of lust and therefore good sex for my wife and I caused me to have a long conversation with my wife. Long story short she became a hot wife and we became closer than we ever had been before. And yes, the lust returned with a vengeance.

We were making love almost every day as was enjoying full unprotected sex with her lovers as well. She took all of them in our bed because that was where she was comfortable. For me I loved coming home to find her in bed with her boyfriend.

As her husband I had given her my blessing to have sex with whomever she wanted, wherever she wanted whenever she wanted. She did not need to tell me before or even after the act. But she wasn't to hide the evidence. For me that was part of the thrill. The not knowing.

With her first long-term BF I remember undressing her and guiding her into his arms. I saw his erection push into her tummy and her breasts press into his chest.

They kissed. It was a kiss that became passionate. I watched as he lay her back on the bed, settle over her, and enter her. That was a moment that will live in my memory forever.

As he was inside her I kissed her, told her that I loved her and then quietly left the room to give them some private alone time.

That marked the beginning of 12 marvellous lust filled years.

And that's why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

This is sooo beautiful.

[hwsassysouth]

Why do I want my wife to have sex with other men?

When we were married we made vows of being faithful to one another. The inference was that this included sex.

For the first 7 years this was fine but then a critical element of a healthy long last marriage was quietly sliding out the door.

Lust!

Lust is the critical element that slides out the door of most marriages. And, like many things, you don't miss it until you realise that it isn't there anymore.

I believe that lust is silent killer of many marriages, many partnerships.

In a nutshell, that is why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

The marriage vows made all those years ago still hold. I love my wife and want her to enjoy the exciting feeling of lusting for another man. I want ed her to experience the thrill of going on a date with another man with the clear and spoken intention to see if they are compatible. To see if there is a sexual spark or attraction between them.

Of course this moments filled me with desire for her and reignited my lust for her. Of course the risk was that she would fall in love with her new man. Well, my wife needs asn emotional connection so I fully expected this to be the case.

However, I was confident that the love we had transcended sex and that while she would fall in lust with someone else she would always remain my wife.

I am happy to say that she did 'fall in love' with three of her lovers/boyfriends and after long periods of time the lust and newness disappeared for them too and she moved onto another 'new' man. I became friends with all of her long-term lovers.

My wife prefers the boyfriend/girlfriend experience and so do I. I want her to have full feelings of sexual desire and love for her new man. Her current boyfriend has been on the scene for about 7 years. And guess what?

In spite of having a honeymoon experience for those years lust is gradually fading.

I know many (if not most) people will disagree with me but I have lived through the lack of lust scenario and how it could have ended my marriage. I ended up finding a lover but, while the sex was fantastic, the deception made it impossible for me to continue seeing her.

Many years later the lack of lust and therefore good sex for my wife and I caused me to have a long conversation with my wife. Long story short she became a hot wife and we became closer than we ever had been before. And yes, the lust returned with a vengeance.

We were making love almost every day as was enjoying full unprotected sex with her lovers as well. She took all of them in our bed because that was where she was comfortable. For me I loved coming home to find her in bed with her boyfriend.

As her husband I had given her my blessing to have sex with whomever she wanted, wherever she wanted whenever she wanted. She did not need to tell me before or even after the act. But she wasn't to hide the evidence. For me that was part of the thrill. The not knowing.

With her first long-term BF I remember undressing her and guiding her into his arms. I saw his erection push into her tummy and her breasts press into his chest.

They kissed. It was a kiss that became passionate. I watched as he lay her back on the bed, settle over her, and enter her. That was a moment that will live in my memory forever.

As he was inside her I kissed her, told her that I loved her and then quietly left the room to give them some private alone time.

That marked the beginning of 12 marvellous lust filled years.

And that's why I want my wife to have sex with other men.

This is incredible.

[alan137]

Thank you all for the wonderful comments.

[marriedman50]

This is such an interesting thread, even though I still don't fully understand why I want my wife to have sex with another man it is gratifying to hear others feel the same, for so many different reasons some of which I agree with, but others quite different... This is still my fantasy and we are far from becoming a HW couple, but I want to try to understand my own motivations before taking it further (though she knows about my fantasies).

I think for me a lot of the excitement about the idea is as a way to deal with jealousy. In my first relationship I often thought about and fantasized about my girlfriend with her ex, imagining watching them having sex, and getting extremely excited about the idea. She told me that my cock was "kind of thin" and that "there was more feeling" with a thicker one, and since she had only been with two other guys I figured her ex must have been a lot girthier than me, and that added to my feelings of jealousy and excitement thinking about them having sex. As it happened, she did end up cheating on me with him, but that didn't make me feel excited - I handled it very badly. And in later relationships I was often very jealous and possessive. When I met my wife twenty years ago we went through a rocky period after the first years, we were on a break as I wasn't sure of my feelings, and she met someone else who was clearly more physically attractive than me (and I think well endowed, though I don't think that mattered much to my wife). That didn't last, and we eventually made it back together and things improved massively and we've now been happily married for the last ten years. But throughout these years I have never stopped fantasizing about her having sex with that guy. I couldn't stop thinking about how sex must have been better with him - she did admit that "it's always exciting in the beginning", and that he was more good-looking than me, and while those thoughts filled me with jealousy they also excited me in strange ways. Over the years, my jealousy dissipated and I could handle those thoughts better and I was (and am) no longer worried about my wife cheating on me or leaving me. But the excitement of those fantasies is as strong as it's ever been, and I often fantasize about her other exes as well - she has told me about some of her past sexual experiences and I find thinking about those incredibly hot. The thought about her being lustful and sexually active with others, enjoying sex for the pure physical pleasure is very erotic to me. With my jealousy now a thing of the past, I am more and more wanting her to relive that part of her life, feel the excitement of flirtation and sexual attraction to a new man. With family life and children taking center stage, our sex life has inevitably become rather routine and staid, at best weekly, and with menopause she is losing a lot of her natural libido. Her lust is also diminished from stress, anxiety, and a loss of body confidence (even though she's still sexy as hell).

I want her to regain her lust - and I know that she will not feel that lust for me again, not without some major rekindling of her sexuality by another man. So my jealousy - the feeling of anger at her being sexually pleasured by another man - has turned into a desire to see her getting that pleasure with me as a bystander, watching her let herself go and enjoy the body and cock of a new man, watching her give in to the pure physical lust that you only get in the very beginning stages of a relationship. While I'm hoping that would awaken her lust for me again, I would be happy just to see her experience that rush and thrill again even if it's just with another man - for me, watching it would be more exciting than taking part (though I'm sure I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off her when they've finished). I suppose I just want her to become that sexual being she once was when we first met, free of responsibilities and free to embrace her sexuality without limits.

[FL_Cpl_4fun]

A guy my lady screwed earlier this year on her own, asked the same question. Why would your husband let another guy have sex with a pretty girl like you, not get mad and and then even want a recording of it? She said, “because he likes it.” That’s all she needs to understand and she’s underway. Sometimes it’s best not to overthink things. Anyone who asks this question either already knows the answer or is wired a different way such that that they would never understand the reasons given.

I think the guy was trying to belittle me by asking that question of her, as if I was not properly valuing her, but he just demonstrates that he’s not an advocate of this kind of freedom. So it didn’t help him.

[SailorGuy]

When my wife first got together with her new lover ( 20 years ago and they're still going strong ) the man was both delighted and a bit confused. My wife has this "wholesomeness" vibe about her that is in fact pretty accurate. He couldn't quite believe she said "yes" when he asked her to get together one weekend when I was out of town. ( He was a neighbor and a casual friend; turns out he'd been in love with my wife from the moment he met her at a school PTA meeting years before. )
He had no idea, he said, that our marriage was on the rocks or anything. But surely, with her giving herself freely to him in her bed, this must be the case?
At that point my wife didn't feel comfortable telling him the truth: that this was her husband's idea, and she was cool with it too. So she told him we had an "open marriage". We were "hip" and non-conventional, you know?
That mollified him for a while. But once things got more serious between them he pretty much insisted to my wife that he become her exclusive lover. He was in love with her and didn't want her to have sex with any other man - including her husband!
This was a huge turning point for us. My wife shared his wishes with me and presumed I'd be upset. In fact I was deeply aroused. I asked her what SHE wanted. She told me that, well, she didn't want to lose him as a lover, he's so good in bed, so big, etc. So much better than me. SO I told her I supported his demand, and in that moment I became a cuckold - something even more intense than merely having a hotwife!
And this has been our status for over 10 years now. My entire sex life revolves around my wife's: I get to masturbate, while she has a stud of a lover. I am so constantly high about this I am happy, very happy. And my wife is having the best sex of her life, while her lover gets to make love with the woman of his dreams. And my wife and I are very secure in our marriage; she has told him there is NO chance of our splitting up over this. So her lover is happy just to have this great relationship with my beautiful wife. Everybody happy.

[xian2014]

When my wife first got together with her new lover ( 20 years ago and they're still going strong ) the man was both delighted and a bit confused. My wife has this "wholesomeness" vibe about her that is in fact pretty accurate. He couldn't quite believe she said "yes" when he asked her to get together one weekend when I was out of town. ( He was a neighbor and a casual friend; turns out he'd been in love with my wife from the moment he met her at a school PTA meeting years before. )
He had no idea, he said, that our marriage was on the rocks or anything. But surely, with her giving herself freely to him in her bed, this must be the case?
At that point my wife didn't feel comfortable telling him the truth: that this was her husband's idea, and she was cool with it too. So she told him we had an "open marriage". We were "hip" and non-conventional, you know?
That mollified him for a while. But once things got more serious between them he pretty much insisted to my wife that he become her exclusive lover. He was in love with her and didn't want her to have sex with any other man - including her husband!
This was a huge turning point for us. My wife shared his wishes with me and presumed I'd be upset. In fact I was deeply aroused. I asked her what SHE wanted. She told me that, well, she didn't want to lose him as a lover, he's so good in bed, so big, etc. So much better than me. SO I told her I supported his demand, and in that moment I became a cuckold - something even more intense than merely having a hotwife!
And this has been our status for over 10 years now. My entire sex life revolves around my wife's: I get to masturbate, while she has a stud of a lover. I am so constantly high about this I am happy, very happy. And my wife is having the best sex of her life, while her lover gets to make love with the woman of his dreams. And my wife and I are very secure in our marriage; she has told him there is NO chance of our splitting up over this. So her lover is happy just to have this great relationship with my beautiful wife. Everybody happy.

Im not sure if this is true, but I dont know you to doubt you but this is where this lifestyle loses me, why would you want to give up having sex with the woman you love the person who is supposed to be your forever, did you not enjoy sex with your wife? do you not miss her in an intimate way? there is no way I would become a roommate because that is what your are now is just merely a roommate. Your an adult who can make decisions for themselves and at the end of the day its none of my business how you guys live but you did post so I wanted to ask my question because there is no way I would give up sex, no way would I settle for masturbating.

[MsMsld-1]

xian2014: Horses for courses and different strokes for different folks. MsM and I have been married for 45 years but for the last 5 i haven’t had actual intercourse with Her once and for the last 4 i haven’t orgasmed at all !! That entire time i have been in a chastity cage and MsM has been having “sex” at least 3 times a week with a big dildo. Next i am very much hoping She will change the dildo for the real thing in the form of a younger stud. The thing is i absolutely love both my Wife and the sex life we have and plan to have in the future. If we were all the same life would be incredibly boring. Everybody is entitled to their own loves and desires and make no judgement on anybody else. Remember i don’t even get to masturbate lol !!

MsM’s ld

[SailorGuy]

When my wife first got together with her new lover ( 20 years ago and they're still going strong ) the man was both delighted and a bit confused. My wife has this "wholesomeness" vibe about her that is in fact pretty accurate. He couldn't quite believe she said "yes" when he asked her to get together one weekend when I was out of town. ( He was a neighbor and a casual friend; turns out he'd been in love with my wife from the moment he met her at a school PTA meeting years before. )
He had no idea, he said, that our marriage was on the rocks or anything. But surely, with her giving herself freely to him in her bed, this must be the case?
At that point my wife didn't feel comfortable telling him the truth: that this was her husband's idea, and she was cool with it too. So she told him we had an "open marriage". We were "hip" and non-conventional, you know?
That mollified him for a while. But once things got more serious between them he pretty much insisted to my wife that he become her exclusive lover. He was in love with her and didn't want her to have sex with any other man - including her husband!
This was a huge turning point for us. My wife shared his wishes with me and presumed I'd be upset. In fact I was deeply aroused. I asked her what SHE wanted. She told me that, well, she didn't want to lose him as a lover, he's so good in bed, so big, etc. So much better than me. SO I told her I supported his demand, and in that moment I became a cuckold - something even more intense than merely having a hotwife!
And this has been our status for over 10 years now. My entire sex life revolves around my wife's: I get to masturbate, while she has a stud of a lover. I am so constantly high about this I am happy, very happy. And my wife is having the best sex of her life, while her lover gets to make love with the woman of his dreams. And my wife and I are very secure in our marriage; she has told him there is NO chance of our splitting up over this. So her lover is happy just to have this great relationship with my beautiful wife. Everybody happy.

Im not sure if this is true, but I dont know you to doubt you but this is where this lifestyle loses me, why would you want to give up having sex with the woman you love the person who is supposed to be your forever, did you not enjoy sex with your wife? do you not miss her in an intimate way? there is no way I would become a roommate because that is what your are now is just merely a roommate. Your an adult who can make decisions for themselves and at the end of the day its none of my business how you guys live but you did post so I wanted to ask my question because there is no way I would give up sex, no way would I settle for masturbating.

Yeah, all of this is true, and I get that it's not for everybody.
It's not a "lifestyle" I ever planned, but it's been more of a discovery. For instance, the day my wife and I married ( very traditional wedding, in a fancy church, relatives everywhere, the works ) if somebody had told me about our future scenario I would have thought them quite mad. The whole thing evolved and progressed quite organically, and there's been no denying the power and truth of it for us.
Having seen so many dead and dying marriages around us, I for one am glad our marriage - as unconventional as it seems to be - is nonetheless very alive and very vital. I always hated and feared, when I was younger, the notion of "routine sex" - as if that's what awaited the young vibrantly sexy couple down the road. Well our sex life is anything but routine! And since the engine of sexual passion is the imagination, well, our situation is all about that.
I am 60 now, and my wife is 55. We feel as fresh and alive as we were 30 years ago.
But this is just our story, what has happened to us and how it works. Everybody has their own unique story. Whatever works, whatever keeps that "spark" alive and well is a happy story in my opinion. There are others' stories and lifestyles here that don't appeal to me or my wife, just as our situation doesn't appeal to them. That's fine. Keep reading here in this forum and see how diverse things can be!

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I guess my posts mostly belong in the Cuckold forum, not Hotwifing. And most of them are these days because that's where we've evolved to.
But we DID start out with a hotwifing dynamic, where my wife and I had the fantasy and when it became a reality we continued as lovers. Until her lover wanted to be her exclusive lover. Then we were faced with a decision, and I discovered that I'd much rather my wife continue with her lover than to lose him altogether. And that being denied sex by my beautiful wife was so arousing.
I'm sure many hotwifing couples never face this situation, or if they did they might reject it. Just like when the wife and her lover fall in love with each other that's the end of it. But for us what has worked is the two of them falling in love and me being out of the picture sexually. My wife would never have gotten into this lifestyle to have sex with multiple partners; she only sleeps with someone she has feelings for. So her being lovers with this one man for 20 years now is who she is. We get along as great as we always have. Yeah, it was my fantasy to begin with, but she has found great happiness in how it has played out. And so have I. And I am happy for her lover too. Everybody seems to have gotten what they most wanted.