Re: Newbie having problems flirting
Posted: Fri Nov 17, 2023 12:36 pm
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as they say..."practice makes perfect" lolXraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Fri Nov 17, 2023 11:57 amWe mostly use SLS. I definitely learned a lot this week. Meeting B twice really helped, especially meeting him by myself. I feel like the messages come a lot more naturally now. Unfortunately he doesn’t live around us and is only here 2 weeks at a time. He went home today so we won’t be able to see each other again til 12/10. I guess I will have lots of practice with messaging the next couple weeks.
It's amazing what an effective weapon boobs are!!Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 18, 2023 5:00 pmI’m definitely finding out that having boobs is my main weapon
Please do tell your side of things!!Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sat Nov 18, 2023 5:03 pmYou should ask “the good hub” how good I am getting at texting… I might of had fun last night
You two should combine your stories as we get each of you saying "you should check out the other" lolThe good hub wrote: ↑Sat Nov 18, 2023 5:13 pmOh, it was pretty outstanding for a newbie!! Ask her for the details!!
it's amazing what words can do to one's libido!!Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 19, 2023 3:13 pmSo, Friday night my husband and I were going on a 2 trip road trip and suggested I should try messaging B. B had been playing with my boob on my Wednesday night meet up with him and I had a little bruise from his play. I took a picture of it and sent it to him and said I wish he could kiss the bruise for me. Of course he quickly messaged me he would have of if he was with me. We went back and forth, sending very flirty text messages, messaging what were are going to do with each other the next time we meet. He then told me that he had come twice on 24 hrs thinking of me and was working on his 3rd time as we were texting. It was so hot to think someone was so turned on by me…. By the end of our 2 hr ride I was all hot and bothered and he had come for the third time that day.
This post in a thread headlined “I have trouble flirting” …Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 19, 2023 3:13 pmSo, Friday night my husband and I were going on a 2 trip road trip and suggested I should try messaging B. B had been playing with my boob on my Wednesday night meet up with him and I had a little bruise from his play. I took a picture of it and sent it to him and said I wish he could kiss the bruise for me. Of course he quickly messaged me he would have of if he was with me. We went back and forth, sending very flirty text messages, messaging what were are going to do with each other the next time we meet. He then told me that he had come twice on 24 hrs thinking of me and was working on his 3rd time as we were texting. It was so hot to think someone was so turned on by me…. By the end of our 2 hr ride I was all hot and bothered and he had come for the third time that day.
Farmgirl’s advice is “dead on”.. as usual !!! “Fun and flirty” is a warm and comfortable place to be. It is contagious.. draws others.. and opens conversation that may or may not hold your same desire to go further… but, will always be enjoyable !!Farmgirl wrote: ↑Thu Nov 16, 2023 4:41 pmXraygirl, First off, welcome!
2inUP and parklife gave very good advice.
I love to flirt and that's how I meet my guys. If in person, at the store, or anywhere around town I just make eye contact and smile, then make eye contact again and hold it a little. That normally leads to us talking.
When texting or emailing, It's a touch harder because we can't see each other. Then I will talk more, just chat, getting to know each other. If I'm comfortable with him and he with me, the flirting begins slight and small, slowly escalating as we chat over the days. I want it to be a slow build so he can't wait to text me again and again.
Don't put pressure on yourself, just chat and get to know each other. If you click, the flirting will come naturally without need to think about it.
Keep in mind that most flirting doesn't lead to sex, it's not supposed to. It's supposed to be "fun and flirty", something you enjoy and something the guy enjoys.
It helps to start seeing everything colored in a slight mist of sex, and doing what makes you feel sexy.
BTW, I posted before I read the reply by LFA, listen to her too!
It definitely seems like my sweetie's the same way. The guy always wants to move faster than the woman. And I now know that a woman wants to know what's in a man's mind as well as his groin! lolThe good hub wrote: ↑Mon Nov 20, 2023 2:28 amAs we kinda expected, the flirting comes much easier when she knows the person a little. She has had 2 meetings with B. They have good conversations and we all message often about random stuff. It amazes us how some ppl will message us in the site and be like “hey, how are you”. Their next message will be “so tell me what you want want me to do to you”. Obviously, that was what was freaking her out and I can’t blame her. Have to get comfortable with someone first is what is working for her
It's better than the guy that reached out to me and said that he was saying hello to me because "the hot women never respond." LOL.The good hub wrote: ↑Mon Nov 20, 2023 2:28 amAs we kinda expected, the flirting comes much easier when she knows the person a little. She has had 2 meetings with B. They have good conversations and we all message often about random stuff. It amazes us how some ppl will message us in the site and be like “hey, how are you”. Their next message will be “so tell me what you want want me to do to you”. Obviously, that was what was freaking her out and I can’t blame her. Have to get comfortable with someone first is what is working for her
You really did find a good guy. He's not only a "good guy" but a "great guy"!!! He's a winner in my book! Both of you are super fortunate to have met each other as you fit each other so perfectly!!Lookingforadventure wrote: ↑Mon Nov 20, 2023 10:19 amIt's better than the guy that reached out to me and said that he was saying hello to me because "the hot women never respond." LOL.The good hub wrote: ↑Mon Nov 20, 2023 2:28 amAs we kinda expected, the flirting comes much easier when she knows the person a little. She has had 2 meetings with B. They have good conversations and we all message often about random stuff. It amazes us how some ppl will message us in the site and be like “hey, how are you”. Their next message will be “so tell me what you want want me to do to you”. Obviously, that was what was freaking her out and I can’t blame her. Have to get comfortable with someone first is what is working for her
Or the ones who start with a dick pic and say something like "Hey slut, do you want this?"
Some guys are just clueless. You have to laugh about it.
I'm glad you found a good guy.
I think there should be a class in school with the ins and outs of being a gentleman. So many men could use some help with that, but I think a lot of it comes from ignorance and if they only knew better how to treat a woman properly then the better off their sex lives would be.Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Mon Nov 20, 2023 3:14 pmDefinitely agree with the mandatory training classes. J that I met for lunch on Thursday is a prime example. Showed up late, talks to me very little, and was checking out the bartender as I am talking to him. Long story short, not meeting up with him again.
My fingers are crossed for you.The good hub wrote: ↑Sun Nov 26, 2023 6:08 pmLittle update after the holiday:
B is still at the top of our list but scheduling is looking like it will be a problem. So back to sls the last few days and a few messages that went nowhere until tonight. Got one with real potential. Fingers crossed
Thanks for clarifying that about SLS. If you're shy in person, chatting online first is a great way to break the ice and it always helps when there's an understanding of everyone's possible intentions.Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Fri Nov 17, 2023 11:57 amWe mostly use SLS. I definitely learned a lot this week. Meeting B twice really helped, especially meeting him by myself. I feel like the messages come a lot more naturally now. Unfortunately he doesn’t live around us and is only here 2 weeks at a time. He went home today so we won’t be able to see each other again til 12/10. I guess I will have lots of practice with messaging the next couple weeks.
Flirting with us men is so easy. We are easy. It doesn't take a lot of sophistication. We like being complimented, we like having our stupid jokes laughed at.Xraygirl_4832 wrote: ↑Sun Nov 12, 2023 5:31 pmMy husband and I are very new to the hotwife lifestyle. We have been together for over 20 years and married for 17. He was my first sexual experience. I have only had one other that was, to be blunt, horrible. I am finding myself struggling with flirting with other men. I haven’t had to do that in multiple years and I feel like I don’t know where to start. My husband and I were friends first so flirting with him came very easy. I’m curious, are there other women out there that struggled with this in the beginning? How did you get better?
The part I’m struggling the most with is messaging. My husband says I should message what feels natural, but that’s the issue. I feel out of my element. I would love to know how people’s conversations start and progress; at this point any input would be helpful. We have met with a couple of men and feel I do much better in person.