Hotwife going out alone/why is it too difficult for me?

[hwc]

Quote: "Tonight D and I will determine if we will be exclusive to each other.
We have to talk about the arrangements since he has a girlfriend.
For some reason I dont think that its going too well with his gf.
D is not available as often as she would like and I do know that like most women, she is giving him the ultimatum."

Mrs. Reece, why not try to get D to preempt what might be his girlfriends decision?

If you ask him to give up his girlfriend for you, and he does, that would be a really good sign as your status as a truly HOTwife, wouldn't it?

Hwc

[Open2it]

Congrats to you both for your willingness to try to explore each others fantasies! Don't limit yourselves by others opinions and don't feel pressured to do what others say you should do. Always find what works for you not anyone else. We're all lucky to be able to read your accounts because they're so real and sexy.
O2

[reese]

Wow,
Some great responses today!
243, thank-you for that compliment.
HWC, recommending that I walk away from L was something that I have been thinking about before you suggested, RIGHT ON! We are thinking alike.
Kjeld, your questions are very legitimate concerns and I would like to enlighten you a bit.
My fantasy has NEVER included having sex with another woman.
My wife is simply gorgeous. I am trying not to be too partial or conceded, but some men think that their partner is very beautiful but usually their opinion is just that; their opinion, and as they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
BUT............MY WIFE is a major league head turner. I am more than satisfied with her. SHE IS MY FANTASY! Any hotwife husband will tell you..........when your wife is dressing to thrill, taking care of her body, grooming, nails,...........when she is living the slut wife lifestyle, those hotwives ALWAYS have the attention of their husbands. I dont want L, I dont need L and if I never had L again, I wouldnt regret it!

My wife denys me, at my urging! BUT with that denial comes a intense burning desire to indulge in sex with her. AND I DO!
My denial of my wife is short term, usually only until after she has sex with her lover.
I have my fun, I have my cake and I eat it too with my wife~!
Our sex is the most intense that I have ever experienced in my lifetime!

Remember, I am the one who pushes for my wife to be a hotwife.
I can not emphasize that enough!
Some readers become confused about some of the facts.
My wife never asked to be a hotwife.
SHE IS still to this day perfectly content on being a normal vanilla wife.
I continuously urge her to act slutty..................and like all loyal loving wives, she is acting upon my requests, hoping to make me happy. Like all partners, she witnesses a loving response from me, she shares in her life a man who is loyal, committed, and "waits on her hand and foot"...............this happens because of her hotwifing activities.
WE all know how relationships are, as time moves forward, the partners lose a lot of the lustful intensity!
The relationship becomes more a bond of love and friendship!
I am tired of relationships moving this way as time goes by!
I want more!
I want that love and loyalty..........but I want that intensity with all activities within a relationship...especially our sex!

SO my wife has become a hotwife............that is all I need from her.
We use L as a pawn. Not in a disrespectful manner though!
WE both push buttons.........we both bend the rules............we both love watching our partner lose control !

This lifestyle isnt all about my wife, it is more about ME!
My wife doesnt set the rules, I DO!
I set the rules, not in a controlling manner, but in way that my wife accepts!
I am the one who has the vivid imagination.
My wife is content at being just a wife who loves and honors her husband!

I hope my thoughts help you understand our marriage.

[reese]

Thanks O2, youre a class act!

[reese]

About last night..............
Yes, I sucked D's cock.
WOW, at least I tried it!
Consider it this way, I have watched my wife try new things, especially things like licking L's pussy! She always told me, NO WAY BABY, I will never lick a womans pussy no matter how hot she is!
IT happened.
This lifestyle opens those doors.
If you have any inhibitions, they are all removed from your mind as you share hot wife activities with your spouse.

I have never sucked a dildo, never touched another mans cock, and never wanted to engage in male to male activities.

last night, I did!
It wasnt just because of our challenge of L.
It was b/c I wanted to make my wife happy, like she does for me many times a week!

D's cock was clean, it tasted like my wife's pussyand that was a good thing.
I could taste his pre-cum.
I didnt feel feminized.
I felt like a man who was not inhibited by labels or restrictions.
I felt sexually liberated, the way I believe my wife feels when she tries new things.

I had to stop once reality stuck me and I realized I was sucking my wife's lovers cock!

BUT for those brief few seconds, It was a very HOT, INTENSE moment for the 3 of us!

More later...I have some work to finish!

[mrs_reese]

To my hubby:
Thank-you for loving and trusting me enough to try new things like I do for you.
Last night opened new doors for us.
You are my knight and shining armour.
I love you so much.
Remember, only YOU baby!


To everyone:

I am ok with my man goes alone with L tonight. I will be with my daughter all weekend.
My hubby will not spend the night.
He asked me to go out with them tonight, but I want to stay home.
I have found my peace with this, and I want to know what HE feels when I am alone.
I will not turn my back on my hubby. This is my decision for him to be with L.
We have one agreement, unless we give the STOP word, if we agree to something, we can not hold it against the other person.
I want him to do this!
I want to feel what he feels!

About d, last night, my husband and I agreed that we want to try to have d in my life as my exclusive boyfriend.
it is time. I am growing tired of taking chances meeting random men. Or ex's.
I have played very hard over the past year.
I want to find more time for myself.

d told me last night that if my husband and I agree to me being exclusive with him, that he will tell his gf that he wants to take a break with his relationship. They have been struggling with time together.
d is afraid to commit, no matter how much he tries. With me, since I am married, it is much easier for him to commit to me.
I have asked him to break it off with his gf.
i texted him earlier and gave him my promise to be faithful to him and end all my other relationships except for L.
wish us luck.
xoxo

[reese]

Hey babe, I read your post, thanks.

In regards to D and my wife being committed to each other.
WE are entering into another new and exciting role as a hw couple.
I will be experiencing the ultimate sensations of denial and losing my wife as she develops a relationship with D.
Am I prepared for her to feel love for D: YES!
We are strong enough to be tested with that.
In my quest for more and more fantasy fulfillment, I am eager to take on this challenge.
We are fine.
We have the greatest communication.
We both agreed that if ever there is a time when WE want to STOP, D will be out!
He accepts those terms as we have discussed every possible scenario taking place and how to handle that.
He will be spending some weekends with us when WE are without children.
He will be sleeping in my bed when he is here.
For now, this is how we want to play.
I am sure things will change when we settle into this committed relationship b/w my wife and D.
She is eager to move forward.
She is happy that there will be no more pressure to find lovers and re-kindle past relationships.
L will still be with all of us.
I am not taking on a role of beta male, I WILL continue to be the ALPHA male in my wife's life, when D is present, my roles will change as long as I am comfortable with that.
My libido is designed to be denied with my wife, to take on a beta male role, but when I reclaim my wife, it is so damn intense to eliminate those inferior/beta role play feelings and become the ALPHA that I will always be.
There is nothing more delicious than re-claiming my wife after she has been with her lover.
It will be more exciting than usual as we continue to BEND the rules of our relationship.
I will enjoy watching my hw struggle b/w D and Me!
It will be stimulating to me to test her.......she knows that.
I take a chance of losing her.........but our love will stand the test of time.
She wont be lost to me............I believe that........it is because my wife and I will never deny each other the freedom of living life on the edge!!!


Not sure what I will be doing with L tonight.
My wife informs me that SHE wants to experience this sensation of complete denial.
I want to grant her this opportunity.
It is a powerful emotion!
DENIAL!

[reese]

My hw and I had a nice night last night.
D called us both and told us that he put his other relationship aside and will commit to my hw.
He told me that he is a very lucky man right now and told me that he is eager to spend a lot of time with her.
I am excited as this step is another exhiliarting leap into hotwife play.
My wife is excited as well, she really loves the sex that D shares with her.
WE both love the role play that we can share with D.

Talk to all of you soon!

[sedvuslad]

...
A gay coworker told me once any straight man will accept a BJ from a dude if they have had enough drinks.
...

These are the same guys who will go to bed at 2 with a 10, and wake up at 10 with a 2!

You hit the nail on the head, rr!!!
SEDL

[OneDayAtATime]

Its hard to know when what you write is it fantasy so its a turn on for you or reality and how things are.

About d, last night, my husband and I agreed that we want to try to have d in my life as my exclusive boyfriend.
it is time. I am growing tired of taking chances meeting random men. Or ex's.
I have played very hard over the past year.
I want to find more time for myself.

From what i read from the last statement,maybe its time to take a break from this at some time,sooner or later and get back to other things that occupy her time.

I will be experiencing the ultimate sensations of denial and losing my wife as she develops a relationship with D.
Am I prepared for her to feel love for D: YES!
We are strong enough to be tested with that.
In my quest for more and more fantasy fulfillment, I am eager to take on this challenge.
We are fine.
We have the greatest communication.
We both agreed that if ever there is a time when WE want to STOP, D will be out!
He accepts those terms as we have discussed every possible scenario taking place and how to handle that.
He will be spending some weekends with us when WE are without children.
He will be sleeping in my bed when he is here.
For now, this is how we want to play.
I am sure things will change when we settle into this committed relationship b/w my wife and D.
She is eager to move forward.

Thats what you want.There are those on here who have a relationship where their hotwife has a b/f and its worked for years. She spends time away,saves herself for him,when coming back is refreshed and admits she loves or is in love with her b/f. If asked, her love for him is different. Its not better or stronger just different. I realize this is new but are you ready for your wife to say i love D or i'm in love with him also? I don't think your wife would like the same for you to say that and feel that for another woman. IMHO,its easier for men to not get attached to a lover, unlike women who are more dominated by their "romantic" feelings. I doubt most husbands could handle these situations.Of course,this is all just speculation. There's so many ways to look at things.

D only having your wife and him making a committment only to her. Sounds like a poly relationship. You've been reading up on the board that pertains to that.



I have reservations about this only because of how Mrs. Reese has said how she feels about D and for several other reasons. With him only being exclusive to Mrs. Reese,then all his emotions,attitudes and free time will try to be with her.To me,if he was sleeping with other women,then this would be much safer,however i understand its all about living on the edge and getting a rush.




Let me get this straight,your turn ons are watching your hotwife with another man,being denied for a period of time,wondering what your wife is doing with her lover,hearing the aftermath of her sex with him and re-claiming her.

Your wife doesn't have any of those desires for you to be with another woman and it never was about that anyway. She does love you to eat her out after sex,the attention of another man and you watching her and getting to have you after D is finished.

Mrs. Reese wife has a sweet deal but has done it only because she wants to please you. Thats what fantasies and turns ons are about. You can't change that and thats what dictates
how you approach this.


Like whats been stated,being alone with L isn't a high priority and Mrs. Reese is only allowing you to be with L alone due to

1. Wants to know how you feel when she did it
2.Honor a deal.

I realize you'll be in communication to who will be spending time with her. This seems to be about competing for her attention. I understand there is a safe word and rarely will you use it since this jealousy excites you to re-claim her after he has sex with her.

Be careful that you don't get to the point where you and your wife's lovemaking is only after D fucks her.You want to test the limits of your love and while i would be satisfied in what you two have,you need more.

Being submissive to another man by allowing him to be with your wife ,suprisingly enough,doesn't affect your ego or belief in your manhood or how well you please your wife.Not everyone can say that and thats why some men or women aren't interested in doing that.

In regards to D,it seems he is pretty easy going about this. I don't know how this works,yet i believe at your requests and urging from what your wife said,it fits her lifestyle at this time.

[mrs_reese]

my husband forgot to mention, he cancelled his date with L.
WE both spent time alone, he wanted it this way.
WE have had some big decisions to make, and a lot has happened that required both of us to focus on US only.
L understood, I called her, and explained our situation.|
She took a rain check and I promised her that she will have her day one on one with my man.
Hubby and I needed a break.
We did talk to D last night and after our talk, my man and I had some wonderful intimate love making.
He will write more later.
Open2it, again, how can we thank-you for your kind comments.
We wanted to write about your last post, and we will soon.
xoxoxo.

[hwc]

So I read that you turned 'L' down and stayed at home with your wife, Reece? Welldone! I can see why Mrs. Reece is so devoted to you, you are such a loving, considerate husband.

Mrs Reece, now that you and 'D' are thinking about committing to each other in a relationship, do you consider this new relationship to be one of boyfriend and girlfriend? If so, will this also entail dating -going out together on proper dates, rather than just having sex? If your intention is to get closer, emotionally to 'D', I think this would really help push the relationship forward, bringing you much closer and making the bond between you stronger.

Reece, is this what you would like to happen? If so, will you be encouraging 'D' and your wife to take their relationship to that level? Do you, or Mrs Reece have any reservations, hesitation or doubts about this change of direction? No one would deny that it is a big step and although you have said many times that this is what you want, that it is your fantasy, now that the prospect of it happening has become much more real, are you sure you can handle the reality?

I know you have had a lot more practise than most in the feelings of denial and knowing your wife is with another man, in handling feelings of uncertainty, of losing her and feelings of jealousy, but to watch Mrs Reece become more intimate with someone who has already exhibited very strong feelings for her, is going to be new experience for you, and possibly a scary one. Are you sure you are ready to accept that if you proceed, 'D' will almost certainly fall for Mrs Reece big time, more than he did last time and will want to spend a lot more time with her. Would you like to see your wife develop strong feelings for 'D' also? Maybe rather than passively watching to see wether or not Mrs Reece falls for 'D', you will actually want it to happen, and will actively encourage her to spend as much time with him as is neccessary to make it happen?

If you are ready for this, to "jump into the fire" and want to bring it on, then we are all in for an exciting time! I have to admit, this thread has definately become my favourite and I will be following it daily from now on! I think you guys are fantastic, thankyou very much!




Hwc

[mrs_reese]

Hwc, thanks for your words of advice again.
Believe me, my hubby and I love reading the advice from you and the other kind friends who post.

Last night after football my man and I talked about some things.
His biggest concern is that now that I have committed to D, that I will constantly cuckold him.
He informed me that he would not be happy sharing our sex this way.
After convincing him that there will be times that I want him all by myself.
I need my man to be just who he is/ a very domineering, assertive yet considerate man who is also committed to allowing me to explore my own individualism and sexuality with d.
I need my man to take charge and re-claim me after i have been with my lover.
I have grown to love the way my hubby re-claims me. The way he explores my body, the way he cleans me with his mouth, the way he penetrates me, and the way he fills me with his cum.
I can not ever go without that from you baby.
I love you so much.
I will never love another man the way I love you.

To everyone, dont worry about me loving d. I wont ever confuse my feelings about his role in my life.
I am sure some are worried that I will fall in love with d, and possibly leave my hubby behind!
Why would I do that?
I have to perfect situation with my hubby. A loyal and committed marriage, and a very intense sexual life with him.
If he ever wants me to back out, I will obey him.

We talked about the possibility of ending my relationship with d at anytime.
WE discussed this with d.
We all understand that d will become a big part of my life and even my hubbys.
But at any time that I can not do this anymore or my husband/ d will have to leave.

We all know how close d and I became the last time we were this intense.
We all believe that we understand each other more.
my husband is more secure with d, I am as well.

d is my boyfriend and lover.
i want that from him.
my man wants me to go to that level with d.
i will not contain my emotions with d.
my husband encourages me constantly to let go of my inhibitions.
i used to fight him about that, but now, i have let them go,
d is in my life as my lover and i want this.

Tonight D will be spending the night. After my daughter goes to bed, d will be over. I am so excited about our first official night as committed lovers.
My husband will be in the spare bedroom at my urging.
For now, this is how I want it. I dont want to share myself with my hubby when d is here. Nor do i want to share myself when my hubby and I are being intimate.
Our plan is for me to be with d and my man alone for the time being.

We still plan on cucking my husband and denying him as he watches d have his way with me.

This Saturday, our plan is for my man to watch the children while d and I go on a weekend trip. It was d's idea and my hubby agreed that we should go away alone.
I cant wait!!

L.............not sure if she will be visiting my man. But I do have a plan for her and him.
Since he wont go to her, I am working on plan b
I dont want to write about it b/c I do not want my man to know what WE have in mind.

[Softail]

Reese's
I haven't read any novels this good!
BTW - I haven't kept up with the other thread on Mrs. Reese finding a lover from this board. Is that still in the works?

[reese]

Hey everyone,
Sorry it was football weekend.
I cant wait to begin our new life!
It may be a temorary situation or it may last a while.
Either way, my wife and I are excited more than I can explain.
There has been some debate and concerns.
I want everyone to know that my wife and I have talked this out.....like a cpl would before a job change or a move to another city or country. Yes, I know, a relationship is to be taken more seriously,but COME ON, LIFE is TOO SHORT!
Every vanilla married couple goes thru major changes during their lifecycle together........
Some have mentioned that spouses cheat, lie and live seperate lives......taking on new identies at times.....but the deception is present!
In our relationship............there are NO lies or seperate lifestyles...........complete trust and honesty!

I am very excited and nervous about this new lifestyle.
In one regard...........this is the ultimate fantasy come true for me........my wife and a fulltime lover. He is a man who I trust.
He respects me and fully understands the dymanics of my marriage with his hotwife!
She isnt my hotwife anymore...........she is his!
I have no problem being cuckolded.
I will alternate my sexuality...going b/w complete dominant lover...to taking orders from both of them.
I thrive on the alternating sexuality.........it is full of intensity.......both as the aggressive re-claiming husband and as the cuckold who willingly allows his wife to share her life with her lover!!

She has weekend plans.
Our first big step!
There is one difference..............and my wife requested to attempt to tolerate this situation.
She doesnt want to ask anymore. Even though we may not have written about this, she will always ask for permission most of the time.

She will not ask anymore.
She and D will decide when they play and how they play.
For now, I will hungrily accept this lifestyle.............I love the denial and this is the ultimate way of expressing it!
If I want to be with my wife, I too will ask and set up a date with her.
She is in control of her choices..............that is the way I want it!

I cant wait for all of this to start!!

[RGB49FL]

Things are getting hotter, if that is possible. Keep us posted. We look forward to your new situation.

[reese]

Another update:
First, I would like thank ONE DAY AT A TIME......
I spent some time reading your last post.
Your post was very beneficial...........my wife and I discussed some of the items you wrote about.
You hit the nail on the head when you warned us about not always spending time with my wife after she has been with D.

Today will be the first time that D comes over as my wifes' official boyfriend/lover.
We may have tried before but not in this capacity.
The 3 of us are all aware of this situation and we are much better prepared to experience all that it offers.
For D................HE gets my gorgeous wife, she is now his hotwife.
My wife receives the fulfillment of making me go crazy; she used to be reluctant when she pursued hotwife encounters...but now she gets off and is so thrilled knowing that she has my complete attention both sexually and as my wife.
For me...........knowing a man will break off a relationship with a hottie( I saw her once) to be with my wife fulltime is a turn on for me. Also, being denied; knowing my wife is in the arms of her lover....knowing she will be tested and tempted by him; fucking her after she has been fucked by him.......all that and more!

And the biggest bonus...........I have some time to myself. I can date her........just like D.
She wont be experiencing the normal marital bs that occurs when a spouse is pre-occupied.
On Mondays(football with the guys...guys night out) we have a plan already!
D will be with her after her daughter is asleep.
D will be spending the night with her in our bed.
Coming home, I will have had a few cocktails...so I will be very horny...and knowing that she will be with him....and I will be masterbating to her sleeping alone.............it makes me want her that much more!

More to come.....

[reese]

Ok, i just arrived home past midnight.
My wife left me my jack off package.....her worn panties and a sexy pair of leather high heels she wore.
She left me a note thanking me for allowing her life to enter into this new world....a very hot guy that is her lover sleeping my our bed.
She has the best of both worlds........me and D.
I hear a lot of activity........they know I am home.
I there is laughing.......and talk.
I will leave this computer.....and leave them alone.
But I will wait........to listen.......with my hard cock...........again ITS HARD...........it is never not hard with my wife around......I will go to our spare bedroom........and stoke my cock and cum right away...once her care package is near my face....her scent............i will cum very soon...knowing that D made love her tonight.
I know it wasnt sex.............they made love to each other...she told me that she wanted to make love to him..looking into his eyes...........knowing she was denying me.

I love this life!!!!!!

[hwc]

This thread, which was the hottest as just got a whole lot hotter!

Hwc

[BallSpanking]

And in the meantime, she's taking repeated loads of D's cum deep inside her...
Be aware, a woman's long term exposure to someone else's life-fluids, deposited deep within her sex, can and will change her feelings for him, and his for her!

[Irwinhill]

HE gets my gorgeous wife, she is now his hotwife.

Reese, you are an incredible writer--not just prolific but also precise and artful. So I am puzzled by the sentence quoted above.

I'm probably being a nitpicker, but I don't understand why you say that your wife is now D's "hotwife." Isn't a hotwife defined as being a wife married to a man who willingly shares her with one or more other men.

Your wife is not married to D, can she be his hotwife--even metaphorically? Does she see D as a husband or as a lover. Those two roles are very different, according to my wife.

And how about D? Does he see your wife as being HIS wife.I believe you said elsewhere that D is not currently interested in marrying anyone--hence his willingness to drop his gf in favor of your wife?

Thanks for the explanation.

IH

[mrs_reese]

IH, If you would allow me to explain, your question.
My hubby calls me his hotwife, but when he states that i am d's hotwife, i guess he is just trying to re-define the title.
In our eyes, I am a hotwife that is having committed sex with D. I am my husbands wife. I am a hotwife serving d's needs.
My hubby likes to call me d's hotwife, just a part of his fantasy play.

Last night/ D was delicious.
We played. He put cherries inside my sweet love hole, after he orgasmed in me, he put another one inside of me for a while.
After a few minutes, he asked that deliver it to my husband. d still has a way of being very aggressive to me, he still is my bull in one way or another. After d decided it was time to give that cherry to my hubby, d and i got up and knocked on the spare bedroom door(WE waited until he came home and listened to him walk to the bedroom).
After my husband opened the door, i told him to eat the cherry that was buried inside of me with d's cum and my juices covering the cherry. Once my husband ate the cherry/he asked me if he could lick my pussy.
I looked over to d and he gave his approval to allow me to lay on my husbands bed and lick me clean.
My man has his care package on the bed, but i am sure he didnt need to use it.
d told my man to stroke his cock while he was licking me clean.
my husband orgasmed rather quickly, spilling his cum on the bed. he continued licking me clean until d said it was enough.
d grabbed me by the hair and led me out of the bedroom. telling my husband that he was a very lucky man that he was allowed to clean me up.
it was a very powerful moment, d took control of me, and i was obedient to him.
my husband didnt say a word, once we left the bedroom, d and i had more sex. he didnt orgasm again, but feeling him deep inside of me right after my husband licked me clean allowed me to feel a very intense orgasm.

This morning, d and my husband were gone when I woke to get ready for work.

xoxoxo

[hwc]

Quote: "This Saturday, our plan is for my man to watch the children while d and I go on a weekend trip. It was d's idea and my hubby agreed that we should go away alone."

I'm sure this will help you and 'D' begin to develop your relationship, bringing you closer together, Mrs. Reece. A very good first move!

Hwc

[hwc]

Quote: "...There is one difference..............and my wife requested to attempt to tolerate this situation.
She doesnt want to ask anymore. Even though we may not have written about this, she will always ask for permission most of the time."

Wow. That is a move in the right direction! It gives validation to the idea that 'D' and Mrs Reece are entering a serious relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend -not just simply playing around... that is just so hot! You have said before, Reece, that Mrs. Reece knows how to push your buttons, I think she is probably going to push you into a melt-down!

Love this thread!

Hwc

[hwc]

Mrs. Reece, is it your intention to become emotionally closer to 'D', by spending a lot more time with him, or is any stronger bonding betwen the two of you simply going to be incidental because of your new status with him? Have you discussed this?

Reece, what are your thoughts, feelings and wishes on this matter?


Hwc