Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[Farmgirl]

Do any of you VHW's "squirt"? If not, have you consciously tried to to see if you could? If you have or do, is it like some kind of mind bending orgasm. I've never tried to make my wife squirt by intention. I always am just trying to give her an orgasm. Personally, I'd dig it if I could make her spasm uncontrollably and squirt all over herself just for my own selfish indulgence. What's your take on squirting?

It's a new thing for me, and so far only happens when I'm standing bent over and fucked from behind. It a slightly different orgasm, not better or worse than regular ones. When it happens, it just gushes down my legs.

[AZVixen]

The porn movies are tricks. You can watch videos where porn stars talk about how they do it, they are either peeing, or they fill the vagina with fluid during a cut scene, then when they start filming again, she squeezes it out. Some women can release a little fluid here and there, but these huge flows are not real.

[coastalkid]

For me it isn't at all how it looks in porn. It is more like a really big gush of fluid all at once (well you asked!)
There is no stream that shoots across the room.

I really have to be relaxed for it to happen and it usually doesn't happen unless I have already had at least one orgasm. If I let it happen I get a big contraction then the gush of fluid "cums" out. I tend to warn men so that they aren't startled- I forgot once luckily he liked it!

It is usually triggered by simultaneous stimulation of both my g-spot and clitoris.It does feel different than other orgasms- can't describe the difference really.

I do realize that porn (other than homemade) is always exaggerated. I did have a gf before my wife that I made squirt one time. She never had it happen before and was really embarrassed. On the other hand, she wasn't so embarrassed to want to try again!

The porn movies are tricks. You can watch videos where porn stars talk about how they do it, they are either peeing, or they fill the vagina with fluid during a cut scene, then when they start filming again, she squeezes it out. Some women can release a little fluid here and there, but these huge flows are not real.

For some reason I'm thinking of how they take pictures of hamburgers for advertising, it looks perfect! It never looks like that when you unwrap it yourself! I enjoy porn but I only really like the homemade type. I prefer thinking "regular imperfect" people want to film their exploits! Makes me think I could too! Have you ever squirted?

It's a new thing for me, and so far only happens when I'm standing bent over and fucked from behind. It a slightly different orgasm, not better or worse than regular ones. When it happens, it just gushes down my legs.

If it's a new thing then that had to be a rush that first time. I wanted to add something about the "porn version" that I thought you'd appreciate. I really don't watch professional porn at all. I like the homemade stuff because it's "reality" and the other is more like "fantasy"! Is it something you think you could stop from happening? If you're bent over and all the right spots are getting hit, is it inevitable?

[2inUPMichigan]

For me it isn't at all how it looks in porn. It is more like a really big gush of fluid all at once (well you asked!)
There is no stream that shoots across the room.

I really have to be relaxed for it to happen and it usually doesn't happen unless I have already had at least one orgasm. If I let it happen I get a big contraction then the gush of fluid "cums" out. I tend to warn men so that they aren't startled- I forgot once luckily he liked it!

It is usually triggered by simultaneous stimulation of both my g-spot and clitoris.It does feel different than other orgasms- can't describe the difference really.

I do realize that porn (other than homemade) is always exaggerated. I did have a gf before my wife that I made squirt one time. She never had it happen before and was really embarrassed. On the other hand, she wasn't so embarrassed to want to try again!

The porn movies are tricks. You can watch videos where porn stars talk about how they do it, they are either peeing, or they fill the vagina with fluid during a cut scene, then when they start filming again, she squeezes it out. Some women can release a little fluid here and there, but these huge flows are not real.

For some reason I'm thinking of how they take pictures of hamburgers for advertising, it looks perfect! It never looks like that when you unwrap it yourself! I enjoy porn but I only really like the homemade type. I prefer thinking "regular imperfect" people want to film their exploits! Makes me think I could too! Have you ever squirted?

It's a new thing for me, and so far only happens when I'm standing bent over and fucked from behind. It a slightly different orgasm, not better or worse than regular ones. When it happens, it just gushes down my legs.

If it's a new thing then that had to be a rush that first time. I wanted to add something about the "porn version" that I thought you'd appreciate. I really don't watch professional porn at all. I like the homemade stuff because it's "reality" and the other is more like "fantasy"! Is it something you think you could stop from happening? If you're bent over and all the right spots are getting hit, is it inevitable?

As far as stopping it is concerned as with any orgasm if you interrupt it at the right moment you can of course prevent it from happening.

[Farmgirl]

For me it isn't at all how it looks in porn. It is more like a really big gush of fluid all at once (well you asked!)
There is no stream that shoots across the room.

I really have to be relaxed for it to happen and it usually doesn't happen unless I have already had at least one orgasm. If I let it happen I get a big contraction then the gush of fluid "cums" out. I tend to warn men so that they aren't startled- I forgot once luckily he liked it!

It is usually triggered by simultaneous stimulation of both my g-spot and clitoris.It does feel different than other orgasms- can't describe the difference really.

I do realize that porn (other than homemade) is always exaggerated. I did have a gf before my wife that I made squirt one time. She never had it happen before and was really embarrassed. On the other hand, she wasn't so embarrassed to want to try again!

The porn movies are tricks. You can watch videos where porn stars talk about how they do it, they are either peeing, or they fill the vagina with fluid during a cut scene, then when they start filming again, she squeezes it out. Some women can release a little fluid here and there, but these huge flows are not real.

For some reason I'm thinking of how they take pictures of hamburgers for advertising, it looks perfect! It never looks like that when you unwrap it yourself! I enjoy porn but I only really like the homemade type. I prefer thinking "regular imperfect" people want to film their exploits! Makes me think I could too! Have you ever squirted?

It's a new thing for me, and so far only happens when I'm standing bent over and fucked from behind. It a slightly different orgasm, not better or worse than regular ones. When it happens, it just gushes down my legs.

If it's a new thing then that had to be a rush that first time. I wanted to add something about the "porn version" that I thought you'd appreciate. I really don't watch professional porn at all. I like the homemade stuff because it's "reality" and the other is more like "fantasy"! Is it something you think you could stop from happening? If you're bent over and all the right spots are getting hit, is it inevitable?

As far as stopping it is concerned as with any orgasm if you interrupt it at the right moment you can of course prevent it from happening.

I have to agree with 2inUP.

[coastalkid]

How hard is it to deal with a bad experience, or flakes, or other general disappointments? If you have a regular or regulars (I'm thinking Farmgirl here) I would guess this takes care of itself mostly. Since your husband isn't that much of a factor in controlling these things, how does he handle knowing you're dissatisfied? Do you always let him know if something wasn't good? I would imagine that I would jump up and try to solve everything while not being completely aware of all the nuances and be more of a pain than help. I'll hope to have to remember I said that. I have a feeling most of you dust yourself off and go again and take it in stride.

[Farmgirl]

How hard is it to deal with a bad experience, or flakes, or other general disappointments? If you have a regular or regulars (I'm thinking Farmgirl here) I would guess this takes care of itself mostly. Since your husband isn't that much of a factor in controlling these things, how does he handle knowing you're dissatisfied? Do you always let him know if something wasn't good? I would imagine that I would jump up and try to solve everything while not being completely aware of all the nuances and be more of a pain than help. I'll hope to have to remember I said that. I have a feeling most of you dust yourself off and go again and take it in stride.

coastalkid,
I've never had a bad experience. Some times have been less than stellar, but none have been bad.
I does help that I have regulars, I asked them back because we click, and now I pretty much know what to expect. Though there are times things don't go to meet my idea. You know I see A pretty often, but a few weeks ago I told my Number1 that things weren't "right". A's behavior wasn't his normal fun self.
I told my Number1 all about it like I would tell my most trusted friend (he is BTW). Of course, being a man, he wanted to fix it . But he has learned and matured and listened to me rant, waiting for me to finish before he offered any perspective.
I told him that I was going to give A one more chance.
When I went to see A a few days later, he was his old happy self. As he got undressed I discovered the reason for him acting moody and tacky. On his butt was the telltale bandage and marks of having T-pellets placed under the skin. Then it hit me, he was a little overdue for his T levels to be boosted. So, things still happen in regular longer-term relationships.
You could imagine how relieved and happy my Number1 was when I got home to tell him, He doesn't like it at all when I'm dissatisfied. I always discuss everything with my Number1, that's why this works so well. We don't keep secrets, we have no need to. It's like we laugh about to each other (though there's a lot of truth), "if you can freely discuss your wife's lovers with you wife, and her with you, then you should be able to discuss anything at all".

BTW flakes are really annoying, another form of liers as far as I'm concerned.

[coastalkid]

........... We don't keep secrets, we have no need to. It's like we laugh about to each other (though there's a lot of truth), "if you can freely discuss your wife's lovers with you wife, and her with you, then you should be able to discuss anything at all".

BTW flakes are really annoying, another form of liers as far as I'm concerned.

I didn't mean to infer that you kept secrets. I believe that the VHW's that answer here see keeping secrets as foolish and unnecessary. As you say, you have no need to. I was thinking more along the lines you mentioned, "the things that happen in regular long term relationships". You have a different dynamic too. Some wives limit the times they repeat with lovers so, they are constantly looking and therefore the flakes and the possible rejection is all there again. Seems like that could get tiresome finding that "just right" partner.

[Farmgirl]

I didn't take it that you had inferred anything about me keeping secrets. I just added the part about secrets so others might learn from what we were talking about. Not all have as good an understanding of some of my history and views as you and some others. It was just a teaching moment for newer folks.
When I reply to you, or another, I also look at what I'm saying for the benefit of not only the questioner, but also others reading. So, sometimes I add thoughts that were provoked by the bigger part of the question, especially when I think it's a good question.

Even in a longer term relationship, like I prefer, there is still some level of angst or worry about the relationship at times just as in any relationship. In any relationship you have to deal with minor perceived conflicts and misunderstandings.

[Lowboy]

It’s not like I’m asking you to do anything crazy. Just some dirty talk about my fantasy. I would do anything she asked but it doesn’t seem like she is willing to return the favor. She has turned very very vanilla.

[Farmgirl]

It’s not like I’m asking you to do anything crazy. Just some dirty talk about my fantasy. I would do anything she asked but it doesn’t seem like she is willing to return the favor. She has turned very very vanilla.

Do you have a question?

[Robrt]

I have run into a significant number of husbands on line who bemoan the loss of the sexual interest their wives, when younger, had. There is a book written by Dr Judith Reichman, a practicing gynecologist, titled "I'm not in the mood". She goes on to talk about the hormonal changes that that place involving menopause, hysterectomies and more that can impact sexual desire. Address a group VHW's this experience may not be yours. My questions are A) are you familiar with this happening with someone you know? B) Is there a practical solution which could be of help?
Thanks for your contributions to this site!

[2inUPMichigan]

It’s not like I’m asking you to do anything crazy. Just some dirty talk about my fantasy. I would do anything she asked but it doesn’t seem like she is willing to return the favor. She has turned very very vanilla.

Do you have a question?

I think this post is in response to my reply to his original question?
I'll see if I can cut and paste it here.

[secretdatesdiary]

Do any of you VHW's "squirt"? If not, have you consciously tried to to see if you could? If you have or do, is it like some kind of mind bending orgasm. I've never tried to make my wife squirt by intention. I always am just trying to give her an orgasm. Personally, I'd dig it if I could make her spasm uncontrollably and squirt all over herself just for my own selfish indulgence. What's your take on squirting?

I think it's amazing, but I have to be in a state of mind, like extremely horny. With a cock in my mouth, I easily squirt.
Charley deepthroated me while I was on my hands and knees on a fitness bench. He finger fucked me and my pussy kept on gushing, like a never ending fountain. I was sober, didn't eat (because I want to carelessly deepthroat) and drank very little. I don't know where all the fluid is coming from??
This was one of my top 5 moments. Charley had to mop the floor after and I had to dry my skirt. Wish I had a recording of this session.

[2inUPMichigan]

I have run into a significant number of husbands on line who bemoan the loss of the sexual interest their wives, when younger, had. There is a book written by Dr Judith Reichman, a practicing gynecologist, titled "I'm not in the mood". She goes on to talk about the hormonal changes that that place involving menopause, hysterectomies and more that can impact sexual desire. Address a group VHW's this experience may not be yours. My questions are A) are you familiar with this happening with someone you know? B) Is there a practical solution which could be of help?
Thanks for your contributions to this site!

Menopause does not affect all women in exactly the same way. For me I have had an increase in sex drive so I do not fit in that group at all.

If a woman's hormones are out of balance (Progesterone/Estrogen/Testosterone) that can create problems for her, in more areas than just sexual interest. Talking to a GYN is very important in finding a workable solution, someone who is open to all the different options available.

There are several hotwives that have mentioned using testosterone but I am not going to answer for them as it isn't my story to tell and I don't have first hand experience about that (results or side effects).

Good luck! I hope a solution is found

[Farmgirl]

I have run into a significant number of husbands on line who bemoan the loss of the sexual interest their wives, when younger, had. There is a book written by Dr Judith Reichman, a practicing gynecologist, titled "I'm not in the mood". She goes on to talk about the hormonal changes that that place involving menopause, hysterectomies and more that can impact sexual desire. Address a group VHW's this experience may not be yours. My questions are A) are you familiar with this happening with someone you know? B) Is there a practical solution which could be of help?
Thanks for your contributions to this site!

At menopause, my sex drive increased. But, I know not all women are so lucky. A common treatment is to have a doctor balance the hormones. Family Practitioners can do this as well as OB/GYN and Urologists. Urologists tend to be better versed in this or at least more receptive to fixing the problem than many OB/GYN.
Our family doctor took care of me, and I feel great. My hormone balance was off affecting other things while not affecting my sex drive.
You need to look for a doctor that will get things to optimal, not just in the "normal" range.

[MtnCouple]

Hi, hotwives! An interesting subject came up in another forum today. I am curious what you all think.

What do you think is crossing the line into being gay - or where would you lose respect for your husband in a sexual situation?

AZVixen gave a list of things that she would lose respect for her husband if he did. It’s a good list. I agree with most of it. So here is an example of what I mean...

I’m personally not into men at all. I don’t have a problem with gay people. I don’t consider calling someone gay an insult. I’m just not into dudes at all. I’m not naive. I know what an attractive guy looks like. I’m not blind. I’m just not personally attracted to men. I don’t want anything in my bum. I certainly don’t want to fuck a guy or suck his dick, eat his cum, “clean” him off - as I see a lot of men put on here.

But I’d have no problem doing DP or even DV On my wife with a guy. Im into watching other guys have sex with my wife. I’m also into fucking my wife after another guy has cum in her pussy.

So, in short... what is your line that you wouldn’t want your husband to cross with another guy?

[2inUPMichigan]

Hi, hotwives! An interesting subject came up in another forum today. I am curious what you all think.

What do you think is crossing the line into being gay - or where would you lose respect for your husband in a sexual situation?

AZVixen gave a list of things that she would lose respect for her husband if he did. It’s a good list. I agree with most of it. So here is an example of what I mean...

I’m personally not into men at all. I don’t have a problem with gay people. I don’t consider calling someone gay an insult. I’m just not into dudes at all. I’m not naive. I know what an attractive guy looks like. I’m not blind. I’m just not personally attracted to men. I don’t want anything in my bum. I certainly don’t want to fuck a guy or suck his dick, eat his cum, “clean” him off - as I see a lot of men put on here.

But I’d have no problem doing DP or even DV On my wife with a guy. Im into watching other guys have sex with my wife. I’m also into fucking my wife after another guy has cum in her pussy.

So, in short... what is your line that you wouldn’t want your husband to cross with another guy?

I think there are two different subjects in your post.

The first is: What do you think is crossing the line into being gay.
I think the real question that may come up would be "Is my husband bisexual" because of _____"
Most of the posts that I have read don't mention a lack of sexual interest in their wives.
Would I lose respect for my husband if he was bisexual? No
It might not personally be a turn on for me but I wouldn't lose respect for him if he was honest about his needs and allowing me that same freedom.

The second is: What could happen that would make you lose respect for your husband in a sexual situation?
That is an easy answer for me! If he allowed something to happen that he told me he didn't want or if he didn't protect me.

Your third question I don't have an answer for.
(What is your line that you wouldn't want your husband to cross with another guy?)
Keep in mind hubby does not play

[Farmgirl]

Hi, hotwives! An interesting subject came up in another forum today. I am curious what you all think.

What do you think is crossing the line into being gay - or where would you lose respect for your husband in a sexual situation?

AZVixen gave a list of things that she would lose respect for her husband if he did. It’s a good list. I agree with most of it. So here is an example of what I mean...

I’m personally not into men at all. I don’t have a problem with gay people. I don’t consider calling someone gay an insult. I’m just not into dudes at all. I’m not naive. I know what an attractive guy looks like. I’m not blind. I’m just not personally attracted to men. I don’t want anything in my bum. I certainly don’t want to fuck a guy or suck his dick, eat his cum, “clean” him off - as I see a lot of men put on here.

But I’d have no problem doing DP or even DV On my wife with a guy. Im into watching other guys have sex with my wife. I’m also into fucking my wife after another guy has cum in her pussy.

So, in short... what is your line that you wouldn’t want your husband to cross with another guy?

My husband doesn't play, so there is nothing he could do in a sexual situation that I could ever lose respect over. He is monogamous to me.
Male on male sex is a complete turn off for me.
I saw AZVixen's post, I differ in two areas:
Licking a creampie from me, he is licking me. He's not having sex with a man. May not be your thing, but let's stay with reality. Sperm lives in a woman's body for approx. 5 days. It continues to leak out with her natural fluids until it's no longer there. Diluted, yes. but it's still there. So, lick your wife two or three days later and you can claim you didn't lick another man's cum, but you're lying to yourself.
And, anal play, why would a couple not explore all of each other? If my husband holds back part of himself from me, he wouldn't be much of a man!

[intrigued]

VHWs: If you were to have sex with a virgin, how would you instruct them to please you?

[2inUPMichigan]

Welcome to OHW intrigued

[Farmgirl]

VHWs: If you were to have sex with a virgin, how would you instruct them to please you?

The same way I instruct any man to please me, I tell them what I like.

[tunafish]

VHWs: If you were to have sex with a virgin, how would you instruct them to please you?

The same way I instruct any man to please me, I tell them what I like.

[coconspirators]

Can one of the gals here explain how a woman who loves being penetrated deeply by her 9" x 2.5" dildo, who when her pussy gets excited naturally opens up to take a cock of that size, who says there is no way she would be willing to give up that full feeling, can withstand the urge to experiment with the real thing? Her hardest orgasms are with the dildo pressing against her cervix. Just seems logical she would want the real thing. Is that crazy?

[Farmgirl]

Can one of the gals here explain how a woman who loves being penetrated deeply by her 9" x 2.5" dildo, who when her pussy gets excited naturally opens up to take a cock of that size, who says there is no way she would be willing to give up that full feeling, can withstand the urge to experiment with the real thing? Her hardest orgasms are with the dildo pressing against her cervix. Just seems logical she would want the real thing. Is that crazy?

Whether the bigger dildo feels good or not has really nothing to do with her wanting the real thing. Becoming a hotwife is a whole nuther thing. Her playing with and enjoying the dildo has no risk for her. Her becoming a hotwife has risks, especially a bad reaction from her husband. If you want to go down this road, then build intimacy and trust with her.
To borrow your words, It seems logical that you would discuss this with your wife and she would tell you. That is if you have intimacy and trust.
I'm not picking on you, I just want you to think.