Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[reese]

Hey thanks luxxluther, that was cool of you to write and compliment us.

One thing that is driving me crazy is that I have NO clue who my wife's mystery person is. She wont tell me. I have even acted like a jerk trying to have her disclose her info..but NO way. She told me that if I was going to play this game then she wont play the hotwife game. I dont trust her...with the hotwife lovers. She will quit on me if I make her disclose.
I really believe that! You see.......she is not the junkie. I am! I love challenges...I love the way I lose all control. There are times that I lose her to a lover...times that I am impatiently waiting for her to come home after fucking a lover...I jack off like a mad man...waiting and waiting! I hate it! But I have said many times, the thrill ride is too good for me. It is the most amazing ride of my life. Selfishly, I do not ever want to lose that roller coaster of of emotions and tension!

When she asks for me to stop for a while. I actually am relieved..but only for a short amount of time. I usually ask her.. let me say matter of factly...I usually bribe and beg her.......... I will buy her something that she really wants..or throw a few hundred dollars her way to start her off hotwifing again! I know that once she gets started again, she wont be able to stop for a while. My wife loves the attention. Once she finds a suitable lover, she goes all out....and it takes sometime for her to slow down! During that time, I can guarantee all of you reading this post that my feelings will be hurt....that I will be angry and jealous....demanding sex from her...asking to NOT go out on a particular night with a lover!
She will then reply........"really baby" if your really feel this way, I will stop", but dont ask me to go out tomorrow once your sexual tension builds up again! And if you ask me to NOT go out with "him" then fine I wont because I have told you 1000 times that this is for US....to satisfy your sexual fantasies!

More in next post

[BallSpanking]

Hey Mr Reese,

Wonderful to hear from you again, and your 'hot-wife travails' (if you can call them that )

The important thing is that Ms Reese gets all the hard cock she wants, and as long as you encourage her to
have her cake and eat it too... you are likely to continue having creampies!

[reese]

Ballspanking...for sure bro!

Speaking of creampies...off topic...I have never ever had the desire to cross over...to be with a man one on one.
I am confident to say a man is attractive..but to have a desire to have sex with him........hell NO!
But...........I have a secret! My wife has this amazing ability to make me do things that are out of my realm of my sexuality!
How? Well...listening to her..watching her perfom with a lover....sharing her...and her powers of persuasion...she wins all the time! I have decline many invitations of performing for her with a guy....Marques...I wont..I dont want to..but somewhere, I know my wife is trying to invent a way to convince me to play with her lover...so that she can get off her own way on all of this....

I hope this helps everyone understand why I do the things that I do. I am a free-spirit and in my quest to achieve that constant desire to satisfy my thirst for those sexual nirvanas that I love to experience...I do things to enhance and stimulate our SEX...my SEX!

We cross boundaries too much at times. I am nervous with Michael at times. She truly loves him. At least that is what I believe. But then why does my wife tell Michael at times that she has to concentrate on her marriage and that she needs some time away?
Flyinfast...........I dont believe that deep down my wife loves Michael in a manner that would jeapordize our marriage.
She loves him in a manner that puts everything in perspective

[reese]

But as she stated...I do get freaked out at times. I am not a super stud...I really dont have balls of steel....I just love the fuckin way it feels to reclaim her...to taste her sex...to look with my own eyes at the results of her hotwife play.
To be ignored..to have her tell me to hold on when I call..that she has one of her lovers on the phone. It stings when I ask her to go out on a date on a given night only for her to tell me...."not tonight baby, I am going out with Marques or Michael tonight". That drives me absolutely crazy!

I love playing games with her. IS she my slave? I dont think so...but my wife just loves the way it sounds.
She is truly independent. Giving her a free reign of her choice of lovers has taken me out of the loop which is very frustrating at times..but when she comes home freshly fucked....my sexual desire is pumped up!

I am never satisfied with all of this. I have no idea why..but what the hell.........who cares?
I love the fact that I am never satisfied.
I also want to touch on the fact that my wife is very attracted to me..to my body..to my mind..and the way I make her orgasm...the fun part of me...the way I understand her like no one else does..the way I love her daughter...and the way I constantly make her happy.
Because of all of my attributes.........I believe that as long as I have her respect and love...then our marriage will never be jeapordized!
AS long as she can continue to say NO..............WE need to slow down for a while!
God knows that I have no ability to slow us down....it is all in her hands!!

[mrs_reese]

Baby, thanks for writing your thoughts down. I miss your posts. Why dont you contribute more baby?
Oh, btw, as you are in the shower, I plan on telling you about my mystery person.


okay/////////////
I am kiddin!

All this talk tonight has made me very horny for a lovers cock. You like when I say cock dont you baby?

Hmmm, should it be Michael or Marques. You know I told them to slow down for a while.
Hmm

you have no idea how much i want to attack you now baby.
here i cum!!

[BallSpanking]

I think that the fact that both of you have the maturity to be on the same page,
and have a mutual purpose and benefit in all of this,
goes a looooong way in making this lifestyle successful.
Ms Reese has the instincts and deep desire to be there for you, hence all the antics...
but do I believe her when she says she does this all for you?
Yes... for the most part. But there is also another part of her, a carnal love she reserves for Michael.
Their coming together seems to be deeply emotional for her,
but the fact that she pulls away from the play from time to time, to reconnect with home and family,
seems to me a healthy and intelligent approach to this.

Sure, there are probably times, where even she is surprised by the depth of her emotions for her lovers,
but that is the crux of being a successful hotwife, learning to love and be loved,
and still have a stable home life where she is cherished as a mom and a wife.

I think that is a lovely thing, and both of you continue to grow and learn together.

Happy Holidays Mr and Mrs Reese

[mrs_reese]

BS,

You are truly a wonderful cherished friend.
Thank-you so much for your kind words.
We wish you and yours a happy holiday season also.

I am sure that we will be talking along the way before then.

xoxo

[BallSpanking]

LOL...

I wish that were true... I am afraid there are a couple of thousand miles between me and the Reeses...

I know the identity of Mr X, but I've been sworn to secrecy!

[gabriello]

mr reese why are you so negative in the prospect of being one on one with her lover? maybe this experience will offer you emotions that you ve never expected. maybe you should try it!

[BallSpanking]

Well, aren't you the teacher's pet

Sure..., that plus $4.50 gets me a latte at Starbucks... lol

[reese]

I am not working today. Holiday shopping is on the agenda for us today.
I have a lot to say...........so here it goes:

First, JrGraham and Ballspanking, I enjoyed reading your comments. And would someone please tell me who my wife's mystery lover is? She wont utter a word to me about that yet. I have no idea if she is playing a game with me or if he (or even for that matter) SHE is real!

Gabriello, you asked a very interesting question! I can not honestly answer it! I don't know why I am against one on one with one of her lovers. I thought about your question for a few moments and I believe that I am afraid of losing my masculinity.....the way my wife views me as her MAN. If that makes any sense. I did not live in a world..growing up where same sex encounters was encouraged. I have NO issue with gay people...I truly believe in a free expression of love and sex. But for some reason I have this hang-up. I do believe that in my twisted mind, not actively desiring to be one on one with her lover allows me to secure my masculinity within my marriage. Another feeling I share is that as much as I absolutely love being cucked....I want to hang on to my manliness with my wife. I dont ever want her to lose her opinion of me. I think that for some reason, my wife will NOT make me the center of her universe if I submitted to sex with her partner. No matter who she chooses, no matter who is fucking her....no matter how much I am being cucked by my wife and her lover...I seem to always hang on to my "reeseness". Make sense???

One more comment..........about paying my wife to have sex.....I am twisted at times....my purpose of paying her is only an incentive for her....it's a silly game that we play...........how much will it cost me for a fantasy....I used to do that when we first started hotwife play.....we would be at a club or bar...and I would bribe her to sit alone and allow a guy to flirt with her as I was putting a hundred dollar bill in the palm of her hand.

Saturday night.........we plan on meeting Michael late night.........my wife simply asked me if I would care to share in a 3some...with Michael. To be invited ........the way she asked me...instant hard-on!!

Hell YES I told her..................

[doitforher]

Reese, you two play so intense that sometimes I read this thread in a state of shock while shaking my head and saying little prayer for you and other times with my cock leaking and hunting down Di to ravish her. Usually the latter.

Point is no matter how intense it is I've never felt like either one was taking advantage of the other. Even when in shock I know you guys will be good because you're so in tune with each other. Much admiration to you both for the way you play. It's already so intense watching and/or waiting while the wife plays I don't know how you do it. Keep enjoying each other and enjoy yourselves over the holidays. DIFH

[BallSpanking]

There can be a fine line between suggesting things on Horney posts, and interfering with couple's relationship, so my hands are tied on this... but don't worry, Mr Reese, she will tell you in due course... or NOT... lol!

You may be right, and this could all be a Ms Reese mind game to keep you on edge... or NOT... lol!

Time will tell, I guess (or not!)

[Trifecta]

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Reese,

WOW. I spent the better part of three weeks reading your epic thread. Good lord! You guys are like rock stars on this forum! Reading this thread is the most unreal thing I've ever experienced. For a long time I thought this was all BS, just some kid with a keyboard and a very active imagination, but I'm convinced you are for real. But my God! Two years of insane hedonism! I have no words.

I just joined this site and have exited the realm of lurkers. I have to say, when I brought up the concept of an MMF with my wife, it seemed so... radical! Your thread makes a regular MMF seem so... pedestrian! LOL! We still have not taken the plunge, we are in the very early stages of discussion, but frankly, after reading about your exploits it FREAKED ME THE HELL OUT! I mean, I really started to doubt whether I wanted to go there because of you two guys. Just waaay too much for me. No offense, but damn, you guys are nuts. Sometimes I would get angry at what you guys were doing.... pulling my hair out going "NOOOOOOO! Don't do THAT! Are you STUPID?". You are both truly insane, and I noticed that you guys freaked out all the VETERANS on this site. Yet you guys seem to cruise along, no big deal. Wow again!

I don't think, knowing me, that I would ever be comfortable going past the MMF stage. I feel like this would be a couple's experience, I feel like I need and want to BE THERE no matter what! But like you and many others have said, you don't always know where this road will take you. That's why I say your exploits just scare the CRAP out of me! No hate here, no judgement, whatever floats your boat. I just had to post in this thread because you guys are the CUTTING EDGE of hotwifing and I feel this is kind of like getting your autograph!

I hope you continue to have fun and stay out of trouble... I hope you guys don't skid off the road into a ditch!

GODSPEED my friends,

Trifecta

[reese]

Hey Trifecta..........Bro, proceed with caution! This lifestyle isnt for everyone! But I want to thank-you for your honest post about our thread. I appreciate your compliments and feelings regarding our lifestyle choices.

Allow me to share some of my thoughts......I was scared to death too....I still am at times! My stomach must be a mess at times. I dont know how I have developed an ulcer! I want you to know that my heart beats like crazy. I encourage you to run at full speed 100 yards....put your hand on your chest...feel your intense heartbeat!!! That is how my heat races and beats every single time my wife is with a lover. At times, it is too intense for me too...sometimes I cant stand the tension or lonliness......I lose my mind at times.........I become very jealous at times......but everytime my wife is playing..she always finds a way to come back to me...to be my loving tender seductive wife/hotwife!

I want you to know that we took a lot of mini steps up the hotwife ladder. We struggled at times....annoyed each other at times....we pushed every marital button that could be pushed. But we found our happiness by being able to express our feeling to each other and along the way we learned to trust each other more than ever!
My wife will never hurt me...she will never disrespect me...and she will never fall out of love with me.
I know that with every once of my being...........
But this is addictive...this lifestyle.....amazingly...I want more all the time.
There is nothing more sexually charged than my hotwife coming home after being fucked by one of her lovers!
I want to share one more secret with you.............when my wife tells me how much she loves a man....I know that she is pushing my buttons! I know this by her actions. She never loses interest in me. She always wants me first...she may write about how much more she wanted Michael or Marques...but try to remember one important aspect of my hotwife's personality.............she is a master at tormenting me....a master at keeping at driving me crazy!!


We are resting.......tomorrow is our 3some with Michael.

[flyinfast]

First off Mrs. Reese I am on your side and Mr. Reese's side. I am not against either of you in anyway.

But first what I wrote in answer to Mr. Bear.

She may say she "craves" like a junkie needing a fix, but do you REALLY think that is the case?

Don't know, could be. Do you deny there is such a thing as sexual addiction? And it was Mr. R that said they were hotwife junkies, and she's merely his slave remember. Needing it more and more, an ever higher high. Those are signs of addiction. And any addiction can be dangerous. It is one thing to have a little extra fun on the side. It is another to need to continually ramp it up. Do you see that point? What's been happening over the two years of this thread?

Mrs R said she fell in love with some of her playmates and had to break it off. What I don't know is if Mrs. R is saying she loves Michael, craves being with him, etc. all as part of the act - the play's the thing - , i.e. doing it to torment Mr. R and drive him nuts, or if that is how she really feels about Michael. Is what she says just part of the act or has it become the reality? Does she even know?

Let's assume Mrs. R does know and she's saying things on this list that aren't really true, i.e. she's not really feeling love for Michael, he's just a sex toy for them, but just says that to drive Reese nuts. So the forum is used to just keep their play intense and titillate all of us. Fine. And of course Mrs. R can't say that is what she's doing because Reese will read it and know it's all for show lessening the intensity for him. So... what's real, what isn't?

Let's assume Mrs. R is telling the absolute truth, that she loves Michael and needs him too. It's not just for stimulating Reese anymore is it.

If it's all unreal, just for exciting play, then Mrs. R is one hell of a good actress and story teller! Isn't she. If otoh it is real, then it's still exciting for one and all. But then the "need" for it is real too.

It is just that the reoccurring themes in the play - being confused about her feelings, being in love, and the "hotwife junkie" comments that are certainly all possibly real are what prompted me to write. It's for Mrs. and Mr. R's benefit. They can think they are fine with all this. But are they able to see themselves clearly? Or does the drug - hotwife junk - cloud their vision? I only know what they write here and can only see what's happening from afar. But sex is a powerful drug. I know Mrs. R said she could stop anytime, can Mr. R? Can either of them now that they've been down this road for so long? Or are things now to the point that one or both would have trouble stopping?

I would agree if it is working for both of them, that it's OK. But I also know that someone that is addicted to something - food, gambling, drugs, sex - it is hard for them to realize they are addicted because the nature of addiction is also to cause one to lie to one's self. The alcoholic says he can always stop drinking - he just doesn't want to.

This is the key thing. For something to be an addiction it has to cause a problem in one's life. Simply having a glass of wine every night does not make one an alcoholic. Having hotwife sex every night does not make one addicted to sex. (Don't we all wish it was every night...) But it is an addiction if one can't control it and instead it controls us.

I wrote what I did for Mr. and Mrs. R to consider how an outsider saw some things that might be troubling for them. I hope they can reflect clearly on that matter. If they are really sure that all they are doing is having some good dirty fun... then carry on... we'll all enjoy it.

Now to Mrs. R's reply. (Yes, I suspected after Marques you were in time out mode and 'worn' out.)

Yes, I know you disappear for a while from your thread to be "normal" (whatever that is) for a while. A vanilla marriage for a while. Of course I see that.

You say Mr. R has lost control and you are completely free to choose your sexual partner and love interest. The thing is you always had that freedom. Mr. R has that freedom too. He chooses you. The illusion that we can control someone else is just that - not real. But I understand you are free to choose - without consequences - because he's sworn there would be none. I understand that essence of hotwife / cuckold play.

And if you are able to stop all this when you say so then you aren't really your husband's slave are you? Wouldn't he have to say stop? When does the slave tell the Master? (Whom is still nameless). And if you are the one that controls all this then the others are your slave and you the Master. But I don't think you control all this either. It isn't entirely up to you Mrs. R. As Reese pointed out, he'll bribe you to get back in the game.

So why do you say you fall in love with some of your lovers? Is that just part of the play? Or is that how you honestly felt? I would guess the later because of what you've written, particularly about Michael. Indeed, what does happen to your marriage when (not if, I think) you can't say no? (I say when because of our human nature - the way our brains are built.)

Mr R. says "she is not the junkie. I am!" Exactly. Who is the Master? Mr. R? No. Mrs. R? No. The lovers? No. The Master is ..... wait for it .... the Hotwife Sex Drug... OK? And Mr. R is hooked - bad.

"There are times that I lose her to a lover...times that I am impatiently waiting for her to come home after fucking a lover...I jack off like a mad man...waiting and waiting! I hate it! But I have said many times, the thrill ride is too good for me. It is the most amazing ride of my life. Selfishly, I do not ever want to lose that roller coaster of of emotions and tension!"

So does anyone think that isn't an addiction? To loose the love of your life to another man and like the thrill of it? And Mrs. R likes the fucking she gets, but she's also doing this to give Mr. R that thrill ride. Her love for Mr. R isn't entirely selfless since she gets something out of this deal, but she is his slave to enable that thrill ride for him. But he's not the Master. His addiction is. That's what drives all of this, and that is what is really in control Mrs. R - not you. What if Mrs. R decides to stop, no more hotwife games, but Mr. R can't handle the withdrawal and he leave Mrs. R for another hotwife? You (Mrs. R) fear being unable to say no to a lover and what that might do to your marriage. What if Mr. R can't say no to his drug of choice, but you are too worn out by it or simply don't want to continue? What happens to your marriage then? Can you (Mrs. R) call a stop to all this without endangering you marriage, just as much as falling too much in love with a lover might endanger it?

Now an MFM threesome... that's the kind of hotwife play I could get into. Good luck tomorrow night and enjoy. Somehow though I think Mrs R has a surprise in store for Mr. R... let's just say I'd be darn surprised if she didn't.

[flyinfast]

...I have decline many invitations of performing for her with a guy....Marques...I wont..I dont want to..but somewhere, I know my wife is trying to invent a way to convince me to play with her lover...so that she can get off her own way on all of this....

Yes, I know. And I think I know how she'd get you to do that. You probably know to... but if I'm right I wouldn't want to say so as not to spoil it for either of you.

....I am nervous with Michael at times. She truly loves him. At least that is what I believe.

She is really good at yanking your chain.

... But then why does my wife tell Michael at times that she has to concentrate on her marriage and that she needs some time away?

So she doesn't loose you, so she can continue to yank your chain... which she's grown to love doing.

.... Flyinfast...........I dont believe that deep down my wife loves Michael in a manner that would jeapordize our marriage.

Mr. R love is a tricky beast.

Was she saying above that she's worried about if she can't say no to a lover, was she saying that to yank your chain some more or was that a real concern of hers? Is it all part of the mind fuck you enjoy? Is she your slave saying that to get you high or is that something she's really worried about? What ever Mrs. R would say - how could you or I or anyone know she wasn't just playing the role to enhance your thrill ride?

The thing is that we humans are pre-wired to "fall in love" with someone we have sex with. It is how our brains work. It is perfectly natural and rather unavoidable for most normal human beings. Have enough sex with someone and you are going to want to continue that. In that sense we all become addicted.

There may come a time when she has one lover long enough that he asks her to choose, him or you. Can you be certain she'd always choose you? Simple answer is no you can't. It is possible to loose her, and that too is part of the thrill ride isn't it? Part of that high.

Good luck with the MFM tomorrow night. Wish I could make it a foursome... After all the lovely Mrs. R deserves at least three lovers at once.

[Trifecta]

Mr. Reese,

Thank you for replying. It's funny, I feel like I'm conversing with a celebrity!

I agree with flyinfast in one regard... that this activity seems very drug-like. Seems like once you get started, it's like you need more and more to get the same "high". Other than that, I don't want to over-analyze you guys. I've seen more than enough folks come on here and do that already, and you've both always come back very patiently and defended your love for each other. And clearly, you have listened to many of your regular readers and heeded their advice. So, we should accept that at you are both in it, for better or for worse, you know the risks and we should accept that at face value, I think.

I don't expect you to continue a dialogue with me Mr. Reese, it must be frustrating to you but you always seem to answer everyone's inquiries with maturity and honesty. That's what I love about this forum, I have never seen such a mature and supporting cast of characters. But since my wife and I are on the other side of the fence, I am curious about something about you and Mrs. Reese...

When you started this thread, you two has already had some MMF threesomes and some hotwife play under your belts. Can you tell us about the first time Mrs. Reese had sex with another man? Were you there to watch? How did it compare to your play today? Was that the ultimate experience? Or does it keep growing and growing in intensity as you continue down the rabbit hole?

The wife and I have barely scratched the surface of any of this, but for us it all started when I asked about her past lovers. She never wanted to tell me about them, but once she started recounting her experiences, and I started asking for more graphic detail and getting it, it lit us both up. Our sex became 100% hotter instantaneously, and not only that, my whole attitude about her changed. I became much more loving, attentive, and helpful around the house. My attitude changed from "I wish she would do the damn dishes!" to "I need to help this wonderful woman out, I'll do the dishes and the laundry too." We've both felt a major change occur, and we both like it a lot! So any of your stories about the first time you and Mrs. Reese crossed the line would be very insightful for us newbies!

Peace!

Trifecta

[reese]

Saturday afternoon...hotwife is getting ready for our date and 3some with Michael.
I find it rather interesting reading our thread lately...........Flyinfast...the bottom line is THE master is my addiction. You are 100% correct. Again, your posts are very inquisitive and interesting. I enjoyed reading them.

But one thing that you may not understand.....with this addiction and in comparison to gambling, drinking, and or drugs is that MY pleasure center seeks the hotwife experiences...but unlike those other addictions that I listed above....I dont need hotwife encounters to survive....I dont recklessly live my life seeking a craving for my addiction.
We take many time outs...we love nornal sex...we love sex one on one....my wife and I...where there is NO mention of lovers...no fantasy foreplay...no talk about Michael's cock..or Marques' cock...just plain vanilla sex.
My wife has an amazing body...her pussy.....words can not explain how I crave her pussy...touching...kissing her lips...her scent...her wetness....I dont need the MASTER to make me orgasm when I have my wife's pussy next to me.
My wife alone can hit every pleasure center that I possess.
So maybe the whole addiction and junkie thing is over-stated.
I can survive without hotwife play....but like a new toy that has an amazing desirable feeling....hotwife play never is ordinary to me...that is why I continue to take the chances that I do.....
Hope that makes some sense to you.


Trifecta...your next..

[reese]

Trifecta.......it started innocently. My wife told me many years ago that one night when she was younger...she and one of her good girlfriends were drunk one night and that they experimented with each other. Making out...oral sex. That is as far as it went..but OMG...that alone made my curiosity peak after listening to that. Jump back a few more years and at parties...she and some gf's would make out...putting on a show. OMG again! Then we went to a wedding about 4 yrs ago..and a sexy woman started flirting with me..next thing I know..my wife and this flirty woman were making out in the parking lot...OMG again!! Soon, I stated talking about sex with other men. NO way..she protested many times..even argued many times with me about bringing up the conversation. I kept at it..baby steps...telling her in sex play how hot it would be to watch her...telling her that SHE is seriously the best fuck that I have ever experienced....telling her how fucking turned on I become thinking about JUST watching her.
Finally........I took a ballsy chance...I met a guy..great guy..I mentioned him in the beginning of my thread I believe....we spend many hours chatting...I taught him all about my wife...what makes her tick..stuff like that.
Finally we met....she had no clue. Classic bar scene...we are sitting there..he is staring at her. She goes to bathroom..he comes over to me..we chat about the football game....she sits next to us...I introduce her...after many drinks...she starts flirting with her...I was the instigator....asking him how sexy she looked..throwing out crazy questions for him to answer about her...she loved the attention which I already knew would turn her on. Soon...I asked him if he wanted to dance with my wife...she said no way..then I whispered in her ear..how sexy she looked and how I wanted to watch her flirt only..that

[reese]

Part 2...

she had control...she can say NO whenever she wanted to do so..and I said..but I know you baby...u think he is cute and sexy and you like the attention..that is all I had to say..next thing that happened....she was dancing ..my dreams came true..she was grinding her body against him..i could see his hardon...all of a sudden they were making out....kissing so damn passionately...i was ready to burst.

Soon she told me let's go back to our suv...one thing lead to another..and she told me to get condoms...here I am driving to a convience store..both of them are naked in the back seat...i was dreaming???? NO fucking way..it was so real...
every second was like an eternity..i was so jealous..so envious..but so turned on.
I bought the condoms...soon they were fucking in a parking lot....I was turned around jacking off my cock...cumming so hard and fast as they were fucking like animals....

very soon...my wife said STOP..started to cry and told both of us that she was so ashamed.
She hated me..hated herself...crying all the way home.
Recovery mode was next on my list...I spent long hours and days convincing her that I admired her..loved her...and all the while telling her all the other stuff that makes a beginning hotwife feel safe....

that is our story....let me know what you think!

Time for our 3some...gotta get ready.

[Trifecta]

Hi Mr. Reese,

THANK YOU! I really appreciate the time it took to write that, and I appreciate your story.

That's very interesting, your wife has a natural bisexual streak in her. I tried to see if my wife has any of that, because frankly, thinking abouther with another woman is very hot too. Alas, she is like me, hopelessly heterosexual. I tried everything... asking if she HAD to be with a woman, who might it be? We looked at lesbian porn (even interracial lesbian porn)... just doesn't float her boat. Oh, well!

But as far as a threesome goes, we're at a point where she tells me that she's not saying no, she's just not that far down the road. And she doesn't want me to pressure her, but to let her go at her own pace. We plan to go to clubs as singles while she dances and flirts with othr guys. She's very nervous just about THAT! She even told me she wants to lose weight first because she doesn't necessarily feel she's at her best. Poor thing, she's such a damn beautiful person it makes me hurt that she doesn't really realize it. But we went shopping the other day, I picked out some sexy outfits for her (I used to hate clothes shoppping with her... my how things have changed!), and the nastiest, sexiest pair of shoes imagineable (they look like high-heels crossed with sandals... I call them her "Roman Whores"!). She came home and tried her outfits on, and BAM! she's a new woman, all sexy and happy, shaking her booty all over the place... my God she can be HOT! It's so much in the outlook and attitude, don't you think?

Reese, I hope you have a chance to go and read my thread ("let myself introduce... myself!"). I plan to update it with how we got to where we're at now. Kind of boring since we are still hotwife virgins, but it explains a little more about us.

I do have one more question for you, if you don't mind. For me, this is a very voyeuristic thing, the whole man's visual stimulation thing, combined with a deep desire to share the experience with my wife. For you, it seems beyond visual, it's more in the denial/tormeting mode, very mental. It seems like you have a love/hate relationship with jealousy, I think of jealousy as an enemy and don't really desire it as a sexual thing. Was it ever just a voyeur thing with you and somehow crosseed over into you current kink? Or has it always been something more? I guess I'm afraid of her being with someone somewhere without me. For me that puts a whole negative spin on it. Maybe then again it's like hot peppers... it's an aquired taste perhaps?

Thank you so much for taking the time to share with me... good luck on your plain ole threesome with Michael!

Peace,

Trifecta

[flyinfast]

Flyinfast...the bottom line is THE master is my addiction. You are 100% correct.

Thanks. I wish you and Mrs. R the best and a really hot threesome. You are a very hot couple, and I know you love one another. Have fun. Wish I was there.

But one thing that you may not understand.....with this addiction and in comparison to gambling, drinking, and or drugs is that MY pleasure center seeks the hotwife experiences...but unlike those other addictions that I listed above....I dont need hotwife encounters to survive....

Are you sure? And nobody "needs" their addiction to survive. Even heroin addicts can survive without heroin (in fact they are far better off without it).

The problem with any addiction is when it controls you and has negative consequences. So long as you really can go without hotwife sex and the play is not causing real problems in your life or Mrs. R's life then you're fine. Enjoy. But just saying you take time outs and have "vanilla" sex is like a binge drinker not drinking during the week but needing to binge on the weekends. Do you see? Any addiction controls one's behavior. And that is the problem. The addiction being in charge. And is the addiction not so much hotwife sex, but any and all sex?

...where there is NO mention of lovers...no fantasy foreplay...no talk about Michael's cock..or Marques' cock...just plain vanilla sex.

But what's in her mind? Or yours? I would find it impossible to block out the images of the other guys or not think about it during "vanilla" sex. It wouldn't be possible having once crossed into hotwife play. While we, my wife and I, have not engaged in hotwife play I often fantasize about other guys having fucked her while I'm doing her. Or think of her sucking a guys cock while I'm doing her. It's like trying to not think of a pink elephant. The fantasy and the images remain. Can you really have "vanilla" sex once you've crossed over the line to real hotwife play? It certainly (for me) would never be the same as before.

My wife has an amazing body...

That goes without saying. Her mind is even more sensual and erotic than her smoking hot body.

I fully understand how your wife alone without hotwife play is a fantastic sexy woman. What man wouldn't want her? I understand that the hotwife play makes it all that more exciting for you both.

her pussy.....words can not explain how I crave her pussy...

There's that word again. Does that craving for her pussy control you?


Good luck and I certainly hope for both your sake that the craving doesn't take control. At least not all the time.

[flyinfast]

.....and she told me to get condoms...here I am driving to a convience store..

Guess you weren't a boy scout. "Be prepared". (keep some in the glove box...)

...i was so jealous..so envious..but so turned on.

Well you asked for it.

very soon...my wife said STOP..started to cry and told both of us that she was so ashamed. She hated me..hated herself...crying all the way home.

That's too bad. She had nothing to be ashamed of but that was understandable. This is outside most women's comfort zone.

Recovery mode was next on my list...I spent long hours and days convincing her that I admired her..loved her...and all the while telling her all the other stuff that makes a beginning hotwife feel safe....

Which was? Can you describe recovery mode. What did you do?

[reese]

Watching football..so this may be brief..
Trifecta..I absolutely love watching my wife in action. At a bar or club...walking away and watching the beginning introduction of a guy hitting on my wife..watching her interact...just wonderful...the rush of emotions! I would strongly recommend that you take this approach with your soon to be hotwife. Nothing more than that. Be patient with all of this..and especially your wife...she will have many ups and downs as this process starts.
I battle the jealousy..big time. I do hate it more than I love it. I cant say anything more about that. I would rather watch my wife than NOT....when she is alone...I dont write about this a lot..but I am in agony..it is never fun for me. I am torn between calling her to tell her to stop or waiting as I continuously stroke my cock thinking about her.
Dont worry about where our lives have led us in our hotwife encounters. Keep it simple bw you and your wife.
If all you want to do is watch her flirt and if she is fine with that...keep it that way.
That is how we originally choose to approach this lifestyle. It became a beast of burden with my sexual appetite for more hotwife play. I am the one who led my wife toward becoming the hotwife that she is today. But I am sure that if I choose to keep it simple..that is where we would be today.
To put a final point to my post....I love watching..and I would rather watch her in action..flirting, kissing, dancing and having sex with her friend anyday over sitting at home waiting and wondering.

We had a great time last night. Very good 3some sex with Michael. Sitting on a chair, watching he and my wife make love..it was like the greatest porn movie I could ever watch. That alone made my day. After he orgasmed...my wife asked me if I wanted to have some of her...Michael lay on the other side of our king sized bed...and my wife and I made love....as soon as I picked up the pace...my wife turned her head..and started kissing Michael...she mustve sensed my approaching orgasm...as she kissed michael..stopped and told him that she loves his cock..and loved him...

flyinfast...i will write soon.
I exploded as soon as I heard her speak those words.