Jane' adventure

[54321]

Dear Jane and David,

I am not alone in being a huge admirer of you both.

My very best wishes to you.

54321

[Janes Husband]

Jane and i have been out of town with our kids for Thanksgiving. There was a problem with the "Sam situation". It was agreed before that he seemed too "dangerous" and she stopped seeing him. That she would all of a sudden see him, and bring him to our house was very upseting. She gave me the line, at first, that she's the hotwife and she can do what she wants, but i told her we're in this marriage together,and our children live in that same house. She admitted she was wrong fairly quickly. Whether she sees Sam anymore remains to be seen, but hopefully she will stick to our boundaries.
Since we we're close to where one of her fb's lives, the law student she's seen twice, i suggested she see him. I have to admit i like him and he's safer, as far as i'm concerned than some of the other men she has seen. She readily, and happily agreed. She got in touch with him, and he made time. We left our kids with my parents and let on that we were going to do Christmas shopping. We met him together at a Starbucks, and then they went to his apartment. I'll let Jane tell the rest when she wants to.

[bubbajack]

Many, many thanks, David!

Happy that all went well on the trip and that the boundary dispute has reached settlement.

All the best - looking forward to Jane's report of fucking the law student while ostensibly (for family consumption) Christmas shopping!!

[Wifesharing]

Thanks for lettign us know

also bubbajack rote that Sam was a black I thought sam was was teh guy that shared her with his friend was he black, it does not matter to me but I love your stories and I like to picture it correctly.


Thanks for clearing this up for me.

[ericsacto]

I just discovered this thread and was worried that it ended. I'm glad that things are working out between Jane and David. I look forward to reading more of Jane's exploits.

[jane]

like my husband said i met with this law student last friday. once we got back to his apartment we laid down, still dressed and kissed for a few minutes. real sweet. he started tugging at my sweater, and i felt his hard on and i got so turned on. why is it we get in certain moods? all i know is i went down on him for several minutes and probably loved it more than i ever had. i was into it so much that he suddenly came in my mouth. i don't think he was planning on it, but i kept right on doing what i was doing.
once i had enough(almost enough ) he returned the favor, which i enjoyed almost as much. and then i climbed on top of him. it was really a wonderful afternoon. he's just easy to be with. happy to be with me. fairly unassuming. i mean he's really cute, and i don't even know why he is doing this, because he isn't the hotwife-guy type i don't think. but i'm glad he is doing it.

[mrs_reese]

I am happy for you jane, what a nice moment for you.\
xoxo

[groovy9]

like my husband said i met with this law student last friday. once we got back to his apartment we laid down, still dressed and kissed for a few minutes. real sweet. he started tugging at my sweater, and i felt his hard on and i got so turned on. why is it we get in certain moods? all i know is i went down on him for several minutes and probably loved it more than i ever had. i was into it so much that he suddenly came in my mouth. i don't think he was planning on it, but i kept right on doing what i was doing.
once i had enough(almost enough ) he returned the favor, which i enjoyed almost as much. and then i climbed on top of him. it was really a wonderful afternoon. he's just easy to be with. happy to be with me. fairly unassuming. i mean he's really cute, and i don't even know why he is doing this, because he isn't the hotwife-guy type i don't think. but i'm glad he is doing it.

I'm not afraid to admit that I just got wood.

[bubbajack]

Per Jane:

"i don't even know why he is doing this, because he isn't the hotwife-guy type i don't think."

I think I have some idea of why.

[Aynsley]

He may not be the "Hotwife type of guy"

But he's a Hotwife Jane type of guy. But, who isn't.

^ ^
Well said, JR.

[bubbajack]

Great story, Jane! I love it that David suggested your tryst and that you cover it with family by the old "Christmas shopping" ploy.

While others were imagining you fighting it out with crazed Black Friday crowds, you were quietly and sweetly swallowing your lucky law student fuckbuddy's cum and getting off on his re-stiffened dick .

I imagine he didn't have too much trouble recovering with you right there naked in his bed!

Girl, you are something else!

[jane]

muuuuuuaaaahh.
back at you

[Iris777]

You are a girl after my own heart. Nothing better to start of the holidays that a fun romp with an FB!!!

[rypmar7]

This is definitely my favorite thread to follow.

[inkmancool]

Hi there Jane and Jane's husband.

very new here, I have a few questions/comments for you if you don't mind. Keep in mind that I am here on this forum, so this is born out of curiousity not judgement. I seriously have to wonder how you two have any sort of a functional relationship as husband and wife. I have had the benefit of reading 30 pages with all your posts, and it seems that you Jane, live to hook up with men. It seems to be as common and familiar to you as doing laundry. I lost track of how many men you list as having slept with, 7 or 8 maybe, while you are married? I understand the HW mindset, I am in the very early stages of introducing my wife to even consider such a thing, but the high of a HW lifestyle must be getting a little stale for you yes? With all these men, and Devon most notably, is it possible for you to say you have not developed feelings above and beyond just sex for them? Is this not creating a wedge between you and your husband? You mention several times how you are feeling uncertain of what is happening and what you are doing, well, gee, I wonder why? Please read this sentence over again, I am not judging you or putting you down in any way, you are both adults and it's your marriage, but I am seriously curious to hear your answer, if you have one. I may show your responses to my wife if they are helpful. Thanks

[Aynsley]

Hi Inkman.
I'm a big fan of Jane & JH as well, and have been following along, since I read the entire
thread, many months ago. Hopefully, you won't mind if I opine that I see a different perspective.

My impression was that JH had encouraged Jane's venture down the HW path
(I believe JH had a post expressing appreciation for others encouraging Jane, and her posts about the journey.)

And, what I think what is great about their thread, is that they both express some of the hiccups
that occur...which I believe are representative of what many couples experience when they go down the HW-path.

Further, sometimes when 'growth' occurs, one within the couple gets ahead of the other,
and that's also expressed in the thread, as well.

However, I've never had the impression that any hiccup hadn't been talked through, making for
a stronger bond. The fact that they have a couple of young kids, makes HW-ing all the more
challenging. I admire what they're doing, and appreciate that they've shared their experiences.

And...it's Deron not Devon.

[BrunetteBeth]

and it seems that you Jane, live to hook up with men. It seems to be as common and familiar to you as doing laundry?

I think I would rather do a guy than laundry. But that's me.

I think you are greatly misunderstanding Jane and J'sH's relationship. Whether you meant it or not, you do come off as very judgmental in how you phrase your queries, and not a little smug about what you think you have gleaned from this thread. Just saying you aren't being judgmental doesn't change anything. It's kind of like saying "don't be offended" and then saying something offensive. It doesn't excuse you.

Jane and J'sH are remarkably forthcoming and honest, warts and all, about their experiences. Take them at face value and don't try to speculate out loud at what might be underlying or motivating any given action. Just ask a straightforward question. E.g.: you said: "is it possible for you to say you have not developed feelings above and beyond just sex for them? Is this not creating a wedge between you and your husband?" Instead ask: "do you have feelings for these men and does it ever create a wedge between the two of you?" Vast difference.

[suzywild]

Hi there Jane and Jane's husband.

very new here, I have a few questions/comments for you if you don't mind. Keep in mind that I am here on this forum, so this is born out of curiousity not judgement. I seriously have to wonder how you two have any sort of a functional relationship as husband and wife. I have had the benefit of reading 30 pages with all your posts, and it seems that you Jane, live to hook up with men. It seems to be as common and familiar to you as doing laundry. I lost track of how many men you list as having slept with, 7 or 8 maybe, while you are married? I understand the HW mindset, I am in the very early stages of introducing my wife to even consider such a thing, but the high of a HW lifestyle must be getting a little stale for you yes? With all these men, and Devon most notably, is it possible for you to say you have not developed feelings above and beyond just sex for them? Is this not creating a wedge between you and your husband? You mention several times how you are feeling uncertain of what is happening and what you are doing, well, gee, I wonder why? Please read this sentence over again, I am not judging you or putting you down in any way, you are both adults and it's your marriage, but I am seriously curious to hear your answer, if you have one. I may show your responses to my wife if they are helpful. Thanks

May I ask why you are picking this couple out of all the couples on this forum to ask these questions of? There are a bunch of us on this forum. Why did you pick Jane and David?

[bubbajack]

inkmancool (joined November 24, 2010) wrote:

"I understand the HW mindset ..."

No, it is painfully evident that you do not.

"I am in the very early stages of introducing my wife to even consider such a thing,"

If indeed you really are intending to mention it to her, I advise you to reconsider. Based on your obvious discomfort with one story you read, I rather doubt you will remain interested for very long in participating in the hotwife lifestyle.

If, notwithstanding all appearances to the contrary, you really want to give this lifestyle a serious look, why not hang around and just read posts and comments for more than a few days before you start interrogating people - get the feel of what's going on here, you know?

Maybe, unless you decide this isn't for you, you should re-start your posting career in January or February, perhaps with some appreciative comments addressed to the Hotties.

I think you will see, if you hold off commenting for a while, just how out of place your "questions" are. And if you still don't see it after that, then I, for one, won't waste any more time responding to you.

[blueduck1954]

First let me say Jane is HOT and I love reading of her adventures...instant boner every time, BUT, bringing a bull into the family home where you have young children is NOT a good idea. I am visualizing myself in Davids place and alarm bells are going off all over the place.

The family is the first priority...fuck buddies are way down the list. Don't turn your home into a fuck pad or someday soon you will be locking your children in their bedroom while mommy "entertains" her men friends while daddy is at work or has this already happened?

[Hotwife_Mustang]

I"m in agreement with comments posted by Aynsley, Brunette Beth, BubbaJack, SuzyWild...

Additional comments:

1. Their hotwifing experience is only a small fraction of the "real" life Jane and David have together. That small percentage is what they share with us on their thread. None of us can begin to understand (much less judge) a marriage based on such limited information.

2. Jane and David, probably more than anyone else on this forum, talk about the misfires in their play. Both are remarkably honest about the conflicts they sometimes feel, and then post on the thread as they work through it. The rest of us have our own problems, but may not post about them.

3. Only people who are open to stretching boundaries are going to take on alternative or non-mainstream sexual lifestyles. With that process occasionally comes pain and conflict. If someone isn't willing to accept and deal with any interpersonal conflict that may arise, they shouldn't get into the lifestyle.

4. "I lost track of how many men you list as having slept with, 7 or 8 maybe, while you are married?" I'm not sure from your comment whether you consider this a lot, or not very many. We have couples on the forum in long term closed polyamorous triads, others who have seen 100s of men in a short period of time. I'm curious as to how you define the norm, and based on what data. What is your idea of the "HW mindset"?

Please hang around a while and read threads from all the forums, and you will better understand the incredible diversity in the lifestyle.

HWM

[bubbajack]

Blueduck wrote:

"This sounds similar in many ways to my young life. My mother thought it was a good idea to fuck our fathers brother as payback for our fathers philandering."

As a small-town survivor I have a strong feeling of empathy for what you must have gone through.

It may be that reading about Jane's Adventures makes you remember your painful experiences as a young person; but there is absolutely NO objective resemblance between what Jane and David report and your Mom revenge-fucking your philandering Dad's brother!!

Let's try to keep the more blatant projections onto others of our unhappy personal experiences (especially past hurts from very long ago) under control, shall we?

It's almost always a mistake to indulge that impulse. Nothing good ever comes of it (it certainly doesn't change whatever happened in th past) and it only leads to misunderstandings and hard feelings in the present.

[blueduck1954]

Bubbajack, you have completely missed the point of my post. I am not projecting but advising Jane and David to consider the childrens welfare foremost.
The innocent are the ones to suffer most in this situation. This is a real life drama not just a masturbation fantasy for you.

[suzywild]

Bubbajack, you have completely missed the point of my post. I am not projecting but advising Jane and David to consider the childrens welfare foremost.
The innocent are the ones to suffer most in this situation. This is a real life drama not just a masturbation fantasy for you.

I do agree with blueduck1954 completely on this. I have older children (teenagers) in my home, and I would still never bring any strangers to my home. Jane and I have talked about this. I just wouldn't want anyone to know where I live. Plus I have a beautiful 16 year old daughter. Nope. I would never bring anyone home. My kids come first. I'm not judging anyone here, but just stating a fact. There are just too many crazy people out in this world. Just turn on the news, or pick up a paper. So on this I do agree with blueduck!

[BrunetteBeth]

"i've never had sam to my house before. so right off the bat i was really stupid. totally slipped my mind i have a toddler here. the baby is one thing, the toddler another. so i had to hurry and find a sitter."

Seems to me Jane did consider her kids. It is the height of hubris to assume she ignored their welfare simply by having the guy over. If I trust a guy enough to fuck him, knowing my address is trivial.

Advice is a tricky thing. Asked for, it's helpful. Offered unasked in the guise of "helping" it is lecturing.