Jane' adventure

[Aynsley]

I too am eagerly awaiting what the plan is and what actually happens.

With the caveat that JH is OK with this, I am too.
I think it'd be pretty HOT.

[bubbajack]

I'm having trouble formulating a theory of what is most likely to come next.

None of the immediate participants have said anything about what they foresee, expect, desire, intend, or fear.

I still don't know why J's H wanted her not to see* Deron earlier in the week. I am not sure, but I think she appeared to accede - maybe not.

I don't know why the BBQ invitation caused the objection (whatever it was based on) to be either overruled or withdrawn (Which? Don't know.).

Jane says she is nervous. She doesn't say why, although she may have meant it is because she won't know any of the people who will be there, Deron excepted. Fair enough, I suppose.

There is just damned little to work with besides my inflamed imagination and the speculative posts of my fellow Jane-watchers, all of whom likewise seem a bit on edge.

As Observer says and I think we all agree, Deron is certainly going to fuck her sometime tomorrow - after the BBQ at least - possibly at her house. (It is tomorrow, right?) That prospect by itself shouldn't cause her any nervousness, since he does her pretty frequently now, and she enjoys it a lot.

So why am I feeling the way I do? To say I am eager to hear the events of the day is a weak understatement. Damn.

*("to see" Deron is Jane's preferred euphemism for "to fuck" him. But, hey. That's OK. I just like to hear a beautiful woman use the word "fuck" properly in a sentence now and then. Sounds hot and feels good.)

[Aynsley]

*("to see" Deron is Jane's preferred euphemism for "to fuck" him. But, hey. That's OK. I just like to hear a beautiful woman use the word "fuck" properly in a sentence now and then. Sounds hot and feels good.)

Yeah...I don't know why, but it Always 'pricks MY ears' (in a good way )
when Iris or any other woman says the word "Fuck"
(or any variant - i.e. "I'm looking forward to fucking Jim this afternoon" ).

In a similar vein, I still remember Prof. Ericson's class, where he explained, that while he was in college,
he used to try get his date to actually say the word, "Fuck" (hey...it was a communication class ).
His reasoning was that if a woman acknowledged that the word "Fuck"
(by saying it)
she could no longer 'dodge' the subject, hence he figured his 'chances' were improved if he achieved his goal

[bubbajack]

Observer referred to

a research site about such relationships

Does anyone have a link?

Thanks

(I am desperate enough to read some "research!" How fucked up is that!)

[jane]

Deron told me none of his friends know that he is a "bull", and he hasn't talked about me. I'm not going to bring up being married today.

[bubbajack]

So have a nice time and let us know how it all goes, beautiful.

[barneyfife]

Jane, fwiw, my hotwife has gone to social functions with a few of her male friends, and normally she just leaves her wedding ring at home and she is introduced as his "friend". It has been quite liberating and a surreal fantasy come to life, like an alternate identity. We have been living the hotwife life for about 10 years, just celebrated our 20th anniversary...if this helps....

[bubbajack]

Hello J's H - How is it going for you?

Hope you are OK and that Jane going as Deron's unmarried date turns you on as well as churning your guts.

It certainly would excite me if I were in your situation tonight.

It did very much when I was in similar situations with my hotwife back in the day.

Best wishes

[jane]

ok guys, it all turned out nicely. 9 people, so relatively small bbq. I was nervous , but everyone was nice, and i spent most of the time talking to a couple of the other ladies. ate a piece of bbq chicken, had some punch. that's about it. then i went home. no deron and i didn't have sex! sorry for the disappointment!

[Good2Find]

...sorry for the disappointment!

It's NEVER a disappointment to hear updates from you and JH. I'm glad everything went well and you had a pleasant time - thanks for sharing

[bubbajack]

Glad you had a nice time. Not disappointed.

Instead, relieved, I must say! My imagination had cooked up some crazy pictures, which is all I will say about them, except to reiterate (remind myself) that they had nothing to do with the real you, your real husband or the real Deron.

Anyway, thanks again for checking in today and not letting us (or at least me) hang with our (my) anxieties churning away.

Whatever your intentions were, it was a merciful gesture to an excitable old (but not quite done yet) pervert and much appreciated.

[allengt]

Glad you had a good time Jane. Thought you would be so horny that you would have taken Deron home with you.

[bubbajack]

So how did you guys (J & J's H) work out the rings removal issue on Saturday? Was there any discussion? How did you both feel when J took them off?

It might just be practical common sense - if the husband knows the wife is going out where no one will know she is married, why make a big deal of it? It doesn't have to be crisis or a religious experience.

My first wife just left them on her bedside table when she went out solo. No discussion necessary for us - but then I also knew she would have to put them right back on when she got home because of friends, neighbors & kids.

But it would sometimes cause me a little thrill to see them lying there and wonder what display of being "unmarried" she was engaged at that moment - and with whom?

[Aynsley]

Hi Jane,

I'm glad you had a nice time, Saturday. I was wondering if you knew what Deron's motivation was,
for taking you to the BBQ? (i.e. - was he showing you off to his friends; wanting you to meet his friends,
or something else?).

[bubbajack]

Further to Aynsley's question, was Deron disappointed not to be going to bed with you on Saturday? Were you?

Are you planning to make it up to each other?

If so, how and when and where?

Thanks, Jane

[jrandmustang]

I share Aynsley's curiosity about Deron's motivation, too. Did he represent this to you and them as a one-time thing, or does he want you to be his girlfriend in a social setting on a recurring basis?

[bubbajack]

Hello Jane and Jane's husband,

Would very much appreciate having your thoughts on the events of the last couple of weeks, including Jane's putting her clothes back on and bailing on the disappointed date, J's H's request that Jane not fuck Deron although she apparently wanted to, followed by the puzzling BBQ with Jane attending as her bull's unmarried date (leaving her rings at home? in the pocket of her sundress?), which ended without Jane or Deron getting any sex, at least not from each other.

By my count Jane passed up three opportunities for non-marital sex and I would like to know why she did. I would also like to know if there have been developments in the denial to J's H of sex with Jane.

Information about actual hotwife experiences are not only hot (Yum!) but also are very valuable, because they help to build a base of experience for those of us who are devoted to this lifestyle.

There may or may not be a growing general social acceptance of the kinds of wife-sharing experiences that most of us here desire to have. I tend to think there won't be much change in this for a long time - which I don't have to spare.

But this forum provides a place to learn of the great, the good and the not-so-good aspects of the life in our own era, which is the only one we live in.

I hope we will hear something soon - thanks.

[jane]

i guess i go quiet when not much is happening. i seem to get in moods where i'm not in the mood. so i havn't seen deron since the bbq. I did meet on saturday with a guy i met last spring. he lives an hour or so away. he's a law student. i like him a lot, we just havn't had time. but saturday was a nice lunch. might meet next week.

[tomwolfe]

i guess i go quiet when not much is happening. i seem to get in moods where i'm not in the mood. so i havn't seen deron since the bbq. I did meet on saturday with a guy i met last spring. he lives an hour or so away. he's a law student. i like him a lot, we just havn't had time. but saturday was a nice lunch. might meet next week.

I enjoy reading how other women approach the prospect of finding a new lover, such as Jane has described here. There's something quite delicious about the "I'm tempted, I've got my eye on someone" mindset.

[wifewatcher1001]

Bump

[jane]

i was with a guy over the weekend. i met him about 5 months ago, but we never got together beyond lunch. he lives about an hour away, and he's in law school. we've played tag with exchanging messages. he's cute and i asked him why he is going for wives and he just said he stumbled into it after joining dating sites. he's kind of mysterious to me. not in a bad way, he's just kind of quiet. maybe a little shy. not too much.
so he came up where we live and i met him at a hotel. it just seemed really cute and romantic by the time we got to the room. we went in and neither of us was making the first move. so i excused myself to use the bathroom, and when i came back he had taken his shirt off. i went to him and told him that was better, and rubbed his chest a bit, and then we kissed. after that things eased up quickly. he proved to me he can kiss! the best part of it was he went down on me twice, and was very unselfish.
anyway the whole thing felt very natural to me, which is a big thing.

[jane]

well he was extra unselfish i guess

[Aynsley]

Hi Jane.
Glad you had a good time.

And Mr. B., any guy who enjoys showing off his oral skills, and who's enthusiastic about it,
gets EXTRA Pts. w/Iris.

[Aynsley]

^ - ...just my guess, but I'm thinking the 'law student' was more enthusiastic and persistent with
the oral, than Deron...not that Deron didn't and wasn't good at it.
Also, this is not to say that 'the law student' didn't enjoy the 'ole in-and-out'...
...but the ratio of oral to f*cking sounds like it might not be the same, given the two guys.

If this is true, it would mirror some of Iris' experiences,
given a similar comparison of the similar 'kind of guys' that she's been with.

As the saying goes, 'different strokes for different folks (or FB's)

[bubbajack]

Hello Mr. Bear,

I feel much the same way. I always want more from Jane and her husband, particularly their individual and shared reflections on what is happening for them before, during and after a "Jane' Adventure".

Their communicative styles (at least in their writings here) do not seem to provide a lot of that kind of reflectiveness, even though what they do write is very powerful and engaging, probably because it is straight and factual.

Reflecting on their story for myself, however, I find that I have been taken on a remarkable journey:a self-described "inexperienced" beautiful young wife and mother who, for no stated reason other than a rather obscure story about her husband "teasing" her after she was walked in on while changing at a pool party (?), sets out with the intention of engaging in varied sexual experiences of her own choosing, outside of her marriage.

In the course of two or three years, she has a variety of hotwife adventures, ranging from fairly straightforward "boyfriend with benefits" affairs to what I think of as pretty wild.

I have downloaded and saved her descriptions of being shared by a black bull, both as unintended by her and as she agreed in advance, doubtfully, but submitting to his suggestion.

I continue to get hard just thinking about her going to her black bull's club without panties and to his house, at his suggestion, and fucking and sucking both him and his friend. Wow. There should be some sort of prize for that episode - either for the fucking or for the writing or both. Both were remarkable.

Then there are the really head-scratching bits: Attending a BBQ, disguised as the unmarried girlfriend of the black guy who, with her husband's grudging acquiescence, repeatedly fucks her bareback in her bed at home. In the course of this explosively erotic scene, she somehow does not have any sex at all.

(As you can see, I really am totally indifferent to all this.)

In summary, on a very close cost-benefit balance, I am grateful for what she and her husband tell us, even if it leaves me grasping for a better understanding of how their life together and her determination to run her own sex life works.

I just wish I were less hooked by it sometimes.