MFM with hubby, or Date alone?

[sextiescouple]

Probably 90% (or more) of her hotwifing activities were with me present.

[wife4lends]

Great reading about how couples prefer it alone or as a MFM. Almost split 50/50

[ErikaPeter]

We started with MFM. Even then, my husband would often prefer to watch and would only interact with me a little. Sometimes, including my first time, I would kick him out after about an hour of play so that I could have alone time with my partner. Over the years, I have started playing alone. Personally, I feel more free not having an audience (at least my husband as an audience), and I think that my partners often feel the same.

[BillMack0727]

Alone is so much better for us. When she is gone my mind races and is out of control imagining what is going on. While reclaiming whet she tells me all the details.
Of course our first few experiences were together but it was just too busy for all of us wondering what to do or where to be.
When we started my wife gave me two rules. I’ll never suck another guys cock and i’ll Never go alone. Both are her preference now.

[Jerzeycuckhub]

Alone is so much better for us. When she is gone my mind races and is out of control imagining what is going on. While reclaiming whet she tells me all the details.
Of course our first few experiences were together but it was just too busy for all of us wondering what to do or where to be.
When we started my wife gave me two rules. I’ll never suck another guys cock and i’ll Never go alone. Both are her preference now.

Don't you just love it when the wife breaks the very rules she set forth when she agreed to do this?

[BillMack0727]

Alone is so much better for us. When she is gone my mind races and is out of control imagining what is going on. While reclaiming whet she tells me all the details.
Of course our first few experiences were together but it was just too busy for all of us wondering what to do or where to be.
When we started my wife gave me two rules. I’ll never suck another guys cock and i’ll Never go alone. Both are her preference now.

Don't you just love it when the wife breaks the very rules she set forth when she agreed to do this?

I do

[alan137]

I like it all. I love waiting at home when she goes off on a date alone, I love to listen to them make love, I love to watch and I love to join in. Variety is the spice of life for me.

[Jshotwife]

We have done both but I have found that Kim simply can't keep her hands off me long enough to enjoy herself. So, the last few MFMs have been me greeting and going for a walk so she can have fun. I am personally impartial to both scenarios. Although, I do like to hear her during the MFM from afar. The last two I left them alone once I knew the guy was cool, and he knew he had to be . I don't get off at all from watching or interrogating her upon her return. To me, the guys are just a dildo with a pulse. I feel so far removed from the encounter that I require her to take two showers prior to her attacking me.

[WimpToad]

Mix of both, perhaps it is my choice to be involved, but it is a great question.

[stevens62]

I have come to prefer sleeping in the guest bedroom while my wife has sex with her FB, or (somewhat less erotic for me, but still hot) that she solo with him. That said, there's nothing that tops laying beside her and watching another man bring her to orgasm. For me, that would often happen the next day, or after my wife called me and asked me to join her with her lover after things got rolling.

We found that on the first night of sex with my wife, a lover would sometimes be intimidated with me in the room and not achieve the best of erections. It was also good for the relationship for sex to happen without me there, - at least for a while until the two of them were very comfortable with one another. As the relationships blossomed, I found myself invited to join them and more often unless she was traveling with him. It's fun to look back on how things have changed over the decades. When we first started sharing my wife with other men, many if not most of the guys were really hyper-sensitive to male touching or anything that could resemble gay behavior. As we grew older, that was less and less of a concern. I'm not "gay" by any stretch of the imagine, but let's face it, - in an mfm scenario there's going to be some contact between the males and it can be very erotic for all concerned.

After my ex and I were first married we were both hot for her to have sex with a young guy (we were in our 30s). She wanted a young "hard body" with stamina and "hot buns" as she put it. Naturally, I went along for the ride. We found a 24 year-old guy and long story short, set up an mfm date at a local hotel. Everything was going fine until the moment of penetration when the young guy couldn't keep it stiff enough to enter. This wasn't a condom issue, as we didn't want a condom to be used. After several minutes of failed and frustrating attempts, my wife suggested I get in the car and go get us all some refreshments. I did so and took over an hour to give her some time alone with him and as soon as I was out the door, she asked the young man to take a shower with her. That did the trick. He reached "full wood" quickly, pulled her out of the shower and dripping wet, laid her on her back on the bed, entered and gave her one of the best fucks she ever had (according to her - what the hell do I know, I wasn't there!). When I returned with the wine, waters and snacks, she was sitting there leaning up against the headboard legs spread to arouse me (it was a stunning visual, as you guys well know), - smiling! The young man had already left, but joined her several more times in our marital bed without me there. :-)

[Socksmix8]

My wife goes on dates alone. I'm not included in anyway and I wouldn't have it any other way!

[Jerzeycuckhub]

My wife goes on dates alone. I'm not included in anyway and I wouldn't have it any other way!

Same here.

[Baldyellow]

We have done this both ways, with me present and with her dating and relaying the details to me on her return home. Where we both enjoyed both situations, we mostly did MFM threesomes. We felt it was safer, particularly when meeting a new friend alone. She also did not want me left out of the fun and she liked more than one at a time, taking turns with her. I have to admit, waiting for her to return was tense. She did continue to meet occasionally when I could not be there because of work or other commitments. All was fun though.

[CoupleFun555]

We like it both ways. Sometimes, she likes having two men to play with. It gives her a lot more variety and can play for a long time, if everything is timed right. He likes being an active participant, watching, and sometime a bit of both. He loves watching her have sex with well endowed men. She is just so beautiful while having sex.

We both like when she plays alone too. For her, MFMs can sometimes be sensory overload. Also, when playing alone, she can get to know the man more in and out of the bedroom. He likes her exploring her sexual independence.

So far, we’ve had a lot of fun. We are in and out of the lifestyle depending on other commitments and interests we have.

[whenwillshe]

I am good with whatever she chooses.
Still haven't taken the plunge but hopeful.
She says together if it happens but I suspect she would go alone

[Bartleby]

I am happy to read that I am not the only lonely cuckold. I am overjoyed when my wife tells me that she has or will be having sex with someone else. We have discussed it and realised that both of us prefer that I am not present when she is getting fucked by someone else. That does not mean that I don't fantasize about watching.

[Lachlan87]

My wife always dates alone. She prefers it that way and it turns me on too !

[Htwf4fwb]

We have done both, but what about watching? Solo is boring for me as the man, better than nothing but not awesome in my opinion. I would prefer to watch

[Baldyellow]

My wife and I have done both and same room sex with other couples. All of them are good, just different emotions. We probably have had more with me present. That seems to work better for us, just being able to share with each other and enjoy the fun.

[Absanon]

The few times we had threesomes we both participated. She doesn't date alone and we both don't want it either.

[Taff70]

We have done it both ways.. we started out MFM but I do get a thrill when she plays alone and tells me the details when she gets home.

[fkmywfxn]

This may have been covered a number of times before but I was just curious how many couples like it when the wife goes on "dates" and then relays the details later (like we do) or if they prefer that the hubby is present and participates at the time.

I'll be present if it is someone new. Once a trusted relationship has been established I'll let them get together without me.

[2inUPMichigan]

We thought we would always be in it together but we decided that solo would work better. I had my first solo (and lost my hot wife virginity) on Sunday and he hasn't asked for any details. Going forward that may change as he adjusts.

[dbcraleigh]

The two are not mutually exclusive. No one should conflate not being there with being a cuckold. There are times I do prefer she cuck me, but this applies to establishing a great hotwifing environment. Those that thing otherwise are in some serious denial and are basically insecure.

Last night she had a date without me to meet a guy she's been chatting with for several weeks. It was a resounding success. If I had been there it would not have permitted the two of them to establish the 'affair' like intimacy required to launch a successful relationship for her. Too many men are helicopter hubbies and hover; it makes most women and their suitors hold back. As a result, they had that instant connection, and, when they got in the car, enjoyed passionate kissing multiple times. She didn't have sex - never does on first meet as she only wants a match that is motivated for more than a quick hit.

This also extends to the bedroom. Next time they meet, he'll come to our home. When he arrives I will not greet him initially - she will, without me. I'll remain in my man cave for a bit while she greets him, and they get a few minutes to get a little intimate, kiss etc. Then she'll bring him to meet me; she is driving, and he'll sense that. After that she'll then take him to our bedroom where they'll get intimate, and enjoy foreplay. I'll wait until they are so into each other they'll be mostly oblivious that I am even there. He's already aware that's how she and I arrange it, and he liked it compared to one other experience he had where the husband was there the entire time. Sometimes, but not always, doing that is a subtle statement of control by the hubby who might not be totally secure. Yes, you miss a little, but this is about HER - the better it is for her, the more potent the intimate connection allowed to be established. Most women don't get off on just the physical like men do - its about the connection that stokes the physical for many. I'll be very close by, able to hear a little, and quietly pass by the bedroom to know when they are so into it I can slip in and watch they quietly. Believe me, every time we done it this way in the past, she and her lover wouldn't have noticed an earthquake when I later joined them.

If I am to join in for threesome action, she'll invite me to, or, I just wait my turn and fuck her after he's has had her. He can watch the two of us fuck - and wants to. If he fucks her without a condom and unloads into her, I'll not last but a few minutes before unloading into her silky cum-filled pussy anyway. After that, if he's going to stay and fuck her again, or, spend the night, I'll leave the two of them alone. I remain free to rejoin them anytime I want. When she wants me to join them, she has no reservation to call me in from another room when she wants me there. This isn't being submissive on my part; I am actually the dominant of the two of us and she is on the slightly submissive side, but the two of us are so incredibly secure as a couple that I don't need show him that I am the big swinging dick constantly present to prove it.

The connection they cultivate in my temporary and strategic absences creates a powerful bond, comfort, and intense desire between them. In fact, once the other male gets comfortable, they'll often agree that I can use my wireless night vision camera to observe them from another room when I leave them alone - allowing them more intimate time and allowing me to participate remotely when I want. That can be amazing too. If her lover comes over and stays all night, it is amazing watching them be super intimate in our bed, lights out (the infrared camera makes viewing them like daylight). I might even choose to sleep in another room from where I can watch them on a big screen.

One time, after I had fucked her after after her lover had fucked her, I left the room. He spent the entire night with her in our bed. Right after I left the bedroom, I watched them fuck again remotely. They went at it like animals without me hovering and not in the room - even knowing I might or might not be watching. Then it was even more amazing watching as they fell asleep in each other's arms in our own marital bed - only to awaken an hour later and fuck again, followed by really sensuous intimate lovemaking in the morning when they awoke. I was awakened by the sound from the TV monitor. I didn't interrupt them and waiting until he unloaded into her. I got my turn again later. Not always though. We've had times when her lover would show up late at night, come into our darkened bedroom where both of us were already in bed, and he'd get in bed with her and fuck her in the dark with me laying right next to them. Hot! I always get her at least once right after, but might choose to say while they fall asleep in a tight embrace with his cock still buried deep in my wife's pussy - smokin' hot.

For noobs and the insecure, that is often too much, but the rewards are amazing if one has the degree of trust and the depth of security in themselves and in their marriage that ought to exist in the first place if a couple is thinking about delving in this lifestyle. The more she is into her lover, the better. A woman needs to have total awareness of New Relationship Exuberance (NRE) to avoid such a connect from threatening the primary relationship - my wife does. Others might not have that much experience and trust, but if both of you do you both can have the best of all worlds.

TriangleTangle

This is an absolutely perfect setup. After years of always saying, I must be present, only talk through me, the freedom and enjoyment factor for her went so far up once I moved out of the picture to let them bond naturally and make sex/love without me present. No husband present, less pressure, more intensity for them both, more passion.

You must be secure and know that she is yours, as you said it should be that way before this fantasy even becomes a possibility

[snoogaloo82]

The two are not mutually exclusive. No one should conflate not being there with being a cuckold. There are times I do prefer she cuck me, but this applies to establishing a great hotwifing environment. Those that thing otherwise are in some serious denial and are basically insecure.

Last night she had a date without me to meet a guy she's been chatting with for several weeks. It was a resounding success. If I had been there it would not have permitted the two of them to establish the 'affair' like intimacy required to launch a successful relationship for her. Too many men are helicopter hubbies and hover; it makes most women and their suitors hold back. As a result, they had that instant connection, and, when they got in the car, enjoyed passionate kissing multiple times. She didn't have sex - never does on first meet as she only wants a match that is motivated for more than a quick hit.

This also extends to the bedroom. Next time they meet, he'll come to our home. When he arrives I will not greet him initially - she will, without me. I'll remain in my man cave for a bit while she greets him, and they get a few minutes to get a little intimate, kiss etc. Then she'll bring him to meet me; she is driving, and he'll sense that. After that she'll then take him to our bedroom where they'll get intimate, and enjoy foreplay. I'll wait until they are so into each other they'll be mostly oblivious that I am even there. He's already aware that's how she and I arrange it, and he liked it compared to one other experience he had where the husband was there the entire time. Sometimes, but not always, doing that is a subtle statement of control by the hubby who might not be totally secure. Yes, you miss a little, but this is about HER - the better it is for her, the more potent the intimate connection allowed to be established. Most women don't get off on just the physical like men do - its about the connection that stokes the physical for many. I'll be very close by, able to hear a little, and quietly pass by the bedroom to know when they are so into it I can slip in and watch they quietly. Believe me, every time we done it this way in the past, she and her lover wouldn't have noticed an earthquake when I later joined them.

If I am to join in for threesome action, she'll invite me to, or, I just wait my turn and fuck her after he's has had her. He can watch the two of us fuck - and wants to. If he fucks her without a condom and unloads into her, I'll not last but a few minutes before unloading into her silky cum-filled pussy anyway. After that, if he's going to stay and fuck her again, or, spend the night, I'll leave the two of them alone. I remain free to rejoin them anytime I want. When she wants me to join them, she has no reservation to call me in from another room when she wants me there. This isn't being submissive on my part; I am actually the dominant of the two of us and she is on the slightly submissive side, but the two of us are so incredibly secure as a couple that I don't need show him that I am the big swinging dick constantly present to prove it.

The connection they cultivate in my temporary and strategic absences creates a powerful bond, comfort, and intense desire between them. In fact, once the other male gets comfortable, they'll often agree that I can use my wireless night vision camera to observe them from another room when I leave them alone - allowing them more intimate time and allowing me to participate remotely when I want. That can be amazing too. If her lover comes over and stays all night, it is amazing watching them be super intimate in our bed, lights out (the infrared camera makes viewing them like daylight). I might even choose to sleep in another room from where I can watch them on a big screen.

One time, after I had fucked her after after her lover had fucked her, I left the room. He spent the entire night with her in our bed. Right after I left the bedroom, I watched them fuck again remotely. They went at it like animals without me hovering and not in the room - even knowing I might or might not be watching. Then it was even more amazing watching as they fell asleep in each other's arms in our own marital bed - only to awaken an hour later and fuck again, followed by really sensuous intimate lovemaking in the morning when they awoke. I was awakened by the sound from the TV monitor. I didn't interrupt them and waiting until he unloaded into her. I got my turn again later. Not always though. We've had times when her lover would show up late at night, come into our darkened bedroom where both of us were already in bed, and he'd get in bed with her and fuck her in the dark with me laying right next to them. Hot! I always get her at least once right after, but might choose to say while they fall asleep in a tight embrace with his cock still buried deep in my wife's pussy - smokin' hot.

For noobs and the insecure, that is often too much, but the rewards are amazing if one has the degree of trust and the depth of security in themselves and in their marriage that ought to exist in the first place if a couple is thinking about delving in this lifestyle. The more she is into her lover, the better. A woman needs to have total awareness of New Relationship Exuberance (NRE) to avoid such a connect from threatening the primary relationship - my wife does. Others might not have that much experience and trust, but if both of you do you both can have the best of all worlds.

TriangleTangle

This is an absolutely perfect setup. After years of always saying, I must be present, only talk through me, the freedom and enjoyment factor for her went so far up once I moved out of the picture to let them bond naturally and make sex/love without me present. No husband present, less pressure, more intensity for them both, more passion.

You must be secure and know that she is yours, as you said it should be that way before this fantasy even becomes a possibility

that's what i'm doing with my sweetie. they are going at it alone for now. no photos, no videos, no me, but I do get a story afterward!