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[Boyyy]

Oh thanks will look into those

[tunafish]

How do I get my religious wife who says she only wants to be with me and hates the idea of another man to try it without ruining my marriage. I love her and don’t want anything to end our 20 year marriage so if I have to quit trying for this fantasy I will but I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly.

It's not about you, "I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly." It's about what she wants. Handled the right way and with time as she begins to trust you, she might want to do it her way. Forget the script in your head, she won't want to follow it. If you are being the husband she wants and not just the one you think you are, then it gets easier as the two of you will begin to actually communicate, listening to each other.

Farmgirl. When I woke up to what you said above is when our relationship took off. Things I’ve never seen or heard in 40 years is coming to the surface. Listening to L and hearing or asking what you want/need is way nicer than continually trying to figure out ways to get her to do what I want

[Sophie]

How do I get my religious wife who says she only wants to be with me and hates the idea of another man to try it without ruining my marriage. I love her and don’t want anything to end our 20 year marriage so if I have to quit trying for this fantasy I will but I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly.

It's not about you, "I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly." It's about what she wants. Handled the right way and with time as she begins to trust you, she might want to do it her way. Forget the script in your head, she won't want to follow it. If you are being the husband she wants and not just the one you think you are, then it gets easier as the two of you will begin to actually communicate, listening to each other.

Farmgirl. When I woke up to what you said above is when our relationship took off. Things I’ve never seen or heard in 40 years is coming to the surface. Listening to L and hearing or asking what you want/need is way nicer than continually trying to figure out ways to get her to do what I want

tunafish, Farmgirl is not just a pretty face, she knows more than some give her credit for, a lot more.

Sophie.

[SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE]

Met my SexyWife Nov. 2015. Started seeing each other New years Eve dated til June 2 2016 became a couple .

In March 2016 she told me the size of a man's hand is how big their dick is, she measured me to be 6⅛ but I knew my size and I knew I was 5¾-5⅞" not quite 6".

​but I noticed a year later I was between 5¼" - 5½"

​from May 2017 to Nov 2017.

​Then in February 2018 to December 2018 I was 5".

​In the early 2019 I was right at 5" barely then I dropped to cm's. April til July measured between 11.7 cm to 12.4 cm

​last part (6 months of 2019 I measured 11.4 to 12 cm.

In 2020 I have measured 11cm to 11.7 mostly 11.1 to 11.4

Last 3-4 months 10.8 to 11.3cm

I have become cool with being around 11 cm.



Now I explained to her how a Sensual Cuckold MFM Threesome would go.

New guy and I would start out giving her a sensual massage this would allow for her and the new guy to get comfortable with each other and relax sexy wife we would do this for a while as I'm prepping her up then he would start out eating SexyWife out. That would start the one on one action with sexy wife as I would kiss sexy wife to let her know I love her and that the new guy gets the first one on one with her for about 15 minutes, then I would come in making it a threesome and after a while the new guy steps aside and lets me and sexy wife have our 15 minutes after that he joins in making it a threesome then we give sexy wife a little breather and when she's ready the new guy gets his final 101 with sexy wife anywhere from 20 to 25 min's or up to 30 minutes. Then I would come in relieve him and we both would say goodbye and me and sexy wife would finish our time together.

She favored this type of threesome, now since we put a profile on the dating website which she picked adult xxx dating site our profile what was interesting that I found out was sexy wife's preferences she reallly wants & prefers a Caucasian male but no Asian or Black man.

Prefers circumcised for girls anywhere from average to kind of thick but not too thin and for size she said over 5 in to 7 in.

Wanted the color of his eyes to be blue Hazel or green taller than 5'9" and build a few extra pounds to athletic to average bill and for hair wanted medium to long length also she loves bikers so as a bonus a biker will get first opportunity.

She also doesn't want no runaway joe a one night stand once casual she said the threesome anywhere from twice to 5 times a year

So knowing this my questions are this?



1) I don't think she realizes that I'm under five inches but let's say she picks a guy and he happens to be thicker than me and for size let's say he was just about 7 inches which means that he would be at least 2½ to 2¾" bigger than me.

If he became a regular and let's say she had sex with him twice a week on a regular basis & after awhile he was able to get all 7" of him inside her. And she was able to adapt to his size and his thickness wouldn't that hurt me in the long run knowing that I'm smaller and with an Average girth.

Or Will that work out just fine or will she become kind of loose to me when we have of sex because after a while of having sex with him for 3 months straight would her p**** be more adapt to his size and make her feel much better with his bigger size being inside her than with my smaller size?



2) should I encourage her to be fair to the new guy letting him have equal time as me so for instance we both get to do a threesome with her anywhere from Twice to 3 times a month and then we both get to have intimacy twice a week with SexyWife.

And be straight down the middle of being fair to The New Guy so he doesn't get more time than I and I definitely don't get more time than him.

And Should I push for that if she feels comfortable with him especially if he pleases her?

[Sophie]

SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE, Your preamble for the threesome sounded like an on stage play at the local theatre script.

Have you discussed this with your wife at all?

The size and frequency is an issue that needs your wife's input as it's really up to her 'who, how and when'.

Sophie.

[Farmgirl]

SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE, While your wife may like his size, it won't affect how you fit in her. That's just stuff that guys like to fantize about. We don't become loose because we've had a larger cock. It might play well in your head, but it just ain't reality.
If she gets loose, it's about muscle atrophy. Exercise takes care of it like with any muscle. I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.
I've never seen a cock as big as a baby, if having babies didn't strech me, no cock will. It's just reality

I also agree with what Sophie said in her comments to you.

[Sophie]

SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE, While your wife may like his size, it won't affect how you fit in her. That's just stuff that guys like to fantize about. We don't become loose because we've had a larger cock. It might play well in your head, but it just ain't reality.
If she gets loose, it's about muscle atrophy. Exercise takes care of it like with any muscle. I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.
I've never seen a cock as big as a baby, if having babies didn't strech me, no cock will. It's just reality

I also agree with what Sophie said in her comments to you.

Farmgirl, You have let all the guys on OHW in on the best kept secret of muscle control and exercise.

What's a Lady to do now, when asked the 'Can you feel it' or 'Is it in' question.

You have 'never seen a cock as big as a baby', but I bet you have been told that by guys, that he's big many times.

Sophie.

[solstice]

Farm girl writes:I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.

I hadn't realised my cock had an air deficiency, howzabout you giving my wee man some mouth to cock resuscitation?

[early-kink]

Farm girl writes:I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.

I hadn't realised my cock had an air deficiency, howzabout you giving my wee man some mouth to cock resuscitation?

[Farmgirl]

SexyWifeLisaHubbyACE, While your wife may like his size, it won't affect how you fit in her. That's just stuff that guys like to fantize about. We don't become loose because we've had a larger cock. It might play well in your head, but it just ain't reality.
If she gets loose, it's about muscle atrophy. Exercise takes care of it like with any muscle. I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.
I've never seen a cock as big as a baby, if having babies didn't strech me, no cock will. It's just reality

I also agree with what Sophie said in her comments to you.

Farmgirl, You have let all the guys on OHW in on the best kept secret of muscle control and exercise.

What's a Lady to do now, when asked the 'Can you feel it' or 'Is it in' question.

You have 'never seen a cock as big as a baby', but I bet you have been told that by guys, that he's big many times.

Sophie.

[Farmgirl]

Farm girl writes:I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.

I hadn't realised my cock had an air deficiency, howzabout you giving my wee man some mouth to cock resuscitation?

Now, early-kink. At least solstice asked a question.
And, to answer his question: If you had Sophie or me your wee man would need resuscitation.

[Sophie]

Farm girl writes:I can relax and feel looser if that's what a guy wants or tighten up and make your dick gasp for air.

I hadn't realised my cock had an air deficiency, howzabout you giving my wee man some mouth to cock resuscitation?

Now, early-kink. At least solstice asked a question.
And, to answer his question: If you had Sophie or me your wee man would need resuscitation.

Farmgirl, Not sure if a violet wand would help with the resuscitation, but it's worth a try.

Sophie.

[solstice]

I can't help noticing that both Farmgirl and Sophie use cartoon images of themselves in their Avatars, both very sexy on their representation of their life outside Hotwifing, to my corrupt eyes, farmgirl's Avatar promises a roll in the hay and Sophie's smart but sexy city look suggests that the lochgelly tawse is within easy reach: for those who have never felt the power of it they may have to resort to google, but I was in terror of this fearsome weapon throughout my schooldays, as this was the proscribed method of correction in Scotland. has Sophie ever used an instrument of correction, and what would Farmgirl use to bring a FB in line?

[LeterrideinMN]

My wife and I have been married 30 yrs now. 3 years into our marriage, we decided to try a threesome with a buddy of mine who my wife use to date. This opened the door to many things, as she has been allowed to have sex on the side as often as she likes. She has done over nights with her play dates, but never a whole weekend, she has now been fantasizing about an entire weekend of fucking and asking me if I'd be ok with her having a boyfriend on the side. I love having her get fucked, creampied and sent home by a much bigger cock. Would be be crossing the line if I let her keep a boyfriend on the side and letting her go for an entire weekend every month?

[Sophie]

I can't help noticing that both Farmgirl and Sophie use cartoon images of themselves in their Avatars, both very sexy on their representation of their life outside Hotwifing, to my corrupt eyes, farmgirl's Avatar promises a roll in the hay and Sophie's smart but sexy city look suggests that the lochgelly tawse is within easy reach: for those who have never felt the power of it they may have to resort to google, but I was in terror of this fearsome weapon throughout my schooldays, as this was the proscribed method of correction in Scotland. has Sophie ever used an instrument of correction, and what would Farmgirl use to bring a FB in line?

solstice, I really can't believe you asked that question.

I have documented the use of a heavy leather tawse on OHW more than once.

I have also said I have been a bdsm Mistress longer than a HW.

I know how to double team by myself. Five bar gate with a red sunset.

Such tardiness should be punished. The how needs further consideration.

Sophie.

[solstice]

Looks as though I have a bit of delving into your past posts, at over six hundred entries, (Perhaps I should rephrase that) I will have to burn the midnight oil.
As pain is not my pleasure, I should be thankful of the considerable distance between Norfolk and the Highland: That said I would love your company if you promised to spare the rod.

[Sophie]

Looks as though I have a bit of delving into your past posts, at over six hundred entries, (Perhaps I should rephrase that) I will have to burn the midnight oil.
As pain is not my pleasure, I should be thankful of the considerable distance between Norfolk and the Highland: That said I would love your company if you promised to spare the rod.

solstice, The saying 'Spare the rod spoil the child' is a saying, I feel is correct. So no it maybe the three leg tawse full on.

Sophie.

[solstice]

A coward plea:

Can't I just enjoy the other side of you? even if you talk gentle, I would like to avoid the sting on the tail!

[Husbands Kandi]

My wife and I have been married 30 yrs now. 3 years into our marriage, we decided to try a threesome with a buddy of mine who my wife use to date. This opened the door to many things, as she has been allowed to have sex on the side as often as she likes. She has done over nights with her play dates, but never a whole weekend, she has now been fantasizing about an entire weekend of fucking and asking me if I'd be ok with her having a boyfriend on the side. I love having her get fucked, creampied and sent home by a much bigger cock. Would be be crossing the line if I let her keep a boyfriend on the side and letting her go for an entire weekend every month?

Welcome to OHW, LeterrideinMN.

The two of you make this LS what you want it to be. If you feel it’s “crossing a line” then you need to have that conversation with her. If you’re both cool with it – see how it goes. If things go sideways – you HAVE to talk it out. The bottom line is how strong is your foundation and how open/honest is your communication – and do those things matter to both of you?

One last question, you said you “allow” and “let” her do these things – do you have ultimate control over stopping this if you want? Or is hotwifing more of an understanding/agreement? Just curious.

Enjoy the forum

[Farmgirl]

My wife and I have been married 30 yrs now. 3 years into our marriage, we decided to try a threesome with a buddy of mine who my wife use to date. This opened the door to many things, as she has been allowed to have sex on the side as often as she likes. She has done over nights with her play dates, but never a whole weekend, she has now been fantasizing about an entire weekend of fucking and asking me if I'd be ok with her having a boyfriend on the side. I love having her get fucked, creampied and sent home by a much bigger cock. Would be be crossing the line if I let her keep a boyfriend on the side and letting her go for an entire weekend every month?

Crossing the line? That would be for the two of you to decide.
Some wives spend nights, weekends, or vacations with their boyfriends. Some don't. Each wife and indeed, each couple is different.
What do you want?

[tunafish]

My wife and I have been married 30 yrs now. 3 years into our marriage, we decided to try a threesome with a buddy of mine who my wife use to date. This opened the door to many things, as she has been allowed to have sex on the side as often as she likes. She has done over nights with her play dates, but never a whole weekend, she has now been fantasizing about an entire weekend of fucking and asking me if I'd be ok with her having a boyfriend on the side. I love having her get fucked, creampied and sent home by a much bigger cock. Would be be crossing the line if I let her keep a boyfriend on the side and letting her go for an entire weekend every month?

Your question poses an interesting issue. L and I have been a HW couple for a very short time, 8 weeks to be precise.

L has in effect taken a boyfriend. He’s someone we’ve known, I not well, L a bit longer as they played in a pickle ball team with a number of others. He’s a good guy, respectful of our marriage.

L’s been with him up to now pretty much weekly but I see it increasing to probably twice a week. I’m more than ok with that arrangement.

L has not spent the night there but threw that out as a question and what I thought about that. At the time I told her I’d have to think about it. I’d like her to slow down on that until we’re more experienced.

You two of course have much more of an historical perspective on such an arrangement. It seems to me if you’re asking the question you may be in the same place as me.

The one thing I’ll say so far the move into the lifestyle has brought a brand new excitement and enthusiasm to our 40 year marriage. We both couldn’t be happier.

In fact L has an afternoon get together with J today. She’s usually at his house for about 4 hours. The hours for me vary from relaxing and savoring what they’re doing to the far other extreme. Typical of this journey.

I’ll be interested in the what you and your wife come up with as I see this likely being something that will be coming up with us at some point.

We have a thread in the forum under
40 years of fantasy and now it’s time? Might jot be precisely that title but it’s close. If you’re interested in our journey.

[LeterrideinMN]

I want her to fuck as much as she can while she can. I think I'm ok with her going on a weekend rendezvous every month, hell, if she wants to fuck for a whole week, I'm good with it. Just bring that fresh fucked pussy home to daddy when you're done. 27 years of letting her have sex with other men and women, her sex drive is insatiable

[Farmgirl]

Guys, remember that this thread is for VHW to answer, not men.

We love your questions, but keep in mind the purpose of this thread.

[tunafish]

How do I get my religious wife who says she only wants to be with me and hates the idea of another man to try it without ruining my marriage. I love her and don’t want anything to end our 20 year marriage so if I have to quit trying for this fantasy I will but I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly.

It's not about you, "I want to watch her one time with stranger so badly." It's about what she wants. Handled the right way and with time as she begins to trust you, she might want to do it her way. Forget the script in your head, she won't want to follow it. If you are being the husband she wants and not just the one you think you are, then it gets easier as the two of you will begin to actually communicate, listening to each other.

Farmgirl. When I woke up to what you said above is when our relationship took off. Things I’ve never seen or heard in 40 years is coming to the surface. Listening to L and hearing or asking what you want/need is way nicer than continually trying to figure out ways to get her to do what I want

tunafish, Farmgirl is not just a pretty face, she knows more than some give her credit for, a lot more.

Sophie.

[tunafish]

Guys, remember that this thread is for VHW to answer, not men.

We love your questions, but keep in mind the purpose of this thread.

Whoops so sorry I'd forgotten or didn't realize that - Ill delete it