Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[mrs_reese]

Good morning everyone
I’ve been sick with normal spring allergies for a while but I’m back and feeling really good,
After a month or so of taking a time out, I’ve missed having a lover in my life.
I’ve been noticing way too much attention given to me when I am around men!
I actually had one man come up to me at a st pattys day party to tell me how amazing I smelled!
That he could smell my scent as he walked near me!
Crazy men
I also have had jeff apologize to me many many times even though I’ve been ignoring him.
Unfortunately, he and I were at the same st pattys day party last night and he approached me. Said he’s sorry for the 100th time!
I told him NO, to leave me alone but I also find him I need time to think about his new intentions.
He said that this is way too confusing for him but he’s willing to try to be more open to me and to share all his concerns instead of ignoring me.
Hubby said we all probably needed to step back and take a time out!
He’s willing to just allow me to figure things out however I choose!
I know most would advise me to leave him out of my life, but this LS is not easy to navigate!
He’s trying to really understand it all!
This doesn’t mean I want to go back and play again!
I am truly not sure that to do!
I miss having a lover, and it’s not as easy to find one that is the right fit for me
Jeff can be, if only he could stop being so isolated when he’s confused or feeling hurt.

May I ask?
I help me!
What do you think I should do?

[shadowtantra]

May I ask?
I help me!
What do you think I should do?

My .02 are to find a lover who has the emotionally maturity to accompany you on your journey!

[mrs_reese]

May I ask?
I help me!
What do you think I should do?
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My .02 are to find a lover who has the emotionally maturity to accompany you on your journey!

Thank you

[54321]

What do you think I should do?

Tell Jeff EXACTLY how it is.
Is he in or out?
Point out that you are not interested in someone who just says he's in.
You want someone who acts like he's in.
That's how you and your husband operate. If it's not for him, that's just fine. No problem.
If he wants in, it's your rules. This is meant to be fun. It's not meant to be stressful.

If you are throwing a party, you want guests who are fun. You don't want miserable guests who are going
ruin everyone's evening. Lifestyle meetings are just the same.
Is he a party pooper or someone who wants to par-TAY?
Tell him not to answer right away but to think about it. If it's not for him you will respect his
decision and respect him for saying so.

Having said all this, if you know in your heart of hearts that it's always going to be work,
forget it. Don't even bother. There's a million guys desperate to be your next lover.

Every good wish,

54321

[Lonewolf659]

Mrs Reese,

My father, when he was still with us, had the most perfect phrase for Jeff. He needs to "Shit or get off the pot". All you heard was I'm confused, ill try to understand, I'll be more open and not ignore you. The problem is you were already ignored. That can not ever be taken back. And there wasn't a positive statement of fact in all of it. You truly seem to be dealing with someone that doesn't have the emotional maturity for the LS.

You asked for help, for advice. You can answer that with one simple question. Look deep inside of yourself and ask, are you fully prepared to invest the time, energy, emotions on maybe? I suggest no. Taking a step back and finding someone emotionally mature is the best bet. It's time to cut your losses. Because if you do eventually decide to get back with Jeff, and it goes south because he can't handle it, the only person that will be on the raw end of the deal will be you. Honestly, it's not worth the risk.

[BallSpanking]

WTF? There must be a boatload of deaf, blind, and dumb Alpha bulls in Detroit!

[Open2it]

Is he sorry enough to go out with you and your hubby and apologize to you both for hurting your feelings and ask if he can continue to see you for dates and sex? He should be able to explain how he understands his role as a FWB and how he knows your marriage comes first but is willing to enjoy any time he can have with you. I know that may be a hard limit for him based on his past but it may be the only way to determine his sincerity.

[mrs_reese]

Thank you all for sharing your opinions.
I really appreciate you all.
As of now, I’ve texted him in a limited manner.
He keeps apologizing.
Hubby helped put things in perspective got me.
I was getting too emotional, I wanted to fix his emotional hurt and he and I should keep it lighter, try to always remember that this is all about having fun!
We need to stop pushing buttons.
He used to be the one pushing buttons and now he’s telling me to keep it fun and not too personal!

[Lonewolf659]

Thank you all for sharing your opinions.
I really appreciate you all.
As of now, I’ve texted him in a limited manner.
He keeps apologizing.
Hubby helped put things in perspective got me.
I was getting too emotional, I wanted to fix his emotional hurt and he and I should keep it lighter, try to always remember that this is all about having fun!
We need to stop pushing buttons.
He used to be the one pushing buttons and now he’s telling me to keep it fun and not too personal!

Mrs Reese,
Could it be that everyone here that has grown to know and love you through your adventures are seeing a glimpse of Mrs Reese coming out of hibernation?...Outstanding!! Mr Reese was correct when he said to keep it fun.

One of my favorite movies has a well known line that is so perfect for this time, this place and you, Mrs Reese...

"People keep asking me if I'm back. And I haven't really had an answer. But now, YEAH, I'm thinkin' I'm back "

Have fun, excitement, pleasure. But most importantly stay safe.

[mrs_reese]

Thank you all for sharing your opinions.
I really appreciate you all.
As of now, I’ve texted him in a limited manner.
He keeps apologizing.
Hubby helped put things in perspective got me.
I was getting too emotional, I wanted to fix his emotional hurt and he and I should keep it lighter, try to always remember that this is all about having fun!
We need to stop pushing buttons.
He used to be the one pushing buttons and now he’s telling me to keep it fun and not too personal!

Mrs Reese,
Could it be that everyone here that has grown to know and love you through your adventures are seeing a glimpse of Mrs Reese coming out of hibernation?...Outstanding!! Mr Reese was correct when he said to keep it fun.

One of my favorite movies has a well known line that is so perfect for this time, this place and you, Mrs Reese...

"People keep asking me if I'm back. And I haven't really had an answer. But now, YEAH, I'm thinkin' I'm back "

Have fun, excitement, pleasure. But most importantly stay safe.

Your so amazing lonewolf, yes lol!
I think I’m back, but one thing hubby and I both acknowledged, we don’t ever want to go back to vanilla!
Maybe time outs and reevaluating, but we always want the Hotwife in our life!
I love that girl!
She’s so powerful and so sexual!
But as she ages, she’s becoming more sensitive I believe!

[54321]

But as she ages, she’s becoming more sensitive I believe!

Aww! Bless you, Mrs Reese. You are a sweetheart!

'Poor, confused Jeff' is beginning to look like a 'broken winger' to me.
Even in vanilla relationships, when girls hook up with 'broken wing' type guys,
it usually ends badly. It's a form of passive aggressive behaviour that 'entitles'
them to do all the taking and no giving.

All your OHW friends and Mr Reese agree that this lifestyle is supposed to be fun.
If it's not, it's time to change things up a bit.

You need to go shopping... for a new guy. You may have to do quite a bit of sampling
and trying on of course but a girl loves to shop right?

Every good wish,

54321

[mrs_reese]

But as she ages, she’s becoming more sensitive I believe!

Aww! Bless you, Mrs Reese. You are a sweetheart!

'Poor, confused Jeff' is beginning to look like a 'broken winger' to me.
Even in vanilla relationships, when girls hook up with 'broken wing' type guys,
it usually ends badly. It's a form of passive aggressive behaviour that 'entitles'
them to do all the taking and no giving.

All your OHW friends and Mr Reese agree that this lifestyle is supposed to be fun.
If it's not, it's time to change things up a bit.

You need to go shopping... for a new guy. You may have to do quite a bit of sampling
and trying on of course but a girl loves to shop right?

Every good wish,

54321

Thank you 54321
I went shopping Sunday night at a March madness event,
I’ll write more!

[mrs_reese]

Happy Monday everyone!
Last night, hubby and I went to a march madness event for a local charity! Gambling, beer and drinks, food, raffles and watching the games!
We didn’t know many people, and that was a good thing!
Hubby encouraged me to not worry and feel the sexual energy in the room.
I must admit, I felt every man staring at me!
Someone my hubby knew walked up to me and a few other female acquaintances and told me I smelled amazing!

I loved how I felt last night! I felt very sexy!
With that in mind, I met a younger man, 38-40
Not sure I didn’t remember!
Lots of sexual tension!
I didn’t tell him about the LS, but I did share my number with him. He saw me with hubby later, and I went over to tell him not to worry about hubby!
He texted me right earlier this morning!
I’m going to respond soon!
I’ll keep you updated

[afagehi7]

Happy Monday everyone!
Last night, hubby and I went to a march madness event for a local charity! Gambling, beer and drinks, food, raffles and watching the games!
We didn’t know many people, and that was a good thing!
Hubby encouraged me to not worry and feel the sexual energy in the room.
I must admit, I felt every man staring at me!
Someone my hubby knew walked up to me and a few other female acquaintances and told me I smelled amazing!

I loved how I felt last night! I felt very sexy!
With that in mind, I met a younger man, 38-40
Not sure I didn’t remember!
Lots of sexual tension!
I didn’t tell him about the LS, but I did share my number with him. He saw me with hubby later, and I went over to tell him not to worry about hubby!
He texted me right earlier this morning!
I’m going to respond soon!
I’ll keep you updated

Can we see your outfit from the night?

Do does he know about your hubby? Gonna play the cheating wife game? (It's really hot).

[mrs_reese]

I really didn’t take any pics.
But yes, he does not live near me, the cheating wife LS seems to work best with men!
We texted a lot today, he’s polite and really cute.
I told him let’s get to know each other before we decide to meet up.
He’s 38 and single, was divorced a few years ago with one son 14. He’s enjoying life, looking for a regular dating thing!
I’m very interested

[54321]

I must admit, I felt every man staring at me!
Someone my hubby knew walked up to me and a few other female acquaintances and told me I smelled amazing!

It's those hotwife pheromones!... and I'm sure you looked confident, sexy, self possessed and FAB!

But of course, the fun is always in the details, Mrs Reese, so please do tell all!

You caught his eye… with a beaming smile?

You fell into conversation. A few interested questions?
"Have you seen anything interesting here today?"
"What are you looking for? Anything in particular?"
"So what brought you here today? Are you a real 'March Madness’ kind of a guy yada, yada, yada?"

You get the conversation going. He tells you a bit about himself. You share a little
about yourself and then…

How did you get to THE CLOSE?

On what pretext did you get to phone numbers?
Did you offer?
Did he ask?
Did he offer?
Did you ask?

"Oh yes. I’m into antiques too. I occasionally come across ornate, early French, wrought iron, Provencal cafetières in my line of work. If that sort of thing really gets your juices flowing, give me your phone number and I’ll do what I can to slip one your way."

Or maybe not! But I guess something along those lines happened!

Dear Mrs Reese, don’t be a tease! We all need to know!

54321

[BallSpanking]

He saw your wedding ring. No need to bring up the LS, he felt the same juice you did at the charity event, he knows the score.

[mrs_reese]

Ballspanking, you are correct he saw my ring
54321, allow me to go into more detail.
I walked over to the busy bar area alone, and there was a line dominated by men! 2 bartenders on duty kept the line moving slowly. 2 lines, and to my right was this beautiful man who tapped my arm and asks what I wanted to drink because he thought my side of the line was not moving as fast.
Ironically when it was my turn to order a drink, he was one person behind me, I teased him and said he should’ve asked me to order his drink! He told me he’d like a bud lite and I ordered for him.
We moved to the side and chit chatted until my drink was finished, he asked for his turn to buy me a drink which I said yes to his request!
He did notice my ring right soon as I accepted my drink from him. I told him hubby is off doing his own thing and “so am I!” He seemed to understand right away that he was fair game! We small talked and after 10 or more compliments, I told him I should get back and look for hubby.
He immediately asked is I’d be interested in talking again, I said sure and we exchanged numbers!
I told him I’d definitely like to talk more!
And a few days later, we’ve been texting back and forth all day and closing the conversations by saying good night!

I’ll tell more later!
But we are meeting for drinks this weekend

[mrs_reese]

So after this post, my new bff texted me and asked if I wanted to meet him for lunch!
He said he has the afternoon free!
So do I
I didn’t tell hubby yet, I think I’ll just keep it a secret for now unless he reads this thread!

[BallSpanking]

Will you be having a large protein bar?

[54321]

to my right was this beautiful man who tapped my arm and asks what I wanted to drink because he thought my side of the line was not moving as fast.
Ironically when it was my turn to order a drink, he was one person behind me, I teased him and said he should’ve asked me to order his drink! He told me he’d like a bud lite and I ordered for him.

What a meet cute!

He did notice my ring right soon as I accepted my drink from him. I told him hubby is off doing his own thing and “so am I!” He seemed to understand right away that he was fair game!

Smooth!

... He immediately asked is I’d be interested in talking again, I said sure and we exchanged numbers!
I told him I’d definitely like to talk more!
And a few days later, we’ve been texting back and forth all day and closing the conversations by saying good night!

This guy is an operator! And so, Mrs Reese, are you!

So after this post, my new bff texted me and asked if I wanted to meet him for lunch!
He said he has the afternoon free!

Boom! Wow! 15/10! The girl can SHOP!

Oh yeah erm Jeff... whatever happened to him?

54321

[mrs_reese]

Hi everyone!
I met him for drinks, wow! He’s really super sweet and sexy!
He kissed me a lit after he walked me to my vehicle as we left the bar.
He pressed his body against me and feeling his hard cock, I think he’s really big!
We’ve been sexting ever since!
I’m home, I want to surprise hubby with my news!
Plus, I’m super wet, I hope he is ready to fuck me

[BallSpanking]

And ... you didn't cop a feel?

I’m home, I want to surprise hubby with my news! Plus, I’m super wet, I hope he is ready to fuck me

Uhh ... I wouldn't worry too much about that one, Mrs Reese ...

[Open2it]

Congratulations Mrs Reese on finding a suitable playmate in the wild. Sexting is a good sign especially with him knowing you’re open to turning the sexts into toe curling reality.

[54321]

Dear Mrs Reese,

Thank you so much for sharing your meet cute with Mr Newguy!

It's the flirting, the banter and the cute little details that really bring the story to life
and make it such a joy to read.

Best wishes as always,

54321

PS. What were you wearing that day?