Figuring it out

[eventfire]

I though I was hard at work before reading this...now I'm most definitely hard....at work!

[Lookingforadventure]

I though I was hard at work before reading this...now I'm most definitely hard....at work!

I'm not even a little bit sorry about that

[hoping_she_will_1day]

Your exhibitionism is delightful! I love that you allowed yourself orgasms while others watched & makes me wish we had been there to enjoy in person..Stay naughty my dear.

[Lookingforadventure]

Your exhibitionism is delightful! I love that you allowed yourself orgasms while others watched & makes me wish we had been there to enjoy in person..Stay naughty my dear.

Thank you! I was a bit surprised by how much I enjoyed it. I knew I had a teeny, tiny exhibitionist side

Turns out that kink is strong with me.

[rascalnvixen]

That was a wonderful update, LFA!!! I agree that you must have been a beautiful show girl for everyone there who watched you!!! I think I'd buy tickets to be there to watch you next time!!!! Amazing, simply amazing!!!! Thanks for that update, Sexy!!!

Rascal

[Lookingforadventure]

Some of you have asked about how things are going with the men in my life. I thought I’d give you an update about Charlie.

As you may recall, Charlie is the male half of a couple that we have recently met and played with. His wife, Tess, is a great match for Adventurer. Their kinks line up and they have a lot of sexy fun together. Charlie is a bit more complicated.

He’s a genuinely nice guy who really loves his wife. He’s inexperienced sexually but has recently begun exploring more things with Tess. He’s curious about sex with other people, but also somewhat hesitant. We’ve had a few good makeout sessions, and Adventurer and I had a foursome with Charlie and Tess that was really fun…but Charlie had some performance issues, and then felt bad about those issues.

Since then, the four of us have continued to develop our friendship. Adventurer and Tess had a solo date that they both enjoyed. I asked her about maybe helping me plan a FFM threesome for Adventurer for our anniversary. She was very willing and eager, but she said that she wanted Charlie to get a chance to play again before she did another play time without him.

And therein lay my dilemma. I tend to overthink things, especially in this hotwife and swinger lifestyle. It is probably my biggest downfall. And thinking about Charlie caused all kinds of angst.

On the one hand, I wanted to be supportive of Adventurer. He and Tess have a good connection. I don’t want to be a stumbling block to that. On the other hand, I’m not entirely sure that Charlie is ready to have sex with other people…or that he wants to have sex with me.

I don’t want to be pushing someone to do something they don’t want to do. Do we try to force a connection? Do I step up my game and become irresistible? Do I come out and say that he is off the hook if he doesn’t want to do anything? Would that make it seem like I didn’t want to have sex with him, or that I was judging him for his inability to finish last time? So many questions, so few answers.

Then we had some big things happen in our regular life that put a pause on sexy adventures anyway. During that time, Charlie was great. When I had COVID, he reached out via chat to cheer me up, especially when I was the last one sick in my household and was getting very depressed about my prolonged period of social isolation. When a loved one was palliative, Charlie shared some of his experiences with that and gave me his thoughts about how I could support my children through it. When that loved one died, Charlie reached out daily to say that moms often get so caught up in taking care of everyone else that they forget to take care of themselves. He would be ready with a funny anecdote or other distraction if I needed a smile or a break from funeral planning.

Our conversation was not very sexual (although I am a bit of a flirt, so there was always a bit of light teasing), but it did develop our friendship. And that’s when I came to a conclusion. Charlie and Tess can be couple friends with Adventurer and I. It is awesome having another married couple that is in the lifestyle that we can chat to about it. If I think of Charlie as a friend, I don’t have any angst.

He’s enjoying exploring new kinks and experiences with Tess. I’m happy to listen to him tell me about it, and to share my own stories. When he’s ready to have sex with someone else or try a threesome, I’m happy to be someone he invites to participate. There doesn’t need to be a lot more to it than that.

Recently, Charlie and I made a plan to get together in person. We hadn’t seen each other since that last hotel date. It took a bit because he was unavailable when I was in his neck of the woods, and I was unavailable when he was in mine, but we finally made it happen on Friday.

We decided to pick up coffee and go for a hike. It was threatening to rain, but we decided to take our chances. Being the flirt that I am, I said that I’d wear a white t-shirt just in case we got caught in a downpour. I also wore a ridiculously short skirt just to spark his imagination.

We met, we walked, we talked about recent sexual escapades with our partners and about work and the kids. He did walk behind me on one narrow part of the trail and he later admitted that he did it on purpose so he could take some time to enjoy my short skirt

When we got back to the cars, I kissed him goodbye and told him to give Tess a kiss from me too. It felt very comfortable and casual. It was so much better than me worrying about forcing things.

Adventurer and I are meeting Charlie and Tess later today. I’m feeling good about it.

[Johng1953]

Thank you for the update.
Have to admit I'd contrive to be behind you as much as possible on that trail.
And be praying for rain!

[rascalnvixen]

LFA, I like the approach you are taking with Charlie. There's a good chance he sometimes feels pressure to do things with you and that causes problems in his head. That pressure isn't from a directive someone has made, but just his own pressure to do what he knows Tess and you would like him to do. Evidently, as you have said, he has to catch up with the rest of you all in the multiple sex partner thing. It may be he needs to build his self-confidence about his abilities as a sex partner for another woman. I know this will sound strange, but a lot of guys take a while to be comfortable having sex with a woman, even their wives at the beginning of their relationship while dating. He gets more confident over time and he is able to be the man he wants to be without any worry. That same type of thought process may be evident when he is offered to leave the comfort of his sexual relationship with his long time partner and have a go with a new woman. If you allow him to be more familiar with you, keep teasing him, give a little more closeness between you two, do a little touch here and there where you rub against him and give him the time he needs to accept that it would be OK for him to have sex with you, it seems he would be a really good partner and a great friend!!!! Keep doing what you are doing!!!

Rascal

[Whosbeensleeping]

That was a lovely update. I'm glad you're in a good place now, and sorry to hear the pain you've been going through. I lost my father in September and it was no walk in the park.

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank you for the update.
Have to admit I'd contrive to be behind you as much as possible on that trail.
And be praying for rain!

Well then I'd contrive to give you an extra nice view.

[Lookingforadventure]

LFA, I like the approach you are taking with Charlie. There's a good chance he sometimes feels pressure to do things with you and that causes problems in his head. That pressure isn't from a directive someone has made, but just his own pressure to do what he knows Tess and you would like him to do. Evidently, as you have said, he has to catch up with the rest of you all in the multiple sex partner thing. It may be he needs to build his self-confidence about his abilities as a sex partner for another woman. I know this will sound strange, but a lot of guys take a while to be comfortable having sex with a woman, even their wives at the beginning of their relationship while dating. He gets more confident over time and he is able to be the man he wants to be without any worry. That same type of thought process may be evident when he is offered to leave the comfort of his sexual relationship with his long time partner and have a go with a new woman. If you allow him to be more familiar with you, keep teasing him, give a little more closeness between you two, do a little touch here and there where you rub against him and give him the time he needs to accept that it would be OK for him to have sex with you, it seems he would be a really good partner and a great friend!!!! Keep doing what you are doing!!!

Rascal

Thanks Rascal. That is exactly where I've landed on this situation. A little flirtation never hurt anyone

[Lookingforadventure]

It has been almost a month since I posted! How did that happen? I guess life has just been busy. I do have a few stories to tell, so maybe I'll try to write them up soon. Or maybe I should just have new adventures to post about

[rascalnvixen]

It has been almost a month since I posted! How did that happen? I guess life has just been busy. I do have a few stories to tell, so maybe I'll try to write them up soon. Or maybe I should just have new adventures to post about

Or... maybe we could meet somewhere and you can tell me in person,.... while we make a new story!!!


Rascal

[Johng1953]

It has been almost a month since I posted! How did that happen? I guess life has just been busy. I do have a few stories to tell, so maybe I'll try to write them up soon. Or maybe I should just have new adventures to post about

Please post but don't stop having new adventures!

[Rockhard11]

New adventures… Old stories… We’d love to hear them all.

[Lookingforadventure]

Or... maybe we could meet somewhere and you can tell me in person,.... while we make a new story!!!


Rascal

Interesting offer...

[Lookingforadventure]

Please post but don't stop having new adventures!

OK. You've convinced me

[Lookingforadventure]

New adventures… Old stories… We’d love to hear them all.

Thank you. Then, for you and the others who will enjoy it, I offer a quick write-up (below).

[Lookingforadventure]

Here’s a quick story to catch you up on some of my latest shenanigans.

Earlier this month, it was G’s birthday. I thought it would be fun to plan something special. Unfortunately, I had to travel for work on the actual date of his birthday and we had trouble finding a time to get together. In the end, we opted for a lunch date a few days before.

I told him that I would drive his way to maximize the time he had available. We agreed to meet at a park, and I’d bring a picnic lunch and some sexy surprises. He thought that was a wonderful idea.

Some background info: After my last park visit with G, Adventurer had given me a picnic blanket as an anniversary gift. My kids thought “oh, what a nice gift. Daddy wants to go to the beach with you a lot this summer.” Adventurer whispered, “nope. It is so you can have lots of outdoor sex with your boyfriend.” LOL

Additional background info: A week before the lunch date, Tess helped me select a dress to wear on the picnic. I took several into the changeroom and then texted her photos. My plan was to be braless and panty-less. A few of the options were just a bit too nipple-y to wear in public. We had a good laugh about my nipple prominence, but decided to go another direction. Another dress was too tight, another too short. In the end, we selected a red, peasant kind of print dress. It was low cut and had a bit of a key-hole cut-out beneath the center of my breasts. It ended above the knee and was flowy enough that it could be adjusted for good access.

The day of the picnic arrived. I got dressed and Adventurer told G that I was looking good. G and I made a plan to meet at 11:20 outside the park. I packed an insulated tote with some lemonade, water and baked goods. I picked up some sushi on my way, and packed a few napkins too. Then I drove to the park.

My plan was to be about 20 minutes early so that I could scope out a good location and set up the picnic. I laughed when I pulled in and G was already there. I think he was excited!

We kissed hello and then went to check out the park together. He helped me carry the picnic blanket and I carried the bag with our lunch and his present. He held my hand and every once in a while, he’d let go so that he could caress my ass as we walked. He noted that he didn’t feel many undergarments under my dress.

“Well, you know, it is your birthday. I wanted to make things easy for you,” I said.

Eventually, we found a clearing next to a creek. There was a trail leading towards and away from the clearing, but we figured we’d be able to see people coming. The other side of the creek was framed by a steep, tree-topped cliff. We concluded that we were pretty well protected from sight.

We put down our things and G kissed me right there, standing next to the creek. His hand slid beneath my dress and he started rubbing my clit. It didn’t take long for me to cum.

“Do you want to maybe join me on the picnic blanket?” I asked with a hint of innuendo. He agreed that he really, really did.

We put it on the ground and then both sat down. We kissed some more and his hands began roaming again. His fingers found their way inside me and I could feel my orgasm building. After I came, I told him that I needed him to fuck me.

I helped him undo his pants and I took out his cock. I looked around a bit and then leaned down to take it in my mouth. It was already really hard, so I didn’t spend much time in that position. Instead, I pulled my dress up and straddled him as he lay on the blanket. I lowered my pussy down over him and felt his cock head push inside me and spread me open.

I like to think that I rode him slowly and sensually. In reality, I think that it pretty quickly turned to a rapid and rhythmic fuck. HIs hands were on my waist and he was smiling up at me. I desperately wanted to cum.

Then, I heard a sound behind me. I froze.

“I think someone’s coming,” I whispered.

G could see the trail behind me. He told me just to stay still. My dress was still fully on and was flowing down around us. There was really nothing indecent to see, other than the fact that I was straddling his lap

Whoever was jogging towards us caught a peek and decided to go another way. LOL

Still, we decided that we should maybe take a break for lunch in case the jogger came back. I climbed off and G did his best to tuck himself back into his pants.

I gave him his gift and we chatted for a bit about it (spoiler alert: the gift includes an evening away together later this summer!). Then I told him that I felt bad that he hadn’t been able to cum yet. I really wanted to give him a birthday orgasm.

We thought that maybe the coast was clear. I undid his pants and took his cock into my mouth. His hands stroked my hair as I massaged his balls with my tongue and took him deep in my throat. He was making the sexiest of noises when we heard a, “Hey, what’s going on?” from across the creek at the top of the cliff.

I should point out that this cliff is probably 30 or 40 feet tall and the guy who yelled was very far away. I’m sure he couldn’t see our faces or any detail.

G gave a little wave, “Oops. Sorry about that.”

The guy just laughed and said to have fun. “He probably thought we were some teenagers or something,” G said.

Either way, we thought we had better behave before the police showed up. We had a great picnic lunch together. We got caught up on each other’s lives and made tentative plans for getting together in the summer.

When it was time to go, I said that I still really wanted to make G cum. He stood with his back to the cliff and said that he’d watch the trail. I squatted down and took him in my mouth. It was a fast blow job and we managed to finish without any interruptions. Yaay!

I still think he deserves a better birthday orgasm. Good thing we have a play date coming up.

[Seekingmore12]

Yes, and that is a very good thing !

[Mr1SexyGILF]

Thank You LFA for taking the time to bring us along on your journey of Sexual Exploration/fulFILLment.

You are such a delightfully naughty LAYdy.

Mr GILF

[Lookingforadventure]

Thank You LFA for taking the time to bring us along on your journey of Sexual Exploration/fulFILLment.

You are such a delightfully naughty LAYdy.

Mr GILF

I see what you did there.

And I'm glad you enjoyed my tale about my tail being exposed on a picnic. I was worried that maybe this crowd doesn't like risky, outdoor sex stories.

[Jbjhamilton99]

I’ve been following a bunch of threads as a non-registered user. I just registered because I wanted to comment on yours and a couple new ones that I’ve gotten addicted to following. thanks for the updates!

[Johng1953]

Thank You LFA for taking the time to bring us along on your journey of Sexual Exploration/fulFILLment.

You are such a delightfully naughty LAYdy.

Mr GILF

I see what you did there.

And I'm glad you enjoyed my tale about my tail being exposed on a picnic. I was worried that maybe this crowd doesn't like risky, outdoor sex stories.

I really can't imagine where you got that idea from!

[Lookingforadventure]

I think a lot of my posts are pretty positive about my hot wife experiences. In case this is discouraging to those who are bumping up against more roadblocks, I thought I'd share this tidbit that is inspired by something that happened yesterday...at least you know that it happens to all of us.

First, the background: About a year and a half ago, I had just had my first hot wife experience with G. I was proud of myself for going through with it and trying to figure out what I wanted going forward. Adventurer and I thought that maybe it would be good to have a few, solid, good guys that we could count on for ongoing encounters. This way I could get comfortable with them, but no one guy would become "too important" in the grand scheme of things. I had G. "Sir" was still a work in progress but I was liking how the conversations were going. So I thought maybe one more would be nice.

J was a possibility. He is in his mid-40s, tall, professional, and has a sexy deep voice. He plays baseball in his spare time and likes to do home renovations and woodworking. He's married, but says that he and his wife have "mismatched" sex drives and she is ok with him playing with others. (Note: I'm not sure I believed him, especially when he said that they had three kids at home...the youngest one still a toddler. I wondered if he was maybe just trying to sneak around and "get some" while his poor wife held down the fort at home. That really irked me).

I was skeptical of him, but he also continued to put in the time. As we chatted, I realized we had a lot in common. He grew up in a small town near the one that I had grown up in. He has a fondness for outdoor sex (and would talk about us fooling around in the bed of his pickup truck). And he could sext a good game. We once played a rousing game of truth or dare via text for a few weeks!

He was fun, so Adventurer and I decided to give him a chance. We asked if he wanted to meet. We picked a place out his way and said that we'd meet outside for drinks (it was still during COVID, but patios were open) and see how it went. Adventurer and I also planned to book a hotel room nearby in case it went well. J lived a couple hours drive away and we wanted to make the most of the trip. If the meeting went well, we'd invite him up. If it didn't, we'd have some amazing hotel sex with just the two of us.

J said he was excited to meet us...and then he hemmed and hawed and took forever to give us some dates that could work. He had baseball game. He was renovating a beach cottage. There was a family thing. We eventually proposed a date to him. Then he disappeared. I mean, completely disappeared. He shut down his AFF account (or blocked us from being able to see it). Kik messages were never delivered. He was just gone with no explanation.

I was annoyed because I had invested several months in getting to know the guy. At the same time, I wasn't that disappointed. G was proving to be a lot of fun, so my hot wife adventures were continuing. I knew that there other guys out there if I wanted to try finding someone new. I was just annoyed that I hadn't trusted my gut about J being married. I'm nearly positive that that is what ended it. The practicality of trying to "get away" for a few hours to meet with us was too hard to figure out with his wife.

That's the background. This is the new story. Yesterday, a kik message appeared from J.

"Hey. How's it going"

It has seriously been well over a year since we have talked to him. There was no explanation, no apology, not even a meaningful greeting. I could have ignored it, but I offered a "hey" back.

He asked again how I've been. I decided to not let him completely off the hook.

"We've been great. How about you? You vanished a year ago."

Since then...crickets. I guess he hoped I'd forget?