Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Farmgirl]

Guys, remember that this thread is for VHW to answer, not men.

We love your questions, but keep in mind the purpose of this thread.

Whoops so sorry I'd forgotten or didn't realize that - Ill delete it

Thank you, my friend.

[coastalkid]

Do any of you VHW's masturbate? I realize you might do it for "show" for your husband/bf. Is masturbating something you like to do or not? As far as I can tell my wife does not other than the first week she got her first Hitachi years ago. She has done it for me to get me excited but only rarely. I was just wondering how other wives are about this?

Thank you!

CK

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum LeterrideinMN.

[Farmgirl]

Do any of you VHW's masturbate? I realize you might do it for "show" for your husband/bf. Is masturbating something you like to do or not? As far as I can tell my wife does not other than the first week she got her first Hitachi years ago. She has done it for me to get me excited but only rarely. I was just wondering how other wives are about this?

Thank you!

CK

I really don't unless I'm with a guy. My husband and some of my guys like to watch me and sometimes I like to do it while my husband jacks off. But I don't do it by myself just to get off. If I need an orgasm, I call one of my guys, lately A, as he is normally available.

[Hotwifehubby1234]

My wife is a hotwife, and has a steady fwb. She is demi sexual and has to have a connection with a person to sleep with them. I guess I am questioning the difference between a HW and poly?
Thank you in advance.

[Hotwifehubby1234]

My wife is a hotwife, and has a steady fwb. She is demi sexual and has to have a connection with a person to sleep with them. I guess I am questioning the difference between a HW and poly?
Thank you in advance.

[coastalkid]

But I don't do it by myself just to get off. If I need an orgasm, I call one of my guys......

One of the benefits of being a hot wife right? I'm sure hernumber#1 appreciates seeing you do it when he masturbates. I'll bet you expedite things with some saucy stories too. So, not even as a young woman either?

[Husbands Kandi]

Do any of you VHW's masturbate? I realize you might do it for "show" for your husband/bf. Is masturbating something you like to do or not? As far as I can tell my wife does not other than the first week she got her first Hitachi years ago. She has done it for me to get me excited but only rarely. I was just wondering how other wives are about this?

Thank you!

CK

Yep, I do by myself and with partners. If I'm not getting laid enough I'll use my hitachi (that my boyfriend got me) and it alone if I'm short on time. I'll add in the big brown dildo (It's name is "the Captain," no really, it came with that name, lol) that another lover got me. And sometimes the tentacle toy my boyfriend also got me. And then there are times hubby or partners will use the toys on me, yum!

[Husbands Kandi]

My wife is a hotwife, and has a steady fwb. She is demi sexual and has to have a connection with a person to sleep with them. I guess I am questioning the difference between a HW and poly?
Thank you in advance.

Really just depends on what you (or she) wants to refer to is as. I think everyone may have a little bit of a different definition to situations. For me, hotwifing is NSA to FWB. I don't love these guys. Might be bummed if they were no longer fucking me. But life moves on if they end things. I'll leave that door open, "If things change, and you want to fuck, let me know." One lover has come and gone 3x now due to entering monogamous relationships. And while he's SUCH a good fuck, he may again want to focus on a relationship and things will end. No emotional turmoil there.

Poly for me is the relationship i have with my boyfriend. I love him. I'm sad when I can't spend time with him. He's the lover I want to be with over all others. I care about him and his well being. And when something goes wrong (for example, he's super pissed off at me right now, so I'm really upset by it) it REALLY impacts me. I've taken "sick" days because I've been upset. And I've taken vacation days to go on weekend/week long trips with him. If he were to end things, it would be WAY different than if a hotwifing lover ended thing.

Maybe hop over to the Poly forum. Woudln't hurt to see if others are posting something similar to what you're experiencing.

[Farmgirl]

But I don't do it by myself just to get off. If I need an orgasm, I call one of my guys......

One of the benefits of being a hot wife right? I'm sure hernumber#1 appreciates seeing you do it when he masturbates. I'll bet you expedite things with some saucy stories too. So, not even as a young woman either?

I learned very, very early on that I liked rubbing my clit, and I still love rubbing it during sex. I've never been with a guy that didn't get hot from watching me play with my clit, and knowing that I'm exposed putting on a show for them is naughty, and I do love naughty! The rubbing feels good but, the real good part is knowing what it does to them to watch me.
While being fucked, if I reach down and rub my clit, it makes them hotter for me. I guess it is my display or outward show of how sexual I am. Kind of my way of showing how wanton I am, and I love to make guys see me as wanton .
I've tried toys and vibrators but, for me, nothing beats a hard cock in my pussy, or even better, in my arse .
Normally I have no desire to play with myself alone, I have a nice full sex life and have had since I was 14-15.
There was a period when I was pregnant with both kids, that I would rub my clit while pumping a dildo in my ass. It seemed I just couldn't get enough then. Each of those times was followed by going back to no playing with myself. During each pregnancy and for close to two years afterward, I only wanted anal sex, and probably would have stayed with it except for my Number1 wanting back in my pussy.
So, yes, I have masturbated, but it's not really my thing for getting off. More a great way to heighten the erotism for me and my guys.

[rascalnvixen]

Hello Ladies,

I've been missing someone from our OHW boards. Does anyone have any info on 2UP?? She hasn't been on the website in almost 2 weeks. Frankly, I'm a little worried about her absence. Thanks! If it something that should not be posted openly, please PM me.

Rascal

[Bluskiescuck]

Thinking back to before you were aware of this kink, how would you have ideally liked to be told about this fantasy by someone you were dating? I know this is who I am. My marriage suffered because it was something my ex could never understand. I want to be up front with women as I start dating again, but there is a fine line between sharing too much right away and not enough. Ideally, I'd prefer to find a woman that is into kink, but it isnt the easiest to find that compatibility through kink alone.

[subsisscuck]

What is that one most humiliating (though it is a love gesture) thing you want to do to your hubby in team with your your bull

[subsisscuck]

What is that one most humiliating (though it is a love gesture) thing you want to do to your hubby in team with your your bull

[subsisscuck]

What is that one most humiliating (though it is a love gesture) thing you want to do to your hubby in team with your bull

[Spartan Shield]

Question for the ladies on here - do you ever get emotional and cry when you have sex either with your husband or lover?

The reason I ask is that my wife has been having an on/off flirtatious relationship with her personal trainer for about 18 months (when they are actually able to meet with Covid). I’m pretty sure nothing has ever happened in real life but she sometimes brings him up when we are making love and she will fantasise about him.

Anyway last night she had a very vivid dream about him where they made love and it was so intense that she burst into tears as she had her orgasm in the dream, which woke her up - in quite an emotionally confused state at about 5am. It wasn’t immediately apparent to me what was wrong, she was very emotional, didn’t want me to touch her, then she did want me to hold her, and as she came round the story began to come out.

She has never had that sort of emotional reaction to us making love, or indeed anyone else for that matter.

We had a really good and loving conversation where we were just holding each other and saying how much we loved one another. She was still physically and emotionally disturbed by the dream and she asked me if I would go down on her. I asked if she wanted to make love and she was really certain that she just wanted me to go down on her - and she had a series of v powerful orgasms.

A few hours later, it’s as if nothing happened. Really appreciate the insight of the women on here. Was that just a dream to be forgotten or does it mean something more?

[Sophie]

My wife and I have been married 30 yrs now. 3 years into our marriage, we decided to try a threesome with a buddy of mine who my wife use to date. This opened the door to many things, as she has been allowed to have sex on the side as often as she likes. She has done over nights with her play dates, but never a whole weekend, she has now been fantasizing about an entire weekend of fucking and asking me if I'd be ok with her having a boyfriend on the side. I love having her get fucked, creampied and sent home by a much bigger cock. Would be be crossing the line if I let her keep a boyfriend on the side and letting her go for an entire weekend every month?

Crossing the line? That would be for the two of you to decide.
Some wives spend nights, weekends, or vacations with their boyfriends. Some don't. Each wife and indeed, each couple is different.
What do you want?

Farmgirl, Yes we are all different in this LS.

You have to workout what works for you both and run with it.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

Thinking back to before you were aware of this kink, how would you have ideally liked to be told about this fantasy by someone you were dating? I know this is who I am. My marriage suffered because it was something my ex could never understand. I want to be up front with women as I start dating again, but there is a fine line between sharing too much right away and not enough. Ideally, I'd prefer to find a woman that is into kink, but it isnt the easiest to find that compatibility through kink alone.

Bluskiescuck, Really good question.

When I was younger, subtle references would have been best over time. Now I'm older, it would be better sooner rather than later and more open in a private chat with each other.

Yes the age of the Lady does matter.

Hope this helps answer your question.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

What is that one most humiliating (though it is a love gesture) thing you want to do to your hubby in team with your your bull

subsisscuck, Never going to happen as my husbands parents have both passed away and anyway would never do it in real life.

Just not my idea of good thing to do.

I would love to have arranged a meal at a restaurant with hubby, his parents and a lover.

Prior to the meal hubby would be instructed by my lover to have enough drinks during the meal, so he could not possibly drive.

Given that I don't drink, his parents would assume I would be driving us both home.

So picture their puzzled look when at the end of the evening, hubby has to ask his parents if they would take him home in their car.

When they question why I am not driving him home.

He has to explain that I can not drive him home as I am spending the night with my lover in the hotel.

My lover would then say to hubbys parents, yes that's right your daughter in law tonight is spending the night in my bed and I have decided your Son is not allowed to watch me pleasure his wife as last week when I let him watch us, he misbehaved so badly, that he really needs to be punished, in addition to the bare bottom caning I gave him and the additional 30 days in chasisty for his bad behaviour at the time.

Hence he has to go home and is not permitted to watch us enjoy each other.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

Question for the ladies on here - do you ever get emotional and cry when you have sex either with your husband or lover?

The reason I ask is that my wife has been having an on/off flirtatious relationship with her personal trainer for about 18 months (when they are actually able to meet with Covid). I’m pretty sure nothing has ever happened in real life but she sometimes brings him up when we are making love and she will fantasise about him.

Anyway last night she had a very vivid dream about him where they made love and it was so intense that she burst into tears as she had her orgasm in the dream, which woke her up - in quite an emotionally confused state at about 5am. It wasn’t immediately apparent to me what was wrong, she was very emotional, didn’t want me to touch her, then she did want me to hold her, and as she came round the story began to come out.

She has never had that sort of emotional reaction to us making love, or indeed anyone else for that matter.

We had a really good and loving conversation where we were just holding each other and saying how much we loved one another. She was still physically and emotionally disturbed by the dream and she asked me if I would go down on her. I asked if she wanted to make love and she was really certain that she just wanted me to go down on her - and she had a series of v powerful orgasms.

A few hours later, it’s as if nothing happened. Really appreciate the insight of the women on here. Was that just a dream to be forgotten or does it mean something more?

Spartan Shield, For the record, I have never get emotional or cry when I have sex.

Sophie.

[solstice]

Farmgirl writes: While being fucked, if I reach down and rub my clit, it makes them hotter for me.

My wife always maintained she never masturbated, in fact if she suspected me of bopping the bishop, she would get so mad that I would get the silent treatment for at least two weeks: We were both were non drinkers, One night I took her for a birthday meal to a Greek restaurant in St Albans, the waiting staff knew it was her birthday and gave her two glasses of wine, and on the drive home I noticed some movement from her, glancing round she had her hand up her skirt, when she saw me looking she said with embarrassment "my tights are irritating me" a few minutes later she asked me with a note of urgency, "can you find some place to park", it was an upscale area I was driving through, I turned of into a leafy street and parked next to a secluded house, she went into the back seat, and by the time I joined her, her panties were off, and we were soon hard at it. Up to then she had never taken the lead with sex.

[solstice]

Sophie writes: Spartan Shield, For the record, I have never get emotional or cry when I have sex.

I take it you would be too polite to laugh in derision either.

[Sophie]

Farmgirl writes: While being fucked, if I reach down and rub my clit, it makes them hotter for me.

My wife always maintained she never masturbated, in fact if she suspected me of bopping the bishop, she would get so mad that I would get the silent treatment for at least two weeks: We were both were non drinkers, One night I took her for a birthday meal to a Greek restaurant in St Albans, the waiting staff knew it was her birthday and gave her two glasses of wine, and on the drive home I noticed some movement from her, glancing round she had her hand up her skirt, when she saw me looking she said with embarrassment "my tights are irritating me" a few minutes later she asked me with a note of urgency, "can you find some place to park", it was an upscale area I was driving through, I turned of into a leafy street and parked next to a secluded house, she went into the back seat, and by the time I joined her, her panties were off, and we were soon hard at it. Up to then she had never taken the lead with sex.

solstice, Naughty naughty little boy. No question again.

Sophie.

[Sophie]

Sophie writes: Spartan Shield, For the record, I have never get emotional or cry when I have sex.

I take it you would be too polite to laugh in derision either.

solstice, I have also never laughed about size, performance and such things. Not meeting again ensures the message is fully conveyed.

Sophie.

[Bluskiescuck]

Thinking back to before you were aware of this kink, how would you have ideally liked to be told about this fantasy by someone you were dating? I know this is who I am. My marriage suffered because it was something my ex could never understand. I want to be up front with women as I start dating again, but there is a fine line between sharing too much right away and not enough. Ideally, I'd prefer to find a woman that is into kink, but it isnt the easiest to find that compatibility through kink alone.

Bluskiescuck, Really good question.

When I was younger, subtle references would have been best over time. Now I'm older, it would be better sooner rather than later and more open in a private chat with each other.

Yes the age of the Lady does matter.

Hope this helps answer your question.

Sophie.

That does make sense. I'm in the same mode. When I was younger, I'd never have had the courage to talk about it openly but now, I dont really want to be subtle.