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[crystal]

Question: What or how would be an example of a porn/erotic movie you, lovely hotwives, would enjoy? Be specific please. Thanks!

feetuji, we're good girls, we don't watch such nasty movies Emmanuelle - 1st movie

[feetuji]

Question: What or how would be an example of a porn/erotic movie you, lovely hotwives, would enjoy? Be specific please. Thanks!

feetuji, we're good girls, we don't watch such nasty movies Emmanuelle - 1st movie

So you dont watch nasty movies....only romantic stuff
But you enjoy a movie like Emmanuelle, is that erotic for you? Just trying to see the different tastes of women.

[2inUPMichigan]

During pillow talk last night my wife said she wants me to rape her, meaning she has a rape fantasy. I am not really into this but I am willing to go all-in for her. But I don't really understand why - Why do some women have this fantasy?

We have talked about adding a third for years and I am slowly trying to ease her into it, as it is a fantasy of mine to see her fuck another guy. Understanding her fantasy may help me get her there quicker. My apologies if this has been asked before.

I don't personally have rape fantasies but my best guess is that there is an attraction to the complete loss of control/giving up of control that is inherent in rape.

If you talk with her has she said she likes the control aspect of it? Has she ever played with a dominant partner before?
Did she specifically say she wanted you to violently force yourself on her? Or does she want you to be in control to the point that she is restrained and feels that she can't get away? Maybe it is an attraction to rough sex?

You need to have a talk with her and have her explain exactly how she envisioned this rape fantasy of hers and exactly how she sees the man's behavior. It might not be quite as extreme as you are thinking.

Definitely don't try this with someone else unless the two of you have tried it out first. She may have the fantasy but has no idea how she will respond in the moment until she tries it.

Good luck

[2inUPMichigan]

Question: What or how would be an example of a porn/erotic movie you, lovely hotwives, would enjoy? Be specific please. Thanks!

I honestly haven't had much interest in watching porn since becoming a hotwife. Why bother when real life is better

[KANE_A22]

Any VHWs want to give me some pointers on getting my wife started?

My wife and I do the role play in bed all the time but she has never really gone much further than that.

I want her to be comfortable and enjoy the idea without being overbearing and pushy.

What are some things you did that helped get you interested in taking a step past role play. Incremental progress would be great!

Thanks!

[feetuji]

Question: What or how would be an example of a porn/erotic movie you, lovely hotwives, would enjoy? Be specific please. Thanks!

I honestly haven't had much interest in watching porn since becoming a hotwife. Why bother when real life is better

Agree!

[Greggg]

Hello .

[Greggg]

Hello Ladies,
I have some questions that I hope you can answer for me please. My second wife and I had a great time lightly into the lifestyle. The LS had nothing to with me remarrying a third wife. The last decade has been almost without any sex due to my wife and other circumstances. It has been so long that my ex and I used a VCR to watch porn. My story isn't real interesting and I'm a horrible writer so I'll save my story until a later time. Sorry for the long intro to my questions. What I see on porn videos is different than I remember or maybe I just didn't know much. First is the guys knocking their cocks on their partner's clit. I suppose it feels good to the women but wanted to know if that's a common thing that most people do, does it feel good. Never tried it but I'm willing to learn. Maybe some day I'll find an empty pussy that is interested in an old guy. Just want to be prepared.
Next, question is that the hottest part of watching or participating is all the stuff that happens first. I think it's so hot when I would watch as they moved from kissing to when he starts feeling her breasts outside her shirt. (My ex had amazing tits. Guys paid attention to them even when she was fully covered) Then working his hand inside her shirt to her bare breast. Taking off her shirt and sucking on her nipples for a bit as he is manuevering his free hand up to and inside her panties. Then the rest of the way to some oral and finally to fucking her brains out. I really enjoy watching him rub his cock up and down her pussy lips and finally watching the head disappear as he works more and more of his cock into her. I loved the look on her face as they move through those phases. After a while watching a cock going in and out or staring at a guys ass gets old. But I do love watching her enjoy it all. The stories I read here and the porns I see mostly skip those things. The discovery, undressing and the rest. Wow Im sorry I drug this out. So my next question is am I just old and old fashion or is that interesting to other LS couples? I feel like I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just knock my cock on her clit a few times, slap her ass once in a while and just fuck? I just don't know. What do women want and love to have happen to you? Man I feel stupid asking.

[Farmgirl]

Question: What or how would be an example of a porn/erotic movie you, lovely hotwives, would enjoy? Be specific please. Thanks!

I honestly haven't had much interest in watching porn since becoming a hotwife. Why bother when real life is better

My thoughts exactly!
I prefer some of the British historical series with quite a bit of sex.

[Farmgirl]

Hello Ladies,
I have some questions that I hope you can answer for me please. My second wife and I had a great time lightly into the lifestyle. The LS had nothing to with me remarrying a third wife. The last decade has been almost without any sex due to my wife and other circumstances. It has been so long that my ex and I used a VCR to watch porn. My story isn't real interesting and I'm a horrible writer so I'll save my story until a later time. Sorry for the long intro to my questions. What I see on porn videos is different than I remember or maybe I just didn't know much. First is the guys knocking their cocks on their partner's clit. I suppose it feels good to the women but wanted to know if that's a common thing that most people do, does it feel good. Never tried it but I'm willing to learn. Maybe some day I'll find an empty pussy that is interested in an old guy. Just want to be prepared.
Next, question is that the hottest part of watching or participating is all the stuff that happens first. I think it's so hot when I would watch as they moved from kissing to when he starts feeling her breasts outside her shirt. (My ex had amazing tits. Guys paid attention to them even when she was fully covered) Then working his hand inside her shirt to her bare breast. Taking off her shirt and sucking in her nipples on her nipples for a bit as he is manuevering his free hand up to and inside her panties. Then the rest of the way to some oral and finally to fucking her brains out. I really enjoy watching him rub his cock up and down her pussy lips and finally watching the head disappear as he works more and more of his cock into her. I loved the look on her face as they move through those phases. After a while watching a cock going in and out or staring at a guys ass gets old. But I do love watching her enjoy it all. The stories I read here and the porns I see mostly skip those things. The discovery, undressing and the rest. Wow I drug that out. So my next question is am I just old and old fashion or is that interesting to other LS couples? I feel like I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just knock my cock on her clit a few times, slap her ass once in a while and just fuck? I just don't know. What do women want and love to have happen to you? Man I feel stupid asking.

Wellll, you're going to get way different answers from different women. I can only answer for myself on this.
When I'm with a new guy, there is the exploring, slowly learning each other. But, most of my play is with regular FB or FWB, so we are already comfortable with each other, and know each other's likes.
There is no slowly getting undressed, it is more like Christmas morning. The wrapping is quickly torn off and scattered all over the room. Luckily, I don't wear much wrapping . Kissing as we run our hands over each other, and if I don't go to my knees taking his cock in my mouth, then he is burying his face between my legs. Things escalate quickly from there.
I've never had a guy thump his dick against my clit. Probably looks good for guys on camera, but it wouldn't do a thing for me. I would just see it as a waste of time when we could be enjoying each other. Real life ain't porn, real life is better, so don't get your lessons from porn.
And, I like to cuddle and savor the moment afterward, and then talk as we get dressed and visit. With FWB we visit about all sorts of things. That connection makes the sex better, something that isn't in porn.

[Greggg]

Thank you Farmgirl. That makes perfect sense. They say if you fall off the horse to get back on but when they canter, I still don't know what to do.

[Farmgirl]

Thank you Farmgirl. That makes perfect sense. They say if you fall off the horse to get back on but when they canter, I still don't know what to do.

Enjoy the ride, is what I do .

[Greggg]

Farmgirl, that's hilarious

[2inUPMichigan]

Hello Ladies,
I have some questions that I hope you can answer for me please. My second wife and I had a great time lightly into the lifestyle. The LS had nothing to with me remarrying a third wife. The last decade has been almost without any sex due to my wife and other circumstances. It has been so long that my ex and I used a VCR to watch porn. My story isn't real interesting and I'm a horrible writer so I'll save my story until a later time. Sorry for the long intro to my questions. What I see on porn videos is different than I remember or maybe I just didn't know much. First is the guys knocking their cocks on their partner's clit. I suppose it feels good to the women but wanted to know if that's a common thing that most people do, does it feel good. Never tried it but I'm willing to learn. Maybe some day I'll find an empty pussy that is interested in an old guy. Just want to be prepared.
Next, question is that the hottest part of watching or participating is all the stuff that happens first. I think it's so hot when I would watch as they moved from kissing to when he starts feeling her breasts outside her shirt. (My ex had amazing tits. Guys paid attention to them even when she was fully covered) Then working his hand inside her shirt to her bare breast. Taking off her shirt and sucking on her nipples for a bit as he is manuevering his free hand up to and inside her panties. Then the rest of the way to some oral and finally to fucking her brains out. I really enjoy watching him rub his cock up and down her pussy lips and finally watching the head disappear as he works more and more of his cock into her. I loved the look on her face as they move through those phases. After a while watching a cock going in and out or staring at a guys ass gets old. But I do love watching her enjoy it all. The stories I read here and the porns I see mostly skip those things. The discovery, undressing and the rest. Wow Im sorry I drug this out. So my next question is am I just old and old fashion or is that interesting to other LS couples? I feel like I don't know what to do anymore. Should I just knock my cock on her clit a few times, slap her ass once in a while and just fuck? I just don't know. What do women want and love to have happen to you? Man I feel stupid asking.

The first time I saw what you are referring to I was intrigued. Yep, I've definitely tried it and I can tell you that if I am aroused it absolutely feels great to have a man slap my clit with his cock. I don't see the point however if I am not aroused - that wouldn't make any sense or do anything for me. It may not be a move that everyone is interested in or even comfortable with.

Some women are into impact play (spanking) and some aren't, it's really that simple. You will find out pretty quickly which way a woman feels about it.

I would recommend asking a woman what she is interested in or what turns her on to get a good idea.

Never feel stupid asking! I start out with any new man I am in contact with asking what he is interested in and what he considers off limits. That is the only way I will ever know if he and I will be compatible and if it is worth moving forward.

With a new man things are a bit slower and there is more of the seduction involved. With someone I see regularly there is a familiarity but also an urgency to get naked

[Greggg]

2inUpMichigan, thank you as well for your thoughtful answer. I felt really silly asking but it has been so long that I just don't feel knowledgeable anymore. I tried to erase the post but Farmgirl had already answered. I'm glad I didn't because both you and Farmgirl gave me such real and helpful answers. From 15 when I started having sex with my first girlfriend and wife, I always confident. I would ask and learn what was important and never had any complaints even with new partners. It's easy to know what draws a response and which doesn't. The woman's enjoyment was always foremost to me. But with this wife I should have seen the warning signs of what was to come which was a complete loss of interest in sex. Never thought it would continue forever but it has. So after a while and with the abundance of porn on the internet, I just wasn't sure anymore. I really don't see her changing going forward so nothing may matter but just in case I move forward with someone else, I just want to make sure I'm not missing any knowledge on how to please them. Alright, feeling pretty vulnerable and silly again but I really appreciate your answers. Ok, where's my damn horse?

[2inUPMichigan]

2inUpMichigan, thank you as well for your thoughtful answer. I felt really silly asking but it has been so long that I just don't feel knowledgeable anymore. I tried to erase the post but Farmgirl had already answered. I'm glad I didn't because both you and Farmgirl gave me such real and helpful answers. From 15 when I started having sex with my first girlfriend and wife, I always confident. I would ask and learn what was important and never had any complaints even with new partners. It's easy to know what draws a response and which doesn't. The woman's enjoyment was always foremost to me. But with this wife I should have seen the warning signs of what was to come which was a complete loss of interest in sex. Never thought it would continue forever but it has. So after a while and with the abundance of porn on the internet, I just wasn't sure anymore. I really don't see her changing going forward so nothing may matter but just in case I move forward with someone else, I just want to make sure I'm not missing any knowledge on how to please them. Alright, feeling pretty vulnerable and silly again but I really appreciate your answers. Ok, where's my damn horse?

I've gotta admit I have a thing for cowboys
Is a horse like a bicycle?

Don't feel silly at all. Think of this thread as an advice column.

The VHW'S that answer questions here do so with a sincere desire to be helpful. It is a way of giving back for many of us who have been helped in the past.

[Greggg]

Thank you. You're awesome. Yes a horse is like a bicycle. If you fall off a horse you need to get back on it and try again. Isn't the saying about a bike that you never forget how to ride. The biggest difference is that one takes a lot less work to get you there.
The other saying is Montana (less people to offend) Montana, where men are men and the horses are scared. Or is that Wyoming and sheep?

[cuckcouple7784]

Recently my wife mentioned that she would like to find a dom to play with, she mentioned that I would be there for their first time for safety reasons but not watching and in an adjoining room and all dates after that would be her and her dom alone.

I don't mind that she wants it to happen like this but I'm curious about why a woman may want to submit to a dom without their hubby around, she didn't really have an answer but obviously felt like this would suit her better.

[2inUPMichigan]

Recently my wife mentioned that she would like to find a dom to play with, she mentioned that I would be there for their first time for safety reasons but not watching and in an adjoining room and all dates after that would be her and her dom alone.

I don't mind that she wants it to happen like this but I'm curious about why a woman may want to submit to a dom without their hubby around, she didn't really have an answer but obviously felt like this would suit her better.

My first instinct when reading this is to say if you are there she might be constantly "checking in" with you to see how you are handling it. If you aren't there she can focus on truly submitting which isn't easy if she is distracted mentally.

I do play solo but I also play with a dominant play partner. Not all of our time is focused on D/s but when I am in that zone I have to let everything go and just embrace that submissive part of myself. (Not sure if I am explaining it very well?) He helps me get there. I have to trust him to keep me safe in order to fully let go and submit.

If she wants to play with a Dom it is very important that she communicate all of her interests and her limits/personal boundaries before any play happens. He should also be asking about this! Find someone that is experienced!

[cuckcouple7784]

Hey thanks!
Your reply makes really good sense, I never considered looking at it that way

[2inUPMichigan]

Any VHWs want to give me some pointers on getting my wife started?

My wife and I do the role play in bed all the time but she has never really gone much further than that.

I want her to be comfortable and enjoy the idea without being overbearing and pushy.

What are some things you did that helped get you interested in taking a step past role play. Incremental progress would be great!

Thanks!

It's a really big step to take and she not only has to be comfortable with it she has to be sure of your reaction.
It isn't just a matter of answering the question "do you want th o play with other men?" There are so many more questions to be answered and mental hurdles before taking that big step.

I had to work through each of those barriers/objections before I could move forward. "Who, what, where, when and how....."
You can start bring up the subject "I was just curious, if we ever decided to do this for real would you want to play with men we know, find one locally or look online?" Say it very casually and see what she says.

If she is receptive then you can talk about that as much as she is willing and leave it at that. A week later if she hasn't brought it up then let her know that conversation had you thinking and you were wondering about...(then pick something else that might be important to the two of you). In this way you are helping her to work through any mental roadblocks.

Hope that helps

[KANE_A22]

Thanks @2upinmichigan

[2wheel]

1st time is always the most difficult. Together you need to understand what she's 'scared' about and address it together. The willing part is the biggest hurdle, and it seems like you're past that. I think most wives are scared as to what it will do to the primary relationship, that I dare say is primarily in the husbands hands, his reaction will determine success or failure. If done correctly the rewards are immeasurable

[Farmgirl]

1st time is always the most difficult. Together you need to understand what she's 'scared' about and address it together. The willing part is the biggest hurdle, and it seems like you're past that. I think most wives are scared as to what it will do to the primary relationship, that I dare say is primarily in the husbands hands, his reaction will determine success or failure. If done correctly the rewards are immeasurable

Now, you know you don't have a Blue Name.

[2wheel]

1st time is always the most difficult. Together you need to understand what she's 'scared' about and address it together. The willing part is the biggest hurdle, and it seems like you're past that. I think most wives are scared as to what it will do to the primary relationship, that I dare say is primarily in the husbands hands, his reaction will determine success or failure. If done correctly the rewards are immeasurable

Now, you know you don't have a Blue Name.

Sorry, I goofed, I wasn't paying attention, got caught up in the story.