New and still figuring it all out

[2inUPMichigan]

Thanks for the reply. Agree on the tired and need sleep!!! Have fun juggling your suitors!!!!

Rascal

I guess to put it bluntly it doesn't matter how many are interested I won't ever compromise my standards.

Just because a man might want me to accommodate him in the future (schedule a play date on the same week as someone else) doesn't mean that I will. The only way I would ever meet 2 men separately in the same week is if one was a meet and greet with no possibility of playing.

Clarifying because this question has come up before.

I think I know you well enough by now to know that you won't do ANYTHING you don't want to do. Never even thought you would meet more than one guy a week for a playdate. Like you said, you stated that clearly numerous times previously. My comment about juggling was that you seem to have many more options available at this time than in sometimes in the past, not that you would let them dictate your play schedule. So now you need to evaluate each new contact and decide if they are worthy!

Rascal

I'm hoping it will give me options so I can send a message to a couple guys and say "Hey I was looking to schedule a play date the week of ______ are you available? " then let them know I sent the message to more than one man so whoever responds first I will book the play date with.

In the case of H we book ahead as much as possible and that could be the case with someone else too.... who knows?

[rascalnvixen]

Thanks for the reply. Agree on the tired and need sleep!!! Have fun juggling your suitors!!!!

Rascal

I guess to put it bluntly it doesn't matter how many are interested I won't ever compromise my standards.

Just because a man might want me to accommodate him in the future (schedule a play date on the same week as someone else) doesn't mean that I will. The only way I would ever meet 2 men separately in the same week is if one was a meet and greet with no possibility of playing.

Clarifying because this question has come up before.

I think I know you well enough by now to know that you won't do ANYTHING you don't want to do. Never even thought you would meet more than one guy a week for a playdate. Like you said, you stated that clearly numerous times previously. My comment about juggling was that you seem to have many more options available at this time than in sometimes in the past, not that you would let them dictate your play schedule. So now you need to evaluate each new contact and decide if they are worthy!

Rascal

I'm hoping it will give me options so I can send a message to a couple guys and say "Hey I was looking to schedule a play date the week of ______ are you available? " then let them know I sent the message to more than one man so whoever responds first I will book the play date with.

In the case of H we book ahead as much as possible and that could be the case with someone else too.... who knows?

[ambershere]

i know you really don't need me to say this.....But i just have to Your Life your Decisions...YOUR BODY YOUR CALL To WHO-WHAT-WHERE-WHEN-and WHY and never ever waiver IT"S YOUR LIFE...followed by You Go Girl....The End

[early-kink]

2inUPMichigan - This is late, but congrats on your 1 year anniversary !! I just checked in on this thread and I saw your 1 year mentioned on the previous page. In catch-up reading, I see you have some men on the "hook" and you're weeding them out. I'm happy you have several choices and you have a plan to make the play happen. Best wishes on your explorations !! Have fun & enjoy !!!

Gotta say - I'm envious of Mr. 2inUP in his HWH position. Maybe I'll get lucky that way too.

[2inUPMichigan]

I decided to ask a couple of the men to take the quiz over on bdsmtest.org to give me a better idea of that side of them. It isn't a perfect representation but it gives a good idea.

If anyone hasn't taken the quiz yet it is fun

[Mad Dog65]

I decided to ask a couple of the men to take the quiz over on bdsmtest.org to give me a better idea of that side of them. It isn't a perfect representation but it gives a good idea.

If anyone hasn't taken the quiz yet it is fun

It is a fun test to take giving good insights into your type. Thanks for sharing.

[2inUPMichigan]

Tomorrow is my regular monthly play date with H and of course I am looking forward to seeing him, but I am also looking forward to getting his impressions of the latest "cast of characters" - the men that I have been talking to. I am ready to meet a couple of them and want him to double check what I am seeing before I go forward.

I will give you all the run down after I talk with H. I plan on sending out messages to each of them telling them I want to move them off SLS and onto kik (if it stays live) or texting, give them an option of weeks for play dates, let them know my first name and show them a picture of my face once they confirm they are interested in meeting.

It is time to move forward and make some of these play dates happen!!

[SutterKane]

Tomorrow is my regular monthly play date with H and of course I am looking forward to seeing him, but I am also looking forward to getting his impressions of the latest "cast of characters" - the men that I have been talking to. I am ready to meet a couple of them and want him to double check what I am seeing before I go forward.

I will give you all the run down after I talk with H. I plan on sending out messages to each of them telling them I want to move them off SLS and onto kik (if it stays live) or texting, give them an option of weeks for play dates, let them know my first name and show them a picture of my face once they confirm they are interested in meeting.

It is time to move forward and make some of these play dates happen!!

Hello beautiful! where you been? I hope everything ist wunderbar and you have been too busy with things to stop in at let us know. I miss you, you sexy thing!
Sutter

[early-kink]

Also hoping for good things for you, 2inUPMichigan!! Please check in.

[lovingher]

I would like to suggest, that as others said take it slow and when (and if) you decide to go thru with it, that your husband helps you get ready for sex with the chosen guy. Your husband can help you with a bath or shower, massage you, help with your hair and makeup and pick out your bra and panties, and whatever you'll be wearing. This makes him part of the process. And.be sure to discuss kissing beforehand with your husband. This can be a sensetive issue. And many find sex without kissing to be very difficult.

[Trixkat]

I would like to suggest, that as others said take it slow and when (and if) you decide to go thru with it, that your husband helps you get ready for sex with the chosen guy. Your husband can help you with a bath or shower, massage you, help with your hair and makeup and pick out your bra and panties, and whatever you'll be wearing. This makes him part of the process. And.be sure to discuss kissing beforehand with your husband. This can be a sensetive issue. And many find sex without kissing to be very difficult.

maybe go back and actually read the thread? there's 50+pages of her adventures laid out, full of things she's already done

[afagehi7]

I would like to suggest, that as others said take it slow and when (and if) you decide to go thru with it, that your husband helps you get ready for sex with the chosen guy. Your husband can help you with a bath or shower, massage you, help with your hair and makeup and pick out your bra and panties, and whatever you'll be wearing. This makes him part of the process. And.be sure to discuss kissing beforehand with your husband. This can be a sensetive issue. And many find sex without kissing to be very difficult.

maybe go back and actually read the thread? there's 50+pages of her adventures laid out, full of things she's already done

Where is the nearest burn unit? Good call out. It's not like he just missed some details on the thread..he missed the whole thread.

Loving - just having some fun at your expense. No harm intended.

[2inUPMichigan]

I want to publicly thank all the members that reached out to me asking if I was okay during my self imposed break from the open forums. I didn't want to add to the drama by making any kind of announcement that I was taking a break and that I didn't know when I would be back.
But now is not the time to talk about that. There is a very important reason that I am coming back out into the open forums tonight.

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Yes.....that's right I had a meeting tonight with a new man "M" a widower who lives about an hour away. We agreed to a low pressure meet and greet with the potential for more.

Well...... we met about 2:30 and talked for about an hour. Then he suggested that we go somewhere more private and I told him that I was prepared for anything and my play bag was in the car. I told him all he had to do was text me the room number and I would meet him there. A few minutes later I was on my way to meet him with a smirk on my face and a sway in my hips.

It was on as soon as I got to the room - he didn't waste any time LOL
Unfortunately he couldn't stay long because he had to get home to pick up his teenage daughter. We still had time enough for 2 quick rounds and a little but of extra fun

He was very enthusiastic and is very interested in seeing me on a regular basis. He is open to exploring almost anything that interests me and wants to gradually investigate all the fun things in my play bag.

So there you have it! I may have just found my #2!
Time will tell if he becomes a regular and consistent FWB but at this point I am hopeful.
Woohoo......score!!

[samlowen]

Welcome back and congratulations! Looks like you're heating up just as the weather is starting to turn cold.

[rascalnvixen]

Congrats 2UP!!! Good to hear from you again! It was in my head that you were busy at home with something, I thought you had started writing again so I wasn't really worried about you. You're one of those women who I find to be very strong and determined, so figured you'd jump back here when you were ready. Anyway, good to see you back again and hope #2 is a keeper and a stayer for you!!!

Rascal

[SutterKane]

Glad you're back, sweetie! One hour away! That's almost next door in your neck of the woods!

[2inUPMichigan]

Thanks - sam, rascal and sutter I figured this news was worth sharing.

I think he is a solid guy and is somewhat in the same situation as me. His wife died 3 years ago and he has no interest in a relationship. He just misses the friendship and the sex - sounds good to me!!

I sent H a message but I have to circle back around and give him the full scoop on what happened
He is hoping this works out because this could become step closer to MFM play

[tommy5821]

2UP! THAT’S how one makes a compelling update! Short and sweet! Congratulations

[Farmgirl]

Woohooo!!

[Hungry4IT]

Glad to hear your wonderful news! An Hour?! We are jealous.lol And the hope of a MFM too - wowsa

Enjoy your new playmate and thanks for the update 2Up

[afagehi7]

Did you discuss the new potential bf with hubby?

[2inUPMichigan]

Did you discuss the new potential bf with hubby?

I took a month off from the open forums and you forgot about my decision to not talk about my husband anymore.

[2inUPMichigan]

Yesterday both H and M contacted me to set up play dates for December......yeah I really like that part
Now I just have to find out when the family is coming into town to see if I will also have time for a first meeting with a 3rd man
A busy hotwife is a happy and satisfied hotwife

[rascalnvixen]

I hope you are able to get around up there!! I hear you had a pretty strong winter storm the last few days with more on the way. Hoping the weather won't be a problem for you when things are just heating up!!!

Rascal

[2inUPMichigan]

I hope you are able to get around up there!! I hear you had a pretty strong winter storm the last few days with more on the way. Hoping the weather won't be a problem for you when things are just heating up!!!

Rascal

We didn't get the worst of it like some areas .......but our road is icy and will probably stay that way until spring (as in April or May)
When scheduling play dates in the winter I make it clear that safety comes first. I did take a cab once last year but I won't make a habit of that. If there is freezing rain I'm staying home - don't want to end up in the ditches around here especially in some of the areas with limited cell signal!!