Figuring it out

[Seekingmore12]

….a chime in,

I was so pleased to hear from adventurer that the break they took was good for them and that they thought of me..:-)

For the record this was not our first break, each time their love comes back stronger than ever, I still live in awe.

This being said our reunion is scheduled, I am reasonably sure it’s going to be epic!

G

[Her number1]

….a chime in,

I was so pleased to hear from adventurer that the break they took was good for them and that they thought of me..:-)

For the record this was not our first break, each time their love comes back stronger than ever, I still live in awe.

This being said our reunion is scheduled, I am reasonably sure it’s going to be epic!

G

I'm just an outsider looking in, but I respect you for the way you have handled it all and the respect you show for them.

[venus-can99]

Great news LFA,A and G. It’s so admirable the way you have handled yourselves and the respect and you have for each other.
Thanks for sharing the walk in the park with G. Next meeting in the cemetery eh?

[Lookingforadventure]

….a chime in,

I was so pleased to hear from adventurer that the break they took was good for them and that they thought of me..:-)

For the record this was not our first break, each time their love comes back stronger than ever, I still live in awe.

This being said our reunion is scheduled, I am reasonably sure it’s going to be epic!

G

EPIC!

[Lookingforadventure]

I'm just an outsider looking in, but I respect you for the way you have handled it all and the respect you show for them.

That's one of the reasons that I like him too

[Lookingforadventure]

Great news LFA,A and G. It’s so admirable the way you have handled yourselves and the respect and you have for each other.
Thanks for sharing the walk in the park with G. Next meeting in the cemetery eh?

Thanks Venus. And a cemetery visit is a great idea...although maybe not in November or December. WE do have a hotel date planned, but it is a week or so away yet. I wanted to purposefully go slow and make sure everyone was feeling comfortable before things went too far. With that said, so far things seem great. We even have a SECOND hotel date on the calendar for a "ravish LFA" threesome.

[Lookingforadventure]

I'm glad you're both excited and happy! I've always believed that people that truly, deeply love each other will work together to find their way. Sounds like you're back on track, congratulations!

Thank you!

And you're... back in the room!

So great that you took the opportunity, to re-evaluate, regroup and put everything into perspective.
Also, it's so valuable that you showed each other that no matter how much fun Hotwifing might be, your relationship
is the most important thing.

Now, getting back into it again, you are both stronger as individuals and together.
You guys are a real hotwifing poster couple!

54321

I don't know about being a poster couple, but this has been good for us. Maybe it was over-sharing to write about it here, but I do think that this forum needs some of those real stories too to help folks who are going through challenging times.

I am beyond ecstatic that your adventure has not ended, so I cannot even imagine how you three (actually more) are feeling. I suspect that others besides me are concerned about how Adventurer is actually doing. In looking back we should have noticed his diminished participation on here. Hopefully he comes back and participates more frequently, like he was doing several months ago. That participation would certainly alleviate some of MY concerns about how he is feeling about the journey. I am just a wannabe, but in my dreams I am "Adventurer" while my wife is "Looking for Adventure", When your journey stopped my dreams also stopped. Right now I am officially back to dreaming, but cautiously. So, not to put pressure on Adventurer, but as he goes, at least I go, if not more of us on here.

Late

He's doing well. I did point your post out to him and he might chime in at some point. He tends not to seek out community input in the same way that I do, but I know he appreciates that people were encouraging and supporting us through this.

Glad everyone is happy and hope Adventurer is okay with everything.

Thanks. He seems to be very, very ok with it.

[Lookingforadventure]

LFA
- Like many others I'm happy and pleasantly surprised to have you return and to learn that Adventurer has given his okay for you to reengage with G.
- What with one thing another, just the fact you held hands with G I found hot.

So did I

Plus, he's a very good kisser.

[54321]

... I do think that this forum needs some of those real stories too to help folks who are going through challenging times.

So, so true! It's what makes OHW so great!

54321

[Adventurer]

It's been a while since I've posted here - I guess I'm not really much of a social media person - but I wanted to give an update on LFA and me from my end.

As LFA so eloquently wrote about it (being a great writer is just one of her many innumerable qualities as well as being hot as fuck of course), we have resumed non-monogamy activities after taking a break at my initiation. There was no specific cause that triggered the break, and most definitely nothing that LFA did. It's just that navigating non-monogamy is complicated and space was needed for us a couple to assess whether we wanted to continue on that path.

After some really great conversations, it was clear that for both of us the answer was YES! While including others in a relationship is complicated, we came to the conclusion that the benefits greatly outweighed the complications and that we had the strong base as couple to manage the challenging parts.

So onwards and upwards with non-monogamy for us! Since ending the break, there has already been much fun with G and a hotel date is happening on Friday. I'm very much looking forward to receiving videos and pictures .

Another decision made over the break was to also resume non-monogamous activities beyond hotwifing. We started with only her playing, and then moved to playing as a couple and even me playing solo. I stepped back from those activities because of health issues and the need to focus on those. At the risk of being immodest, I think I did very well on that front. I made significant lifestyle changes, lost about 75 pounds and am healthier and fitter than I probably have ever been. I even ran a marathon this fall, which would have been unimaginable for pretty much my whole life. And now we are looking to get back into swinging. So if any one has tips for finding sexy couples or even single women (another fmf threesome is on both our bucket lists) in the Toronto area, please feel free to share.

I also wanted to say that LFA has been completely awesome throughout. She is the most amazing person, and I can't imagine a better partner in life. For G, he has been extremely respectful of our decisions and relationship throughout. He is a great person.

[trecital]

There are some people like G in this world, who are happy with a sexual relationship and a personal one, but aren't looking for a loving relationship or a full time partner.
Thank goodness for that!

Long may your adventures continue.

[Long Lurker 34]

It's been a while since I've posted here - I guess I'm not really much of a social media person - but I wanted to give an update on LFA and me from my end.

As LFA so eloquently wrote about it (being a great writer is just one of her many innumerable qualities as well as being hot as fuck of course), we have resumed non-monogamy activities after taking a break at my initiation. There was no specific cause that triggered the break, and most definitely nothing that LFA did. It's just that navigating non-monogamy is complicated and space was needed for us a couple to assess whether we wanted to continue on that path.

After some really great conversations, it was clear that for both of us the answer was YES! While including others in a relationship is complicated, we came to the conclusion that the benefits greatly outweighed the complications and that we had the strong base as couple to manage the challenging parts.

So onwards and upwards with non-monogamy for us! Since ending the break, there has already been much fun with G and a hotel date is happening on Friday. I'm very much looking forward to receiving videos and pictures .

Another decision made over the break was to also resume non-monogamous activities beyond hotwifing. We started with only her playing, and then moved to playing as a couple and even me playing solo. I stepped back from those activities because of health issues and the need to focus on those. At the risk of being immodest, I think I did very well on that front. I made significant lifestyle changes, lost about 75 pounds and am healthier and fitter than I probably have ever been. I even ran a marathon this fall, which would have been unimaginable for pretty much my whole life. And now we are looking to get back into swinging. So if any one has tips for finding sexy couples or even single women (another fmf threesome is on both our bucket lists) in the Toronto area, please feel free to share.

I also wanted to say that LFA has been completely awesome throughout. She is the most amazing person, and I can't imagine a better partner in life. For G, he has been extremely respectful of our decisions and relationship throughout. He is a great person.

A
- I'm not in the LS and it's all very well to think you know how you might handle such a thing, it's an entirely different matter to actually do so. So to hit the pause button and reevaluate makes perfect sense to me.
- I'm sure loosing the weight of a young child would make one feel better for sure. Well done.
- I think yourself, LFA and G are all pretty incredible people for how everything related here has been handled.

[coastalkid]

It's been a while since I've posted here - I guess I'm not really much of a social media person - but I wanted to give an update on LFA and me from my end.

As LFA so eloquently wrote about it (being a great writer is just one of her many innumerable qualities as well as being hot as fuck of course), we have resumed non-monogamy activities after taking a break at my initiation. There was no specific cause that triggered the break, and most definitely nothing that LFA did. It's just that navigating non-monogamy is complicated and space was needed for us a couple to assess whether we wanted to continue on that path.

After some really great conversations, it was clear that for both of us the answer was YES! While including others in a relationship is complicated, we came to the conclusion that the benefits greatly outweighed the complications and that we had the strong base as couple to manage the challenging parts.

So onwards and upwards with non-monogamy for us! Since ending the break, there has already been much fun with G and a hotel date is happening on Friday. I'm very much looking forward to receiving videos and pictures .

Another decision made over the break was to also resume non-monogamous activities beyond hotwifing. We started with only her playing, and then moved to playing as a couple and even me playing solo. I stepped back from those activities because of health issues and the need to focus on those. At the risk of being immodest, I think I did very well on that front. I made significant lifestyle changes, lost about 75 pounds and am healthier and fitter than I probably have ever been. I even ran a marathon this fall, which would have been unimaginable for pretty much my whole life. And now we are looking to get back into swinging. So if any one has tips for finding sexy couples or even single women (another fmf threesome is on both our bucket lists) in the Toronto area, please feel free to share.

I also wanted to say that LFA has been completely awesome throughout. She is the most amazing person, and I can't imagine a better partner in life. For G, he has been extremely respectful of our decisions and relationship throughout. He is a great person.

Thank you for graciously posting in spite of your self-perceived writing skills. It is important that you share your input because the readers need your perspective represented. For me personally, how you "navigate" your non-monogamy is my greatest interest. Far too many couples let things blow up when faced with challenges and far too few couples are willing to open themselves up to the scrutiny of explaining why adjustments were needed.

Your health and self-perception is another issue that I believe is underrepresented here too. Losing 75 pounds for anyone has to be life changing. Feeling good about how you look is every bit as important to man as it is a woman. Too many think that vanity is only for women. Men and women are both unconsciously are bombarded with societal norms of ideal bodies and abilities. I would expect that's even more graphic when a wife's lover is younger, more fit, with more stamina and skill than what your self-perception is. It would be easy to slip into questioning your own desirability and spiral into worse left unaddressed.

Not enough is said about how the man needs to feel good about himself if he and his wife are going to "navigate" a non-monogamous lifestyle. I hope you post again. Please know your input is greatly valued!

[jane]

i'm glad it has worked out smoothly for you both

[Shauncuckold]

It's been a while since I've posted here - I guess I'm not really much of a social media person - but I wanted to give an update on LFA and me from my end.

As LFA so eloquently wrote about it (being a great writer is just one of her many innumerable qualities as well as being hot as fuck of course), we have resumed non-monogamy activities after taking a break at my initiation. There was no specific cause that triggered the break, and most definitely nothing that LFA did. It's just that navigating non-monogamy is complicated and space was needed for us a couple to assess whether we wanted to continue on that path.

After some really great conversations, it was clear that for both of us the answer was YES! While including others in a relationship is complicated, we came to the conclusion that the benefits greatly outweighed the complications and that we had the strong base as couple to manage the challenging parts.

So onwards and upwards with non-monogamy for us! Since ending the break, there has already been much fun with G and a hotel date is happening on Friday. I'm very much looking forward to receiving videos and pictures .

Another decision made over the break was to also resume non-monogamous activities beyond hotwifing. We started with only her playing, and then moved to playing as a couple and even me playing solo. I stepped back from those activities because of health issues and the need to focus on those. At the risk of being immodest, I think I did very well on that front. I made significant lifestyle changes, lost about 75 pounds and am healthier and fitter than I probably have ever been. I even ran a marathon this fall, which would have been unimaginable for pretty much my whole life. And now we are looking to get back into swinging. So if any one has tips for finding sexy couples or even single women (another fmf threesome is on both our bucket lists) in the Toronto area, please feel free to share.

I also wanted to say that LFA has been completely awesome throughout. She is the most amazing person, and I can't imagine a better partner in life. For G, he has been extremely respectful of our decisions and relationship throughout. He is a great person.

Thank you for graciously posting in spite of your self-perceived writing skills. It is important that you share your input because the readers need your perspective represented. For me personally, how you "navigate" your non-monogamy is my greatest interest. Far too many couples let things blow up when faced with challenges and far too few couples are willing to open themselves up to the scrutiny of explaining why adjustments were needed.

Your health and self-perception is another issue that I believe is underrepresented here too. Losing 75 pounds for anyone has to be life changing. Feeling good about how you look is every bit as important to man as it is a woman. Too many think that vanity is only for women. Men and women are both unconsciously are bombarded with societal norms of ideal bodies and abilities. I would expect that's even more graphic when a wife's lover is younger, more fit, with more stamina and skill than what your self-perception is. It would be easy to slip into questioning your own desirability and spiral into worse left unaddressed.

Not enough is said about how the man needs to feel good about himself if he and his wife are going to "navigate" a non-monogamous lifestyle. I hope you post again. Please know your input is greatly valued!

Well said Coastalkid.

Mr. Swan

[Late]

Adventurer:
i am so glad to see you back on here. As I said earlier, I am officially back to dreaming. But with your post I can start removing the cautioness (I think I just made up a word, oh well). Anyway, with you back on board I feel better about you guy's journey.

Late

[regular3]

I think it's unanimous that everyone is breathing again after holding our collective breath.
Hopefully there will be a few pics of your beautiful wife along the way, for illustrative purposes of course.
I know I am also looking forward to hearing about your swinging adventures too.
So while there's expansion in that area, is LFA going to be HW monogamous with G, with a bit of Sir on the side?

[Lookingforadventure]

It's been a while since I've posted here - I guess I'm not really much of a social media person - but I wanted to give an update on LFA and me from my end.

As LFA so eloquently wrote about it (being a great writer is just one of her many innumerable qualities as well as being hot as fuck of course), we have resumed non-monogamy activities after taking a break at my initiation. There was no specific cause that triggered the break, and most definitely nothing that LFA did. It's just that navigating non-monogamy is complicated and space was needed for us a couple to assess whether we wanted to continue on that path.

After some really great conversations, it was clear that for both of us the answer was YES! While including others in a relationship is complicated, we came to the conclusion that the benefits greatly outweighed the complications and that we had the strong base as couple to manage the challenging parts.

So onwards and upwards with non-monogamy for us! Since ending the break, there has already been much fun with G and a hotel date is happening on Friday. I'm very much looking forward to receiving videos and pictures .

Another decision made over the break was to also resume non-monogamous activities beyond hotwifing. We started with only her playing, and then moved to playing as a couple and even me playing solo. I stepped back from those activities because of health issues and the need to focus on those. At the risk of being immodest, I think I did very well on that front. I made significant lifestyle changes, lost about 75 pounds and am healthier and fitter than I probably have ever been. I even ran a marathon this fall, which would have been unimaginable for pretty much my whole life. And now we are looking to get back into swinging. So if any one has tips for finding sexy couples or even single women (another fmf threesome is on both our bucket lists) in the Toronto area, please feel free to share.

I also wanted to say that LFA has been completely awesome throughout. She is the most amazing person, and I can't imagine a better partner in life. For G, he has been extremely respectful of our decisions and relationship throughout. He is a great person.

Thanks for this lovely post. I love you!

[Lookingforadventure]

There are some people like G in this world, who are happy with a sexual relationship and a personal one, but aren't looking for a loving relationship or a full time partner.
Thank goodness for that!

Long may your adventures continue.

I agree. He's a keeper

And thanks for your well wishes.

[Lookingforadventure]

A
- I'm not in the LS and it's all very well to think you know how you might handle such a thing, it's an entirely different matter to actually do so. So to hit the pause button and reevaluate makes perfect sense to me.
- I'm sure loosing the weight of a young child would make one feel better for sure. Well done.
- I think yourself, LFA and G are all pretty incredible people for how everything related here has been handled.

Thanks Long Lurker. It was a good break for us, and it is also good to be back

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank you for graciously posting in spite of your self-perceived writing skills. It is important that you share your input because the readers need your perspective represented. For me personally, how you "navigate" your non-monogamy is my greatest interest. Far too many couples let things blow up when faced with challenges and far too few couples are willing to open themselves up to the scrutiny of explaining why adjustments were needed.

Your health and self-perception is another issue that I believe is underrepresented here too. Losing 75 pounds for anyone has to be life changing. Feeling good about how you look is every bit as important to man as it is a woman. Too many think that vanity is only for women. Men and women are both unconsciously are bombarded with societal norms of ideal bodies and abilities. I would expect that's even more graphic when a wife's lover is younger, more fit, with more stamina and skill than what your self-perception is. It would be easy to slip into questioning your own desirability and spiral into worse left unaddressed.

Not enough is said about how the man needs to feel good about himself if he and his wife are going to "navigate" a non-monogamous lifestyle. I hope you post again. Please know your input is greatly valued!

Thanks for our support Coastalkid. I do want to point out, however, that Adventurer was hot even before this weight loss. I'm super proud of him for how he has changed his lifestyle and committed to healthy eating and exercise. I certainly appreciate the fact that a healthier Adventurer may mean that I get to have many more years of him in my life. I just want to make sure it is clear that he's always been sexy!

He's handsome and intelligent, an amazing and generous lover, his mind is kinky in all the best ways, and he's never had issues with stamina or skill. But I do agree with your point that both men and women deserve to feel good about themselves, and that feeling confident in our bodies is turn on for others.

I also agree that it is important to be honest on this forum about the hard stuff, as well as the sexy stuff. That is the only way to help and encourage each other as we navigate our way through our unique situations.

[Lookingforadventure]

i'm glad it has worked out smoothly for you both

Thank you Jane. It wasn't exactly "smooth" but was well worth the bumps that it took to get us to where we are today.

[Lookingforadventure]

Adventurer:
i am so glad to see you back on here. As I said earlier, I am officially back to dreaming. But with your post I can start removing the cautioness (I think I just made up a word, oh well). Anyway, with you back on board I feel better about you guy's journey.

Late

Thank you Late.

[Lookingforadventure]

I think it's unanimous that everyone is breathing again after holding our collective breath.
Hopefully there will be a few pics of your beautiful wife along the way, for illustrative purposes of course.
I know I am also looking forward to hearing about your swinging adventures too.
So while there's expansion in that area, is LFA going to be HW monogamous with G, with a bit of Sir on the side?

HI Regular 3. We will be sure to post some of our highlights (and maybe some pics) as the adventures continue. As for me, I'm not sure what the future holds. I can say that I have a hotel date with G tomorrow! I am very excited for our reunion.

Sir hasn't reached out since my birthday. I suspect that if I texted him, he'd respond and be up for a play date. I also suspect that Adventurer would enjoy cuffing me to the suspension bar again for a bit of fun. So that might be in our future, I just need to decide how I feel about it. I'm a vain creature and don't want to feel like I'm chasing someone who isn't super interested.

[Lookingforadventure]

Tomorrow is date day for me! G and I will be meeting at a hotel in the morning for a bit of sexy fun. Adventurer has requested photos, videos, and maybe audio recordings. I do love having homework