Our Hotwives

rascalnvixen wrote: ↑

Mon Jun 17, 2019 6:37 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Mon Jun 17, 2019 5:29 pm

Hold on to your hats!
Yes it's true..... YG has stepped up to the plate and there will be a meet and greet tomorrow. (if he doesn't back out)

Stay tuned tomorrow to see if it actually happens!

In the meantime I have been texting with some new potential men
One is very kinky (that could be fun!)

OMG!!!! What happens if they ALL come running to your call???? Sounds like you could end up with a guy for every night of the week!!!!! Kinky?? YOU??? Nah, not our sweet little 2UP!! Now, I might think Veronica would like something like that!!!!

Sounds like good news!! Patience and persistence often produce good results!! Happy for you!!

Rascal

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Mon Jun 17, 2019 7:52 pm

I like the image of a good girl with a naughty girl underneath. So maybe look at it as if "2UP" is the good girl exterior and "Veronica" is the naughty inside.

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Tue Jun 18, 2019 12:02 pm

Ditch him and find a new YG! YG 2.0

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Tue Jun 18, 2019 6:41 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Tue Jun 18, 2019 12:02 pm

Ditch him and find a new YG! YG 2.0

I really think you should go find your wife a young man as it seems to be a huge interest for you.

Me I will stick with what works for me, and young men don't work for me.

Profhorse wrote: ↑

Wed Jun 19, 2019 4:18 am

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Thu Jun 13, 2019 3:23 pm

Trixkat and SSQ - thanks for the vote of confidence!

I feel like I took a chance on this guy by lowering my usual age limit and it bit me in the ass.
I deserve better than this. I shouldn't have to settle just because of where I live and the fact that my options are a bit more limited.

I really didn't think I was that picky but I'm not just looking for a hot body.
Here is what I want:
35-55
5'10" or taller (that is how tall I am)
prefer non-smoker
like facial hair but not necessary
has to be single or in an open relationship - no cheaters!
fwb material - no one night stands
someone with a lot of energy
has to have a sense of humor
condoms are non-negotiable
kinky is good because too much vanilla and I will be bored
someone who understands that sex begins in the mind - without the mental game the physical doesn't happen

Is that really so much???

I HAVE to reply to this. Keep in mind, that I am smiling as I type this. One of the first posts I made in this forum, quite naively, was a request to you that perhaps we meet to discuss the lifestyle, as I saw that I would be in your rather remote location later in the year. It was a sincere and innocent request. Your response was a smackdown indicating that you had no interest in ever meeting me; my public and private apologies for having offended went unacknowledged. Here's where I stand on your list:
Too old (I am 64)
6'5" qualifies
non-smoker qualifies
bearded qualifies
widower qualifies
interested in ongoing hotwife relationships qualifies
energetic and vibrant qualifies
sense of humor (see this post) qualifies
condoms acceptable qualifies
I could be too vanilla
sex is about mind and body together meeting mind and body together qualifies

So, somehow, meeting almost all your criteria still isn't enough, which is, of course, entirely your prerogative. But I can't help thinking of that line of Nora Ephron's in When Harry Met Sally: "Your the worst. You think you're low maintenance, but you're really high maintenance." No matter how hard we try to figure out checklists and criteria, ultimately, the personal vibe someone gets is what drives our decisions. And that, I think, is as it should be. Good luck getting exactly what you want. It's what we all deserve.

Trixkat wrote: ↑

Wed Jun 19, 2019 6:13 am

Profhorse wrote: ↑

Wed Jun 19, 2019 4:18 am

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Thu Jun 13, 2019 3:23 pm

Trixkat and SSQ - thanks for the vote of confidence!

I feel like I took a chance on this guy by lowering my usual age limit and it bit me in the ass.
I deserve better than this. I shouldn't have to settle just because of where I live and the fact that my options are a bit more limited.

I really didn't think I was that picky but I'm not just looking for a hot body.
Here is what I want:
35-55
5'10" or taller (that is how tall I am)
prefer non-smoker
like facial hair but not necessary
has to be single or in an open relationship - no cheaters!
fwb material - no one night stands
someone with a lot of energy
has to have a sense of humor
condoms are non-negotiable
kinky is good because too much vanilla and I will be bored
someone who understands that sex begins in the mind - without the mental game the physical doesn't happen

Is that really so much???

I HAVE to reply to this. Keep in mind, that I am smiling as I type this. One of the first posts I made in this forum, quite naively, was a request to you that perhaps we meet to discuss the lifestyle, as I saw that I would be in your rather remote location later in the year. It was a sincere and innocent request. Your response was a smackdown indicating that you had no interest in ever meeting me; my public and private apologies for having offended went unacknowledged. Here's where I stand on your list:
Too old (I am 64)
6'5" qualifies
non-smoker qualifies
bearded qualifies
widower qualifies
interested in ongoing hotwife relationships qualifies
energetic and vibrant qualifies
sense of humor (see this post) qualifies
condoms acceptable qualifies
I could be too vanilla
sex is about mind and body together meeting mind and body together qualifies

So, somehow, meeting almost all your criteria still isn't enough, which is, of course, entirely your prerogative. But I can't help thinking of that line of Nora Ephron's in When Harry Met Sally: "Your the worst. You think you're low maintenance, but you're really high maintenance." No matter how hard we try to figure out checklists and criteria, ultimately, the personal vibe someone gets is what drives our decisions. And that, I think, is as it should be. Good luck getting exactly what you want. It's what we all deserve.

I'm probably not the only woman who doesn't actually have a printed checklist of qualities that a potential partner has to have. a good number of the men that I have chosen to play with have somehow caught my attention regardless of my preferences. my current boyfriend had an incredibly complicated relationship status, is below my usual age preference and while he's significantly taller than me, isn't actually someone I would stare at if I saw him walking down the beach for his physique....but he got into my head and now? I'm more than willing to drop things, change my schedule, whatever....to see him. hell, I went to see him last Saturday at his office on my birthday even though my hubs and I would've had our own fun first.

the tl:dr of this....just because a woman has preferences doesn't mean that just cause you meet many of them that she wants to meet with you....personality and connection can overcome a lot.

SutterKane wrote: ↑

Thu Jun 20, 2019 4:24 pm

Not a disparagement at all, but I've learned that women tend to not really know what they want, until they want it! My wife has told me her requirements and said they're non nonnegotiable and then, when the right BBC Bull comes along, her requirements get defenestrated! Leaving me standing there, mouth agape, mumbling "But you told me only...!"

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

SutterKane wrote: ↑

Thu Jun 13, 2019 5:11 pm

No show's in this life are such a problem that I've thought of starting an escrow service for hotwife dating. Each (Hotwife and potential lover) would place an amount in an escrow account, say $100 (or whatever amount you agree on). If both show up for the meeting, even if it's a no go, both get their money back minus a small transaction fee, say 5% of the escrow. But if only one side shows up, then that one would get their money back as well as the other side's escrow (minus the fee, of course). There would also be the option to wave the escrow defaulter's loss of escrow if it's decided that they have a good reason that is acceptable. Say a car accident, being in the hospital or death of a loved one. Might even include a rating for how many transaction were completed and not completed as well as how many waved.
Think about how much it cost you in time, money and emotional energy, just to have someone flake on you. Once they've met you and it goes well, then you could drop the escrow for future meets or not, up to you at that point. My lawyer is looking at this for me. Any one want to invest?

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 11:49 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

That also makes sense. If one goes back to the original concept then she would have married one type (eg nice guy) but be seeking something different for extra curricular activities (bad boy). At one point I was talking to my wife about what kind of guy she would choose if we were to try it out. Of course I told her I think she should get a hung young stud to which she disagreed. So I asked her what she'd choose and she basically described me. I'm not sure what to make of that as in is she just playing safe? I ain't bad but I don't understand why she wouldn't want something different.
As for your different types of guys, many of us guys can play whatever role you want as long as we know what that is. Do you think you can play the different roles eg going from Dom to sub?

SutterKane wrote: ↑

Sat Jun 22, 2019 6:32 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 11:49 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

That also makes sense. If one goes back to the original concept then she would have married one type (eg nice guy) but be seeking something different for extra curricular activities (bad boy). At one point I was talking to my wife about what kind of guy she would choose if we were to try it out. Of course I told her I think she should get a hung young stud to which she disagreed. So I asked her what she'd choose and she basically described me. I'm not sure what to make of that as in is she just playing safe? I ain't bad but I don't understand why she wouldn't want something different.
As for your different types of guys, many of us guys can play whatever role you want as long as we know what that is. Do you think you can play the different roles eg going from Dom to sub?

Get a female friend of hers to ask her that question after a few drinks when your not around and see what the answer is!

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 11:49 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

That also makes sense. If one goes back to the original concept then she would have married one type (eg nice guy) but be seeking something different for extra curricular activities (bad boy). At one point I was talking to my wife about what kind of guy she would choose if we were to try it out. Of course I told her I think she should get a hung young stud to which she disagreed. So I asked her what she'd choose and she basically described me. I'm not sure what to make of that as in is she just playing safe? I ain't bad but I don't understand why she wouldn't want something different.
As for your different types of guys, many of us guys can play whatever role you want as long as we know what that is. Do you think you can play the different roles eg going from Dom to sub?

Hungry4IT wrote: ↑

Sat Jun 22, 2019 12:19 am

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

I can say that my girl wants to experience a vast array of men from different nationalities, walks of life and types of sexual styles as to explore her own sexuality aswell as ours together in as many ways as possible.

ambershere wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 4:01 pm

I read your thread every chance I get. There are times when I want to post to answer some other postings but after reading your replies. I now realize which is kool, you need no assistance you have it oh so well and I do mean well in hand. You know exactly what you want and expect.AlI can say which I said in an earlier post. you Go Girl and I need to add You Rock Any grammatical error all I can say oops. The End

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Sat Jun 22, 2019 8:39 am

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 11:49 pm

2inUPMichigan wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 2:38 pm

afagehi7 wrote: ↑

Fri Jun 21, 2019 1:46 pm

I read an article today that said who we want to F and who we want for a relationship are oftentimes different. For example, a woman wants to F a dominant bad boy but marry a nice guy...a guy wants to F a slut but marry a nice girl. It seems like the HW lifestyle can be the best of both worlds for everyone involved.

I think that is true but I would take it one step further.
I believe that we look for different experiences when we are looking for a permanent relationship based on love vs a play based relationship.
As a hotwife a woman might look for the complete opposite of what she has at home so that she can live out a different type of experience. That opposite experience isn't necessarily one where the man is dominant. Look at all the different relationship dynamics that are represented on this board. There are plenty of couples that consider themselves as equals, there are others that are in FLR situations and others where the male half is dominant. One size does not fit all.
In fact although I am hoping to have 3 fwb's I do not want all 3 to be the same type of experience. I am looking to explore different sides of myself and so I look for different qualities in the men that I interact with.
What would be ideal? One man that is dominant/kinky, one that is more sensual and on an equal basis, and the third one more on the submissive side. That sounds like a lot of fun for this hotwife!!!

That also makes sense. If one goes back to the original concept then she would have married one type (eg nice guy) but be seeking something different for extra curricular activities (bad boy). At one point I was talking to my wife about what kind of guy she would choose if we were to try it out. Of course I told her I think she should get a hung young stud to which she disagreed. So I asked her what she'd choose and she basically described me. I'm not sure what to make of that as in is she just playing safe? I ain't bad but I don't understand why she wouldn't want something different.
As for your different types of guys, many of us guys can play whatever role you want as long as we know what that is. Do you think you can play the different roles eg going from Dom to sub?

Are you familiar with the term "Switch"?
A Switch is someone who is both a Domme and a Sub.
These aren't roles to me, but pieces of myself that I want to explore further. I'm really not interested in someone that is just "playing along" either.