Leggysandy Stepping Out

[kaskap79]

Such a disappointment for both of you.
Sorry.

I don't really feel disappointed. I still had a lovely evening + he brought me some nice chocolates

The only awkward thing to do now is to break the news to him - which I'm still avoiding a bit!

Maybe he's worth a second date and second opinion?

As guys we try to put on whatever act you want. Perhaps he just misread you? He is likely treating you how he thinks you want to be treated. Dunno how to clear that up but if he understands what you want it's likely he'll act that way.

For some reason he thinks you want sweet and chocolates and not just dirty sex (or your variation of).

it's nothing that he did, he was perfectly fine. But he's just... not quite my type, at least not for this

If your guts tell you he is not the guy, then trust your guts. Better to say no to too many opportunities than taking one wrong.

[leggysandy]

I don't really feel disappointed. I still had a lovely evening + he brought me some nice chocolates

The only awkward thing to do now is to break the news to him - which I'm still avoiding a bit!

Maybe he's worth a second date and second opinion?

As guys we try to put on whatever act you want. Perhaps he just misread you? He is likely treating you how he thinks you want to be treated. Dunno how to clear that up but if he understands what you want it's likely he'll act that way.

For some reason he thinks you want sweet and chocolates and not just dirty sex (or your variation of).

it's nothing that he did, he was perfectly fine. But he's just... not quite my type, at least not for this

There shouldn't be any issue: the way I handle this is meeting in real life as early as possible. If there is a feeling we go on if not we say goodbye with no pain on each sides.
It's vital to clarify and understand what these relationships are: if this is clear to all none should feel sorry or offended if there is no reciprocation. We can't do much when it comes to physical attraction it's there or not, why should one part be mad at another for something he/she can't control?
What should be avoided is deceiving: I find that women tend to have issues to play with these rules and so often they get (too) much sentimentally involved ruining what could be a pleasant relationship for all parts involved, so we all just need to be straightforward, possibly (too) direct but definitely clear about the rules

I prefer to meet as soon as possible too and he I'm sure he won't be overly upset when I tell him because he seemed very reasonable. There is no chance of two us meeting any time soon, so I prefer sometimes to gradually cool things down. That way other side might get a hint and already get used to the idea a bit before I tell them. I may be wrong, though.

[leggysandy]

I don't really feel disappointed. I still had a lovely evening + he brought me some nice chocolates

The only awkward thing to do now is to break the news to him - which I'm still avoiding a bit!

Maybe he's worth a second date and second opinion?

As guys we try to put on whatever act you want. Perhaps he just misread you? He is likely treating you how he thinks you want to be treated. Dunno how to clear that up but if he understands what you want it's likely he'll act that way.

For some reason he thinks you want sweet and chocolates and not just dirty sex (or your variation of).

it's nothing that he did, he was perfectly fine. But he's just... not quite my type, at least not for this

If your guts tell you he is not the guy, then trust your guts. Better to say no to too many opportunities than taking one wrong.

I don't think it would be a major regret, but I just feel like it wouldn't be a major thrill either.

[kaskap79]

Come to Copenhagen and you won't regret it.

[leggysandy]

Come to Copenhagen and you won't regret it.

to be fair, it's been always on my wish list!

[kaskap79]

You can always ask Frani Nile if Copenhagen has some good inputs.

She has been here several times.

[Marco]

Come to Copenhagen and you won't regret it.

Well, when you decide to cross the Channel consider that you are most welcome to visit all the (few) Europeans in here.
Additionally, you might stop by in Milan on your way back somewhere in the (ex) Yugoslavia.
Just to give us a hint, did you use to write in Cyrillic?

[leggysandy]

Come to Copenhagen and you won't regret it.

Well, when you decide to cross the Channel consider that you are most welcome to visit all the (few) Europeans in here.
Additionally, you might stop by in Milan on your way back somewhere in the (ex) Yugoslavia.
Just to give us a hint, did you used to write in Cyrillic?

I will not answer to that question

ok, so weekend escape... Copenhagen, Milan... any other places? You should start sending proposed itineraries

[toshare]

So missing hearing from you guys. THe relationship you two have and how youve enjoyed her dating life has been very sexy to read about, kinda reminds me a good bit of my wifes dating relationships,too. Thus, been curious if you guys will progress along those lines too. Hope you guys are well and as always, love hearing about your, her dating/hw life is moving alone.

[leggysman]

So missing hearing from you guys. THe relationship you two have and how youve enjoyed her dating life has been very sexy to read about, kinda reminds me a good bit of my wifes dating relationships,too. Thus, been curious if you guys will progress along those lines too. Hope you guys are well and as always, love hearing about your, her dating/hw life is moving alone.

Thank you! We're still here, and all is well! Things have been a bit quiet over the last couple of weeks. There were some plans, but they didn't come to pass. The rest of February might be much the same, unfortunately, but we will see.

I've been re-reading your thread today, and enjoyed it a lot, but I don't think we're traveling in the same direction. I don't think I will become attracted to humiliation, denial, or cleaning-up for example. And I don't think any serious boyfriends are on our agenda.

Before S became a hotwife, she thought that she might like to have 2 or 3 longer-term FBs. Lately she seems to be evolving towards something else; recognizing that novelty is more exciting to her. New people, and new experiences perhaps. She still has her guys Anthony, Matt, and Scully available to her, but she hasn't scheduled any meetups with them for the time being.

Last week S was supposed to go to the hotel of the new guy she previously met briefly at the train station, after a date with Anthony, but called it off due to lack of enthusiasm on her part. She was also supposed to have a dinner (and maybe hotel after) date with a new American guy on Valentine's day, but called it off for the same reason. She's keen to meet new men, but feeling a bit more picky about who she travels to the city for, I guess. There was another new guy (tall, muscular, intelligent) that she was feeling excited about, but after a video call, she didn't feel an attraction to him. She continues messaging with potential new fellas each day.

Later this month she will stay overnight in the city for a conference she's attending. We're hoping that she can find some good entertainment for herself there, but I don't think anything (anyone) is decided yet. Any other solo dates this month will have to happen before that, since we have family coming to visit after.

There is one hot date that should definitely happen, but I can't say much about it. It's in the next few weeks. It's one that I arranged, and she's very into the idea. She knows some details, but doesn't know exactly when, what, or who. She just agrees that she will be a good girl, and do as she is told

[Long Lurker 34]

So missing hearing from you guys. THe relationship you two have and how youve enjoyed her dating life has been very sexy to read about, kinda reminds me a good bit of my wifes dating relationships,too. Thus, been curious if you guys will progress along those lines too. Hope you guys are well and as always, love hearing about your, her dating/hw life is moving alone.

Thank you! We're still here, and all is well! Things have been a bit quiet over the last couple of weeks. There were some plans, but they didn't come to pass. The rest of February might be much the same, unfortunately, but we will see.

I've been re-reading your thread today, and enjoyed it a lot, but I don't think we're traveling in the same direction. I don't think I will become attracted to humiliation, denial, or cleaning-up for example. And I don't think any serious boyfriends are on our agenda.

Before S became a hotwife, she thought that she might like to have 2 or 3 longer-term FBs. Lately she seems to be evolving towards something else; recognizing that novelty is more exciting to her. New people, and new experiences perhaps. She still has her guys Anthony, Matt, and Scully available to her, but she hasn't scheduled any meetups with them for the time being.

Last week S was supposed to go to the hotel of the new guy she previously met briefly at the train station, after a date with Anthony, but called it off due to lack of enthusiasm on her part. She was also supposed to have a dinner (and maybe hotel after) date with a new American guy on Valentine's day, but called it off for the same reason. She's keen to meet new men, but feeling a bit more picky about who she travels to the city for, I guess. There was another new guy (tall, muscular, intelligent) that she was feeling excited about, but after a video call, she didn't feel an attraction to him. She continues messaging with potential new fellas each day.

Later this month she will stay overnight in the city for a conference she's attending. We're hoping that she can find some good entertainment for herself there, but I don't think anything (anyone) is decided yet. Any other solo dates this month will have to happen before that, since we have family coming to visit after.

There is one hot date that should definitely happen, but I can't say much about it. It's in the next few weeks. It's one that I arranged, and she's very into the idea. She knows some details, but doesn't know exactly when, what, or who. She just agrees that she will be a good girl, and do as she is told

LM - While it seems that she is still ok with both some steadies and some ONS she is finding the appeal, for the moment at least, is a bit 'flat'. Is it possible she may be wanting to expand her desires into some kink/fetish areas not yet fully acknowledged?

[leggysman]

LM - While it seems that she is still ok with both some steadies and some ONS she is finding the appeal, for the moment at least, is a bit 'flat'. Is it possible she may be wanting to expand her desires into some kink/fetish areas not yet fully acknowledged?

It's possible! I think she would like to find a new man who will naturally dominate her in the way she wants. And there are a handful of more adventurous things she'd like to try. Things that set her mind on fire. For example, something like this date I've planned for her.

But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction. New is good. A big dick may also be a necessary attribute . Maybe some of her current guys just don't meet that standard, or else they've become familiar enough to become less exciting.

I submit that being less oriented towards older men, or being less discerning about a cerebral connection, might lead to hotter sex. But, she chooses her playmates!

But it should be said that 'life' has gotten in the way somewhat. S certainly doesn't seem to be any less interested in having sexy adventures!

[Bill-Ben]

It’s a familiar part of the hotwife couple experience as far as I can see. It seems to evolve, and quite rapidly as curiosity and fantasies are explored. You have relative youth on your side, and time to experiment!

[PlayboyFan]

LM - While it seems that she is still ok with both some steadies and some ONS she is finding the appeal, for the moment at least, is a bit 'flat'. Is it possible she may be wanting to expand her desires into some kink/fetish areas not yet fully acknowledged?

It's possible! I think she would like to find a new man who will naturally dominate her in the way she wants. And there are a handful of more adventurous things she'd like to try. Things that set her mind on fire. For example, something like this date I've planned for her.

But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction. New is good. A big dick may also be a necessary attribute . Maybe some of her current guys just don't meet that standard, or else they've become familiar enough to become less exciting.

I submit that being less oriented towards older men, or being less discerning about a cerebral connection, might lead to hotter sex. But, she chooses her playmates!

But it should be said that 'life' has gotten in the way somewhat. S certainly doesn't seem to be any less interested in having sexy adventures!

It’s funny, but we are in a similar cycle it seems. Perhaps more conversations going on than ever before, but…a lull nevertheless.

It’s winter here, dark early, cold and damp. Lots of family issues and work pressures for some reason. Her male friends are available then not, she is available on certain dates and they don’t respond in timely fashion, etc., etc.

So, Leggy Sandy’s hiatus is definitely familiar to me. We are seeing the same scenario.

My wife and I are on the same page and both expect a busy and exciting spring/summer.

Cheers to you both. A toast to Sexy Summer of 23’!

PBF

[william70]

Ofcoarse you know your wife way better than we do, but I do have a random thought.
In your words:
"But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction."
Do you think she might be afraid to actually find a man like this? Afraid it might mess up you two's relationship.

[leggysandy]

Ofcoarse you know your wife way better than we do, but I do have a random thought.
In your words:
"But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction."
Do you think she might be afraid to actually find a man like this? Afraid it might mess up you two's relationship.

I am not afraid, not even a bit I think the biggest challenge was getting through initial excitement when this whole thing started and the situation with Anthony got a bit too intense. Besides that, man like that could only enhance our relationship as it would bring even more sex into our marriage!

[afagehi7]

Ofcoarse you know your wife way better than we do, but I do have a random thought.
In your words:
"But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction."
Do you think she might be afraid to actually find a man like this? Afraid it might mess up you two's relationship.

I am not afraid, not even a bit I think the biggest challenge was getting through initial excitement when this whole thing started and the situation with Anthony got a bit too intense. Besides that, man like that could only enhance our relationship as it would bring even more sex into our marriage!

You are braver than I.. but sandy seems pretty down to earth and in control over her emotions. I think if the perfect storm guy (hotter more hung richer etc) came along she would f him a few times then dump him before he became a threat

[leggysandy]

Ofcoarse you know your wife way better than we do, but I do have a random thought.
In your words:
"But in the general case, I think S needs to find a guy who really sets her loins on fire, in terms of chemistry and physical attraction."
Do you think she might be afraid to actually find a man like this? Afraid it might mess up you two's relationship.

I am not afraid, not even a bit I think the biggest challenge was getting through initial excitement when this whole thing started and the situation with Anthony got a bit too intense. Besides that, man like that could only enhance our relationship as it would bring even more sex into our marriage!

You are braver than I.. but sandy seems pretty down to earth and in control over her emotions. I think if the perfect storm guy (hotter more hung richer etc) came along she would f him a few times then dump him before he became a threat

Dumping rich, hot, well hung guys after I've used them, sounds like fun hahaha! Joke aside, I dated quite a bit before I met Leggysman and I can't really get fascinated by any man at this point, especially not based on these attributes. I've already chosen the best one there!

[Lookingforadventure]

Dumping rich, hot, well hung guys after I've used them, sounds like fun hahaha! Joke aside, I dated quite a bit before I met Leggysman and I can't really get fascinated by any man at this point, especially not based on these attributes. I've already chosen the best one there!

I love this

[Farmgirl]

Dumping rich, hot, well hung guys after I've used them, sounds like fun hahaha! Joke aside, I dated quite a bit before I met Leggysman and I can't really get fascinated by any man at this point, especially not based on these attributes. I've already chosen the best one there!

I love this

Me too!

Most of us know very well that we have the best at home .

[Jamesparis]

What happened to Leggysman? His profile is gone?! Hope all is good with the two of you.

[2inUPMichigan]

What happened to Leggysman? His profile is gone?! Hope all is good with the two of you.

He isn't gone. The issue should be fixed soon.

[leggysandy]

What happened to Leggysman? His profile is gone?! Hope all is good with the two of you.

He isn't gone. The issue should be fixed soon.

yup, apparently all the sponsors are gone from the forum. This was the only thing he's been talking about yesterday

[leggysandy]

What happened to Leggysman? His profile is gone?! Hope all is good with the two of you.

all is good with us, with some new adventures on horizon

[jt896a]

Hooray! Can’t wait. You two are awesome!