My Wife's Hotwife History - Will eventually be everything

[Tracey52]

Another busy week for Gigi. I’m glad you two had fun together this weekend.

[Scotch98]

OMG Des, What an awesome description of Gigi and Mary getting together. I am sure her Boss was mercerized watching them please each other and Loved Gigi Fucking Mary w/ the Strap-on and making her cum. Just amazing. And then Mr B Gets to fuck Gigi after watching that... I'll bet he was so turned on he couldn't have lasted too long but I am sure he satisfied Gigi. Fucking Both of those hot ladies had to be a big treat for him. I just love Gigi's bi side and it sounds like Mary is really Hooked now. I am sure you will have many more hot times with them.

[solstice]

I have never heard or seen a woman pick up another woman as you describe, very sexy: have you ever seen Gigi behave so aggressively before.

[Des 31]

I have never heard or seen a woman pick up another woman as you describe, very sexy: have you ever seen Gigi behave so aggressively before.

Yes. She didn't again say this to me when telling me about their night, but she reacts to what she perceives another man or woman wants her to be at the time. In this instance, Mary would have signaled a submissive nature and wished to be taken.

That unspoken expression is also sometimes given off by men and she is very good at reading others. Beau has given off those vibes and she was similarly aggressive in fucking him - But, of course, she didn't pick him up. I was present at the time. She grabbed him by the collar, pulled him close and kissed him deeply. She hurriedly removed his shirt and other clothing, sucked his dick until it ballooned, and rode atop him on our living room couch. He loved it. Other than at times they have role-played their mom-and-son games, that's the most submissive I have seen in him.

[anonymister1948]

Her narration lasted only to that moment before I could take no more. I mounted her and fucked her madly. I say nutty things when I’m that hot and told her something like, “I love that you like other cocks.” She grinned at my heated reaction to her story and responded, “I know.” Her heels kicked my buttocks as I rammed into her. I didn’t last more than three or four minutes and probably not even that long. I was cumming hard. She squeezed her vagina, lifted her hips and drained every droplet of my sperm. I collapsed alongside her and she said with a grin, “You’re so easy to please.”

I don't recall you mentioning it, but does Gigi still come from PIV with you?

[Des 31]

Her narration lasted only to that moment before I could take no more. I mounted her and fucked her madly. I say nutty things when I’m that hot and told her something like, “I love that you like other cocks.” She grinned at my heated reaction to her story and responded, “I know.” Her heels kicked my buttocks as I rammed into her. I didn’t last more than three or four minutes and probably not even that long. I was cumming hard. She squeezed her vagina, lifted her hips and drained every droplet of my sperm. I collapsed alongside her and she said with a grin, “You’re so easy to please.”

I don't recall you mentioning it, but does Gigi still come from PIV with you?

Yeah, but not always. And for sure, not when I'm that excited. I didn't last long enough. (And, for all unfamiliar with Anonymister1948's acronym, He's not talking about the better-known federal credentials with those initials.)

[Des 31]

I was just wondering if Gigi is more open to allowing you to have these types of adventures, with her approval of course, since mid-October of last year when she became more relaxed in allowing you to play with other women?

Key assumptions for the above question:
- The adventures I am referring to would only be with fellow travelling saleswomen (non client employees).
- likelihood of you meeting the female in question again would be nil to no chance.
- you would still run the situation across Gigi first.

You were very relax in allowing Gigi to her week long adventure with Mark, with you sitting on the sidelines, that should only be a one night adventure. It is since when the wife returns to favour to the husband in being more relaxed herself.

Not a bit other than the few mentioned herein. She has loosened the reins somewhat since our original agreement, but those as written within our thread here are the totality allowed. We are pretty much the classic hotwife couple in that sense. Even if she had not given approval on occasion, I would not want to change a thing. I stay within the boundaries allowed.

Thanks for asking. Others may have wondered the same.

[solstice]

You would never call Gigi predictable, and that must come as a delightful surprise to those lucky enough to fuck her, I love the sense of theatre in her encounters: not saying she does this for effect and at times she seems to surprise you as well.

[freddie1975]

I enjoy reading ur wife's adventures Des
Good stuff
Tks for shsring

[Des 31]

Because an unusually heavy storm was anticipated, we had nothing planned for this weekend. My wife went out for some early shopping at the all-night big box store but phoned a few minutes later to tell me her boss called her on her cell phone before she arrived at her destination. His wife is out until around noon and he invited her over for an hour or two; so she called to sensuously tell me she would first stop by his place. Other than their usual work routines, they haven't "been together" since the previous weekend; so I'm guessing they have some catching up to do.

Her teasing phone call turned me on. My imagination raced wildly with thoughts of his big dick inside my wife. They're probably fucking by now and that storm and heavy winds arrived just minutes ago. For that reason, she may be at his home longer than anticipated. I turned on our lights, closed the electric storm shutters, and started a wash before jerking off. If she's gone a bit longer than I assume, I'll have the house straightened and in order before she gets home.

Gigi hasn't set up any dates for the coming week, but I've learned from experience that could change at any time. She mentioned last night she may phone our central-air maintenance guy to replace the temperature control box for our a/c-heating unit. He comes by about once a year for a systems checkup either on a weekend day or whenever she can take a day off for the appointment. They're fucking if I'm not home on those days, so that's a possibility. But she had not decided whether to phone him the coming week. She doesn't need my approval for whatever she does but typically tells me in a questioning manner anyway. I'm good with whatever she decides. It's that sort of communication that works for any successful marriage. I know many don't understand either of us, but in my view, I'm a lucky guy, and Gigi thinks ours is as good an arrangement as any she can imagine.

~ Des

[funcpl477]

A small quote from Des:

"...She doesn't need my approval for whatever she does but typically tells me in a questioning manner anyway. I'm good with whatever she decides. It's that sort of communication that works for any successful marriage..."

OHW would be a much happier and fun place if more of us would understand and adopt that kind of attitude.

Thanks DES.

[solstice]

She hurriedly removed his shirt and other clothing, sucked his dick until it ballooned,

Is this behavior exclusive to her men, or has she reacted with you in a similar fashion, the unexpected aggression may add a trigger to your Hochmagandies. (as if any such stimulation was necessary)

[solstice]

She mentioned last night she may phone our central-air maintenance guy

I assume that the initial approach to her tradespeople to engage in a bit of "how's your father" originates from your dear wife: with Gigi's height and her commanding presence, it would be a brave man who would initially try his hand with her.

[Des 31]

It seems my wife will soon have a new fuck-partner.

While she was still at her boss’ home yesterday morning, our friend Liz phoned. I told her Gigi was at “a man’s home” for a few hours but should be home by noon. Liz laughed and said, “I should have expected that.” She said she has been seeing a new man recently who has decided he prefers married women for sex. She thought Gigi might be interested in meeting him. I told her I would have her call her back when she returns.

Gigi drove into the garage at 11:30. She had left early to do some shopping; but on her way received a call from her boss that his wife would be out until around noon. She intended to be at his home only an hour or so. But yesterday’s heavy storm and wind struck while they were fucking and prevented her from leaving until around 11. The local news said the weather would come and go for most of the day; so instead of then going to the store as intended, she instead headed home when the rain let up.

She put our landline on speaker and returned Liz’s call. Liz told her she would share her newest guy if Gigi is interested. His name is Wynn and would like to see Liz more often than she has time. Liz is still dating her long-term boyfriend and, between him and her husband, isn’t often available for Wynn. He is a nurse practitioner and was still in bed alongside Liz while she and my wife were talking. She defined him as “interesting and practices ultra-discretion.” He had stayed the night with Liz. Her husband Ben had stayed overnight with his hot looking business manager and would return home a bit later.

Sometime during the previous night or that morning, Wynn asked if Liz knew other women whose husbands might approve of him dating the wife. Liz told him, “I might. I’ll ask.”

As Liz went on about his appearance and personality, my wife turned to me with a questioning glance. I shrugged and said, “Sure, whatever you prefer is okay with me.”

Liz handed the phone to him. He said Liz wouldn’t tell him Gigi’s name but described her as “gorgeous and rather tall.” Gigi laughed and admitted, yeah, she’s 5’11 and said to thank Liz for her remarks. He said he has a light schedule on Wednesday and doesn’t work most weekends, then inquired if Gigi cared to have lunch with him this week. They agreed to meet at a small diner on the north end of town on Wednesday. Gigi will take a two-hour lunch break that day. Each described their cars and what they will be wearing so the two can recognize the other. That’s St. Patrick’s Day. The bank won’t be closed, but she will be wearing her all-green pantsuit, turtleneck sweater, and shoes as she does every year for that holiday. She says, “I’m Irish at heart,” but I kidded her last year that she’s “appropriating” Irish culture; she responded, “Don’t become one of those Woke jerks.” The bank’s new uniform blazers are green, so the employees who wear those will be suitably outfitted for that non-federal holiday.

Wynne returned the phone to Liz. She and my wife made plans to get together a night for dinner at my wife’s club within the next couple of weeks. Liz needed to end the call because Wynn was getting dressed and about to leave. She said her “very-time-conscious husband,” would be home in about an hour.

When Gigi returned the phone to its receiver, she expressed his remark about being “free on weekends” seemed a hint they might then get together if the meet-up works out. Realizing she was about to ask, I interjected, “I hope it works out. It’s fine with me if you’re away that night.” She walked over to buss me on the cheek and said, “And I won’t mind if you have Mary or Sherry over if either is free.” Mary is her boss’ wife and Sherry is Beau’s fiancé. I doubt either scenario is possible but thanked her for her unusually magnanimous proffer. I can’t imagine Mary’s husband being comfortable with that; and Beau and Sherry may wish to be together on their days off.

For me, these occasional nights my wife is away isn’t a problem. As are most writers, I don’t mind being alone for extended times. The nature of this business doesn’t allow for personalities who always need someone around for company. Over time, I have learned that characteristic also works well for a husband whose hotwife is away with other men at times. And, for the obvious reason. my wife loves that feature about me; so that’s yet another reason I suppose I’m cut out for this way of life.

* * * * *

After the phone call to Liz, she and I immediately went to bed. I turned on the bedside recorder. Gigi’s narrative of her time with her boss wasn’t as intricately detailed as I usually get after another man has been fucking her. That’s my fault. My dick swelled. I stroked as she began her tale and would soon need to fuck her.

His cock protruded stiffly from beneath his robe from the moment she walked in. He told her that for the past week he had been hoping to soon again being inside her hot pussy. She chuckled and responded, “As your assistant, I do my best to meet all needs.” As second in command, her position at the bank is more than that of an assistant, but he liked hearing that.

His wife was out until around noon but was aware her husband intended to invite Gigi over for an hour or two before she was to return. Dark clouds were gathering as she neared his home. She parked alongside the high hedge near the back of their home to avoid a next door neighbor from noticing her car. When greeting her at the back patio, he was still in his white robe and pajamas. She undressed in their marital bedroom while he fixed coffee and delivered it on a tray where she waited naked in bed. They talked and drank coffee a few minutes before he set their cups onto the bedside table.

Thunder and lightning roared outside his bedroom window. He kissed her deeply, parted her legs, and went down on her. She moaned and muttered, “I need your big cock so bad, Mr. (Boss).” Even in bed, the two address the other as “Mr.” and “Mrs.” She shrieked in her first climax within a minute or two. By then, rain began whipping furiously against the window. She glanced aside at the window and the downpour obscured her vision beyond a few feet from their home.

He entered her missionary style but soon turned her about to guide his dick into her from behind.

When telling me this, she turned to her knees, looked down at me and said teasingly, “I was kneeling like this. I couldn’t wait until his big throbbing cock was about to go so deep inside me again.” I’m unsure whether my reaction was a groan or a whimper, but my mind turned to mush. Overwhelmed emotionally, I squeezed my tool and whined, “Oh fuck, yes, I know you wanted him so bad.” She grinned and said, “Uh-huh. And he was all I was thinking about.” Images of how good he was fucking my wife raced through my mind. I envisioned his massive cock filling her hot cunt and mentally hear her potracted screams as she climaxed.

She wailed in her second orgasm as he pounded her cunt. About ten minutes later, he was cumming hard and groaning as his seed gushed into my wife’s channel.

* * * Unable to hold off any longer, I pushed her to her back and knelt between her legs. As I fucked her, her voice quavered as she whimpered, “My back was to him, but I wish I could have seen his face when he ejaculated. It was really, really good.” Sometimes I can last ten to fifteen minutes but charged up as I then was, I was cumming in no more than three.

My waiting for her to return home was worth it. I love times like that.

~ Des

SIDE NOTE: I'm occasionally asked if I commonly post these updates very early in the morning. I don't. As noted in the User Control System at this websites, all postings are given at this website as UTC (Coordinated Universal Time).

[solstice]

In the past you have spoken of keeping weekends almost exclusively for you both, has that understanding now been relaxed?

[Des 31]

In the past you have spoken of keeping weekends almost exclusively for you both, has that understanding now been relaxed?

That's history now, Sol.

[Her number1]

In the past you have spoken of keeping weekends almost exclusively for you both, has that understanding now been relaxed?

That's history now, Sol.

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

[Freemans892]

In the past you have spoken of keeping weekends almost exclusively for you both, has that understanding now been relaxed?

That's history now, Sol.

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.

I previously had a role for which about a year that required me to travel out of town every week. The first six months required me to be away from Monday to Friday. The second six months I could work in a local office on Friday and sometimes Thursday and Friday but not always. At the time, my wife and I had young kids and she worked part-time as a nurse. As we don’t have parents that live locally, we were forced into the situation were she had to work most weekends. Sometimes the only night we had to ourselves was Sunday night. The whole situation put a strain on our marriage until I could go back to working locally most of the time. In addition, I became quite close to one of the females that worked at the remote location and she was single. Fortunately for me, I didn’t find this female sexually attractive so I was able to keep the relationship as just friends because she dropped hints that she was willing to have an affair me. There is no hotwifing involved at all in this situation but didn’t stop my wife from wondering if I was having an affair while I was out of town.

Trust me, when you are not seeing your wife that much, even though you are on the phone to her everyday, and you have a female colleague who you work closely with drop hints that she wants an affair, how tempting that is. Trust me also, spending 4 to 5 nights a week by yourself is not fun and it is more challenging if you know you can spend those nights someone else even if it is an affair.

Guess what, Des has the most attractive female in the office working for him as his secretary and she is a hotwife. She already dropped hints that she would happy to have a sexual relationship with Des. If Des secretary deduces that Des is spending most of the weekend by himself because Gigi is spending a lot with Wynn then I am pretty sure that the secretary with up the ante with Des.

Two years ago, I worked on a project that required to bring in someone with a specific technical skill set that wasn’t available locally. Due the distance involved, this person couldn’t travel back home on the weekends. I was overseeing the project thus dealing regularly with the client to keep them happy and keeping the internal morale up. The person that was brought in turned out to be one the most attractive females in the office. I needed to work quite closely with this outside female because of daily interaction with the client and she needed someone with an analyst background (which I was in a former life) to fine-tune the technical solution. She knew I was married, had teenage children and was at least 15 years older than her. It didn’t take long for me to realise that we both had strong sexual chemistry for each other. She dropped multiple hints to make our relationship a sexual one. I was able to keep on the straight and narrow because my wife was always there when I got home. If we were both working out of town, I pretty sure I would end having an affair with her, trust me, it’s lonely spending 4 nights alone each week.

Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

[Scotch98]

Great update Des, Sounds like an interesting week Coming up. I just love your detail of Mr. fucking Gigi and love the way she describes it to you in intimate detail. I certainly can understand how you don't last long and I sure wouldn't But I know it is super satisfying for you. Ever since you mentioned that Gigi had that momentary expression of fear when Mr was about to enter her pussy and I can visualize that moment every time you update us on their meetings. Fear one second and begging to be fucked the next. Can't get much more erotic than that. I know that has to be a sight to behold...... I hope both you guys have a fantastic week..... Cheers

[Her number1]

In the past you have spoken of keeping weekends almost exclusively for you both, has that understanding now been relaxed?

That's history now, Sol.

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.

I previously had a role for which about a year that required me to travel out of town every week. The first six months required me to be away from Monday to Friday. The second six months I could work in a local office on Friday and sometimes Thursday and Friday but not always. At the time, my wife and I had young kids and she worked part-time as a nurse. As we don’t have parents that live locally, we were forced into the situation were she had to work most weekends. Sometimes the only night we had to ourselves was Sunday night. The whole situation put a strain on our marriage until I could go back to working locally most of the time. In addition, I became quite close to one of the females that worked at the remote location and she was single. Fortunately for me, I didn’t find this female sexually attractive so I was able to keep the relationship as just friends because she dropped hints that she was willing to have an affair me. There is no hotwifing involved at all in this situation but didn’t stop my wife from wondering if I was having an affair while I was out of town.

Trust me, when you are not seeing your wife that much, even though you are on the phone to her everyday, and you have a female colleague who you work closely with drop hints that she wants an affair, how tempting that is. Trust me also, spending 4 to 5 nights a week by yourself is not fun and it is more challenging if you know you can spend those nights someone else even if it is an affair.

Guess what, Des has the most attractive female in the office working for him as his secretary and she is a hotwife. She already dropped hints that she would happy to have a sexual relationship with Des. If Des secretary deduces that Des is spending most of the weekend by himself because Gigi is spending a lot with Wynn then I am pretty sure that the secretary with up the ante with Des.

Two years ago, I worked on a project that required to bring in someone with a specific technical skill set that wasn’t available locally. Due the distance involved, this person couldn’t travel back home on the weekends. I was overseeing the project thus dealing regularly with the client to keep them happy and keeping the internal morale up. The person that was brought in turned out to be one the most attractive females in the office. I needed to work quite closely with this outside female because of daily interaction with the client and she needed someone with an analyst background (which I was in a former life) to fine-tune the technical solution. She knew I was married, had teenage children and was at least 15 years older than her. It didn’t take long for me to realise that we both had strong sexual chemistry for each other. She dropped multiple hints to make our relationship a sexual one. I was able to keep on the straight and narrow because my wife was always there when I got home. If we were both working out of town, I pretty sure I would end having an affair with her, trust me, it’s lonely spending 4 nights alone each week.

Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting way too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

[solstice]

Des says: That's history now, Sol.

I'm a bit of a traditionalist myself, but who would dare to argue with a hotwife lifestyle such as yours? care to swap?) ; Nothing stays the same, and I have never heard you complaining of boredom. Recently your own sexual encounters have been augmented.

[Des 31]

Thanks for the recent post Des. I am in awe of the depth you and Gigi think about your lifestyle and the psychology of it. It would be worthwhile reading even without all the sex but I love all the sex
Lucky Mr Boss having a FMF threesome. I’m pretty sure Mary would approve a FMF with YOU and Gigi also. Just need to get Mr Boss out of the picture for a night. Finally what do you do alone at night in your hotel room while Gigi is fucking others or is that a stupid question?

Hi Tracey. I didn't respond immediately to the lifestyle/psychology remark. She also regularly reads a hotwife-style magazine downloaded from Amazon, "Ladylike Magazine," available free on Kindle. It seems an odd title to me; but I'm told that until a few years ago, long before she began reading it, the magazine title's purpose was geared toward transgenders. Apparently, that folded for financial reasons and the topic since has been cuckold relationships, intended for the woman instead of a hotwife-husband or cuckold.

I have glanced at some articles, but she has said she has received helpful information from it. At least some of that, she says, has contributed to how to recognize men who want to sleep with her, how best to react to men approaching her, how she responds, and the way she has come to think. Over time, along with experience, all that has become second nature to her. From what I'm told, though, much of the magazine's content also has to do with somewhat feminized husbands - so she ignores those parts.

You're right that the two of us do think about the psychology about our interests and certain pitfalls to avoid.

~ Des

[Freemans892]

That's history now, Sol.

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.

I previously had a role for which about a year that required me to travel out of town every week. The first six months required me to be away from Monday to Friday. The second six months I could work in a local office on Friday and sometimes Thursday and Friday but not always. At the time, my wife and I had young kids and she worked part-time as a nurse. As we don’t have parents that live locally, we were forced into the situation were she had to work most weekends. Sometimes the only night we had to ourselves was Sunday night. The whole situation put a strain on our marriage until I could go back to working locally most of the time. In addition, I became quite close to one of the females that worked at the remote location and she was single. Fortunately for me, I didn’t find this female sexually attractive so I was able to keep the relationship as just friends because she dropped hints that she was willing to have an affair me. There is no hotwifing involved at all in this situation but didn’t stop my wife from wondering if I was having an affair while I was out of town.

Trust me, when you are not seeing your wife that much, even though you are on the phone to her everyday, and you have a female colleague who you work closely with drop hints that she wants an affair, how tempting that is. Trust me also, spending 4 to 5 nights a week by yourself is not fun and it is more challenging if you know you can spend those nights someone else even if it is an affair.

Guess what, Des has the most attractive female in the office working for him as his secretary and she is a hotwife. She already dropped hints that she would happy to have a sexual relationship with Des. If Des secretary deduces that Des is spending most of the weekend by himself because Gigi is spending a lot with Wynn then I am pretty sure that the secretary with up the ante with Des.

Two years ago, I worked on a project that required to bring in someone with a specific technical skill set that wasn’t available locally. Due the distance involved, this person couldn’t travel back home on the weekends. I was overseeing the project thus dealing regularly with the client to keep them happy and keeping the internal morale up. The person that was brought in turned out to be one the most attractive females in the office. I needed to work quite closely with this outside female because of daily interaction with the client and she needed someone with an analyst background (which I was in a former life) to fine-tune the technical solution. She knew I was married, had teenage children and was at least 15 years older than her. It didn’t take long for me to realise that we both had strong sexual chemistry for each other. She dropped multiple hints to make our relationship a sexual one. I was able to keep on the straight and narrow because my wife was always there when I got home. If we were both working out of town, I pretty sure I would end having an affair with her, trust me, it’s lonely spending 4 nights alone each week.

Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Maybe so. Due to the nature of my wife’s profession that very much tends to be shift work. Throughout the course of our relationship I regular spent a night alone (afternoon shift) or spent a night alone in bed (night shift). Up to three nights a week is fine but beyond that can have an impact on the relationship. Both my wife and I are quite grounded about our situation in that there is not much we can do about it. Where issues did flare up was when I required to travel regular for work and we had young kids. Definitely for 6 months, we hardly saw each other. In my situation, I had to change roles to remove the tension in the whole situation. Now that the kids are older and more independent, my wife has been able to reallocate more of her shifts to be during the week thus if I have to travel for work, it is of a less of an impact.

Due to fact my wife is not around a lot on the weekends compared to most couples, over time I tended to socialise less and become a more of a home body. Not all social activities, just social activities with a couples feel to it. There is one key weekly social activity with the kids I have given up because I don’t want to be perceived as the single Dad. Such things as bike riding with the boys or being actively with my boys in their scout club, I have no issues with. It is just those events, where you are expected to bring your partner. You may not notice at first but you do over a longer period of time.

Here’s the thing for Des and Gigi, over the last three years Gigi has had two long-term boyfriends. Due to the fact that these boyfriends had other primaries (or studies) to think about, Gigi has been able to manage her time with Des reasonably well. When a third boyfriend is brought in can make it more challenging, as case in point was Fred.

When Fred was actively on the scene from early April 2020 to mid-October 2020, Gigi seemed to be cucking Des fairly hard at times. At times, it seemed that Gigi was spending more than 50% of her evenings away from Des. My personal view, if spending more than 50% of your evenings away from your spouse, you are putting a strain on your relationship. The additional challenge with Fred is that Fred had no primary to think about. Basically Gigi became his primary because Jean had relocated. Then around mid-October 2020, a 180 occurred where Gigi and Des were doing things more inclusive together, i.e. Fred dropped out of the scene, Beau’s parents, Beau and Sherry, Bossman and Mary. I personally think that they entered a healthier phase of their relationship from mid-October 2020 onwards.

Here’s my view:
- For Gigi to have 3 boyfriends puts a strain on their relationship.
- Keep Wynn to an occasional fuck.
- Liz would have given her view to Wynn that Des and Gigi are a cuckold relationship instead of a hotwife relationship thus Wynn needs to be educated on this fact.
- Try and keep of your weekend to yourselves because if not, Des will end up spending a lot weekends at home by himself.
- If Des is willing to give up the weekends, then he may need to find his own hotwife to play with on the side.

[anonymister1948]

She also regularly reads a hotwife-style magazine downloaded from Amazon, "Ladylike Magazine," available free on Kindle.

I was curious about this magazine and gave a few issues a read. (They are only about 25 pages long.) The author believes that if a man loves a woman, he should not put up a fuss if she fucks other men and that after she's trained him, he will comply without issue. She also believes that husbands should be cuckolds who are eventually "trained" - her words, not mine - until they are caged and wearing panties. She, on the other hand, will not allow her husband to be with other women. I'm sure her fear is that she'd never find another man to train if he ever left. I doubt her fear is jealousy-based. After reading a few issues I felt sick to my stomach that a person (with a following) could speak with such misandry in her heart and not get pushback.

Of course, this works for those husbands who are bent that way, where an agreement is reached and is happily agreed-upon. But can you imagine the uproar that would ensue if a man, ANY man, said he was going to fuck other women and if his wife really loved him, she wouldn't put up a fuss? Yikes!

[Asterix42]

That's history now, Sol.

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.
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Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Methinks saying it's "very grounded" could be projection too. The lifestyle started with Gigi cheating on Des for three months, then moved to once a month hook ups with the boss interspersed with some other lovers. Over the last few years it's evolved and they spend less and less time together. It increasingly comes across that Gigi does what she wants when she wants, and it sounds like she's on call for her boss whenever he wants, while the time she spends with Des comes across as increasingly squeezed and unprioritized. I just hope that the "balance" they've achieved between marriage and play continues to work for them, especially if it continues to involve them spending less time together..