Leggysandy Stepping Out

[leggysman]

You are the ultimate husband.

Thanks! I think so

She drove away just now. We're both pretty excited about this one - hoping it works out!

We had a few minutes to spare before she left, so her pussy got a little goodbye/good luck warm up licking.

[james2011]

A midday play date for Sunday afternoon, so HOT! Will you get any updates from her?

[RemMb36+]

I think the answer is.... Hell yes!

[leggysman]

S and Matt met up a little while ago. They walked a bit and now they're in a cocktail bar.

All I've got so far is "He's nice" I think that means she's not sure yet!

[RemMb36+]

As fantastic as she is, she can certainly be selective. Just saying.

[leggysman]

As fantastic as she is, she can certainly be selective. Just saying.

Of course she can! I just received this:

"I agreed to go to his flat. Curious about where this could lead haha"
"We are leaving now"

[ I asked for his full address - I know the building but not the flat number ]

"Will tell you when we get there before I go in ... So, he seems older than on photos (but according to his age), very smart and nice guy. Very thrilled for me to come with him"

and

"I need to find out if he will make me wet. We have not kissed yet or anything"

Sounds like it's time for some kissing back at his place! This is new -- she's never gone to a guy's home for one of her hotwife adventures. Only hotels so far. Fairly promising so far! Waiting, waiting...

[leggysman]

They're at his flat now

"He kissed me, it was good!"

I think it's on, my friends

[RemMb36+]

Sooo exciting

[leggysman]

Sooo exciting

Maybe not so much.

Failure to launch, for the most part, it seems. 2.5 hours, 3 attempts. "not really successful"

Something something about him being too nervous It's a shame, she seems to like him a lot. But I don't think I'd recommend S spend another whole afternoon and evening giving him another chance. It's up to her, of course.

I don't have the full story yet, but she's leaving now.

[newUK]

Sooo exciting

Failure to launch, for the most part, it seems.

Damn. How frustrating for you and her!

How was your afternoon whilst waiting and wondering?

Do you ever get to a point where you want to call her?

I guess we’ll need a rule of how long between no contact we leave it before I call her to check all is well.

Is 2 hours too short? 3 hours? Crikey those hours will drag and be an absolute car crash of emotions for me. But I want to experience it :-)

[leggysman]

Damn. How frustrating for you and her!

Actually, she mostly enjoyed it? Will have to pull my thoughts together and write something tomorrow-ish. S wants to give him another chance, but with conditions we're not sure he'll accept.

How was your afternoon whilst waiting and wondering?

It gets easier. It's tougher with a new guy and the uncertainty, but it's fine if she stays in touch. For me, I think it's better if I try not to think about it too intensely during the time she's away. I think about it a bit - staying in a state of low-level arousal - not enough to get hard, but like a few chubbies maybe .

Do you ever get to a point where you want to call her?

Only one time when it was getting a bit too late. If she's with Anthony, 2h of silence wouldn't phase me much. Tonight the longest she went quiet was 1h:20 (the second and third attempts). Otherwise she was very communicative, which I appreciated. We chatted quite a bit after the first attempt, while he was cooking her dinner.

He did actually fuck her a bit, and she said he was good at what he did. Fucking, touching, kissing, licking her pussy -- all good ... but when a guy keeps having boner issues, it does kinda throw a wet blanket over everything.

He also did make her awfully horny. She was on fire when she got home, and I did my best to match her!

[BDJ]

LeggySandy needs to protect her time with new lovers. Sometimes women like her, who are over the top sexy, intimidate when they offer themselves. It's happened to me. I suggest you get her some insurance in the form of a little blue pill. Like a condom, it should be a part of her go-to pouch when away from home. It's a life-changer for that time when a man's conscious desire is sabotaged by subconscious intimidation...the 'she's just too good to be true' syndrome, as it were.

LeggySandy deserves a hard one after she's put herself out there and is taking a chance on someone new. My suggestion might get a new lover over the hump and allow him to perform as he seriously wishes he could.

BDJ

[leggysman]

LeggySandy needs to protect her time with new lovers. Sometimes women like her, who are over the top sexy, intimidate when they offer themselves. It's happened to me. I suggest you get her some insurance in the form of a little blue pill. Like a condom, it should be a part of her go-to pouch when away from home. It's a life-changer for that time when a man's conscious desire is sabotaged by subconscious intimidation...the 'she's just too good to be true' syndrome, as it were.

LeggySandy deserves a hard one after she's put herself out there and is taking a chance on someone new. My suggestion might get a new lover over the hump and allow him to perform as he seriously wishes he could.

BDJ

Good post, thanks BDJ

Yes, he did seem to suffer from a bit of holy-shit intimidation, from what S told me. She said he's a bit geeky, and lacking much recent experience outside of his newly-ex-marriage. But all evidence suggests he is/was massively into her. Maybe even too much, she thought.

I needed a pill the first couple of times she came home from sex dates (and didn't have one handy the first time - D'OH!) because it was all a bit overwhelming. I had actually intended to put the remaining ones I have in her 'go bag' as 'swinger insurance' but forgot.

But this guy tonight, he said he "doesn't take pills". I think he should seriously reconsider. Maybe he doesn't understand them? Too much pride? When it's not a medical issue, they're perfect for solving this exact kind of problem - when the flesh is weak but the spirit is willing. After that, you get over your mental block, you get your mojo back, and you don't need them anymore. Brilliant.

[Farmgirl]

She knows if she thinks he's worth a retake. Sometimes a really good guy can be a little scared of us at first . Women are the stronger sex, after all .

[leggysandy]

So, he definitely wants to see me again and is agreeing to a little blue pill as plan B if needed, but he's fairly (?) confident it will be fine next time. I am not, but funny as it is, I really had a lovely time with him despite of his failure. He is a great kisser and has a pretty magical touch and I do want a bit more of that. Also, unlike Brian who was simply selfish, this guy is not and he really wanted ME to have a good time and even cooked a dinner (pretty tasty one too! - sex and food are highest my list or priorities haha)

[RemMb36+]

Whatever tickles your fancy. You are the most important part of the equation.

[eater]

hope round 2 goes well. glad to read that hard pounding sex isn't required for a good time.

[leggysandy]

hope round 2 goes well. glad to read that hard pounding sex isn't required for a good time.

oh, I didn't say it isn't, but when I meet someone for the first time, I look at many different things... But if it doesn't happen next time, he's done!

[BDJ]

LeggySandy,

Glad you're taking the insurance I suggested. Also happy Matt agreed to take one if needed.

Here's an analogy to mull over as you decide whether to continue seeing him: Sometimes consuming an excellent aged wine (Matt) can be a refreshing break from a good malt whiskey (Anthony). That whiskey packs a wallop and can get you drunk quickly if it's exceptional (and he seems to be.) Wine is for sipping, each glass engendering a greater appreciation for its fine bouquet. It doesn't make you drunk as quickly. Maybe a man who is older and has some dimension to him (took you to his home--his personal space--and fed you well) will be a compliment to your big-cocked first lover. So far he's been a wham, bam, thank you, ma'am kind of lover (good, yes, but..?)

Another analogy: If you always go to the same spot on vacation, no matter how wonderful it is, eventually it will lose its luster. But if you rotate, returning to it after an appropriate hiatus, that allows you to see more of the hidden elements that made it such an appealing place to begin with. Matt and others who offer a different approach to seduction might be an alternative to the intensity of Anthony, allowing the hot lust you feel with him to stay ignited in your mind for a much longer time.

Sorry to wax poetical. Sometimes I just can't help it.

BDJ

[afagehi7]

hope round 2 goes well. glad to read that hard pounding sex isn't required for a good time.

oh, I didn't say it isn't, but when I meet someone for the first time, I look at many different things... But if it doesn't happen next time, he's done!

I can cook so good you'll smack yo mamma and I will take the blue pill... If nothing else so I can go overtime. Where do I submit my CV/resume?

[leggysman]

Sunday's Date with Matt

S met Matt on the usual swinger dating site she uses. She really enjoys the thing she has with Anthony, but for some time now, she's been thinking about adding someone new (and I'm always encouraging that). Jake weirded her out, and Brian sucked, so she's still searching. Ridley - whom S first met more than three weeks ago - is still an interest, but they've yet to agree a second date. And she's still waiting to meet Todd. These two guys seem difficult to pin down.

Matt only appeared on the radar a week or so prior, but he seemed promising (and available). I think a few days ago, she kind of decided "fuck it, let's give him a try". They arranged to meet in the afternoon on Sunday. We were all pretty excited -- there did seem to be a common anticipation among all three of us that, if the initial meet went well, S was going to go home with him. Sometimes, when she's hungry for some action, my girl fucks on the first date (HOT!!!)

After lunch on Sunday she got ready for her date. Requesting my input, she chose the casual but slinky/sexy dark blue sleeveless dress she wore to meet Ridley, along with black tights and a favorite pair of short boots that she got repaired on Saturday. Underneath were a black bra and some sheer lacy panties. I don't have to tell anyone here it's very exciting to watch your hotwife get dressed for a date!

Once she was ready, we had a few minutes before she had to go. We stripped off those tights and panties, and enjoyed a few minutes of oral for her - a "warm up" so to speak, and a fond farewell ("until we meet again!" )

Then we kissed goodbye, and she drove herself to the station, to catch a train into the city. Our goodbyes are nearly never as long or affectionate or sexy as I always imagined they'd be. She's rushing out the door, or she doesn't want me to mess up her makeup or her skin (with my stubble) etc. I start missing her before she's even really left.

We chatted via messaging throughout her train journey, and right up until the time she arrived. He was waiting for her at the train station. She went quiet for a while, during the initial meeting (about 40 minutes) until remembering to let me know that they were in a cocktail bar somewhere between the station and Matt's flat. At that time, all she was willing to opine was "He's nice". Knowing S as I do, I interpreted that as: I'm not sure yet.

Another 50 minutes later, she seemed to have made up her mind. "I agreed to go to his flat. Curious about where this could lead haha. We are leaving now." I replied "Hot! Hope it leads somewhere exciting!" She finished with "I need to find out if he will make me wet. We have not kissed yet or anything."

Sometime during the walk home, he pulled her in and kissed her. As they were going into his flat, she let me know her verdict: "He kissed me, it was good!"

I know my girl. I know that means she's ready for action.

She went quiet again for 30 minutes. During that time they kissed and undressed, and she encouraged him to move things to the bedroom. He licked her pussy, and she enjoyed that a lot. That's when I received the first messages hinting at trouble:

"He's a good kisser, good licker, good with hands
He's really nervous though, I think his dick is failing him atm, he excused himself to go to the bathroom now haha
I think he's trying to get it up
He doesn't do this very often I think"

I expressed my hope that he would rise to the occasion, and then 15 minutes later:

"He can't.
His nerves ruined it completely, he says I'm beautiful and he's totally intimidated"

Ugh. Not this again, I thought. Still, I tried to be supportive - encouraging her to just hang out, take some time, and let his nerves settle. He cooked her dinner while she and I chatted some more (she even teased me about a football match; "Just you worry about getting laid, smarty pants," was my only retort).

I suggested he could take some sexy pics of my wife and send them to me [ he didn't: strike 2 as far as hubby is concerned ] thinking that might help to raise the temperature in a low-pressure way. I mentioned that I'd meant to stick my surplus blue pills in her 'go bag' (along with the lube, condoms, and breath mints) but "He said he doesn't take pills". I guess for some guys their pride or their aversion to pills supersedes their desire not to disappoint a gorgeous lady with their limp dicks ... but I digress.

In any case, S seemed to be feeling sympathetic. "He's really sweet, I am feeling sorry for him." I reminded her that "Being pitied is a boner killer baby "

When she then went quiet again for another 80 minutes, I thought: surely, they finally got down to business, and the next time I hear from her, it'll be about how well fucked my little hotwife is. Instead:

"Two more attempts, not really successful
About to leave now"

Ugh again. He did manage to get it up, and he began fucking her from behind. She enjoyed it until he lost his wood. Another attempt saw him lose it again in missionary. At some point she sucked his cock, hoping to help keep things moving along, but, alas.

We chatted a lot while she was on the train home. I've only ever owned just the one penis, so my sample size is small (but not my penis, you jerks, I know someone was going to say it!). I suggested it was one thing to have your nerves interfere with getting hard in the first place, but something else to get hard and then lose it. These seem like different things to me.

She told me that as they said goodbye, he whispered "please come back". She really did want to believe him that it was just an anomaly.

"He couldn't explain it
He really really likes me and he's just about the sweetest guy ever
The short time he fucked me was really good and the chemistry was good
He's begging for another chance
I am not upset at him and I still had a lovely evening as he cooked me a meal and he was really sweet and affectionate, and there was a lot of kissing/grabbing
So overall I feel happy, just need some extra loving when I get back home. "

But, here's the thing, I said: what if you go to all the trouble, and go back, and the exact same thing happens again? How shitty and, ultimately, foolish would that feel? I may be a pervert who encourages my wife to go off and fuck anyone she fancies, but I still feel fiercely protective. I cannot tolerate the thought of her dates leaving her feeling sad, disappointed, tricked, or like she has wasted her time.

I proposed that if she wanted to see him again, she should suggest it could happen only on these conditions: that he travel closer to us, and that he book a hotel room for them to meet. That way, if things went south again, she could say goodnight and be home in 15 minutes. Also, it was a test: did he really really want to see her again? Was he willing to do whatever it took?

Friends, he failed the test. It was all too difficult for this or that reason, he claimed. That was enough for me: I suggested she should politely fuck him off back from whence he came and be done with it. S seemed to agree, but .... I could tell she was still sad about it.

When she arrived home we had a glass of wine, and S filled me in on more of the night's details. She told me all the good bits about the night. How she'd really enjoyed his touch; how his sexual technique seemed to be top-notch. She seemed pretty relaxed. But when we went upstairs to bed, she was nearly animalistic. We often get pretty steamy - especially when we engage in dirty talk about things she's been doing with other men - but this was another level: if I've seen her quite this riled up before, it was so long ago I've more or less forgotten about it. Matt had really gotten her juices flowing, and she wanted to be handled roughly. She wanted toys. It was a very good 'reclaiming' session. We both came hard.

After S went to bed, I was here on the forum and read BDJ's post, above (and Farmgirl's). It gave me pause for thought. I knew she wanted to give him another chance, so: I wrote an email for her to read in the morning. I suggested that if she wanted to see him again, she could demand that he agree in advance to use a pill, should he encounter any difficulty. I said I'd be happy to personally explain the reasons and benefits to him, and that I'd even provide it. (What can I say? I want my wife to be happy.)

Matt seems to have embraced that solution, and so: we await a second date. My girl is happy and excited again. I think I have some faith that, with a pill as a plan B, she won't be disappointed again.

[newUK]

I cannot tolerate the thought of her dates leaving her feeling sad, disappointed, tricked, or like she has wasted her time.

Amen to that! L had her first proper Hotwife experience only last week and he flopped just like Matt.

For L it left a big cloud of doubt that it was because he didnt find her attractive enough. She is really conscious about her body.
He was semi-hard when she started sucking him but he lost it by the time he'd got on the bed with her. We had a good chat about it yesterday and I have hopefully convinced her it was not her fault. We also have another social meet planned for Wednesday with a possible playdate Friday if all goes well - I'll be updating my own thread shortly.

I'll need to be extra careful with the vetting going forward and make sure the guys have has experience.

Saying that, her flop said he had and he loved fucking wives in front of thier husbands. On the dating app we used to meet him there is not one verification to prove this so I suspect it was BS on his part to help him win the leading role.

I've been enjoying your journey and plan on reading it all to L over the coming days. I read her another post at bedtime last night and it culminated in her playing with herself :-)

[afagehi7]

I cannot tolerate the thought of her dates leaving her feeling sad, disappointed, tricked, or like she has wasted her time.

Amen to that! L had her first proper Hotwife experience only last week and he flopped just like Matt.

For L it left a big cloud of doubt that it was because he didnt find her attractive enough. She is really conscious about her body.
He was semi-hard when she started sucking him but he lost it by the time he'd got on the bed with her. We had a good chat about it yesterday and I have hopefully convinced her it was not her fault. We also have another social meet planned for Wednesday with a possible playdate Friday if all goes well - I'll be updating my own thread shortly.

I'll need to be extra careful with the vetting going forward and make sure the guys have has experience.

Saying that, her flop said he had and he loved fucking wives in front of thier husbands. On the dating app we used to meet him there is not one verification to prove this so I suspect it was BS on his part to help him win the leading role.

I've been enjoying your journey and plan on reading it all to L over the coming days. I read her another post at bedtime last night and it culminated in her playing with herself :-)

I'd say that he was a successful screen. If she likes him and the only issue is his cock not getting hard, well you can't predict that. many get stood up or end up with liars etc. If she likes him you screened well.

[DaveS]

So, he definitely wants to see me again and is agreeing to a little blue pill as plan B if needed,

Just keep in mind that the blue pill typically takes at least a half hour to work.
So plan accordingly.

[leggysman]

Just keep in mind that the blue pill typically takes at least a half hour to work.
So plan accordingly.

Haha, for me I think it was about 9 minutes so I think it varies! Thanks for the reminder though.