POLL: What sparked your hotwife relationship?

[dinoo]

While LadyD and I fucked, she asked me if I ever imagined to fuck another woman.
No, I said but on my question she confessed she did imagine often to be fucked by another man.
This was the real source of our HW-ing.
But I proposed to make her image true.

[wannbecuck]

I am no longer with Maria after a marriage of over twenty years the cause of our divorce was not our cuckold relationship it would have happened without that.
After almost ten year's of being married I discovered Maria was having sex not an affair with a couple of local men not together but different time she had a high sex drive which I not being exactly a stud far from it five minutes and all over.After many weeks of not talking and the odd shouting row we sat down and chatted for hours with a few tears Maria explained she wanted us to stay married but could not give up having sex with another man after time we had what was could only be called a female led marriage which we both embraced and I loved .

[JaBe]

I put that it was her idea. I'd actually told her for ages that if ever she was interested then I was OK with it, but unprompted she decided a guy at work was worth exploring, so she chose the guy (I never saw or met him).

[wildrollercoaster]

...I'm intrigued by your beginnings. Until your husband openly admitted it, how could you tell that he liked the idea of other guys seeing you?

Little things he would say, ways he liked me to dress, how he would seem to be happier when I talked or flirted with other guys. When he found out that I changed clothes on the band bus, from jeans and t-shirt to my uniform, in front of everyone he became hard and the sex was outstanding that night. Things like that continued as we got older and married.

Sexual competition is such a powerful part of human nature. It's a credit to you and your husband, obviously, that it was manifested so positively, instead of its all-too-common flipside, toxic jealousy.

Only if you've the inclination to explain -- do you know what it was about your personalities and young relationship that resulted in his evident sense of security regarding the attention other guys gave you?

Btw, I think your story is an inspiring answer to a question many people face -- whether to forego varied sexual experiences and build a life together with a young love, or vice versa.

[Farmgirl]

...I'm intrigued by your beginnings. Until your husband openly admitted it, how could you tell that he liked the idea of other guys seeing you?

Little things he would say, ways he liked me to dress, how he would seem to be happier when I talked or flirted with other guys. When he found out that I changed clothes on the band bus, from jeans and t-shirt to my uniform, in front of everyone he became hard and the sex was outstanding that night. Things like that continued as we got older and married.

Sexual competition is such a powerful part of human nature. It's a credit to you and your husband, obviously, that it was manifested so positively, instead of its all-too-common flipside, toxic jealousy.

Only if you've the inclination to explain -- do you know what it was about your personalities and young relationship that resulted in his evident sense of security regarding the attention other guys gave you?

Btw, I think your story is an inspiring answer to a question many people face -- whether to forego varied sexual experiences and build a life together with a young love, or vice versa.

He didn't have a full sense of security early on, he wanted it but also had jealousy to deal with. That is one of the reasons he couldn't admit it even to himself. He had to come to grips with who he was. Like many of us, it was a growing thing. I could see it, he knew it, but he had to accept it.
As a young couple and as a young married couple, we had our growing pains .

[Parsifal]

...I'm intrigued by your beginnings. Until your husband openly admitted it, how could you tell that he liked the idea of other guys seeing you?

Little things he would say, ways he liked me to dress, how he would seem to be happier when I talked or flirted with other guys. When he found out that I changed clothes on the band bus, from jeans and t-shirt to my uniform, in front of everyone he became hard and the sex was outstanding that night. Things like that continued as we got older and married.

Sexual competition is such a powerful part of human nature. It's a credit to you and your husband, obviously, that it was manifested so positively, instead of its all-too-common flipside, toxic jealousy.

Only if you've the inclination to explain -- do you know what it was about your personalities and young relationship that resulted in his evident sense of security regarding the attention other guys gave you?

Btw, I think your story is an inspiring answer to a question many people face -- whether to forego varied sexual experiences and build a life together with a young love, or vice versa.

He didn't have a full sense of security early on, he wanted it but also had jealousy to deal with. That is one of the reasons he couldn't admit it even to himself. He had to come to grips with who he was. Like many of us, it was a growing thing. I could see it, he knew it, but he had to accept it.
As a young couple and as a young married couple, we had our growing pains .

It must be amazing to have done what you've done for so long. The growth periods and the long periods of consolidation between you two. I aspire to feel that free, open, and perpetually inspired within my marriage, and also as secure and safe you are with everything that keeps entertaining you. It's really remarkable when I think of the perspective of time you have going all the way back to adolescence. There is so much growth with each reconciliation phase as your life's arc rises. So I find myself looking for the blue letters Farmgirl and read every drop.

[wifesharer]

I agree with some on here, the choices in the poll are limited, for example, I chose, "it was his idea" in reality after discussing with my wife that as a young boy I found my dad wanking over my mum being fucked by another guy, this stayed with me all my life, I have now shared my stunning wife with hundreds of different men and she loves it.

[Farmgirl]

Little things he would say, ways he liked me to dress, how he would seem to be happier when I talked or flirted with other guys. When he found out that I changed clothes on the band bus, from jeans and t-shirt to my uniform, in front of everyone he became hard and the sex was outstanding that night. Things like that continued as we got older and married.

Sexual competition is such a powerful part of human nature. It's a credit to you and your husband, obviously, that it was manifested so positively, instead of its all-too-common flipside, toxic jealousy.

Only if you've the inclination to explain -- do you know what it was about your personalities and young relationship that resulted in his evident sense of security regarding the attention other guys gave you?

Btw, I think your story is an inspiring answer to a question many people face -- whether to forego varied sexual experiences and build a life together with a young love, or vice versa.

He didn't have a full sense of security early on, he wanted it but also had jealousy to deal with. That is one of the reasons he couldn't admit it even to himself. He had to come to grips with who he was. Like many of us, it was a growing thing. I could see it, he knew it, but he had to accept it.
As a young couple and as a young married couple, we had our growing pains .

It must be amazing to have done what you've done for so long. The growth periods and the long periods of consolidation between you two. I aspire to feel that free, open, and perpetually inspired within my marriage, and also as secure and safe you are with everything that keeps entertaining you. It's really remarkable when I think of the perspective of time you have going all the way back to adolescence. There is so much growth with each reconciliation phase as your life's arc rises. So I find myself looking for the blue letters Farmgirl and read every drop.

As they say, flattery will get you everywhere .

[Hildasw]

We were seduced by an older couple. They were impressive, successful and fun - we admired them.

We were blown away when they were interested in us. The seduction was slow but one of the greatest gifts we have ever been given.

[54321]

Unread post by wifesharer » Sat Oct 02, 2021 6:53 am

I agree with some on here, the choices in the poll are limited, for example, I chose, "it was his idea" in reality after discussing with my wife that as a young boy I found my dad wanking over my mum being fucked by another guy, this stayed with me all my life, I have now shared my stunning wife with hundreds of different men and she loves it.

Wow! Outstanding!

54321

[vmb69]

While we started from her cheating, I would say we kept going from my request. I can also say that I had my issues with jealousy. This was a long time ago, almost over 20 years. Now my wife's tells me she has no worries about me being jealous and that I have come a long way. Our relationship is more of the FLR, and we have both pretty much agreed that she only fucks me for the closeness, and not because she gets anything out of it. We actually discussed for me to become mainly pussy free. Through the years we had our ups and downs, got close to a divorce, but like anything worthwhile, we worked at it, and are now truly happy, and wouldn't change a thing.

[new2hotshubby]

I'll just give an example of how we don't fit the poll. BTW, I'm the wife of Her Number1.
We started dating when I was about 13-14 in junior high. It didn't take long before I could tell he liked the idea of other guys seeing me. He couldn't admit it to me or to himself. As time went on I became more sure of it and was positive when he finally got up the courage to start pillow talking about it after we got married (me 18). I still wouldn't act on it until he could openly admit it.
So, yes, he did bring it up, but by that time I was well aware and was onboard.

Wow this stuns me. As a teenager, I was the typical “protect my turf” type. No way would I have thought about or considered N2H being with someone else. My ego would’ve been completely in the way at that point in my life. I’m guessing I was in my 40s before I began toying w the idea of N2H being a HW. Mid 50s before we had serious discussions on the topic.

You two, never cease to amaze me!

[hornedhubby]

Pardon the interjection, Farmgirl, but I love the changing on the band bus story. Really hot! That would have got me going, too. Was that your high school band?

Also, is it possible you were going without panties back then and Her Number1 knew that, as well? You've previously shared that you seldom wear them these days, so I had to wonder.

Thanks for sharing!

[Farmgirl]

I'll just give an example of how we don't fit the poll. BTW, I'm the wife of Her Number1.
We started dating when I was about 13-14 in junior high. It didn't take long before I could tell he liked the idea of other guys seeing me. He couldn't admit it to me or to himself. As time went on I became more sure of it and was positive when he finally got up the courage to start pillow talking about it after we got married (me 18). I still wouldn't act on it until he could openly admit it.
So, yes, he did bring it up, but by that time I was well aware and was onboard.

Wow this stuns me. As a teenager, I was the typical “protect my turf” type. No way would I have thought about or considered N2H being with someone else. My ego would’ve been completely in the way at that point in my life. I’m guessing I was in my 40s before I began toying w the idea of N2H being a HW. Mid 50s before we had serious discussions on the topic.

You two, never cease to amaze me!

He did have jealousy like most. That jealousy and his desire collided, confusing him. He wanted it but couldn't admit it. Slowly his jealousy was beaten out by his desire. He could admit it then but was somewhat embarrassed by it. As young marrieds (18 me, 19 him), he wanted it bad, but still had anxiety about it ( that I want it, but it scares me because I shouldn't want it). We grew a lot pretty young .

[Farmgirl]

Pardon the interjection, Farmgirl, but I love the changing on the band bus story. Really hot! That would have got me going, too. Was that your high school band?

Also, is it possible you were going without panties back then and Her Number1 knew that, as well? You've previously shared that you seldom wear them these days, so I had to wonder.

Thanks for sharing!

I was in junior high and high school band. I would have been wearing bikini panties back then, I think I had given them up completely by the time I turned 30.
The panties I wore back then as a teen, all had a little bow just above where my slit started. When my Number1 was in the Marines and I was in high school, I used to cut the bow off every now and then and include it in a letter to him.

[hornedhubby]

Love it! Thanks.

[DedicatedHubby2013]

My wife admitted to me that she was trying to have an affair with a new friend that she was spending a lot of time with.
At first I reacted in a traditional way, and got jealous and angry, but I soon found that jealousy and arousal were cross-wired for me, I gave up the anger, and enthusiasticly embraced her being slutty with other men.

[wildrollercoaster]

My wife admitted to me that she was trying to have an affair with a new friend that she was spending a lot of time with.
At first I reacted in a traditional way, and got jealous and angry, but I soon found that jealousy and arousal were cross-wired for me, I gave up the anger, and enthusiasticly embraced her being slutty with other men.

"...found that jealousy and arousal were cross-wired for me...": Those words capture so much. Jealousy and arousal are very much connected -- straightforward reproductive instinct. It seems that recognition and acceptance of that is fundamentally what so many here have in common.

Without starting a new poll, I'm curious what proportion of HW relationships begin with an understanding that leads to non-exclusive dating, versus the opposite -- non-exclusive dating that leads to an understanding.

My mind was opened wide to the idea as a consequence of discovering that my (former) then-girlfriend, having slept with only me and one former boyfriend, had a passionate fling while on a trip to Australia without me (later inadvertently revealed in email).

[QueenHW1]

When my boyfriend at the time brought it up to me at first I have never heard of that sort of kink before and imagined that there was no way it would go well. How can my BF not get jealous of me being with another guy?? That’s just asking for trouble.
Little by little we got to the point where we are today 5 years later. I had no idea this link would be the biggest possible thing that could turn on his little pecker.

[Uncreative78]

When we first started dating I hinted to her about by fantasy of her fucking other men. At first she didn't seem convinced it was real nor something she would be able to do.. That is until her ex husband wanted to fuck again. She jumped at the chance to have his big cock again and so it began. 5 yrs later that have fucked and sucked countless times and she has been with 5 or 6 other guys

[silkyhw]

I ticked ‘He wanted her to be intimate with someone in particular’ because my fiancée (later wife) kept talking about a friend of ours who had just knocked up his girlfriend. I knew she liked him and that he fancied her so I suggested that she might like to go with him. She was surprised but got very turned on when we talked about when and where it might happen, what she would wear and whether she would let him cum inside her. A week or so later they had bareback sex at a party. We both loved it - so naughty but also addictive!

[moreforhervixen]

It was his idea initially, but then I brought it up many years later and we came to a mutual decision to start. We were too young and immature when he first suggested it. Once I knew we had solid communication I felt more comfortable dipping my toe in the water. That was 4 years ago.

[Mr1SexyGILF]

It was his idea initially, but then I brought it up many years later and we came to a mutual decision to start. We were too young and immature when he first suggested it. Once I knew we had solid communication I felt more comfortable dipping my toe in the water. That was 4 years ago.

My GILF

[Long Lurker 34]

When my boyfriend at the time brought it up to me at first I have never heard of that sort of kink before and imagined that there was no way it would go well. How can my BF not get jealous of me being with another guy?? That’s just asking for trouble.
Little by little we got to the point where we are today 5 years later. I had no idea this link would be the biggest possible thing that could turn on his little pecker.

We would love to learn how it came about and your adventures to this point.

[Naplescuck]

Met her as she turned 16, completely untouched by male hands,
Almost immediately i liked other men admiring her tall slim body, she didnt.
shortly after giving me her virginity months later she cheated with a man in his mid 30s, she got cold feet and didnt do the act, but sat in his car topless, she told me immedately, i forgave her.
Shortly after she posed topless for my camera
17 got fucked on holiday, immediately admitted, i rather liked fucking my gf as she told me of this mistake and she knew it.
More pictures soon followed.
Married when she was 18, unknowingly i was always destined to be her cuck husband.
20 lovers later and 18500 pictures!

Are her pictures posted here????