Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[HelloPeaches]

Yep - cowgirl has the syrup - premaritally because I get really good clitoral stimulation with penetration - I'm gettin' horney thinking about it now...

[Niceguysj99]

Peaches, I see in porn movies, guys banging away at a woman with a couple fingers inside them, going like crazy. Does this really feel good? My wife doesn’t get off on it.

[HelloPeaches]

Peaches, I see in porn movies, guys banging away at a woman with a couple fingers inside them, going like crazy. Does this really feel good? My wife doesn’t get off on it.

I feel that all of these things are individual, but for me: fingers = good fun; fingers + mouth = WooHoo!!
Porn isn't always representative of people actually having a stars and fireworks and rainbows moment.

[Trixkat]

On hotwife and cucking porn I often see a position of a doggy style with the women over a pillow and pushed down on the back so that the ass is in the air and the back curved down lower.

Is this a position women find especially pleasurable?

Yeah, it is and my wife and I have talked about that a few times. She thinks certain positions in sex are indicative of the moment's psychological motive and the way she explains it to me, it makes sense.

When she is straddling a guy on top, she senses empowerment and that she's in control for a while. When on her knees and a guy is entering her from behind, the top of her head is often pressed against a pillow. She sees that as an inferior position, with the man controlling the fucking. When she is on her back and he is between her legs, if he isn't kissing her at the moment, each is looking at the other's facial expression, which she considers to be a position of equality between the two. I don't recall her mentioning anything about the specific position SteelRidge wrote, but the most obvious reason is that their groins are more level. Perhaps there's something psychological for the woman there as well but I can't imagine what that would be. Using Occam's Razor logic, it's probably more for convenience.

That isn't meant to be true for all women, but it's her opinion and that's the way it affects her.
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friendly reminder of the name of this thread.

And yet, no VHW’s answered his question…

the title of the thread doesn't include a time limit for the VHWs to reply

[Farmgirl]

Just my own question - Why the mental "inferior" thought process when it comes to positions? Why not just enjoy all the sensations? Do people really worry over things like that while sexually engaged?

Ex. - "I don't like this position because it makes me his inferior. And I'm NOT inferior!" - OR - "I like being on top because I'm in control and he's now MY inferior!" ?????????????

Why such head games I'm wondering? Do many women WORRY over things like that? Just really wondering.

Is there a FAVORITE "doggy" position for maximum pleasure?

You hit it when you said "mental "inferior" thought process". There is nothing dominant or submissive about a position or a practice, it is all in ones head.
It doesn't matter what position I'm having sex in, what I'm doing to a guy or what he's doing to me. I'm still dominant and in control.
For a submissive person, it can be just the opposite.
But, NO I don't worry over things like that. Heck I only think about it at all when I read about it or someone says something about it.

Is there a favorite doggy position, for me it ass in the air and my head down on the bed. That for some could be submissive but, for me it is not! And all of my guys know that.

When I have his dick in me it is because I want it there and I caused it to be there, that's power!

[Farmgirl]

And yet, no VHW’s answered his question…

Can you really not read? The title of the thread is???????

[early-kink]

Farmgirl, post at 10:34pm, Jan. 26th - I really love your comment about your favorite doggy position! Even with your tush in the air & head down on the bed - YOU are still in control. I have no doubt whatsoever!! Your last sentence says it all.

To my way of thinking, unless a guy is raping a woman - she is IN TOTAL CONTROL of what happens or doesn't happen. If she wants his cock inside her - it'll be there. If she wants to suck his cock - it'll be sucked. If she doesn't allow him to cum - he will not cum. If she wants her kitty licked to orgasm - he'll lick it until she orgasms. Except actual rape ……………. the woman has the power.

I think Farmgirl has this nailed.

[SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE]

My SexyWife and I are on a dating site. Her top 4 was FFM, STRANGER, MFM Sensual Cuckold three some, then Swinging. Mine is about same switch Stranger and Swinging.
My Q? Their where a couple of guys she invited to meet and the fucked up or got nervous but ended up getting SexyWifes hopes up and disappoint her. I would like to see which 2 guys would be interest in Stranger. See I would like to surprise her and not know what was happening. I would like to see if they can pick up SexyWife and see her blush and stuff.

What do you think good

[2inUPMichigan]

My SexyWife and I are on a dating site. Her top 4 was FFM, STRANGER, MFM Sensual Cuckold three some, then Swinging. Mine is about same switch Stranger and Swinging.
My Q? Their where a couple of guys she invited to meet and the fucked up or got nervous but ended up getting SexyWifes hopes up and disappoint her. I would like to see which 2 guys would be interest in Stranger. See I would like to surprise her and not know what was happening. I would like to see if they can pick up SexyWife and see her blush and stuff.

What do you think good

I think a set up is a horrible idea personally. When she mentioned stranger did she actually say to you that she wants you to set her up with no previous knowledge of what was going on?

Most of the times when stranger is referred to people are talking about one night stands. As in meeting someone and having sex with them that night without knowing much about them.
Not, I repeat not being set up behind your back by someone else.

I am hoping that you are thinking that this would be a way to help her self confidence. However I can tell you that if I found out my husband manipulated events that way I would think that he believed that no man would show up unless he manipulated events and that would devastate me. (as if he thought I wasn't good enough)

A set up in most cases is for the benefit of the husband, not the hotwife. Notice you said you wanted "to see if they can pick up SexyWife and see her blush and stuff". You want to set up a situation that you would like to see.

There is no rush for her to find someone that is a good match. There will be a lot of flakes and fakes - that is the way this goes. Creating an artificial environment does not change that. Searching for potential candidates can be time consuming but when she finds a good match or matches it will be worth it!!
Be patient and give her the space to be frustrated about the process on occasion, it will only help further identify what she is looking for.

[SSQ]

Farmgirl, post at 10:34pm, Jan. 26th - I really love your comment about your favorite doggy position! Even with your tush in the air & head down on the bed - YOU are still in control. I have no doubt whatsoever!! Your last sentence says it all.

To my way of thinking, unless a guy is raping a woman - she is IN TOTAL CONTROL of what happens or doesn't happen. If she wants his cock inside her - it'll be there. If she wants to suck his cock - it'll be sucked. If she doesn't allow him to cum - he will not cum. If she wants her kitty licked to orgasm - he'll lick it until she orgasms. Except actual rape ……………. the woman has the power.

I think Farmgirl has this nailed.

I don't agree with this in the slightest. Unless power exchange is negotiated, sex should be between two equals, who are both consenting. Period. That sounds very unhealthy unless it's a dynamic that has been specifically negotiated.

I find it even creepier because both parties have equal consent to specific acts. The way you say it sounds rapey but from a female perspective. First off- the societal assumption that men always want sex and are up for anything is gross and harmful to men, too. Secondly, if the man doesn't want his cock sucked, then I sure hope she won't suck it, because that's sexual assault even if he consented to sex. It's not okay just because she's a woman.

Farmgirl is talking about her own dynamic. I am sure she's not saying what I think you took her words as.

[silky nylons]

I haven't read through all 50 pages so this may have been covered. I have a few questions that I've been wondering about.

What are your views on pantyhose?
What are your views on stockings?
Many women, my wife included don't like them...but when it comes to their lover...my wife will slip them on provided they are silky smooth. It's hard to find silky smooth and comfortable and not so expensive pantyhose/or stockings.

What brands of hose do you like or buy for your lovers?

Thank you for any who reply.

[early-kink]

SSQ -
Wow! I wasn't setting up sexual dogma here! In the broadest sense of male/female sexual relations - sex won't happen in any shape or form unless the woman allows it. If a man forces things - it's rape. Been watching or listening to any news the last couple years?? Why are you on the attack??

I'm not addressing Farmgirl's or anyone else's sexual dynamic. That's nit-picking. Show me a man who doesn't want to consent to sex - unless the couple are fighting/arguing. What I WAS addressing is between a man & a woman who agree to play sexually, the woman still holds the keys. How many guys have you met who, when asked to put his cock inside her says, "No. I don't want to do THAT!" Or if the woman tries to suck on him, he yanks it back from her and says, "I don't want you doing that!" I'm in the real world here - not in a hypothetical rarity. You offer as an example, a really rare circumstance - a man that doesn't want oral sex done on him. Poll 1000 men and see how many refuse a bj. But if the woman doesn't want to do some sexual act - she DOES hold the keys to whether it happens or not. The man CANNOT force himself on her. That's all I meant.

I'm not talking "power exchanges" either. I'm just talking about consensual sex. Negotiated power exchanges are a bit of a different animal. More formality and specifics there.

[2inUPMichigan]

I haven't read through all 50 pages so this may have been covered. I have a few questions that I've been wondering about.

What are your views on pantyhose?
What are your views on stockings?
Many women, my wife included don't like them...but when it comes to their lover...my wife will slip them on provided they are silky smooth. It's hard to find silky smooth and comfortable and not so expensive pantyhose/or stockings.

What brands of hose do you like or buy for your lovers?

Thank you for any who reply.

I have to first mention that I am 5'10" so the fact that I am tall and curvy absolutely makes a difference in how I view this. I can't stand pantyhose because they never fit me right.

I do like thigh thighs and stockings and would choose them over pantyhose any day.
Because of my height I can't be as choosy with brands, it's all about finding something that fits.

I do wear stockings and a garter belt or thigh highs often on play dates, but I don't wear either during my day to day life.

[silky nylons]

Thank you 2inUPMichigan for your input. I look forward to more responses. For some men including myself seeing nylons on a woman stirs in me a fantasy feeling where words are absent. The look of high quality hose...the sheen...or silky look/shine...the softness look...the prettiness of how a woman's legs look in hose is so feminine and arousing.

The emotion I feel when I notice a woman in hose...well...it puts me in a pause...I stop thinking, stop breathing, I'm totally distracted...because my eyes and silent emotion have taken over in the small period of time that seems to last for several minutes.

Thank you to all woman who wear hose. Thank you.

[Farmgirl]

I haven't read through all 50 pages so this may have been covered. I have a few questions that I've been wondering about.

What are your views on pantyhose?
What are your views on stockings?
Many women, my wife included don't like them...but when it comes to their lover...my wife will slip them on provided they are silky smooth. It's hard to find silky smooth and comfortable and not so expensive pantyhose/or stockings.

What brands of hose do you like or buy for your lovers?

Thank you for any who reply.

I don't own them, I don't buy them, and I don't wear them. It's much more sensual to have a man run his hand up my bear leg!

[SSQ]

SSQ -
Wow! I wasn't setting up sexual dogma here! In the broadest sense of male/female sexual relations - sex won't happen in any shape or form unless the woman allows it. If a man forces things - it's rape. Been watching or listening to any news the last couple years?? Why are you on the attack??

I'm not addressing Farmgirl's or anyone else's sexual dynamic. That's nit-picking. Show me a man who doesn't want to consent to sex - unless the couple are fighting/arguing. What I WAS addressing is between a man & a woman who agree to play sexually, the woman still holds the keys. How many guys have you met who, when asked to put his cock inside her says, "No. I don't want to do THAT!" Or if the woman tries to suck on him, he yanks it back from her and says, "I don't want you doing that!" I'm in the real world here - not in a hypothetical rarity. You offer as an example, a really rare circumstance - a man that doesn't want oral sex done on him. Poll 1000 men and see how many refuse a bj. But if the woman doesn't want to do some sexual act - she DOES hold the keys to whether it happens or not. The man CANNOT force himself on her. That's all I meant.

I'm not talking "power exchanges" either. I'm just talking about consensual sex. Negotiated power exchanges are a bit of a different animal. More formality and specifics there.

So am I talking about consensual sex. Again- your generalizations that men are always raring to go are harmful to men in general. This is one of those societal misconceptions that feeds into the idea that women are gatekeepers and sex is something that men take from women, rather than a mutually enjoyable activity.

Darn right, if a man doesn't want his cock sucked, he should say no. It's no different in that situation than if a man wanted to lick her pussy and she said no.

Men are not just controlled by sexual desire. I know this is a fetish forum and it sure seems that way sometimes, but that's not how it is in the real world. There are many women with higher sex drives than their spouse. There are men who don't enjoy specific sex acts. But society conditions people to think that men always want it, so women say yes or no. That's harmful to everyone, to think that way.

BOTH partners hold the key on whether an act happens or not. That's the only way to have a healthy relationship. The woman can't force herself on him, either.

[SSQ]

I haven't read through all 50 pages so this may have been covered. I have a few questions that I've been wondering about.

What are your views on pantyhose?
What are your views on stockings?
Many women, my wife included don't like them...but when it comes to their lover...my wife will slip them on provided they are silky smooth. It's hard to find silky smooth and comfortable and not so expensive pantyhose/or stockings.

What brands of hose do you like or buy for your lovers?

Thank you for any who reply.

Garter belt and stockings always makes me feel sexy. I have some fabulous photos of me in lingerie with stockings on. If I'm wearing fetish wear, I prefer fishnets. I prefer plain smooth stockings when I wear lingerie, in both cases with lace at the top. I have stockings in pretty much every colour of the rainbow to match what I'm wearing

Just another fetish, right?

[Odie]

I have a real question please ladies.
My gf agreed to a date with a fellow. They masturbated each other and then she said she didn’t want to do it any more and I agreed. The thing is, when she did it, she says she squirted all over. So obviously she enjoyed it.
Could any of you expand on what happened?
Thank you in advance.

[2inUPMichigan]

I have a real question please ladies.
My gf agreed to a date with a fellow. They masturbated each other and then she said she didn’t want to do it any more and I agreed. The thing is, when she did it, she says she squirted all over. So obviously she enjoyed it.
Could any of you expand on what happened?
Thank you in advance.

Her body may have enjoyed it but her mind may not be able to accept it as an option for her.
Our bodies can still physically respond to stimulus even if we don't want something to happen.

[early-kink]

2inUP ^^^^ - Perfect explanation.

[early-kink]

SSQ - I'm not saying a guy can't say no to a bj - but I believe it's truly unlikely. But if a guy chooses to say no - it's his right to say that. And sometimes we guys are tired or just not in a mood to have sex. I don't disagree with you on that. Working in big construction for my career, there are times all I want is sleep - usually when I'm working lots of overtime. But honestly, I think the times where any guy would say no are pretty rare!

I don't think we men "take" sex from women - I'd love for the lady to WANT it as much as I do. And show it. Mutual desire & fun. But she still has to be the one to give the green light. I can't just grab a lady, push her over to a couch, and start in on her! If she doesn't show some sign of "wanting it", I'm invading her space and I might be subject to a lawsuit. So whatever her "sign", be it words or actions, there IS some degree of green light. Wouldn't you agree to that?

I LOVE your take on garter belts and stockings with lacy tops!! SUPER HOT !!!!

[silky nylons]

I haven't read through all 50 pages so this may have been covered. I have a few questions that I've been wondering about.

What are your views on pantyhose?
What are your views on stockings?
Many women, my wife included don't like them...but when it comes to their lover...my wife will slip them on provided they are silky smooth. It's hard to find silky smooth and comfortable and not so expensive pantyhose/or stockings.

What brands of hose do you like or buy for your lovers?

Thank you for any who reply.

Thank you Farmgirl and SSQ for your responses.

[SSQ]

SSQ - I'm not saying a guy can't say no to a bj - but I believe it's truly unlikely. But if a guy chooses to say no - it's his right to say that. And sometimes we guys are tired or just not in a mood to have sex. I don't disagree with you on that. Working in big construction for my career, there are times all I want is sleep - usually when I'm working lots of overtime. But honestly, I think the times where any guy would say no are pretty rare!

I don't think we men "take" sex from women - I'd love for the lady to WANT it as much as I do. And show it. Mutual desire & fun. But she still has to be the one to give the green light. I can't just grab a lady, push her over to a couch, and start in on her! If she doesn't show some sign of "wanting it", I'm invading her space and I might be subject to a lawsuit. So whatever her "sign", be it words or actions, there IS some degree of green light. Wouldn't you agree to that?

I LOVE your take on garter belts and stockings with lacy tops!! SUPER HOT !!!!

Then if you're saying the same thing as I am, why not look at it that BOTH sides need to give the green light? Because it's pretty horrible for a woman to push a man over a couch and just start on him without consent, too? And not just a sign of wanting it- actual consent. Signs are very easy to misread and that's the point.

[early-kink]

Semantics.

[SSQ]

Not at all. You really might want to think about this. Sex is not something men are always willing to do and women are not the gatekeepers. If it's not a mutually desired activity, it doesn't happen.

The way you're framing it really isn't healthy for anyone.