Figuring it out

[Fox]

If Shirley doesn’t chicken out on what she has set herself up for on Sunday she should have an amazing time but I don’t think roped are in the cards this weekend. I definitely need to tie her up sometime soon though. She loves being tied up, blindfolded and me exploring her body with my tongue, lips and hands and then fucked really hard.

[Lookingforadventure]

Adventurer and I are celebrating our 22nd anniversary this coming week. We decided to celebrate by going into the city, visiting a sex club, and spending the nigh at a nearby hotel. The kids always enjoy the opportunity to stay home alone, so it worked out really well.

Here is a brief recap of some of my favourite parts:

The sex club we went to has an outdoor, rooftop pool where people can hang out naked, and just chill in a very non-judgmental environment. We've gone a few times in the past and have always enjoyed it. When we have gone before, however, we usually go in the afternoon. It is quieter at that time of day with only a few couples and singles hanging out. We stay until 7 or 8, and head home before it gets too late. This time, because we had a hotel reserved nearby, we decided to go a bit later and see what the evening crowd was like.

I can report that the club gets MUCH busier after dark. It wasn't better or worse, just different. Big crowds aren't really my thing, and I tend to gravitate towards having more intimate conversations with just a handful of people, so afternoons might be my preference going forward. With that said, it was fun to see more naked people

At this particular club, folks tend to mostly play with the people they arrived with. I am sure there is some swinging eventually, but a lot of the kink is just having sex in a public space where you can watch and be watched. In that way, the bigger crowd was fun too. There was always something to see.

Before the club got busy, Adventurer and I spent some time in the pool. We chatted with several couples. One couple in their mid-30's said that they were new to the lifestyle. They had met during COVID, began dating and were now engaged. They had started exploring the lifestyle in November of last year. I definitely go the vibe that they were interested in doing things with us. They mentioned that they were into "soft swinging", which I always find to be an interesting term (It can be defined in so many different ways). They also shared that whenever they come to the club, they always find one or two couples to "go upstairs" with and have a good time. Adventurer and I were not really interested in playing with other people on this evening, but we did enjoy the conversation. I even got to explain to this younger couple that I have a boyfriend that I see quite regularly The female of the couple thought that was VERY interesting

We met another couple in their 60's who had just returned from a vacation at Hedonism in Jamaica. I appreciated them being open to me asking them all sorts of questions about their experience. I'm not sure it is on my bucket list of vacation destinations yet, but I am not ruling it out either.

As we chatted, a young girl (I'd say she was only 20 or 22) asked if she could join us. She was wearing a two piece suit and seemed very sweet. I welcomed her to our corner of the pool and introduced us. It turns out that it was her first time there. Not only that, but she had driven 3 hours from her conservative small town just to have this experience. She seemed very nervous. I told her that I thought she was very brave to do that, and that she shouldn't be nervous. We've always had a good time there, and all of the guests are friendly and respectful. She said that she has some body confidence issues that she's trying to overcome, and I responded, "don't we all!". But I also told her that she should do what she was comfortable with. There was nothing wrong with wearing a suit, or with being naked. She should follow what felt right to her.

I asked what she was hoping to get out of the experience and she said that her biggest goal was to fight against her self esteem issues, and to meet people who were more open-minded than in her town. She wanted to get to know folks, ask questions, and learn about what was possible. I thought she was really great. I'm also happy to report that I noticed later that she had removed her swim top and was giggling as she chatted with a couple. I hope she had a wonderful first time there.

I don't know, however, because Adventurer and I soon excused ourselves to go inside for awhile. We had a wonderful, wonderful time. My favourite sex spot might have been on the sex swing (me laying back, butt right at the edge of the leather seat, legs spread with feet supported by the chains that attached the swing to the ceiling). Adventurer stood between my legs and really let me have it! A few couples came in to watch, and the exhibitionist in me enjoyed that as well.

We thought we'd move further upstairs, but first Adventurer had me lean over a padded bench that was in the same room as the sex swing. He gave my butt a good smack on both cheeks. The sting of his flesh on mine, as my aroused pussy craved being filled, was very erotic.

Upstairs, we enjoyed a room that is known as the "shaggin' wagon". It is designed to look like the back of a volkswagon van. The van doors are open wide, and the height of the "trunk" is just right for fucking. I sucked Adventurers cock for a long time as he sat in the van. Then we switched positions and he slid his amazing dick in me. I lay back and noticed that there were stainless steel bars on both sides of the inside of the "van".

"We should get handles like this in our car for when G fucks me in the parking lot," I said with a mischievous smile. I could feel his cock harden and pulse inside me in reaction. The cuckold part of him loves when I remind him of my extra-marital activities. He was good, though, and didn't let himself cum just yet.

Instead, we moved to a chaise lounge chair nearby and he instructed me to get on my hands and knees. It has been too long since we've had doggy style sex! I loved every second of it...his cock hitting my g spot, my face moaning into the padded chair beneath me. He grabbed my hips and thrust really hard and deep. I can't remember the last time I came that hard

The other highlight from the evening came just before we left. The club had brought in a "guest speaker" to teach some burlesque and lap dance techniques. I had been looking forward to going, but when we went to the ballroom area where the class was taking place, it was packed. I wasn't really in the mood for being crammed in with other naked people, so instead Adventurer and I went down to the bar area. It was almost deserted. I told him to take a seat and I'd show him some of my pole dancing moves on the stripper pole in the room.

Since we don't have a pole at home, it was the first time that he got to see me in action. I think he was impressed. The bartender and guests that were in the room even complimented me on my skills! Next time I'll have to be more prepared and have a routine worked out (instead of just random tricks that I could think of)

After my pole demonstration, we did a quick tour around but decided that the club was too busy. We'd rather just go back to our hotel room and have sex in private. So that's what we did.

Back at the room, Adventurer held out for a long time, especially given our busy day thus far. He lasted through performing oral sex on me and fingering me to orgasm. He lasted through me kissing his body and grinding against him. He lasted through a slow and sensuous blow job. But he was a lost cause after I straddled him and slid him in deep. I looked down in his eyes and began to ride. He grabbed my hips and smiled at me. I picked up the pace and felt him explode inside me. It was the perfect way to end a wonderful day.

[Mr1SexyGILF]

I have no way to prove this, but I feel very strongly, you are in the very top 1%, of ladies fully embracing and enjoying their sexuality. The men in your life are very lucky to have such an enthusiastic and ADVENTURous partner. Then factor in all the time and energy required for your job, parenting, and household responsibilities. You are truly one in a million.

Mr GILF

[regular3]

Fantastic write up as usual. It must feel so empowering to be in total control of what happens to you at these events. Plus having three me men in your life to satisfy your sexual needs, life must be good.

[Long Lurker 34]

I have no way to prove this, but I feel very strongly, you are in the very top 1%, of ladies fully embracing and enjoying their sexuality. The men in your life are very lucky to have such an enthusiastic and ADVENTURous partner. Then factor in all the time and energy required for your job, parenting, and household responsibilities. You are truly one in a million.

Mr GILF

MR G - Well said and I agree.

[Long Lurker 34]

LFA - Congrats on your anniversary and your clubbing evening and finally being able to demonstrate to A your poling abilities.

[hoping_she_will_1day]

I do love reading of your encounters, and they never fail to provide a vivid image. Your weekend recap was full of lovely, sexy depictions, but the one that stands out for me is when you gave Adventurer a pole dance for the first time. The fact that there were others present adds to the steaminess.
Sounds like a wonderfully satisfying trip for the two of you. Happy anniversary!

[Her number1]

Happy upcoming anniversary!!
And such an enjoyable write up of your club adventure.

[Lookingforadventure]

I have no way to prove this, but I feel very strongly, you are in the very top 1%, of ladies fully embracing and enjoying their sexuality. The men in your life are very lucky to have such an enthusiastic and ADVENTURous partner. Then factor in all the time and energy required for your job, parenting, and household responsibilities. You are truly one in a million.

Mr GILF

Thank you. That's very kind of you to say.

It is funny that you are so affirming because the first version of my post (the one I decided was too whiny) mentioned how Adventurer and I went shopping in the afternoon before heading to the club. Shopping always puts me in a bad mood because I find that nothing looks good on me. In any case, I was feeling fat and ugly before we went to the club...but ended up completely changing my mindset. Not because I compared myself to others, but just because I decided not to care. My husband thinks I'm hot, and we have an amazing sex life, so who cares about the rest?

Anyway, your kind words after an afternoon of self doubt are appreciated.

[Lookingforadventure]

Fantastic write up as usual. It must feel so empowering to be in total control of what happens to you at these events. Plus having three me men in your life to satisfy your sexual needs, life must be good.

Life is definitely good!

[Lookingforadventure]

MR G - Well said and I agree.

You guys make a girl blush. Thank you

[Lookingforadventure]

LFA - Congrats on your anniversary and your clubbing evening and finally being able to demonstrate to A your poling abilities.

Thank you. The pole was a spontaneous thing. The room with the stripper pole doesn't have very high ceilings. I wasn't sure if I'd be able to invert or do some of the moves that require a climb or flip first, but I managed to demonstrate quite a few things. Plus, it was a naked show (I had been wearing a towel after getting out of the pool, but took it off so I could do my moves). So adventurer got quite the view.

[Lookingforadventure]

I do love reading of your encounters, and they never fail to provide a vivid image. Your weekend recap was full of lovely, sexy depictions, but the one that stands out for me is when you gave Adventurer a pole dance for the first time. The fact that there were others present adds to the steaminess.
Sounds like a wonderfully satisfying trip for the two of you. Happy anniversary!

Thanks so much! I had been looking forward to learning some lap dance moves so I could put those to future use, but I guess that will have to wait for a future date. The impromptu, private pole dance was a fun alternative.

[Lookingforadventure]

Happy upcoming anniversary!!
And such an enjoyable write up of your club adventure.

Thanks HerNumber1.

[Fox]

Yet another similarity with Shirley. Yesterday at dinner before her birthday fuck with D, she asked me if I had a sexual bucket list. One item on hers is that she wants to actually be a stripper in a club for a night. I’m sure Adventurer loved that show.

[Long Lurker 34]

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[Lookingforadventure]

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Thanks for the bump. Sorry, I've been busy with work travels lately, so I haven't been on the site. I'll try to catch up.

I do have a new tale to tell too

[Farmgirl]

I do have a new tale to tell too

[Lookingforadventure]

I have a new story to tell, but first I want to offer a bit of background. If you've read my thread, I think you will know that one of the things I love about being married to Adventurer is that we can be very open with each other about our fantasies and sexual interests. There is no kink shaming here!

And we are quite willing to experiment if someone has a particular thing they want to try. (One of the kinkiest that I think we've shared on this forum was when we toyed with some pet play on a recent time away. I wore a butt plug tail and a mask, Adventurer put me on a leash, and I even wagged my tail for him...lol.)

Sometimes we both like the activity enough that it becomes part of our regular sex life. Sometimes it is just a one-off thing. Either way, we enjoy the journey together.

One aspect that we know that we enjoy is playing with power dynamics. Sometimes I will submit to Adventurer (or to Adventurer and "Sir") and trust that he/they will use my body and push me to limits for my ultimate pleasure. It is amazing every time! And sometimes Adventurer likes me to take a dominant role (I look quite hot in my Mistress corset, and can provide a mean spanking if he's been naughty).

Since beginning our hot wife adventure, Adventurer has been interested in the idea of cuckolding and would like to delve into it deeper. While I don't shame him for his kink, it is not one that comes very naturally to me. I struggle to say and do things that in any way communicate disrespect for the man that I love. (He's the father of my kids, the person who holds me up when I feel like I'm about to crumble, he's my greatest cheerleader...so I just can't call him names or treat him poorly. We've tried ) I either start laughing halfway through, or we just break character and call the scene off.

Along the way, Adventurer and I talked about maybe letting a bull/third play this role instead. A guy would not have the same feelings of loyalty to Adventurer that I have, and could probably push his cuck limits in ways that I can't. We decided to look into it a year or more ago. Originally, we excluded Sir and G from the list of potential candidates. Sir, because he's just not into it (he's all about women and pushing their physical and sexual limits, not about psychological games with their partners) and G because we didn't want to mess with a good thing. But whenever we chatted with someone new online, I would quickly get very turned off.

I think it is the loyalty in me. The second some guy would start calling Adventurer names or asking me about my "pathetic husband" not being able to "meet my needs", I'd get very pissed off. I recognize that that was what we were looking for, so I don't blame the guys, but I will not stand for anyone disrespecting someone I love...not in real life, and (it turns out) not sexually, either. I found them so annoyingly repulsive that I couldn't imagine myself being with any of them, so we let the idea go. After all, there are plenty of other fun sexual activities for us to focus on

Recently, however, we decided to revisit it. Adventurer was able to articulate that part of what he is looking for in the cuck experience is that angsty feeling of knowing how much I am enjoying being with another lover. He loves when I make him audio recordings or short videos of my time with G. He loves when I come home glowing and sated from a hotel date or a quick parking lot fuck. He wants to be there in person and see (up close and personal) that love and joy on my face as I truly enjoy myself with someone who isn't him. He doesn't necessarily need humiliation and name-calling. This is something I can do!

We also thought that since I clearly adore my boyfriend, that G might be someone we could approach with this idea. We did, and he was in!!!!

For the past couple of months, we've dabbled. If you look back in earlier posts, you'll see that there was a Saturday when we included G in our sex life via text. Adventurer followed along as G and I sexted and masturbated, but G also gave Adventurer some instructions on how to pleasure me, and when he could fuck me. We all enjoyed it. G understood the parameters of the respect I require for this to work, and he also understood the buttons he could push to tease Adventurer.

Truthfully, I've actually gotten better at pushing those buttons too. I am much more likely to tease Adventurer these days (and almost every day) with comments about how I'm thinking about my boyfriend, or buying lingerie for a future date, etc.

Based on this success, we decided to plan an in person play date to take this fantasy to the next level. That happened yesterday

I will write up a play-by-play soon because it was pretty epic.

[Fox]

It is crazy the similarities with you and Shirley and now there’s some with me and Adventurer. It took a long time but she is finally now comfortable “making” me clean her up rather than saying I can if I want to. While I’m not interested in being called names or that I’m not good enough etc. I do love hearing her tell me how much she loves D’s cock and the way he fucks her and that it feels better than mine in some ways. She’s been very reluctant to do that in fear of hurting my feelings but is getting more comfortable with that too. Last night we were talking about our latest date with D last week and she was saying how well he fucks her ass and she said “sorry but he just knows how to do it just right. You tend to do it too hard and he just does perfect.” She is very much the same as you in not wanting anyone to disrespect me also.

[Long Lurker 34]

I have a new story to tell, but first I want to offer a bit of background. If you've read my thread, I think you will know that one of the things I love about being married to Adventurer is that we can be very open with each other about our fantasies and sexual interests. There is no kink shaming here!

And we are quite willing to experiment if someone has a particular thing they want to try. (One of the kinkiest that I think we've shared on this forum was when we toyed with some pet play on a recent time away. I wore a butt plug tail and a mask, Adventurer put me on a leash, and I even wagged my tail for him...lol.)

Sometimes we both like the activity enough that it becomes part of our regular sex life. Sometimes it is just a one-off thing. Either way, we enjoy the journey together.

One aspect that we know that we enjoy is playing with power dynamics. Sometimes I will submit to Adventurer (or to Adventurer and "Sir") and trust that he/they will use my body and push me to limits for my ultimate pleasure. It is amazing every time! And sometimes Adventurer likes me to take a dominant role (I look quite hot in my Mistress corset, and can provide a mean spanking if he's been naughty).

Since beginning our hot wife adventure, Adventurer has been interested in the idea of cuckolding and would like to delve into it deeper. While I don't shame him for his kink, it is not one that comes very naturally to me. I struggle to say and do things that in any way communicate disrespect for the man that I love. (He's the father of my kids, the person who holds me up when I feel like I'm about to crumble, he's my greatest cheerleader...so I just can't call him names or treat him poorly. We've tried ) I either start laughing halfway through, or we just break character and call the scene off.

Along the way, Adventurer and I talked about maybe letting a bull/third play this role instead. A guy would not have the same feelings of loyalty to Adventurer that I have, and could probably push his cuck limits in ways that I can't. We decided to look into it a year or more ago. Originally, we excluded Sir and G from the list of potential candidates. Sir, because he's just not into it (he's all about women and pushing their physical and sexual limits, not about psychological games with their partners) and G because we didn't want to mess with a good thing. But whenever we chatted with someone new online, I would quickly get very turned off.

I think it is the loyalty in me. The second some guy would start calling Adventurer names or asking me about my "pathetic husband" not being able to "meet my needs", I'd get very pissed off. I recognize that that was what we were looking for, so I don't blame the guys, but I will not stand for anyone disrespecting someone I love...not in real life, and (it turns out) not sexually, either. I found them so annoyingly repulsive that I couldn't imagine myself being with any of them, so we let the idea go. After all, there are plenty of other fun sexual activities for us to focus on

Recently, however, we decided to revisit it. Adventurer was able to articulate that part of what he is looking for in the cuck experience is that angsty feeling of knowing how much I am enjoying being with another lover. He loves when I make him audio recordings or short videos of my time with G. He loves when I come home glowing and sated from a hotel date or a quick parking lot fuck. He wants to be there in person and see (up close and personal) that love and joy on my face as I truly enjoy myself with someone who isn't him. He doesn't necessarily need humiliation and name-calling. This is something I can do!

We also thought that since I clearly adore my boyfriend, that G might be someone we could approach with this idea. We did, and he was in!!!!

For the past couple of months, we've dabbled. If you look back in earlier posts, you'll see that there was a Saturday when we included G in our sex life via text. Adventurer followed along as G and I sexted and masturbated, but G also gave Adventurer some instructions on how to pleasure me, and when he could fuck me. We all enjoyed it. G understood the parameters of the respect I require for this to work, and he also understood the buttons he could push to tease Adventurer.

Truthfully, I've actually gotten better at pushing those buttons too. I am much more likely to tease Adventurer these days (and almost every day) with comments about how I'm thinking about my boyfriend, or buying lingerie for a future date, etc.

Based on this success, we decided to plan an in person play date to take this fantasy to the next level. That happened yesterday

I will write up a play-by-play soon because it was pretty epic.

LFA - "Yeah, darlin', go and make it happen....."

[ChicagoBWC]

Sounds like another amazing adventure for you two. Can't wait to hear the details of this epic encounter. Cuckold play isn't my usual cup of tea either but I have dabbled a few times and it can be fun when everyone is really into it and on the same page. Really looking forward to hearing how your encounter turned out.

[Lookingforadventure]

It is crazy the similarities with you and Shirley and now there’s some with me and Adventurer. It took a long time but she is finally now comfortable “making” me clean her up rather than saying I can if I want to. While I’m not interested in being called names or that I’m not good enough etc. I do love hearing her tell me how much she loves D’s cock and the way he fucks her and that it feels better than mine in some ways. She’s been very reluctant to do that in fear of hurting my feelings but is getting more comfortable with that too. Last night we were talking about our latest date with D last week and she was saying how well he fucks her ass and she said “sorry but he just knows how to do it just right. You tend to do it too hard and he just does perfect.” She is very much the same as you in not wanting anyone to disrespect me also.

One day Shirley and I will have to meet for drinks. I think we'd have a great time

And I'm glad that I'm not the only one who struggles with certain aspects of cuckold play. I feel like I'm learning and that we've found a good way forward that meets Adventurer's desires and stays within my comfort zone. It sounds like you guys have too. I'm so glad.

[Lookingforadventure]

Sounds like another amazing adventure for you two. Can't wait to hear the details of this epic encounter. Cuckold play isn't my usual cup of tea either but I have dabbled a few times and it can be fun when everyone is really into it and on the same page. Really looking forward to hearing how your encounter turned out.

Thanks. I'm hoping to have time to write about it soon. I want to make sure to do justice to the steamy details

[wendyneric4fun]

Both you and Adventurer have such good communication. You two are a role model for my wife and I.