My Wife's Hotwife History - Will eventually be everything

[Tracey52]

I wish I could read the titles on the cover of the magazine Des is using as the avatar. It would appear to be Gigi’s body but I assume not her face?

[Freemans892]

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.
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Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Methinks saying it's "very grounded" could be projection too. The lifestyle started with Gigi cheating on Des for three months, then moved to once a month hook ups with the boss interspersed with some other lovers. Over the last few years it's evolved and they spend less and less time together. It increasingly comes across that Gigi does what she wants when she wants, and it sounds like she's on call for her boss whenever he wants, while the time she spends with Des comes across as increasingly squeezed and unprioritized. I just hope that the "balance" they've achieved between marriage and play continues to work for them, especially if it continues to involve them spending less time together..

I have also notice of late with the Boss, it’s either at a drop of hat when Mary is doing something he will ring Gigi for quick fuck or planned activities when Des is away. Clearly he assumes that Gigi is always available for his on-call needs. He knows that Mary is not going to complain because she’s off doing something but he doesn’t necessarily considers the impact on Des. Maybe it’s time for Gigi reset the parameters with the Boss and set a max of two sole sessions per month. Maybe Gigi and Des may not see it as yet but is definitely a change in the frequency & pattern now that the children are at boarding school and Mary is allowed to have full sex. Gigi probably needs to have a hard discussion with the Boss in order to keep things in check from all sides.

[Her number1]

I've found it to be that way with us too, Des. Farmgirl enjoys her guys any time of the day, and whatever day she wants, It works for us.

It maybe a bit different for Des as he travels a fair bit. Des could be away from Tuesday to Friday, come home to find that Gigi is having overnighter on Friday night with Beau/Bossman and then overnighter with Wynn on the Saturday night. Basically in this scenario Des doesn’t get to see Gigi for a week. It seems recently that Des was away recently and the night that Des was first back home she was out with the mechanic. I know Des is Gigi number one but sometimes it doesn’t seem that way. I have read some disaster stories on OHW where the hotwife place the SO/BF/Hubby’s needs last over and over again, e.g. multiple dates canceled, and it forced them to walk away from the relationship. Too much of a good thing is not always good. It seems from history that Gigi has a hard time saying no. At least with Saturday night set aside for date night with Des forces Gigi to get his permission before she says yes and reminds her that she needs to spend time with Des.
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Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Methinks saying it's "very grounded" could be projection too. The lifestyle started with Gigi cheating on Des for three months, then moved to once a month hook ups with the boss interspersed with some other lovers. Over the last few years it's evolved and they spend less and less time together. It increasingly comes across that Gigi does what she wants when she wants, and it sounds like she's on call for her boss whenever he wants, while the time she spends with Des comes across as increasingly squeezed and unprioritized. I just hope that the "balance" they've achieved between marriage and play continues to work for them, especially if it continues to involve them spending less time together..

I think we will have to, I hope, cordially disagree. We see their story and marriage differently.

[Des 31]

I wish I could read the titles on the cover of the magazine Des is using as the avatar. It would appear to be Gigi’s body but I assume not her face?

Hi Tracey. It isn't my wife, just a free-use image from the internet I came across while searching for hotwife magazines online. It won't be here long as none are. I'm PM'ing you a larger version as downloaded. I would put it here on the thread if I knew how.

~ Des

[Des 31]

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Trust me Des, keeping weekends almost exclusively for the two of you is better for your relationship. You and Gigi should aim to keep Saturday night your date for yourselves. Hotwifing can spicy the relationship but too hotwifing can damage the relationship.

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Methinks saying it's "very grounded" could be projection too. The lifestyle started with Gigi cheating on Des for three months, then moved to once a month hook ups with the boss interspersed with some other lovers. Over the last few years it's evolved and they spend less and less time together. It increasingly comes across that Gigi does what she wants when she wants, and it sounds like she's on call for her boss whenever he wants, while the time she spends with Des comes across as increasingly squeezed and unprioritized. I just hope that the "balance" they've achieved between marriage and play continues to work for them, especially if it continues to involve them spending less time together..

I think we will have to, I hope, cordially disagree. We see their story and marriage differently.

Good comments from all. I think I could reasonably compare our attitudes most closely to Her Number1 and Farmgirl's attitudes. But it so happens that she and her boss recently had at least two conversations on that issue. It would be a bit long-winded to go through all that but essentially both firmly agree to do nothing I might find uncomfortable. I haven't complained to her about anything in a very long time but she and I each agree to let the other know if anything comes about that seems amiss. I have written here before there's no way she and her boss would be able to live together day-to-day; their personalities are good for work and social activities; but, because each has good sense, both have certain strong opinions that don't get discussed at those times. She and I agree on virtually everything of importance; they don't and that's just one of several matters that wouldn't work for either of them if they were in a living-together relationship. His wife is exceptionally compatible with him in that way. For Gigi and him, it's all just really good sex. In that, the two are well suited for the other.

Anyone who has read through this thread has seen similar comments in the past, so this isn't the first time we have come across that concern. We understand our ways would be a problem for many couples, but they aren't us. We are admittedly different from most we know, but it works for us. She, I, her boss and his wife have marital commitments that are as unbreakable as any I can imagine. (And, yes, I know: No two people agree on everything. But the four of us agree on all written here.)

~ Des

[JustWantToWatch]

Des I am not worried about you and Gigi at all. If any couple has this lifestyle mastered it is you two.

[rascalnvixen]

Des, Maybe a search engine safe link here on the thread for that pic you are using for your avatar??? Some others may want to see it as well. (hint)

Rascal

[Des 31]

Des, Maybe a search engine safe link here on the thread for that pic you are using for your avatar??? Some others may want to see it as well. (hint)

Rascal

Another good idea you came up with, Rascal. Here's one, but there are more sites to get the same image. Copy the following and paste in your browser:
//duckduckgo.com/?q=hot+wife+magazine&t=newext&iar=images&iax=images&ia=images

(If it doesn't show up with your search engine, I used duckduckgo.)

(Turn off safe-search) There are a lot of those sorts of mags.

[Des 31]

We were told this year’s Hotwife and Cuckold Convention is being held July 17-20 in the Greater Orlando Area at Kissimmee, FL (near Disney World). Any interested can register online. Details can easily be found through your favorite search engine or at Tumblr. So far, an anticipated 300 or so are expected to attend and it's presumed many of those will be from the surrounding cities. If many locals are attending, I would think many private house parties will be held following the convention activities.

More resorts and attractions (even a large, nearby nudist resort) can be found in that area than anyone could possibly visit in a month's time.

We aren't going, but some here may be interested.

[lookingiansa]

Me thinks, you're projecting say too much on Des. He and his wife are very grounded in their life together.

Methinks saying it's "very grounded" could be projection too. The lifestyle started with Gigi cheating on Des for three months, then moved to once a month hook ups with the boss interspersed with some other lovers. Over the last few years it's evolved and they spend less and less time together. It increasingly comes across that Gigi does what she wants when she wants, and it sounds like she's on call for her boss whenever he wants, while the time she spends with Des comes across as increasingly squeezed and unprioritized. I just hope that the "balance" they've achieved between marriage and play continues to work for them, especially if it continues to involve them spending less time together..

I think we will have to, I hope, cordially disagree. We see their story and marriage differently.

Good comments from all. I think I could reasonably compare our attitudes most closely to Her Number1 and Farmgirl's attitudes. But it so happens that she and her boss recently had at least two conversations on that issue. It would be a bit long-winded to go through all that but essentially both firmly agree to do nothing I might find uncomfortable. I haven't complained to her about anything in a very long time but she and I each agree to let the other know if anything comes about that seems amiss. I have written here before there's no way she and her boss would be able to live together day-to-day; their personalities are good for work and social activities; but, because each has good sense, both have certain strong opinions that don't get discussed at those times. She and I agree on virtually everything of importance; they don't and that's just one of several matters that wouldn't work for either of them if they were in a living-together relationship. His wife is exceptionally compatible with him in that way. For Gigi and him, it's all just really good sex. In that, the two are well suited for the other.

Anyone who has read through this thread has seen similar comments in the past, so this isn't the first time we have come across that concern. We understand our ways would be a problem for many couples, but they aren't us. We are admittedly different from most we know, but it works for us. She, I, her boss and his wife have marital commitments that are as unbreakable as any I can imagine. (And, yes, I know: No two people agree on everything. But the four of us agree on all written here.)

~ Des

Des

From what you have written. I agree with GiGi and Bossman you have nothing to worry about. For one he's to possessive and unlike you would not like her with others. And I think she would get bored easily and the allure would wear off. Being with him only.

Mr. Lookingiansa

[solstice]

duplication.

[solstice]

Des Writes: it works for us.

My antenna twitches when I read of a hot wife acting in an irresponsible way to her partner, with both Des and her Number1's relationships seem to me to hit the right balance. I have been reading this thread since the Autumn 1998, and am sensitive to guys being disregarded by their wives, or vice versa. I would be long gone if that was the case. Gigi's sexual appetite is prodigious and surprisingly not kinky: If the lifestyle could ever be regarded as conventional, apart for a prodigious appetite her relationships are fairly bog standard,
It does however, fairly often take an unexpected and delightful turn. When she can, Des is put fully in the picture, although he never demurs to last minute arrangements.

[anonymister1948]

We were told this year’s Hotwife and Cuckold Convention is being held July 17-20 in the Greater Orlando Area at Kissimmee, FL (near Disney World). Any interested can register online. Details can easily be found through your favorite search engine or at Tumblr. So far, an anticipated 300 or so are expected to attend and it's presumed many of those will be from the surrounding cities. If many locals are attending, I would think many private house parties will be held following the convention activities.

More resorts and attractions (even a large, nearby nudist resort) can be found in that area than anyone could possibly visit in a month's time.

We aren't going, but some here may be interested.

Hi Des,
You may want to cross-post this to the Hot Spot forum. There was someone recently looking for recommendations in Florida.

[lookingiansa]

We were told this year’s Hotwife and Cuckold Convention is being held July 17-20 in the Greater Orlando Area at Kissimmee, FL (near Disney World). Any interested can register online. Details can easily be found through your favorite search engine or at Tumblr. So far, an anticipated 300 or so are expected to attend and it's presumed many of those will be from the surrounding cities. If many locals are attending, I would think many private house parties will be held following the convention activities.

More resorts and attractions (even a large, nearby nudist resort) can be found in that area than anyone could possibly visit in a month's time.

We aren't going, but some here may be interested.

Hi Des,
You may want to cross-post this to the Hot Spot forum. There was someone recently looking for recommendations in Florida.

Des

Do you know are potential BF/men able to attend the convention to get with hot wives possibly??

Would be neat to mingle with that many hot wives. Probably need a case of viagra for that kind of fun lol

Mr. Lookingiansa

[Des 31]

I wrote this yesterday when on a break and had hit "submit" when my secretary walked in. I didn't known until this morning it didn't go through at the moment I turned off my laptop. It was an elaborate workplace party. (No sex, but I'm sure some is coming.)

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Today is the day she is to meet Wynn at a diner just outside the city limits. She had arranged with her boss to take a long lunch hour for lunch with “a friend.” He suggested she could take the rest of the work day off. She will need to return at 4:00 p.m. for the bank’s annual St. Patrick’s Day party for employees and customers who wish to attend. She was asked to again open the party as she did last year by singing, “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling,” which she has again been practicing this past week.

She will tell an Irish joke at the outset, followed by the song. As an accessory, she picked up a green Irish Leprechaun top hat from a downtown novelty store to wear for the event. Although Gigi’s ancestors were Dutch, she has a affable obsession for Ireland and Scotland; when still in high school, she learned from a FLAG club girl to mimic each country’s accents, which she typically uses when telling ethnic jokes about either. Over the years, she has developed other nations’ accents; to me and a Canadian couple she knows from the bank, her funniest when telling jokes is her Canadian accent.

I and four partners in our agency plan to drive over to the bank for the party. Those others didn’t go last year, and I haven’t told them my wife will be the party’s opener. The principal reason my partners wish to attend is that I had casually mentioned green beer is served each year at the gathering. Gigi said she may invite Wynn dependent upon how their luncheon goes and how she judges his discretion and good judgment; if she does, they won’t be arriving together. She learned from bank records that he’s a customer, so his attendance wouldn’t be questioned.

~ Des

[Des 31]

We were told this year’s Hotwife and Cuckold Convention is being held July 17-20 in the Greater Orlando Area at Kissimmee, FL (near Disney World). Any interested can register online. Details can easily be found through your favorite search engine or at Tumblr. So far, an anticipated 300 or so are expected to attend and it's presumed many of those will be from the surrounding cities. If many locals are attending, I would think many private house parties will be held following the convention activities.

More resorts and attractions (even a large, nearby nudist resort) can be found in that area than anyone could possibly visit in a month's time.

We aren't going, but some here may be interested.

Hi Des,
You may want to cross-post this to the Hot Spot forum. There was someone recently looking for recommendations in Florida.

Des

Do you know are potential BF/men able to attend the convention to get with hot wives possibly??

Would be neat to mingle with that many hot wives. Probably need a case of viagra for that kind of fun lol

Mr. Lookingiansa

That hadn't occurred to me at the time I read the notice. I don't know but think many couples would want to bring along one of their guys. If we planned to attend, I would certainly wish to ask the hosting company about that.

~Des

[Tracey52]

Wow. Gigi going bring Wynn to the bank. Very risky. Other than Mr B and Beau and I suppose the man with the boat/car yard that she introduced as a customer, how many of her lovers know she works in the bank? Quite open for a first date. If he attends do you think Beau or Mr B would pick up on the vib. I get the impression that Gigi is becoming more adventurous and perhaps less discerning and careful as time goes on. Has she rejected any potential lovers in recent times or in living memory for that matter? I thought only men think with their dicks.

[afagehi7]

Wow. Gigi going bring Wynn to the bank. Very risky. Other than Mr B and Beau and I suppose the man with the boat/car yard that she introduced as a customer, how many of her lovers know she works in the bank? Quite open for a first date. If he attends do you think Beau or Mr B would pick up on the vib. I get the impression that Gigi is becoming more adventurous and perhaps less discerning and careful as time goes on. Has she rejected any potential lovers in recent times or in living memory for that matter? I thought only men think with their dicks.

Once you get careless you get caught. That's with anything.

Raising suspicion is nearly as bad as being caught. Mixing lovers with work isn't smart. What happens if her possessive boss/lover realizes that she's doinking other guys. Sure he suspects but it's not in his face. It could have consequences for her career. Not worth the risk.. especially when she has nothing to gain besides a cheap thrill.

[Des 31]

Wow. Gigi going bring Wynn to the bank. Very risky. Other than Mr B and Beau and I suppose the man with the boat/car yard that she introduced as a customer, how many of her lovers know she works in the bank? Quite open for a first date. If he attends do you think Beau or Mr B would pick up on the vib. I get the impression that Gigi is becoming more adventurous and perhaps less discerning and careful as time goes on. Has she rejected any potential lovers in recent times or in living memory for that matter? I thought only men think with their dicks.

Once you get careless you get caught. That's with anything.

Raising suspicion is nearly as bad as being caught. Mixing lovers with work isn't smart. What happens if her possessive boss/lover realizes that she's doinking other guys. Sure he suspects but it's not in his face. It could have consequences for her career. Not worth the risk.. especially when she has nothing to gain besides a cheap thrill.

You each could be right and perhaps that was on Gigi's mind yesterday. I should have updated the message as copied and pasted from my journal. The follow-up was that they didn't get into mentioning her workplace, and she doesn't interact with most customers as do tellers and most loan officers. She didn't mention the St. Pat's party for the reason he had a 4 p.m. appointment after their luncheon; he didn't seem to be aware of the gathering. The customers who receive invitations are certain individuals from major customers like (some) law firms, accounting firms and larger corporations in our area.

I doubt the minimal bank connection would have been a problem anyway from what I'm told. His personality and nature of his profession inhibit him from allowing others to know about his personal life when it comes to matters like sex. She told me he's an interesting guy from a privileged background. They won't be getting together more than every few months. She feels her personal schedule won't allow for more than that and he had no objections.

She agreed to drive to his apartment Friday after work and will return home sometime Saturday morning. He didn't ask anything about me, her cell phone number, or even where we live. I thought that was odd, but Gigi's opinion was that his lack of questioning was intentional as a way to display he respected her confidentiality. Considering her intended infrequency in seeing him, she thinks this relationship might work out better that way.

* * * * *

Another matter I didn't include for lack of time is that Beau's former classmates Jonathan and Marianne have rescheduled their Colorado wedding until mid-April. He will be at a Nevada training site through the first week in April. His employer approved a week off following his return for the wedding and honeymoon. Marianne is currently a substitute teacher at a middle school but will become full-time at her school of choice later in the year; she could have accepted a full-time position elsewhere but, for whatever reasons, preferred not to work at the school that currently had an opening. He has moved into an apartment and Marianne is still living with her parents.

Beau and Sherry will be traveling with us to Colorado for the wedding and Beau is to be his best man. Beau and Sherry have talked by phone with him several times since their graduation, but my wife has spoken to Jonathan only once when he phoned us.

Thank you both for your comments about that issue.

~ Des

[anonymister1948]

She agreed to drive to his apartment Friday after work and will return home sometime Saturday morning. He didn't ask anything about me, her cell phone number, or even where we live. I thought that was odd, but Gigi's opinion was that his lack of questioning was intentional as a way to display he respected her confidentiality. Considering her intended infrequency in seeing him, she thinks this relationship might work out better that way.

So is Mary coming over to keep you company Friday night or has that ship sailed?

[Des 31]

She agreed to drive to his apartment Friday after work and will return home sometime Saturday morning. He didn't ask anything about me, her cell phone number, or even where we live. I thought that was odd, but Gigi's opinion was that his lack of questioning was intentional as a way to display he respected her confidentiality. Considering her intended infrequency in seeing him, she thinks this relationship might work out better that way.

So is Mary coming over to keep you company Friday night or has that ship sailed?

That's still on the table but most likely only when her boss is at our home.

[Des 31]

Here's some silly stuff. I received a PM asking for examples of my wife’s off-the-cuff jokes. So here are a few latest examples. At the bank’s St. Patrick’s Day party yesterday, I and one of my agency partners were among a couple of different groups around Gigi.

A woman lawyer had just said in response to another's comment, “I have more unwanted junk in my home than I know what to do with.” Gigi said, “Put it in an Amazon box and leave it on your porch.”

Another: She said in response to a comment about newspaper horoscopes, “I always read my husband’s horoscope to know what kind of day I’m going to have.”

Another: A woman complained she dislikes when sitting alone in the nearby park, which has many otherwise empty benches on which to sit, a stranger feels it necessary to sit alongside her. Gigi said, “Just look around as if you want to make sure no one can hear and ask him, ‘Did you bring the money?’”

I hadn't heard those before. That's the extent of my memory from the evening. She told an Irish joke when addressing the crowd at the outset, but that's a bit long to add here.

~ Des

[Tracey52]

I had no doubt that she was going to hook up with this guy. An overnighter for the first time! Lucky him. Hope he survives the onslaught.

[anonymister1948]

I think both you and Gigi would enjoy the new Jerry Seinfeld book, Is This Anything? Great book to have around.

[Asterix42]

Wow. Gigi going bring Wynn to the bank. Very risky. Other than Mr B and Beau and I suppose the man with the boat/car yard that she introduced as a customer, how many of her lovers know she works in the bank? Quite open for a first date. If he attends do you think Beau or Mr B would pick up on the vib. I get the impression that Gigi is becoming more adventurous and perhaps less discerning and careful as time goes on. Has she rejected any potential lovers in recent times or in living memory for that matter? I thought only men think with their dicks.

Once you get careless you get caught. That's with anything.

Raising suspicion is nearly as bad as being caught. Mixing lovers with work isn't smart. What happens if her possessive boss/lover realizes that she's doinking other guys. Sure he suspects but it's not in his face. It could have consequences for her career. Not worth the risk.. especially when she has nothing to gain besides a cheap thrill.

Seem to remember Des, that a few years ago you wrote about the bank Gigi works at having strict rules about employees having affairs. Particularly supervisors or executives having sex with anyone under their authority. Sounds like Gigi's playing with fire.