Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHWs only!

[beta65ohio]

My wife knows that my biggest fantasy is to watch her in bed with another man. She has done some role play with me in the bedroom, and has commented about how much I cum afterwards. We have been married nearly 15 years and have children...our relationship is rock solid. I have asked about her fantasies and she is more into romantic settings...making love under the stars etc...I have definitely made an effort to give her those experiences as I believe it's a 2 way street. We are in our early 40's, and she is still stunningly beautiful.

My question is when your husband approached you with "the talk" what could he have done better? I have told her that I want to watch her have sex but have never used terms like cuckold and hotwife. Is it better to lay those terms out there? Had you ever heard of these type things prior to your cuck husband bringing them up? I have told her that I am totally ok with her having sex with a third party (male or female) as long as she tells me about it, and pictures or video would be great if she can pull it off. She has never done anything more than role play which is totally fine if that's her limit. Just wondering what you ladies wish your cuck would have communicated to you, or left out prior to starting down the journey. She definitely gets turned on while we role play, and role playing does not dominate our sex life but comes out maybe 10% of our sex time together. I'm just afraid I will weird her out if I come out and say "I want to be your cuckold."

Thanks for any thoughts or experiences you can convey. And as a wannabe cuck you women are freaking awesome for indulging your husband's fantasy. Also, interested in hearing from any hotwives who brought the topic up to their soon to be cucks, and how did that conversation go?

[Farmgirl]

My wife knows that my biggest fantasy is to watch her in bed with another man. She has done some role play with me in the bedroom, and has commented about how much I cum afterwards. We have been married nearly 15 years and have children...our relationship is rock solid. I have asked about her fantasies and she is more into romantic settings...making love under the stars etc...I have definitely made an effort to give her those experiences as I believe it's a 2 way street. We are in our early 40's, and she is still stunningly beautiful.

My question is when your husband approached you with "the talk" what could he have done better? I have told her that I want to watch her have sex but have never used terms like cuckold and hotwife. Is it better to lay those terms out there? Had you ever heard of these type things prior to your cuck husband bringing them up? I have told her that I am totally ok with her having sex with a third party (male or female) as long as she tells me about it, and pictures or video would be great if she can pull it off. She has never done anything more than role play which is totally fine if that's her limit. Just wondering what you ladies wish your cuck would have communicated to you, or left out prior to starting down the journey. She definitely gets turned on while we role play, and role playing does not dominate our sex life but comes out maybe 10% of our sex time together. I'm just afraid I will weird her out if I come out and say "I want to be your cuckold."

Thanks for any thoughts or experiences you can convey. And as a wannabe cuck you women are freaking awesome for indulging your husband's fantasy. Also, interested in hearing from any hotwives who brought the topic up to their soon to be cucks, and how did that conversation go?

My mind never goes to: How could he or I have said or talked about it differently. The main point is to learn to talk about anything with each other. Have the "fear of rejection" talk first. We all have the fear of rejection, which is why we most often won't discuss our innermost thoughts. Once you have that talk and realize each of you deserves the trust of the other to listen without judging or belittling, then the other talks are easy. Once you trust each other to listen, then lay it out, but do your homework and have answers for all of the questions she will have.
If you aren't prepared, how is she supposed to be?

Do you have to be a cuckold? What if she wants a Hotwife husband instead? No answer is needed, just things to think about. If she wants to become a Hotwife, the chances are that her version won't be your version.

[anneshubby2]

My wife's friend wants to take her out to a Strip Club on their next Girls Night Out. I thought she was talking about going to a place with male dancers but she said this was with female strippers. It surprised me and I know in the past she had negative reactions to such places. Have any Hotwives gone out to a Gentleman's Club and what can I expect on their night out? She has my approval if she wants to go out. If I'm the designated driver, I won't go in with them (been there, done that. Plus, I broke the bar habit over 20 years ago and I'm not interested.)

[beta65ohio]

My wife knows that my biggest fantasy is to watch her in bed with another man. She has done some role play with me in the bedroom, and has commented about how much I cum afterwards. We have been married nearly 15 years and have children...our relationship is rock solid. I have asked about her fantasies and she is more into romantic settings...making love under the stars etc...I have definitely made an effort to give her those experiences as I believe it's a 2 way street. We are in our early 40's, and she is still stunningly beautiful.

My question is when your husband approached you with "the talk" what could he have done better? I have told her that I want to watch her have sex but have never used terms like cuckold and hotwife. Is it better to lay those terms out there? Had you ever heard of these type things prior to your cuck husband bringing them up? I have told her that I am totally ok with her having sex with a third party (male or female) as long as she tells me about it, and pictures or video would be great if she can pull it off. She has never done anything more than role play which is totally fine if that's her limit. Just wondering what you ladies wish your cuck would have communicated to you, or left out prior to starting down the journey. She definitely gets turned on while we role play, and role playing does not dominate our sex life but comes out maybe 10% of our sex time together. I'm just afraid I will weird her out if I come out and say "I want to be your cuckold."

Thanks for any thoughts or experiences you can convey. And as a wannabe cuck you women are freaking awesome for indulging your husband's fantasy. Also, interested in hearing from any hotwives who brought the topic up to their soon to be cucks, and how did that conversation go?

My mind never goes to: How could he or I have said or talked about it differently. The main point is to learn to talk about anything with each other. Have the "fear of rejection" talk first. We all have the fear of rejection, which is why we most often won't discuss our innermost thoughts. Once you have that talk and realize each of you deserves the trust of the other to listen without judging or belittling, then the other talks are easy. Once you trust each other to listen, then lay it out, but do your homework and have answers for all of the questions she will have.
If you aren't prepared, how is she supposed to be?

Do you have to be a cuckold? What if she wants a Hotwife husband instead? No answer is needed, just things to think about. If she wants to become a Hotwife, the chances are that her version won't be your version.

Thank you for the response. I don't fear her belittling me or anything like that. She may reject cuckolding me which I would definitely understand. I was more wondering if certain terms such as "cuckold" are difficult for a woman to process? My hunch is that the average woman doesn't have quite the same outlook on sex as the average man. I think men are much more driven by fantasies etc...not to insinuate that women don't fantasize. Just that men are more apt to seek these fantasies than women. I'm struggling to get my point across. I don't want to walk up to her and say "I want to be your cuckold. When are you going to bring home a creampie for me?" I would like to do it in a thoughtful manner that won't be too overwhelming. I have dropped plenty of hints and have straight up told her I am comfortable with her having another sex partner as long as I am aware of it. She just brushes it off as a fantasy...maybe it's best if stays a fantasy, but she's never given a "no" either. I know she's not a mind reader so was just wondering maybe what worked with some of you when your husbands brought it up or what they definitely shouldn't have done when the conversation happened? Thanks again. I really appreciate the feedback.

[kay0113]

I want to fuck a bigger man in husband in front of him not humiliate him! No its his fantasy! Suggestions?

[kurt1962]

Hi relatively new hotwife here. I am really turned on by the idea of hotwife but have yet to find a "suitable" boyfriend. I am attracted to sexy men in a shirt and tie but wonder how others may have satisfied this type of fetish. Other than meeting in a high end bar, what other activities would be a good way to meet those types of men? TIA!

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum kurt1962.

[kay0113]

Found a guy who is coming over our house to fuck me in front of husband!!! He came over today!! Well we both agreed that he eill be our first one!!! Me and my husband afterwards went into bedroom i took of his pants and told him how i wanted to fuck his bigger cock then my husbands and other positions i wanted to try with My Fwb. We know his size by pictures 8 in !! Without masturbating or me grabbing husbands cock. Just simply talking my husband orgasmed snd a big one!!! Are we really now there as a couple to experience our first hot wife experience with my husband watching me fuck my fwb in 2 days in front of him in our bed??????

[afagehi7]

Found a guy who is coming over our house to fuck me in front of husband!!! He came over today!! Well we both agreed that he eill be our first one!!! Me and my husband afterwards went into bedroom i took of his pants and told him how i wanted to fuck his bigger cock then my husbands and other positions i wanted to try with My Fwb. We know his size by pictures 8 in !! Without masturbating or me grabbing husbands cock. Just simply talking my husband orgasmed snd a big one!!! Are we really now there as a couple to experience our first hot wife experience with my husband watching me fuck my fwb in 2 days in front of him in our bed??????

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[Lookingforadventure]

Hi relatively new hotwife here. I am really turned on by the idea of hotwife but have yet to find a "suitable" boyfriend. I am attracted to sexy men in a shirt and tie but wonder how others may have satisfied this type of fetish. Other than meeting in a high end bar, what other activities would be a good way to meet those types of men? TIA!

If you are open to looking online, you could create an account on a lifestyle site. That way you can look at some pics, read the profiles, and select the guys who seem to most match your fantasy. This approach can be very frustrating (there are lots of fakes and flakes out there) but does work if you are willing to put in the time. Once you find a guy, and spend some time chatting, you can tell him your shirt and tie fantasy and see if he's willing.

If you want to meet men more organically in person, then I'm not sure I'm the best to advise you. I've gone the online route. A high end bar sounds like a good option -- maybe somewhere near a convention center when a business convention is going on? In my mind, such a place would have a high concentration of professional men who might be interested in flirting with a beautiful hot wife.

Good luck....and have fun

[Smalldink43]

It’s been a while since doing anything in the life style. It actually went really wrong. I have a 4 inch dick and my wife’s bull had a thick 8. I got quite jealous, she couldn’t stop, moved out and kept seeing him. We nearly divorced but have been back together for a couple years out of the lifestyle. We rarely have sex though. My question is this. Once a woman has had much bigger bull that gave her multiple orgasms during sex, can she ever enjoy small again? I can only get her off in oral which even that we rarely do. She isn’t cheating as we work from home and she never goes anywhere. She was wild in bed w him but w me she is so timid.

[2inUPMichigan]

It’s been a while since doing anything in the life style. It actually went really wrong. I have a 4 inch dick and my wife’s bull had a thick 8. I got quite jealous, she couldn’t stop, moved out and kept seeing him. We nearly divorced but have been back together for a couple years out of the lifestyle. We rarely have sex though. My question is this. Once a woman has had much bigger bull that gave her multiple orgasms during sex, can she ever enjoy small again? I can only get her off in oral which even that we rarely do. She isn’t cheating as we work from home and she never goes anywhere. She was wild in bed w him but w me she is so timid.

Welcome to OHW Smalldink43

It amazes me that so many men put such an emphasis on dick size! Sure, if you have a 4 inch dick you might have issues with positions like doggie if the woman has a decent size ass on her. So you figure out what positions work best for you! Learn the best angle to hit her g-spot. Or be the best she has ever had at oral, make her head spin!!
Jealous of an 8" dick? Why? That dick still has to be attached to a man who knows how to use it and move it. He still has to know how to turn her on and handle her body the way she likes. He still has to treat her the way SHE wants to be treated.
Jealous of an 8" dick? Why? It could be attached to a real Dick who thinks he is a gift to women and has no idea that sex is more than him getting off.

Many people are not prepared for the reality of what will happen when they take that big step.
It sounds like years later you are still feeling jealous. I'm wondering if that feeling was about his dick size or her reaction to him? Was her reaction really about his dick size? Or was it something else?

From personal experience I am not the same sexually with each man I have had sex with. It is different because the two people involved are different. I have never compared one man's size to another and I do not ask for dick pics. With some men sex can be wild and with others it can be soft and sweet. It has nothing to do with size.

[Farmgirl]

It’s been a while since doing anything in the life style. It actually went really wrong. I have a 4 inch dick and my wife’s bull had a thick 8. I got quite jealous, she couldn’t stop, moved out and kept seeing him. We nearly divorced but have been back together for a couple years out of the lifestyle. We rarely have sex though. My question is this. Once a woman has had much bigger bull that gave her multiple orgasms during sex, can she ever enjoy small again? I can only get her off in oral which even that we rarely do. She isn’t cheating as we work from home and she never goes anywhere. She was wild in bed w him but w me she is so timid.

Welcome to OHW Smalldink43

It amazes me that so many men put such an emphasis on dick size! Sure, if you have a 4 inch dick you might have issues with positions like doggie if the woman has a decent size ass on her. So you figure out what positions work best for you! Learn the best angle to hit her g-spot. Or be the best she has ever had at oral, make her head spin!!
Jealous of an 8" dick? Why? That dick still has to be attached to a man who knows how to use it and move it. He still has to know how to turn her on and handle her body the way she likes. He still has to treat her the way SHE wants to be treated.
Jealous of an 8" dick? Why? It could be attached to a real Dick who thinks he is a gift to women and has no idea that sex is more than him getting off.

Many people are not prepared for the reality of what will happen when they take that big step.
It sounds like years later you are still feeling jealous. I'm wondering if that feeling was about his dick size or her reaction to him? Was her reaction really about his dick size? Or was it something else?

From personal experience I am not the same sexually with each man I have had sex with. It is different because the two people involved are different. I have never compared one man's size to another and I do not ask for dick pics. With some men sex can be wild and with others it can be soft and sweet. It has nothing to do with size.

Listen to 2inUP!

I really feel this has Nothing to do with dick size. In my opinion, it has to do with the fact that you felt jealous and you took it out on her by wanting her to end it with the other guy. Now, you're both paying the price of your not trusting your wife. An all too common theme, the husband wants a Hotwife, until he gets jealous or thinks she is enjoying it, then he wants it to stop.
Do men not realize how much damage that does to the woman's confidence in her marriage/husband? She does what he wanted and she has to pay the price for doing it. She wonders why did she ever do it in the first place. Wellll, she did it because she trusted her husband, but then finds out he doesn't trust her.

[Love me 24]

I want to start my journey of hotwife with a man I like. Looking for suggestions on how do I convince my husband. Thank u

[Farmgirl]

I want to start my journey of hotwife with a man I like. Looking for suggestions on how do I convince my husband. Thank u

Your husband has a thread in the international personals where he is looking for play partners. Why do you need to convince him for you to become a Hotwife?

[BallSpanking]

Dear Mrs Love Me,

Beginning a journey to become a HotWife, by definition involves the husband and the wife. Straying from the bounds of traditional marriage, as in cuckolding your husband without his knowledge and consent, amounts to cheating.

Now, some HW couples play the don't ask don't tell game in their HotWife dynamics, and that can work just fine, because their understanding envisions precisely such a tryst for the HW, and (depending on the couple), disclosure comes later (in whatever form they agree to).

The point is that HotWifing includes both husband and wife in some capacity, without deviousness or ethical violations, because those can be very damaging to his trust and your marriage.

[Farmgirl]

Dear Mrs Love Me,

Beginning a journey to become a HotWife, by definition involves the husband and the wife. Straying from the bounds of traditional marriage, as in cuckolding your husband without his knowledge and consent, amounts to cheating.

Now, some HW couples play the don't ask don't tell game in their HotWife dynamics, and that can work just fine, because their understanding envisions precisely such a tryst for the HW, and (depending on the couple), disclosure comes later (in whatever form they agree to).

The point is that HotWifing includes both husband and wife in some capacity, without deviousness or ethical violations, because those can be very damaging to his trust and your marriage.

Now, good sir, you know you can't answer here. Your name's not in pretty bright blue.

[early-kink]

A question for any & ALL hotwives -

Do you know of any other hotwives in your area, whether they be friends, relatives, or members of your local HW lifestyle communities??

Reason for asking ...... I saw a woman clothing designer (from the Midwest) who sells her clothes on a nationally-televised, shop-at-home channel, commenting on a nationally-televised talk show. Hotwifing was the subject of discussion among several women on the show. The fashion lady said she knew of a number of couples in her area that are into hotwifing .... and LOVE it. So I wondered how many of you kind ladies know of other hotwives in your home areas. Do any other women ever ask you about what it's like to be a hotwife - if they know (or suspect) you are??

Merry Christmas to all Ladies here .... and to your families!!!

[mcg73]

I guess this question has already come up, but what happens when the lover is better in bed than the husband?

[Farmgirl]

I guess this question has already come up, but what happens when the lover is better in bed than the husband?

I've never had a lover better than my husband.
Each lover is different, including my husband; they're not in competition. I don't think about how one compares to the other, that's just not even a tiny part of the experience.
Each brings different things, their personalities, emotions, styles, etc.

[kay0113]

Whats it like the first time another man fucks u better then u have been fucked in years or ever!!!

[Farmgirl]

Whats it like the first time another man fucks u better then u have been fucked in years or ever!!!

See the answer above, and you'll see it's never happened.
New is exciting, new is different, new is good, but it ain't better!

[Hubby2myHW]

My wife gets REALLY worked up when we talk about her having 2 or 3 guys cum in her pussy during the same session or very close together. I love the idea, but only recently has she let anyone cum inside her but the timing hasn’t worked out or I cleaned her up while jerking off and cum fast. She LOVES the thought of all the cum mixing inside her pussy.

Is this a common HW fantasy, if so, what is the big turn on from the HW perspective?

[Farmgirl]

My wife gets REALLY worked up when we talk about her having 2 or 3 guys cum in her pussy during the same session or very close together. I love the idea, but only recently has she let anyone cum inside her but the timing hasn’t worked out or I cleaned her up while jerking off and cum fast. She LOVES the thought of all the cum mixing inside her pussy.

Is this a common HW fantasy, if so, what is the big turn on from the HW perspective?

I can't say if it is a common HW fantasy, I don't have fantasies. I like for all of my lovers to cum inside of me, and I especially enjoy the extra naughtiness when I have more than one lover's semen inside of me. Several times I have had two lovers (separately) cum in me the same day followed by my Number1. The taboo, the naughtiness !

[jane]

haha, no i don't think most of us think like that. if for some reason we have more than one man in a day and they are bareback then obviously we realize what has happened, and maybe at that moment, like Farmgirl said, it does feel naughty-but not really a fantasy beforehand, at least not as much as it seems to be to cuckolds.