Jane' adventure

[bubbajack]

I agree with Brunette Beth.

I often have my own ideas about what I would like to think I would have done in many situations that are reported here. Sometimes the values that get realized in those actual situations are very different from what I believe would be ideal (and not only with respect to their masturbatory appeal! )

Human events are very complex, both in themselves and as related to the context out of which they arise. If I was not present I almost certainly don't know what alternatives were actually available to those who were, at what cost and for what benefit.

Advising others is tricky at best, for exactly the reasons BB stated. Unasked for advice is even trickier.

Peace and Love, everybody.

[roadrunner]

"i've never had sam to my house before. so right off the bat i was really stupid. totally slipped my mind i have a toddler here. the baby is one thing, the toddler another. so i had to hurry and find a sitter."

Seems to me Jane did consider her kids. It is the height of hubris to assume she ignored their welfare simply by having the guy over. If I trust a guy enough to fuck him, knowing my address is trivial.

Advice is a tricky thing. Asked for, it's helpful. Offered unasked in the guise of "helping" it is lecturing.

This isn't really so surprising. With an infant you don't think twice about doing things you wouldn't dream of doing around an older child. Trouble, that transition doesn't happen in an instant. It changes slowly over time. Today is really no different from yesterday, which was no different from the day before. By the time you realize it is happening, it's already done! How many parents have asked the question, "When did they grow up?"

I don't doubt that Jane had one of those moments. The old strategy wasn't going to work. Changes were made. This happens in parenting all the time.

[suzywild]

Well I wasn't lecturing, I was just saying that this is something that Jane and I have talked about before. And you are right Roadrunner, as a parent with older children, I couldn't get away with anything at home that I could see you could with younger babies. The older kids would know something was up.

I wouldn't have been in this HW frame of mind when the kids were smaller, cause I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off chasing after them. Also, Eric and I were both not ready for this lifestyle at all. So it wasn't an issue for us.

[groovy9]

as a parent with older children...

I don't mean to hijack a thread or anything, but this just made me curious about something. If I remember right, Suzy, there are uncensored pictures of your face in the hotties forum, which seems like quite a bold move if you have internet-savvy kids in the house.

What's your thinking there, if you don't mind my asking?

[seductionrules]

as a parent with older children...

I don't mean to hijack a thread or anything, but this just made me curious about something. If I remember right, Suzy, there are uncensored pictures of your face in the hotties forum, which seems like quite a bold move if you have internet-savvy kids in the house.

What's your thinking there, if you don't mind my asking?

Just reminds me of a "friend" on another website.

He just disappeared from the website (deleted his profile) taking all his numerous posts with him which made a large number of threads on the website almost unreadable.

When I asked him later he said that his 16 year old daughter had said to him "I know your secret" without elaborating. He had gone into panic mode and destroyed everything he thought she could be referring to.... lol. I suppose the lesson is to plan for the eventuality...

Sorry to get off topic...

[bubbajack]

Let us fervently hope that Suzy doesn't do anything like that!!

[jane]

omg am i suprised
had no idea all this was going on in my thread. to the guy who has one post on this forum, and it's in my thread: i'm not even sure your post is worth my commenting on. 7 or 8 guys a lot? well when you consider half of the men i have been with have been one timers...uh what do you think someone does when you they someone and it just doesn't "fit"? you move on.
thanks to everyone else.

[suzywild]

as a parent with older children...

I don't mean to hijack a thread or anything, but this just made me curious about something. If I remember right, Suzy, there are uncensored pictures of your face in the hotties forum, which seems like quite a bold move if you have internet-savvy kids in the house.

What's your thinking there, if you don't mind my asking?

To be completely honest, I had some worries about it. I had even discuss this with my husband and deleted some of the pics with my face in them. Most of the new pics have my face more obscured in them. But if my kids ever run across my photos online and come and ask me about them, I will be honest and tell them the truth. That is just me. I am always honest. My kids know this about me and believe me it has embarrassed the crap out of them on more than one occasion. I think that if they do find something, they will pretty much ignore it and pretend it never happened. That's what I would do if it was my parents...

[mrsJ]

I understand the HW mindset, I am in the very early stages of introducing my wife to even consider such a thing

I have to say that obviously you do NOT understand the HW mindset and as someone new yet fairly experienced in the lifestyle I would have to say that at this time I would advise you to continue to read different posts and situations on this site but NOT dip your toes in just yet if ever at all. Your short post implies if not outright expresses MANY fears and or hangups you already have which will lead you and your marriage down a bad path QUICKLY. Do Jane and hubby have rough spots, absolutely, do they have times when they are on different pages, of course, but I am here to tell you as exciting and fulfilling as this lifestyl is we ALL have these moments and they in no way define the stregnth of our marriage,the kind of parents we are, or the quality of our character, they are simply bumps in the road that we decided to travel down TOGETHER. My impression from your post is that this would be a dangerous lifestyle for you so please reconsider, this of course is only my opinion.

[inkmancool]

Wow, I really kicked the hornet's nest with my first post eh?

I can't answer all comments, but will a few. The way some of you jumped on me for daring to question part of this lifestyle is revealing. MrsJ makes a valid point that i have many reservations about the HW lifestyle. Hence skipping softball questions and getting right down to the potential problems with it.The reason I picked this thread to comment is easy: 30 pages spanning over 2 years of HWing. Posts from the HW and husband. I found no better thread to post on. I've received a lot of flak, but no real answers. Jane and Jane's husband posted on a public thread. So noone can tell me to mind my own business, they have made their business public. I find the stories highly erotic. Jane, I'm sorry to ask you tough questions and if I should have worded them better, then I apologize. You seem to have the most "experience" that I can read on this forum. Who better to ask than you? If you have worked through these issues that I have raised, I was just wondering how? I didn't notice anyone else asking these questions. It can't be that no one else thought of them, but they are valid questions nonetheless.

[allengt]

Wow, I really kicked the hornet's nest with my first post eh?

I can't answer all comments, but will a few. The way some of you jumped on me for daring to question part of this lifestyle is revealing. MrsJ makes a valid point that i have many reservations about the HW lifestyle. Hence skipping softball questions and getting right down to the potential problems with it.The reason I picked this thread to comment is easy: 30 pages spanning over 2 years of HWing. Posts from the HW and husband. I found no better thread to post on. I've received a lot of flak, but no real answers. Jane and Jane's husband posted on a public thread. So noone can tell me to mind my own business, they have made their business public. I find the stories highly erotic. Jane, I'm sorry to ask you tough questions and if I should have worded them better, then I apologize. You seem to have the most "experience" that I can read on this forum. Who better to ask than you? If you have worked through these issues that I have raised, I was just wondering how? I didn't notice anyone else asking these questions. It can't be that no one else thought of them, but they are valid questions nonetheless.

Just because Jane posted on a public forum do not for one minute think that nobody can tell you to mind your own business. This forum is run by a dictator and as such there is no right for anyone to post. We are a community of like minded people and as such we do have some tolerance for new people and will answer their questions but if you have questions to ask then you should have started a thread and asked them. Then you would have gotten answers instead of the responses you got from the way you tried to get your answers.

[jane]

haha , i sure do not have the most experience on this forum

[bubbajack]

Like every community, this one imposes some limits on what may be asked or said here. Like every community, the exact extent of the limits can be controversial at times. The community sometimes struggles with defining the limits because of particular things people have written. However, we don't spend a lot of time arguing over definitions of what may or may not be said here.

The real extent of the limits is practical and usually the sanctions for violating them are carried out in a practical way: abusive posts sometimes get stricken, but more often inappropriate matter just gets ignored.

So, even if you had the right to say whatever you please or ask any question you might want answered (which, as allengt says is not the case here), no one has any obligation to answer.

[groovy9]

Wow, I really kicked the hornet's nest with my first post eh?

Well, yeah, but not because you asked questions. You were just fairly douchey about it. Take some notes and come back later, but less douchey.

[suzywild]

haha , i sure do not have the most experience on this forum

Maybe not the most, but more than some of us! Go Jane!

[bubbajack]

Hello Jane -

Any news on the hotwifing front?

Have you seen Deron lately?

Always love to hear from you, hot girl!

[Janes Husband]

Jane was talking about seeing Deron last weekend, but then she talked to her law-student friend and he came up and stayed overnight saturday.

[bubbajack]

Did he stay at your house? Was Jane with him all night? Sounds exciting for everybody!

[MrBrunetteBeth]

My HW in going for the "perfect week" ended up being with 6 guys in 7 days. We often joke about her potential desired capacity be it being with different guys for how many days in a row or how many in a day. It's part of the fun for us. God knows what Inkman*notso*cool would think of us?!?

The beauty of it is, who cares? His opinion doesn't matter. We all have different ways of doing things, ups and downs, under the noses of family/friends/neighbors/children (more thrilling perhaps!) or only in the "dark" of sex clubs or out of town trips. It's all fun and you play around with it as it works for you and learn where it doesn't.

I am endlessly fascinated by the variety in our own reactions to our activities and just love the stories I come across here and elsewhere as it reflects the human condition.

MrBB

[bubbajack]

Hey, Jane -

I hope your recent silence is just in the ordinary course and not due to one misguided person's wrong belief that somehow his discomfort with hotwifing was due to your story!

Would love to read some details of last Saturday night with your law student FB.

[jane]

sorry guys, hasn't been much to tell. i've been more concerned with Christmas lately. seems weird to hotwife now. i was planning on seeing deron, but it keeps getting put off. i saw my law student last week. first time he's spent the night. but he's a really nice guy, and i'm pretty sure i can trust him. and like i said he's just easy to be with. thinking of doing something hotwifey for new years eve, but not sure yet. enjoying this time of year as a mom !

[mrs_reese]

Hi Jane. I love your style. Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas girl!

[Aynsley]

Hey Jane.
Hope you and JH have a great Holidays.

[bubbajack]

Thanks for the words to your loving fans, Jane.

Two short questions:

1. Did your law student stay at your house (in your and David's bed - where was D?) or did you two stay at a hotel?

(Of course I would love to read a blow-by-blow (and fuck by fuck) account of your time together, but I know from your past writing that hotwifing and Christmas don't go together real well for you, so if that means we don't get the full detailed Hotwife Jane account that we enjoy so much this time, so be it! )

2. What is the "trust" issue with your law student (lucky, lucky guy!) - is it more that you can trust him to respect certain limits or that with him you can trust yourself?

(I have an idea that you guys are working pretty intently right now on how you can be and David can have a hotwife in a way that provides the most enjoyment with the least risk to other interests - if so, good for you guys! I hope you will let us know how things are on that front from time to time as well )

Have a great holiday and all the best!

[wifewatcher1001]

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