mundyman wrote: ↑Wed Aug 10, 2022 6:38 am
Des 31 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 09, 2022 3:30 pm
I would argue that your wife is not over Weldon.
Her adamant demand that you stop fucking other women was a clear way of getting you back under her control. I find her demand to be incredibly immature and merely a way to get back at you for making her end her relationship with Weldon.
She says she never thinks of him, but if she was as into him as you’ve described, someone doesn’t just cut that part out of their hearts that quickly.
You’ve described her mental toughness throughout your thread but I don’t believe for a minute it’s over in her mind.
She’s saying those things for your benefit and with the hope that the more she says it the greater likelihood she will eventually believe it.
I’ve always been struck by the power imbalance in your relationship Des. I applaud you for standing up to your wife and demanding that she end the relationship with Weldon. She’s obviously happy with her life with you and what you’ve built, as well as your place in her life.
This is why I love this board and community. Your retelling of your conversation with Gigi and TELLING her to end the relationship with Weldon is an example to others. However in retrospect do you wish you would have brought up your concerns much earlier about what you were seeing and feeling as she grew closer to Weldon? Could there have been a way to give Gigi a softer landing as she broke up with Weldon, or do you think the abrupt ending of the relationship was necessary to really drive home to her the idea that it had to be over with no hope of continuation?
A continued big thank you for sharing you and your wife’s journey through this lifestyle. I find your story both exciting at times and frustrating. It wouldn’t be quite the way we roll, but it doesn’t have to be. I respect and am envious of the life, and relationship, you and Gigi have built with and for each other.
Continued good luck, happiness, and success to the both of you.
In our time at this way of life, I have learned a bit about human behavior and nature. And in this way of life, I think almost anything can happen. My wife has a lot of skills, but one thing she cannot do is lie to me. Whenever I ask her, I get an honest answer. No one tells another everything about their lives but throughout my life, I have found that clues to hidden matters always eventually come about. If that should come about with Weldon or anyone else, I think I can handle it.
afagehi7 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 09, 2022 8:45 pm
Des - way to be a man and put your foot down. It needed to be done to protect the marriage. Her cutting you off from outside pussy was retaliation, pure and simple.
More details on her fucking "all of them" would be appreciated. No way I'd want my wife doing something like that with another guy. That should be reserved for you.
Scotch98 wrote: ↑Wed Aug 10, 2022 2:11 am
Wow, Thanks for the update Des, I was getting concerned with your long absence and Like tracy52 I was holding my breath while reading your update. I am so happy it worked out for you and you two could work it out even though I don't really care for the terms but I know that has been working well you guys and you definitely have something special together. I was thinking Gigi was fucking Weldon way to much w/o it getting further involved and obviously Weldon sure wanted it to be. Love to hear more detail about the Swinger's Party. When she said she fucked “All of ‘em.” I asked, “You mean the women also?” She said, “Yeah. All of them.” is one of the sexiest comments I have heard. I am sure that took you back a little when she said that. All the best to you both and hope you have many more years of Fun!!!.. PS, I do hope Gigi loosens your restrictions a little...Cheers
afagehi7 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 09, 2022 8:45 pm
Des - way to be a man and put your foot down. It needed to be done to protect the marriage.
Her cutting you off from outside pussy was retaliation, pure and simple
More details on her fucking "all of them" would be appreciated. No way I'd want my wife doing something like that with another guy. That should be reserved for you.
I have yet to hear more about just what went on at the gathering. For the reason she found having sex with that many people in one night was somewhat impersonal, I wasn’t as interested as I usually am to hear her details. I only know she went through five dicks and romped with their women. From what she and Weldon told me, her performances left an awesome impression on the attendees. All or almost all wanted her to be a regular guest at future gatherings, but she has so far declined to accept their offers.
Two couples separately gave her their home phone numbers and asked if she might be interested in joining each couple as a third. She didn’t respond but thanked them for the invitations. I’m told their group is evidently exceptionally selective in whoever gets invited to the hosts’ parties. I’m not sure but got the impression a majority are likely to come across as pretentious and egoistical; those two features turn me off more than anything I can imagine. I personally prefer “normal” people.
Tracey52 wrote: ↑Wed Aug 10, 2022 12:09 am
That was intense Des. I was trembling for you as I read it. I too was worried by how Gigi’s relationship with Weldon was trending. So unlike you to put your foot down like you did and not go along with Gigi’s wishes as usual. I also believe Gigi cutting you off from Samantha is her reasserting her control, perhaps with an element of punishment for standing up to her. Have you told Samantha, Sherry or Mrs B yet?
I wouldn’t be surprised if Gigi flaunts your one sided arrangement in your face for awhile.
While I don’t think she’ll see Weldon behind your back, she does have form. I’m thinking her coworker when all this started. May have been better if she had cooled it for awhile. Perhaps you two should go away for a holiday together to reconnect especially before she takes over the bank. Australia will have great weather soon
Can’t believe the slut she was at the swingers party. Perhaps showing off for Weldon. Still quite reckless especially when their were potential clients or fellow prominent persons there.
Wild ride but when you play with fire sometimes you get burnt. Don’t be a stranger.
Afagehi7 had the same opinion as yours about my wife reason for requesting me not be involved with other women. I suppose it’s
possible that her change of mind
could also have been a bit of punishing revenge as you and afagehi7 wrote; if so, I’m okay with that too. I’m not going to ask her. I like it the way it is. The demand that I wouldn’t have sex with other women was our original agreement, and I promised I would abide by it. I only varied from that with her permission. With her approval now withdrawn,
So now, I’m back to that contractual accord. I think her reasons change of mind was sincere and based upon her recent experience. Either way, I can stay within the parameters. Like most others who post at this website, my greater pleasure comes from other men fucking my wife. The aftermath, while she is telling me about each adventure during sex between us, is always mind blowing to me.
I didn’t feel that way about her and Weldon’s attendance at the swinger party. Once she told me it wasn’t as “personal” as sex with just one guy, I lost interest and didn’t ask for the details as I almost always do after another guy has fucked her. She sensed that and didn’t push to tell all about it.
Among the little I know about the party, I was told Wendell became highly aroused at watching other guys balling her. She spotted him watching from nearby the bed she and another guy were in. She said Weldon’s eyes were wide and affixed on her. Although he had already fucked at least two of the women, he was then leaning against a tall dresser against the wall and jerking off like a crazed guy. She chuckled at that for the reason it reminded her of my tendency to do the same.
I have since asked our Alexa device to play those two songs mentioned above and can imagine the effect each song had on my wife at the time she was being screwed. I’m sure she found it hot.
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I didn’t mention in that posted update a part of our conversation the night she broke off the relationship. I asked how difficult it was for her to separate from him. She said it wasn’t easy, but she would never let another man separate her from me. She added, “You’re more of a man than anyone I know, and I need you.” I suggested her boss and a couple of others are manly men. She responded, “Yeah, but they’re not like you.” I liked that.
mundyman wrote: ↑Wed Aug 10, 2022 6:38 am
Des 31 wrote: ↑Tue Aug 09, 2022 3:30 pm
ericsacto wrote: ↑Tue Aug 09, 2022 2:23 pm
Thanks for sharing this. That must have been very hard for Gigi to end it with Weldon.
Do you know what made her relationship with Weldon different from her other guys that allowed her to get to intimate with him?
I think I understand it but not with certainty. He's good-looking, smart, and seems sincere. Given that, I believe it's the frequency of sex between them. He has texted her several times since the break-up but only with ordinary, friendly comments. She has responded to two of those with similar remarks. The same could be said of her and her boss, but that's an entirely different circumstance. For many reasons, he cannot afford a divorce and my wife recognizes he and she are entirely different in many ways. So that doesn't offer the same risks. It's just sex - hot, yeah, but still just sex.
She's over it, but I don't think he is. It was difficult for my wife for a few days but evidently harder for him. My narrative above, as always, doesn't cover every moment of all that, but one of her comments when she admitted to me the depth of their relationship, "You and I always knew this way of life could develop into something more." That's true, and I have felt that way throughout our years at this.
Can it happen again? I don't know. There are no guarantees in hotwifing. but I do my best at keeping it the way we originally intended.
~ Des
I would argue that your wife is not over Weldon.
Her adamant demand that you stop fucking other women was a clear way of getting you back under her control. I find her demand to be incredibly immature and merely a way to get back at you for making her end her relationship with Weldon.
She says she never thinks of him, but if she was as into him as you’ve described, someone doesn’t just cut that part out of their hearts that quickly.
You’ve described her mental toughness throughout your thread but I don’t believe for a minute it’s over in her mind.
She’s saying those things for your benefit and with the hope that the more she says it the greater likelihood she will eventually believe it.
I’ve always been struck by the power imbalance in your relationship Des. I applaud you for standing up to your wife and demanding that she end the relationship with Weldon. She’s obviously happy with her life with you and what you’ve built, as well as your place in her life.
This is why I love this board and community. Your retelling of your conversation with Gigi and TELLING her to end the relationship with Weldon is an example to others. However in retrospect do you wish you would have brought up your concerns much earlier about what you were seeing and feeling as she grew closer to Weldon? Could there have been a way to give Gigi a softer landing as she broke up with Weldon, or do you think the abrupt ending of the relationship was necessary to really drive home to her the idea that it had to be over with no hope of continuation?
A continued big thank you for sharing you and your wife’s journey through this lifestyle. I find your story both exciting at times and frustrating. It wouldn’t be quite the way we roll, but it doesn’t have to be. I respect and am envious of the life, and relationship, you and Gigi have built with and for each other.
Continued good luck, happiness, and success to the both of you.
Thanks for all of that, Mundy. I cannot disagree with your analysis in that I realize some remnants are likely to remain in her thoughts for some time - and perhaps for years to come. Many, perhaps most, wives will always remember their first loves and certain others.
I could ask at any time in the future, and I’m sure she would confess the memories are still there. If so, that wouldn’t bother me. It’s part of being human.
And yes, I think my demand was necessary to bring it to an immediate end. I knew their affair had not gone on long enough to be the most serious of threats to our marriage. There are some things about this way of life for which I won’t stand or allow. I believe in giving my wife the freedom to live her sexual life as she wishes, but I cannot allow any behaviors by anyone that can threaten our marriage.
I knew than ending the relationship immediately was preferable than allowing it to grow further and have no regrets about doing so. She tells me she isn’t sorrowful for it and recognizes her and Weldon’s feelings were going too far. Although she didn’t specifically complain about my demand, she was a bit testy for a few days and I knew why. I simply ignored it until she got around to thanking me for forcing her to end it.
Ongoing experiences with other men will continue to suppress any feelings she may still have for Weldon. As it has recently turned out, another potential relationship is developing with a new guy. I’ll get around to writing about that soon, but so far it’s no more than casual luncheon meetings with him.
~ Des
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